How would you know that you are in LoVe...

[Ira]

How would I know that I am in LoVe?... Can anyone helP me?..
There's this guy i think I like so much.. He's funny, He's nice, and he's got all the characteristics that I like.. But I don't know if it is Just a crush, Infatuation, or the thing that all humans must posses in their hearts. And that is LoVe... Can anyone Help Me?.. I like this guy and I don't like to know who is he's crush because I feel so jealous and rejected... Pls give me some advice.. To all of you out there who feels the same way as I do... Thankzzz,....

[shokin]

Yes, how can I be sure that I am in love ?

Shokin

[Anahita]

Forget about jealousy or being rejected ..look at it in this way .. will you keep loving him if he leaves you and never comes back? Will your heart jump beating when you hear his name after days that you haven’t seen him ? will you keep dreaming about him and ready to give up every thing for having another chance for wining his love? in my opinion if you can feel like this about some one then you are in love ..but its just my opinion

[illusion]

i think you're right Anahita. That's what I think about love too...

[Anahita]

think you're right Anahita. That's what I think about love too...

Thank you illusion ... i think Jealousy cant be a good factor for knowing about our feelings , it is coming later in our way and always happens when we are about to lose love and should face the fate and truth that our feelings had no meaning except for ourselves ..that is too damn hard to bear some times ..

[illusion]

exactly! we should accept the sad fact of being rejected.... It's horrible and hurt so much but we can't change it. I mean we can try and fight until the end but sometimes it's just not worth fighting for something which is impossible. On the other hand I have a mate who'd wanted to be with a guy for a long time and she promised hereself one day she would get him and she did. So I guess sometimes it's all worth a try...maybe if we know there is still some little chance...

[hedwig14]

friend, you should know that love and attraction are different.. attraction fades in time but true love never dies..
stick on your instinct... you'll know if you feel

[illusion]

friend, you should know that love and attraction are different.. attraction fades in time but true love never dies..
stick on your instinct... you'll know if you feel

yeah, maybe but love and attraction are strngly connected with each other. When you feel love, you also feel attraction. Right?

[hedwig14]

friend, you should know that love and attraction are different.. attraction fades in time but true love never dies..
stick on your instinct... you'll know if you feel

yeah, maybe but love and attraction are strngly connected with each other. When you feel love, you also feel attraction. Right?[/quote]

yes, i agree. we won't experience love if we have not undergone the process of attraction. but it's more than attraction that makes love be "forever". and sometimes, the kind of attraction we have towards them is not merely of love but of infatuation and that is a different story, ofcourse. maybe, we should learn to discern attraction of infatuation than that of love.

[frengo]

In other words: everything starts with infatuation... love can come later, as a sort of evolution of the infatuation. Or, the infatuation can simply fade away... we simply cannot have love at the very start of a relation, we have to take care of the new relation we have with the other person: if everything matches, love comes.