Thankfully, our dear friend Mohsen has agreed that 'actions speak louder than words'. However, he has wisely introduced another topic which is related to another area of knowledge. According to him, now, we should separate fakes from facts. We should also recognize sincere people from pretentious ones. I agree with him. I'd like to thank Mohsen for his nice points.
How can we realize who is who?
First of all, it should be kept in mind that as a general rule, for all creatures, necessity is the main engine of movement! What does it mean? It means right now Behnam is writing these things for some purposes. He is looking for something, maybe he is looking for fame, attention, kindness, etc. Perhaps he is showing off in order to be the center of attention. Maybe, he has found an excuse to write something as well as practise English. Therefore, it is obvious that Behnam is trying to get some benefits from this action(writing). I am sure you know that benefits can be financial or spiritual.
So far, we know that we are all benefit-oriented creatures. We also know that benefits are different. It doesn't necessarily mean that what we do is beneficial. Sometimes we target to benefit(our intention is getting benefit) but the result does not meet our intention. In some cases, something is beneficial for someone, but others may have different ideas. Anyway, people have different ideas about benefit and loss. It depends-to a great extent-on our philosophy of life.
Let's return to the first paragraph. I believe, we should not be too pessimistic about people and the intention of their actions. We should have our own equations in the life. In other words, we ought to have our own goals. On the way of achieving our goals, if someone's actions help us with easier and earlier achievement, we can welcome their actions. This simply means a win-win interaction. Therefore, a win-win interaction(relationship, cooperation, etc.) is OK, no matter what the intention of people is.
Finally, we all know that nothing is perfect in the entire universe, since perfection means prevention to betterment, progress, movement . When evaluating something(an action), we should consider both positiveness and negativeness. After analyzing carefully, we should calculate all pluses and minuses. If the result is positive, that's beneficial for us. When calculation shows that the total is negative, it is against our goals. All in all, I believe, we had better focus on our own goals(equations), instead of too much pessimist and suspicion.
Unfortunately, being in the classrooms for years and living with teacher parents have made me sound as a teacher in every circumstance. I am neither giving tips, nor teaching, nor advising. The style of my writing is like I am giving tips, but I don't actually. I am expressing my ideas. I hope nobody will get upset or annoyed from my way of writing. I don't mean to insult anybody.
These are my ideas. I also don't want to make you think of me as an open-minded person. There is no valid standard for evaluating the amount of open-mindedness or close-mindedness.
All the best,
Behnam, 21 November, 2012