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Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2012 10:26 am
by Elham
Dear Behnam,

What would be wrong if you critisized or advised me?! Come on!
To be honest, I look for some excuses to make you criticize and advise! I love to hear your strong opinions, enjoy your comments on my words and try to be wise and take lessons.Your ideas are always welcomed. :-)

You made a very important and logical comment on my feelings. What you wrote was vital to be said;thanks alot.

Reading your post a question arose in my mind! Would you please let me know what is the right path to heaven for a girl ( a woman without husband like me)? I want to go there too! :roll: :lol: :lol:

All the best,
Elham

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2012 12:06 pm
by behnam

Hi Elham,
I am not sure, but apparently girls cannot go heaven! Therefore, there is no way for girls to enter there, unless they get married! :oops: :lol: :lol: :lol:

Girls must keep their hearts open to love! Avoiding high expectations of marriage, they are supposed to say 'yes' to the person who proposes. I'm not a girl, so I cannot see the world through their eyes. However, it seems that girls are looking for perfect boys. Nobody is perfect. That's why people, who look for perfection, meet failure.

Bees look for flowers and flies search for rubbish. I prefer to be a bee rather than a fly. However, too much criticsing results in pessimism which is against bees' philosophy. :lol: :lol: :lol:

The most common mistake among young partners is to pay too much attention to the opposite sex in front of each other. Suppose a boy and a girl are dating together. The boy may ask the girl for her favourite singer. In such situations, wise girls know how to answer. They wisely avoid naming a male singer's name, although they love his songs and voice. It is the same for wise boys. They are very careful about what to say and how to act when meeting another lady on the streets or on TV, etc.

A girl used to collect football players' photos! She didn't know that her action might create an unpleasant sensation. She didn't have a happy marriage. Finally, her marriage ended in divorce. Pretending to be happy, she is keeping a pet dog and spending her time with it now! Well, loneliness is one of the direct results of stupidity!

Both men and women are jealous, but they reveal jealousy differently. Watching TV together, a man may say, "What a beautiful lady!" This sentence hurts his wife's feelings, and then revenge is inevitable. A tough sanction in bed will be probably imposed on the man! :oops: :oops: :lol:

However, men often take revenge in a different way. The majority of them may look for love affairs or mistresses! In many cases, disloyalty is an inevitable result.

This subject is delicate. That's enough for now.

All the best,
Behnam, 11 Feb, 2012



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Posted: Sat Feb 11, 2012 6:38 pm
by Mohsen
By the way, Islam is based on caring about God's rules not on loving prophets and Imams
Hi Behnam,
Thanks for writing your idea about Islam , Would you please explain what is the God rules that we should care about it. At leaat write some important ones.

All the best
Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 11:25 am
by Elham
Hi Behnam,

Thanks for reply,

I DO understand your point and definitely agree with avoiding high expectations and taking marriage easier ; but I'm afraid to say it's not that easy to say YES to whom proposes to us (maybe the first one!)!
Let me explain more!

I think there are two major mistakes girls make nowadays regarding marriage! One is what you mentioned and that is 'having high expectations' which ends in late marriages at older ages! it has many disadvantages that we all are aware of!

The second is again somehow what you said! To say YES to whom proposes! (Please pay attention that I'm looking at your idea from a different angel although I know what you mean!)

This is not hidden to anybody that divorce rate is soooo high and is increasing day after day; why???
I guess one of the most important reasons is that many girls nowadays easily say YES!!! To whom? The first one who proposes them and claims is in love with them or even to the first one whom their parents approve of to marry with!

Some times a boy proposes based on feelings, he is young,excited (az ruye hayajan)! He hasn't thought well and his decision is not logical! He just wants to quench his current thirst without considering the result of this marriage and how he may feel or what big problems he may face, some years or even several months (or even worth, just one day) after the marriage!

This is the point where girlish feelings threatens the whole future of two people! They mostly get emotional and say YES!
No doubt, you know about such things very well .You are my teacher!


I believe a wise girl neither postpones her marriage by developing unrealistic high expectations nor spoils her future by fast, unmindful and irrational decisions!


By the way, in case there is really no way for me to go to heaven as a girl, I wish I myself could propose to my ideal man and marry him because he may never come himself! :lol: This way not only would I go to beloved heaven, but also I would make some one else’s life on the earth a real heaven! Hahahahaha :lol: :lol: :lol:

Thanks for reading; I'll be happy to hear any advice or criticize by my dear friend and teacher :-)

All the best,
Elham

Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 12:09 pm
by Elham
Hi Mohsen,

Although you have asked a question from dear Behnam and he is supposed to answer you, I'd also love to give my own idea!

I have asked somebody your question before and she advised me to read verses 23 to 39, sureh Asra in the Koran! :ok:
You can refer to this address and read them right now:
http://www.andisheqom.com/Files/quransh ... ubid=30312


In my opinion, reading these verses you'll find the answer of your question!

I'm amazed that respecting the parents has come just after worshiping God and it's siad that we have to be careful how we treat and talk with them!!!! WOW!
And I really wonder why after that there's nothing regarding rights of wife and husband towards each other! :roll:

All the best,
Elham

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 12:28 pm
by Elham
What a mess! It's tooooooo bad that we can't edit our post after a few minutes!
And there is also sth wrong with applying the colors! :-( :-( :-(

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 4:59 pm
by behnam

Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope all is going well with you.

Our thoughtful friend Elham has answered to your question wisely. I am absolutely certain that you know the answer of your own question much better than us. God has given his instructions (rules) in the holly Koran, and some famous priests -Ayat Allah-have written many books-Resale Amaliye- about them. Not only a Muslim, but also Prophet Muhammad and all Imams are(were) expected to follow those instructions.

The only sign of loving someone is following his/her path; acting and reacting like him/her. Otherwise, it is like claiming without offering support! If I were brave, I'd say it is self-fooling! :lol:

We may love a teacher; pretend to love a teacher; praise him/her, or flatter him/her in order to get some marks. In this world, these methods sometimes work. However, according to what I've read about the other world, such tricks won't work there. You may ask for the meaning of 'shefaat'. This word is widely misinterpreted in Iran. Iranians can hardly understand what 'shefaat' means. Like what is (was) common, we often think of it as pulling strings to fool God and then to get into heaven, even though there is nothing positive in our reports!!!

Dear Mohsen, let's stop discussing this matter publicly further. I am too tired to search for another place to make nest in! :lol: :lol: :lol: If you are interested in discussing it further, please email me at:*******.com

All the best,
Behnam, 12 Feb, 2012




A big mistake!

Posted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 5:21 pm
by Elham
Fast decition??? Fast?! :shock:

Oh dear Elham, that's quick decision honey! ;-)

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 2:50 am
by behnam

Hi Elham,

Thanks for the reply with an excellent English. I really enjoyed reading it. In terms of English, it was fantastic. Congratulations!

I agree with you up to a point, but there are still some points I disagree with. However, I'm not in the mood for discussing them.

You've made significant progress in writing. In your last posts, your great improvement can be seen clearly. Congratulations on achieving success in writing professionally.

I hope to read more from you.

All the best,
Behnam, 13 Feb, 2012



Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 5:30 pm
by Elham
"The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined
by praise than saved by criticism."


-- Norman Vincent Peale

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 7:10 pm
by Elham
Hi dear Behnam,

That's kind of you to notice any progress in my English! I really wish I could spend more time on my English, but sadly writting here is my only chance to practice it for now! :-(

Today, I read an article on the yahoo news about an Arabic Muslim woman who motivates other Muslim women to care more about their close relationships with their husbands and not to let too much shame threaten their marriage health which in many many cases leads to divorce!

Reading the article, I recalled my own recent post and thought about the topic more; I need to add up sth important to my comments.

It's so vital for a woman to know how to be a WIFE in the truest meaning of the word! She should be mindful of her great role in keeping a healthy successful marriage!

So, Emmm... I wanna say: maybe it's better for a woman to pay more attention to
'developing correct attitudes towards marriage' and 'learning about a wife's major role and resposibilty', then 'putting it into action wisely and mindfully' , instead of being too much involved in thinking about 'to whome she has to say YES' !!!
(long confusing sentence? sorryyy Behnam!) (Elham? Ask yourself! Can't you really express what you mean in a simpler way? :roll: )


It just came to my mind and since these days I love being busy writting in English, I just wrote it! {-: However, I'm a girl, I'll may change my mind tomorrow! :lol:

Thanks for taking time to read my posts,

All the best,
Elham

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 7:40 pm
by Mohsen
Dear Behnam and Elham,

Many rules that we consider them as Islamic rules are common among people of the world , for example ,not telling lie , calumny (accusing someone without reason ), helping poor people, respecting people , parents, trustworthiness, honesty and many many things . even unbelievers, people who don’t believe God follow these rules , there is no need for God to follow these rules ,the common people understand the rule and use it in their life.
The difference in the Islamic rules is that they start with love and loving the prophet and imam.
As in Soreh Shora/23 , It is clearly stipulated “This it is which Allah announceth unto His bondmen who believe and do good works. Say (O Muhammad, unto mankind): I ask of you no fee therefor, save lovingkindness among kinsfolk. And whoso scoreth a good deed We add unto its good for him. Lo! Allah is Forgiving, Responsive.”

We also have many saying (Hadith) about loving prophet and imam.
I agree with you that loving is not enough for a believer , a truth believer who love them ,should act to what her/his beloved ask for.

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 2:48 am
by behnam

Hi Elham,

Thanks for your reply. Would you mind emailing me the article? I like it's title.

All the best,
Behnam, 14 Feb,2012





Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 2:50 am
by behnam
Happy Valentine's Day to YOU!

All the best,
Behnam, 14 Feb, 2012



Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Feb 14, 2012 2:53 am
by behnam

Hi Mohsen,

You are right. Keep on going your own way. I wish you success.

All the best,
Behnam, 14 Feb, 2012



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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 1:39 pm
by Mohsen
Dear Behnam,
Thanks that you approved my way. Today I am very happy ,because all jobs i was expected to do were done. I am satisfied , now I open the site , drinking a mug of black and green tea , listen to a happy pop music and writing you. I should be ready for going to swimming pool after few minutes , one of my friend will pick me up to the swimming pool .The weather is cloudy and I can smell the rain which will come very soon.
I am sure tomorrow will be marvel louse. A good day for running beside the river.
How is the weather in Tehran? ,will you do your regular exercise tomorrow?
Have good day, and a better one tomorrow.
Mohsen
:-D

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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 4:02 pm
by setayesh
Hi My dear friends;

I hope you are all fine.To be honest this is my secound post in this new thread.when I joined here I wrote a post which appeared on the third page with a long delay.perhaps no one has seen it :-( since you were writing on the 5th page at that time.Anyway,I've missed you all alot.

All the best
Setayesh.

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 7:47 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
Have heard the news , I listened to the news , I can’t believe it one famous American converted to Islam , and it was happen today in my city Esfahan , the news is that Sean Stone, son of American Oscar-winning director Oliver Stone converted to Islam in Isfahan and selected the name of Ali for himself at the age of 27


{-: {-:
Mohsen

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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2012 7:52 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Stayesh,
I miss you ,Please have a mercy on yourself , how much strict are you on your studying , you welcome ,waiting for your posts
All the best
Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Thu Feb 16, 2012 3:05 am
by behnam

Hi Mohsen,

Thanks for your reply. It was raining and snowing last night. There is a little snow on the ground and on cars(on cold places). The weather is cold.

I used to have a one-hour walk in the park near my parents' flat. For some reasons, this year I stopped it. However, next year I am going to start it again.

Yes, I read it on the Internet (on Yahoo). I didn't know that the event has happened in Isfahan. Why in Isfahan? Is it a Muslim-maker city?

How is your back? Do you still suffer from back pain?

All the best,
Behnam, 16 Feb, 2012



Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Thu Feb 16, 2012 5:45 am
by Elham
Hiiiiiiiii Setayesh,

Very happy to see you among us in the new nest; Welcome back honey. :-D :-D :-D

I was waiting for you and your great posts. You should know how much I enjoy your presence here; thanks for joining us*

How was the exam? I really hope you have done it in the best way and you'll be student again next year! :-)

Don't hesitate to write as much as you can; I really miss your English.

Hope to read from you soon,


All the best,
Elham

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Thu Feb 16, 2012 5:48 am
by Elham
It's snowing in the Tehran! :-( :-( :-( :-( :-( :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Thu Feb 16, 2012 2:52 pm
by setayesh
Hi Mohsen,

How are you my old friend?many thanks for your quick reply to my post.Oh man I'm not as strick as you think,you know the problem is this;I just can't consentrate on several things at the same time.it's absolutly terrible;since you lose lots of things! one of several things that I've lost was my english indeed.it's got really rusty.

Tell me about yourself and your city.How's everything with you beautiful city Isfahan nesfe jahan ;-) ?If you like to know about here it's cold and rainy now.

All the best,
Setayesh

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Posted: Thu Feb 16, 2012 3:09 pm
by setayesh
Hi Elham,

Thank you so much for welcoming me.And thanks for your nice words about me and my english.My exam was yesterday,thank God it was ok.

Oh Elham I'm in a horry I just wantted to write a quick post to let you know that I've read your post.I'm going to go shopping now(a new overcoat). so sorry for my short post.I'll promise to write more late.

kisses

Setayesh

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 7:04 am
by behnam

Hi Elham,

I read that article but found nothing new in it! It was full of some incorrect interpretation on some verses in the Holy Koran.

From the begging of the history of human (when there were only Adam and Eva in the world) both men and women knew what to do and how to do. As you know, some actions and reactions are instinctive. Therefore, every human being has those inborn instincts. That(s...) isn't a new phenomenon.

However, sometimes what people do becomes habits gradually, and transfer from one generation to others. Finally, it becomes cultural heritage. What people are doing is the same, but it has different shapes or forms. For example, every person eats food, but there are different foods with different recipes in the world. The act of eating is the same in all over the world, but different people use different sauces!

I am sure you know those things much better than me. I wanted just to write something to you.

Now, a friend of mine is waiting for me to chat. I have to leave. I am sorry.

All the best,
Behnam, 17 Feb, 2012



Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 7:36 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,

Sean Stone stayed in Abbasi hotel last night ,and many people were eager to visit him and congratulate him upon his converting to Islam. But it was really impossible ,because of crowed were so much.
Isfahan has some genuine Islamic believers ,which many people wish to meet them ,at least one time in their life have a chance to meet them face to face and Sean Stone , or Sean Ali stone behold the generosity and grace of God to had this situation.
There are some American people who are living in Esfahan ,because they have discovered the fact.
About my back pain let me say that I said good bye to it , but I am not allowed to lift heavy things.
You are not supposed to stop your regular exercise ,what is the reason? ,Is it for you are married? Let it start from today as tomorrow is late.
All the best
Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2012 7:41 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Setayesh
What are several things that you have lost ? You are a powerful and determined girl as I know you so far , never become sorrowful for what you have lost and never fall in love with what you have or find. If you can spiritually reach to this to this mood , you are always happy and rich.
Your English is not rusty and it is beautiful as always ,but if you think so, you continue your writing in this thread surely you coat your English with anticorrosion
About Isfahan , It is Thursday and there are many wedding ceremony are holding tonight , In many streets the are cars which decorated by followers , Also markets and bazaars are very crowded as we are close to new year and people are purchasing new cloths and furniture


All the best
Mohsen

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Posted: Sat Feb 18, 2012 10:28 am
by [amal]
Hi friends, how r u and how r ur families? I hope everything is going well with u. I've missed u terribly. You don't know how much I've missed this place and writing on it too.This place is my heart and just now i feel that it starts beating. I really don't know how I could survive all that period without being here and reading ur posts; for sure I wouldn't do that without Elham's help, she copied some of ur posts and sent them to my messenger, so I am really thankful for her kindness, THANKS my lovely friend! Finally after two days, I finished reading ALL ur posts!!! I enjoyed them, they r great! I wish I was able to reply them. Oh friends, today, it's finally snowing in Damascus{ alhamdolellah}. I am verry happy! In fact friends, I couldn't come here and not put a message. However, I have to end it here cause I am sending it by my brother's mobile phone and I have no idea if it will work or not... I hope u get my message.Please forgive me and pray for me. Best wishes Amal

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2012 3:04 am
by behnam

Hi Mohsen,

The main reason is changing the place of living. There is no park so close to our new flat that I can go walking. Another reason is laziness, since marriage has made me lazy! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Oh Mohsen, I've gained some weight after marriage, whereas I'm working hard 24 hours a day! What is the reason? :lol: :lol: :lol: Why do men become big-bellied (sometimes pear-shaped) after marriage? Do they eat more? Does marriage increase men's appetite? Why?


All the best,
Behnam, 19 Feb, 2012




Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2012 11:17 pm
by [amal]
Hi Behnam,‏ ‏How r u? How is the weather in Tahran? Is it freeezing as here?! Dear friend, do u think men in general love strong or weak women? Which kind of women attrak them?! In the society why do we see a lot of women who control theis husbands but we find those men happy and trying to not hust theis wives' heart {although they don't deserve that}; meanwhile, there r others who follow their husbands and try their best to pleased them but we find them dissatisfied?!!! Why do u think?! what kind of men r u? what kind of women attract u? And how is it similar to ur wife's behavior? by the way, i want to share u my opinian about ur question to Mohsen, I th4nk men gain weight after marriage cause they become happier cause most people eat more when they r happy.

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Feb 19, 2012 11:21 pm
by [amal]
[amal] wrote:Hi Behnam,‏ ‏How r u? How is the weather in Tahran? Is it freeezing as here?! Dear friend, do u think men in general love strong or weak women? Which kind of women attrak them?! In the society why do we see a lot of women who control theis husbands but we find those men happy and trying to not hust their wives' heart {although they don't deserve that}; meanwhile, there r others who follow their husbands and try their best to pleased them but we find them dissatisfied?!!! Why do u think?! what kind of men r u? what kind of women attract u? And how is it similar to ur wife's behavior? by the way, i want to share u my opinian about ur question to Mohsen, I think men gain weight after marriage cause they become happier cause most people eat more when they r happy!!! thanks.

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Mon Feb 20, 2012 1:55 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,

It is natural that your stomach has been inflated like a semicircle after marriage . you have no exercise as you confessed and also you have to eat what your wife cook at night. But you can’t ignore the pivotal role of lack of sleep in overweighting. This is evident that you can’t sleep the whole night after marriage. :lol: :lol: :lol:
What happens to your appetite when you sleep less and why does this happen?
There are numerous studies that show that lack of sufficient sleep leads to an increase in appetite and hunger.
In a study I have done on some men , healthy young men were examined under conditions of sleep restriction and of sleep extension.
The study showed that under conditions of sleep restriction, appetite increased by over 20%. In particular, the men exhibited cravings for high calorie, carbohydrate rich foods (often the very sort of foods which are highly deterimental to weight maintenance).
In another study ,which was done by another researcher , it was shown that appetite rose dramatically after a single night of sleep reduction.
This study was supported by another one which examined 10 young men over a period of 2 nights of restricted sleep. Lack of sleep was found to be associated with a reduction in satiety (an increase in hunger).
The question is, why is this happening? The answer is that the duration of sleep influences your hormones.
The way you sleep and the length of sleep changes the amount of hormones your body secretes. Mainly, the focus on two hormones: Leptin and Ghrelin.
The reason why these two hormones are important is that they have a tremendous effect on your appetite. Leptin is a hormone that promotes feeling of satiety. It helps you feel full. It reduces appetite.
Ghrelin, on the other hand, works in an opposite way. The more ghrelin you have in your system, the higher your hunger gets and the more likely you are to overeat, especially on high calorie, carb rich foods.
In a study which was done in Pyamnour, Posht tapeh unit, over 1,000 people were examined and their sleep habits analyzed . The conclusions showed that those who slept fewer hours had less leptin in their system and more ghrelin. The study also showed that those who slept less had a higher Body Mass Index (they tended to weigh more).
In Conclusion,It’s clear that if you want to curb your appetite you have to get enough sleep. I recommend sleeping for 8 hours each night which you have to wake up at 10 AM :lol: :lol: :lol: It is simply the easiest way to reduce appetite and it will help you lose weight.

All the best,
Mohsen {-:

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Feb 21, 2012 4:17 pm
by [amal]
Hi behnam, How r u? I have missed chatting with u. What r u busy with? What's the problem? Why didn't great Behnam speak with poor Amal??! I hope everything is ok. I hope u r not sad...

Hi Amal

Posted: Tue Feb 21, 2012 7:49 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Amal,
Hope you are doing fine and in peace , Every day ,I heard the news about your country from BBC, VOA , France 24, Euronews. Of course they are not trustful news companies ,as these companies tell the news according to their benefits. what is clear for people of the world , they try to show that Syrian people are being killed by their government everywhere.
I hope peace comes back to your country as soon as possible and your people cut the hand of treacherous and foreigners who interfere to your country affairs.
B. Wishes,
Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2012 12:05 pm
by behnam

Hi my kind friend, Amal,

Thank you so much for posting excellent posts in this thread. I am sorry about being late in replying.

There are some interesting questions in your post. Let's look at them together:

How is the weather in Tehran? Is it freezing as here?!
The weather is freezing in the morning, but it is nice during the day. Right now it is a sunny day in Tehran. The weather is quite warm now.
Dear friend, do u think men in general love strong or weak women?
I am not sure, but I don't think men like physically strong women. I personally dislike muscular ladies. I believe, men are created to play the role of protectors and supporters. Therefore, they are supposed to be strong, brave and powerful. However, the majority of women like to be protected by their partners. They don't need to be strong.
Which kind of women attract them?!
As far as I'm concerned, in terms of physical body and appearance, beautiful and slim women draw my attention. In terms of manner, I love kind and patient women. They make me feel calm and relaxed. They give me peace of mind.

In the society why do we see a lot of women who control those husbands but we find those men happy and trying to not hurt their wives' heart {although they don't deserve that}; meanwhile, there r others who follow their husbands and try their best to pleased them but we find them dissatisfied?!!! Why do u think?!
As you know, there are different women and different men with various attitudes in the world. For example, some men are strict, whereas some are easy-going. Some men are brave, others are timid. Therefore, it is impossible to generalize about them. Generally speaking, right men do not like to be managed by their wives. They prefer controlling to being hen-pecked. I agree with you about happy couples when the husbands are easy-going and the wives are decision makers. However, this cannot be an ideal family, because happiness is only one aspect of the life, although it is extremely important. Fool people are always happy, but nobody likes to be a fool! I believe, everybody should play their own roles. Otherwise, it won't work. Apparently, everything may seem OK now, but in critical situations some hidden facts emerge.

what kind of men r u? what kind of women attract u? And how is it similar to ur wife's behavior?
I've already answered to these questions. I am a strict and kind man. However, my kindness is hidden. Kind and patient women attract me. My wife is very kind and really patient. In my eyes, she is beautiful as well.

Many thanks for sharing your opinion about the reason of getting weight after marriage. That can be true.

If the answers aren't satisfying and you need further details please ask me without hesitation.


All the best,
Behnam, 22 Feb, 2012

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2012 12:23 pm
by behnam

Hi Mohsen,

Thanks a million for your wonderful post and fantastic reasons. The post is written beautifully and the words are chosen wisely. Thank you very much indeed. I understood your post, but something in it seems difficult to catch. What exactly is meant by

This is evident that you can’t sleep the whole night after marriage. :lol: :lol: :lol:


What is evident? I sleep about 7 hours each night. I sleep very well. It is confusing. Would you please make it clear?

All the best,
Behnam, 22 Feb, 2012

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2012 12:55 pm
by behnam
Hi Elham,

How are you doing? I hope you are enjoying the trip. This is just to let you know that I've missed you terribly. I feel your absence. Please come back soon. I'm waiting for you.


All the best,
Behnam, 22 Feb, 2012



Thanks!

Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2012 1:19 pm
by [amal]
Hi Mohsen, How r u? How is ur job? Did u leave ur old job? Many thanks for ur concern about my country... In fact, I am not too much interested in watching news. However, everyday I have been watching it for a year which reflected on my personality and made me depressed; I cannot tolerate watching innocent people dying without guilt. Moreover, as u said nowadays we don't know who we should belive; Everybody lies for their interest.. But what I am sure about is that we r strong and we all love each other...

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2012 4:14 pm
by yezterday
Hello everybody, hello bednam!

I've joined this forum. And then I'm finding an active topic to discuss, but it's so hopeless. I feel everybody here is cold, and it hurts a newbie like me. Having a place to study English is difficult, isn't it?

Now I need to improve my English, but I don't have good condition. As other students in Vietnam, I'm poor, so money is a luxury thing to take a course of English teaching center. I'm preparing for taking a scholarship. I don't want to miss opportunity. Where I can improve my Listening and Talking?

Looking forward to hearing from you :)

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Feb 22, 2012 6:20 pm
by behnam

Hi Yezterday,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for joining us.

People who are in this place are really friendly and supportive. I know them for years. It is unfair to judge about someone without knowing them.

I agree with you. Learning English in the language institutes costs a fortune. However, these days that's easy for English learners to learn English quite freely. What you need is a mobile phone that gives you access to the Internet. There are a lot sites on the Net which provide you perfect opportunity to improve you English skills. For example, www.bbclearningenglish.com and http://australianetwork.com/studyenglish are just two of them. You can easily and freely download some audio and video files from those sites and listen to them. They really help learners improve their listening skills.

In order to make progress in speaking, you have to use your English. You should take every opportunity to communicate with people in English. Well, for this purpose, you can join people in Yahoo Messenger and chat with them. It really helps.

For widening your vocabulary range and turning your passive vocabulary into active, it is necessary to write in English. I've found writing very helpful. It helps me learn correct structures, grammar and spelling. It also helps me with memorizing the practical usage of words.

People in this thread are always ready to give you a helping hand with improving your English skills. I'm sure about it. Please write more about yourself, and feel free to suggest a topic for discussion.

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,
Behnam, 2 Feb, 2012



Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Thu Feb 23, 2012 4:40 am
by yezterday
Hey Behnam,

I'm not willing to judge someone, and I may need more time to understand everybody here.
Two sites for example above are so helpful. I wish I knew it earlier. Can you share me lots of experience? The way you upgrade your listening level? I can hear the word they say, but it's difficult to understand the whole sentence or passage. And a big problem for me, some words have the same pronunciation, how to distinguish clearly them?

Ah, I don't know the reason why I'm not allowed to post anything on Member pages. http://my.englishclub.com/

Thanks for your enthusiasm! Waiting for your reply...

Welcome!

Posted: Thu Feb 23, 2012 9:54 pm
by [amal]
Hi Yezterday, How r u? Welcome in this thread. Please tell us more about ur country and about the topics which u r interested in... By the way, I have found the following site very useful and it has helped me a lot: http://www.effortlessenglish.com I like the audio lessons which said by A.j. Hoge. Best wishes, Amal

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 3:08 am
by yezterday
Hi amal,
That is very kind of you to share me that site. Teacher A.J. Hoge is so great to give me lots of amazing experiences I haven't known. I'm really pleased!

Let me introduce my country, Vietnam. As you know, my country is really peaceful with 54 different ethnics. We have a diversified culture. The famous images of Vietnam are áo dài and nón lá. Do you know?

The demand for transport here is so great. You can see lightly-trafficked roads are filled all with motorbikes and cars. Foreign people who have the first time to stay in Vietnam judge that traffic in Vietnam is very dangerous. But It's really interesting for you to drive a motorbike and look around.

I'm lazy now, hehe. My lunch is waiting for me 8-) Ah, where are you from?...
See you later.

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 3:16 am
by behnam

Hi Yezterday,

I guess, all English learners, more are less, are facing those difficulties and problems. The important matter in this process is practising. My English skills are not good. I'm still practising. In my free time, I am engaged and involved in English. For example, I listen to English when I am driving. However, my listening is not satisfying.

Your English sounds good. Don't underestimate yourself. One of the main and important factors in learning a language is confidence. We should believe in ourselves. It helps a lot.


About your problem with the site, please ask the administrator for help.

I hope to hear more from you.


All the best,
Behnam, 24 Feb, 2012


Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 10:14 am
by yezterday
Behnam,
I like the way you write. Your presentation is really obvious.

In Vietnam, what we are taught are mostly new words and formal grammar. The amount of time for pratising with partners is very little. In speaking time, humorously and subjectively, my teacher is only one who has activities. Students keep silent and listen clearly. So, we don't have a good starting-point to communicate effectively. That's the reason why I decided to spend time on Internet. I'm finding my self-confidence.

(Of course, I can't listen to English while driving. You know, traffic here is not easy. And everything will be worse if I lost control of my motorbike. Hehe.)

I think you work in the office, don't you?

Have a nice day!

Welcome!

Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 10:27 am
by [amal]
Hi Yezterday, Thanks for ur reply and all these interesting information about ur country. In fact, I haven't ridden a motorbike yet but I hope I could ride it one day! I am from Damascus the capital of Syria. Do u know it? Bye for now

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 3:43 pm
by Elham
Hi dear Behnam,

I came back today at around 4 pm; missing my friends and the thread terribly, I came straight to the computer and checked the mails and messages! Thanks for remembering me my kind and nice friend. :-)

My trip was a very special and really great one! It was so diffrent with the previous ones since I visited a totally diffrent city and culture. Visiting Dubai was so special; not beacouse I enjoyed it a lot but since it was a great new experiance; you may know how much I love to experiance new and different things.

Meeting people from all over the world and talking with some of them made me think more which helps me improve my personality! I seriously need to change some of my attitudes and habits!

Not only did new things and people influence me, but also I learned a lot from my companion's behaviors and some events that happened during the trip!

In general, it was a fantastic experiance; I really needed it!

Emmmmmmm.... but .... aaaaaaam..... nothing, no trip even visiting the most modern , amazing and beautiful cities can take the place of just one trip to Azarbaijan with Behnam! ;-) :-D

All the best,
Elham

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 8:16 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,

You know women like to have some conversation when they are going to sleep, also the couple would like to associate ( bodily @ spiritually) when they go to bed ,particularly at the first years of marriage and many other things ,subject to this term that couple are in good health ;-) .

There are other reasons which the couple could not sleep well for example your wife won't let you sleep at night and if you fall asleep before her she wakes you up and makes you angry. You need adequate amount of sleep, so you want to go to the bed at 10, but she doesn't seem to need much sleep and just will not let you go to bed early.

Some women use to wriggle when they go to sleep and won’t let her spouse sleep. When the man is in deep sleep ,she kick him out or strike him by hands and wakes him up.

God have a mercy if she snores all night

All the best ,
Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 4:03 pm
by behnam

Hi Yezterday,

Many thanks for praising me for my style of writing. That's very kind of you.

Yes, you are absolutely right. I work at the office.

In my city which is the capital of Iran, heavy traffic is one of the serious problems. Every day, people waste a lot of time in traffic. It is increasing day by day. However, you can listen to English when you are stuck in a traffic jam or stopped behind traffic lights. You don't need to give your full attention to the dialog. At least, your mind gets familiar with English sounds unconsciously. It works!

It is almost the same in my country. Teachers often care much too much about English grammar and its rules. They also force students to memorise some words as vocabulary. However, students are terrible at speaking. What the teachers do is like teaching someone the rules of swimming and the effects of water on people's body. They often teach the resistance force of water to the different shapes of body. For example, if you open your fingers widely, water resistance causes you slow down! However, the students aren't able to swim at all. If you push one of them into a pool for instance, they will sink to the bottom of it. I believe, a good teacher is someone who teaches how to swim practically rather than what swimming is. For this purpose they (good teachers) expose the students to the real situations-they push them into water!

Would you mind writing something about yourself? Would you please introduce yourself?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,
Behnam, 25 Feb, 2012




Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 6:17 pm
by behnam

Hi Mohsen,

Nice reasons my nice friend. Thank you very much. But, as I said, I sleep 7 to 8 hours a day! Therefore, the reason of my problem-gaining weight after marriage-must be something else! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Mohsen, a significant improvement in your writings can be easily seen.Congratulations! You are writing much better than before. How could you achieve this great success?

Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,
Behnam, 25 Feb, 2012