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Do you think, that girls and boys can be platonic friends?

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Yes, it is absolutely possible. I have many friends of the opposite sex and have no sexual intentions with them. My best friend, whom I have known for 15+ years, is female. Platonic friendship exists. Both persons have to be true to the friendship.
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Jimmy,

You are my platonic friend. K I S S M E !!!!
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wusel wrote::shock:
I have a friend called Teja and I don't know, if I am in love with him or if we are only platonic friends.
Do you think, that girls and boys can be platonic friends?
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HELP, I need somebody, HELP!

I hope you don't mind that I create a poll here.
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I think that men and women can be platonic friends because most of the people have an ilusion about some person when meet someone at the first time. This ilusion can be change when the person know more about the other but in the firts place yes. I think that could happen.


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I think that is true to have this kind of friends..
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I think that Is possible a that platonic friend exist between a girl an a boy, but we have to know exactly what we want and what we are in our lives.
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I think is possible you can have a platonic friend, but only that, I have a platonic friend too and he is married and I have a fiance.
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Are you nuts? Look for a real love, there is a bunch of men...
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all is excelent but i have to go home
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i agree with you!!!!
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Every one has a platonic love or a platonic friend, it is easy to know it when you have a platonic love. you try to say something about your feelings but you can´t, you dream (awake)with that person doing this or that.You want to ask her for a date but it is hard to say it. that´s what I have felt with my platonic love.
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Hi!

This is a question for all the forum....

Do you think people in general think that platonic friendship between the sexes is possible or not ?

What's your opinion about it ??
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I think it´s possible because someone can have all the characteristics to be compatible with, but maybe the circunstances aren´t the ideal to make that work. Maybe it´s not the moment and after all is not the right person for you...What do you think about it? :geek:
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well...most people say: a friendship between a man and a woman...implies that one of them always fall in love of the other one...what do you think? Unfortunately, I´ve lived some experiences related to that!!! :!!:
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Yes, I think, platonic friends can have fun, but, hahaha, -is the human nature-, can be posible that this kind of friendship becomes other closer kind of friendship, so, we don't know when we can cross that uncertain line, of the "agape" kind to the "eros" kind.
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I think between men and women always there is the sexual instinct. That instinct can be hide under words like "friendship", "fun", but I think that attraction can be as unconscious as not to realize it.
Anyway sexual attraction is a good thing. It's the natural in all beings.
I have had many "other sex" friends. They have been truly friends, but I always felt that sexual attraction. This represent I have attempted to get sexual relations with them? NO. but the sexual attraction is there.
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I don't think so because men and women are falling in love.. this is destiny...
They are attraction each other. Somepeople say that is possible. yes i think so.
but in my case, I don't understand about yes opinion.
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According to me platonic friendship between the sexes isn't possible. You can have best friend and tell him/her about everything, laugh and have fun with him/her, but after the certain time you or your friend will fall in love. You won't tell him this becouse you will be afraid that it might spoil your friendship.
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Plato is the key of this question.
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In my opinion, girls and boys can be platonic friends. Sometimes it is easier to talk about something of the opposite sex. With some problems more likely to help the boy with the other girl. So I think that the friendship between a girl and a boy could be.
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I believe that man and woman can be a platonic friends.
For example I know people who have known each other since childhood and they are good friends though it's boy and girl. :)
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There is no one answer that question. Personally, I think that this friendship is possible.
It is important that the person was honest with each other, talking frankly and from the beginning they set their intentions. Despite this, it is inevitable that they may fall in love.
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In my opinion men and woman can be platonic friends, but not long. Sooner or later one of friends will fell in love for second person. Generally, when this situation happens, friendship between men and woman will end. Sometimes both of people feel sth. for themselves and next they are couple. Then, friendship is really good fundament for successful relationship.
In conclusion, I don't believe that man and woman can be a platonic friends.
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In my mind friendship between other sexes can exist, but it is hard to create it. Often this relation leads to love but happens situations when this friendship is real and long-lasting. It is wonderful but rarely seen. Personally, I believe it is possible, when both sides are involved.
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In my opinion feelings will develop and u will want more. Your feelings for them will eventually come out. No way people can be just friends. Males and females should never be friends most of all they are not single ;)
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In my opinion platonic friends don't exsist. Obviously friendships beetwen women and man are in
ordinary world but for short time, because always one side falls in love and then they
become a couple or they hate eatch other and they never talk again.
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In my opinion boys and girls can be platonic friends. I think that, because to be friends we don’t have to be of the same sex. Sometimes we better get along with somebody with the opposite sex. A lot of people says, that sooner or later one of the site will fall in love, but it’s not true. If we have topics to talk about and we like the same things ( but we don’t have to, because sometimes it’s better when friends are different, because they will have always to talk about something ) they can meet each other, but it doesn’t have to mean something serious.
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I can't unequivocal answer because for some people spending time with friend can be just spending time with friend with whom you can talk honestly, who knows you by heart etc. but for sombody it can be reason for fall in love. Furthermore I know a lot of relationships which had been asked "Are you together?" and answer was like "No, no, no we just friends" and over time they were together ;)
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I think that platonic friendship between man and women exists. I have a true friend and we have never felt in love. Platonic friendship is something important, because men and women have a different point of view
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I think that girls and boys can't be platonic friends because we live in a time in which friendship between men and women often is impossible. Although  they try to be just a friends ultimately they fall in love to each other. What is more in my point of view in this kind of friendship often one of them is jealous of his/her friend when he/she finally finds a boyfriend or girlfriend what leads to the meltdown of the whole friendship.
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Yes but very rare. Usually boy tend to fall to the girl or vice versa.
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I think friends should not be platonic; because the loves are what are platonic; for then to be platonic friendship and we would be good friends but there is a feeling of love that would change his friendship
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In my opinion, platonic friendship beetwen a men and woman is possible, becase men , can understand myself even more than lots of woman, but I don't need to be together with my best friend. It's enough for me to writting and talking when we need it for instance when we are dealing our problems , or when we have enough time to do it. I prefer being friends than being together. It's better for me. Some people prefer platonic friendship which aren't commit and are useful. In my point of view sexes don't matter in friendship, the most significant are understanding and trust.
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I think that men and women can be platonic friends. In my opinion there is nothing straight that girls have a best friends who is a boy, it is normal and possibly. I have a friends who is a boy and we will never be together. So platonic friendship exist. I know many friends of the same sex and they are just friends. Buy one the other hands I know friends who become a couple. But first they were best friends.
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I think, that platonic friendship between girl and boy is possible, because I know a lot of friendships between girls and boys. I also have friend, who is a boy. I suppose, that this friendship is normal and every person needs a friend and it doesn't matter how sex is this person. But however I know, that friendship between girl and boy may degenerate in something bigger.
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I think that girls and boys can be platonic friends. The most important features of friendship are sincerity and having "common language". The sex doesn't matter. Sometimes frendship girls and boys are more durable than friendship people the same sexes.
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For me "platonic friendship' doesn't exist. Maybe for a few months, or years it will seem to us that we are just friends, but then there comes a time that there are feelings that are not platonic. My friends knew each other since they were kids, also thought that they are 'just friends' and when they had finished 17 years became a couple. Sometimes there is a situation when the person hiding his/her true feelings, then the other one consider it as a platonic friendship.
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In my opinion platonic friendship can exist and often is better than relationship between people of the same sex. Sometimes women/men can't look at something from different angle and then friend of the opposite sex is incredibly helpful. For me there are only two condition for platonic friendship. Do not expect anything more then friendship and do not dare to fall in love.‏
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I think that the platonic frienship is normal. Sometimes it is better than friendship of people of the same sex.
Mens see the world a little differently than womens , so thanks to this friendship can be a lot to learn.
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Yes, but very rare. It is possible, there aren't always two people falling in love. People sometimes do not expect anything more, they wanna friendship. Gender does not matter. The most important thing is to understand each other.
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Yes, I think men and women can be platonic friends. I don't see any reasons against this friendship. But in my opinion that friendships are very rare. When we spend a lot of time with other sex person it's likely that we fall in love with that person. So in conclusion platonic friendships are possible, but very rare and might not last long.
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I think that girls and boys can be platonic friends, because for me it doesn't matter which sex you are. Important in friendship are trust, loyality and common views on some points.
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I think that being platonic friends between woman and man is possible and very frequent phenomenon in these days. Scientist give a proof that woman best friend is man for the reason that he is not jealous of her appearance and success in relationship and etc. The same applies to male subjects. This happen also because people would like to have someone who will take care of them and give a support whatever happend but without commitment like emotions declaration. The friendship between me and my best friend is also evidence that the platonic friends exists because we never fall in love each other.
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I think that friendship between girl and boy is possible because friendship is based on sincerity, loyalty and confidence. {-; These special things sometimes we can find in person who isn't the same sex. People who find it can be really happy and feeling like love doesn't have to exist in their relationship. {-:
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Personaly, I think that boys and girls can be platonic friends. It doesn't matter who your friend is, but why you like him or her so much.
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I think boy and girl can be a friends. Usually we have some platonic friends from elementary school. Furthermore there are many platonic friends in groups of people, that have the same hobbys, for example "metal heads".
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i think that platonic friendships between girl and boy is possible, but only in the case there is sexual and sentimental attraction between them.
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I think that it is possible. If they have got trust to each other and be very carefully. They have to be careful because it might be no differences or they are so small between be a friends or be a couple.
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I think so, but platonic friends cannot tresspass their limits. Usually they do not say anything about love...that's just a feeling.
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Well, in my opinion guys, why are you labeling your friendship a 'platonic' one... Why can't you just consider each other simply as 'friends'?? Adding some title to it will definitely confuse your feeling...
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