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i'll not agree with this point of view entirly.
as we know that life is always full of happiness and unhappiness things, would it be possible if we lost something our lovable somewhere, how could u get the feeling? perhaps the best way at this time is try to find something happiness while let the unhappy alone. :mrgreen:
would u agree with this point? :lol:
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ithink that all people can find happiness if they understood life and the that it goes it is not a matter of having money itis amatter of beeing satisfied with your self your life and your GOD idont think that happiness means that you are selfish it is your right and your choice and no one will charge you :roll:
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ithink that all people can find happiness if they understood life and the way that it goes it is not a matter of having money itis amatter of beeing satisfied with your self your life and your GOD idont think that happiness means that you are selfish it is your right and your choice and no one will charge you :roll:
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Everybody wishes to have the happiness but it is not in our hands .. but it is coming from Our God ( Allah ) .. We can search about the happiness causes but we can't find the happiness ..
There are somethings bring happiness but not all of the happiness like money but not all times also .. by money we can buy a part of happiness .. and happiness come from the good health and by living with a family that its members can understand and love u .. and it is also not the wholly happiness ,,
In shortness .. There is no one that has the all happiness as the word means .. because if he has it in his house and between family .. He couldn't has it everywhere in society and work and such as .
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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

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I had better say " Happiness is like a butterfly, you run after it, it keeps flying, but if you stand still, it comes and sits on you.
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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

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H wrote:

I had better say " Happiness is like a butterfly, you run after it, it keeps flying, but if you stand still, it comes and sits on you.
A beautiful speech ..
But I think it's not correct all times ,, sometimes we have to run after the happiness to catch it :wink:
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ABC wrote:I am agreed to this point.
Nobody will bring any happiness to you if you don't feel happy with them.
You always think that it's not worthy of doing. Maybe you have lost many chances and time to get happy things. But when you are trying to look for happiness for yourself, it will be far from you.
yes,I like your idea, we must do our best in job, love... so that we 'll feel really happy, and noone can help us to get our happy.
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yuniu wrote:Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Obvious the above judgment is wrong. Happiness should be sense with our heart. One object might lead to various effects of human feeling because of subjective perspective.
I think this topic is true in some aspect. A person try to find happiness, but I think such a person 'll never know that there's limit to everything and he 'll find more, find forever and it's possible that he never feel happy!!
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Rodrigo Klassen wrote:i think that nobody can be happy or sad all time. hapiness can be found in the most simple things of our days. the problem is: people are never pleased. it's necessary to see the life in a simple way, allways remember good happenings in it
the best idea!!
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'The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don't have' (Woody Allen)
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I think that it is difficult to say black and white.
every one just live in different situation and it is unfair to force others to fall into one's line.
I am now learning to be sastisfied with myself because I realise that it brings me happiness when something in this life lets me down and I can t do any thing else but to accept it.
However you are right. To live is to fight. You cant expect something to come true without any efforts. I now come to get things for myself not to wait for a magic or simply luck. And it makes my life more meaningful and active.
I think you may end in failure but even failure is a precious experience for future success. If you dont try, you are neither failing nor successful.
I just dont want to be such a passive one.
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I think that a person gotta find his happines in God! :D
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i believe in this saying by Albert Camus:

You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.

it comes in between, side by side, both ways or not at all..
if we never got to notice our happiness.. then..it's all useless..
if we're too busy looking or searching for happiness, we may never notice that we have it after all.. :wink:

it's a matter of sitting down, or pausing to see the beauty of things.. :wink:

i also like this quote:
If only we'd stop trying to be happy we'd have a pretty good time.by Edith Wharton
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Yes :) you're right. But in my opinion, we could find our happines in God. :P There's some people who doesn't trust in God but they're happy too. Boh I think I'm happy thanks to God.
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Everyone has his own character, so every one has a difference understand of the happyness. The most regret is many people don't know what is his happyness. So he will pursue his happyness all the time, though happyness is round him, but he can't recognize it .
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You're right too..if a person searches his happines he could not see it..so be calm and live your life!!!! :wink:
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I think we should try to find the happiness if we want. But the way of looking for happiness is very important.
Franky, when you find it but you can't enjoy because it doesnot belong to you , it it terribe!
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I think that the word "Happenies" is something can't be considered in one or two words. In my openion, if you look around you, and feel satistified of what you have, this bring you the happenies. Even the things around you are little or something normal now. This look will be changed by you, if you miss one of them in a time....
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For me , I can find happiness if I try to find it . In my religion if I apply all rules and pray on the time the happiness comes from the God direct without I search about it
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happiness is something possible and one can be happy if he felt satisfayed with what he have and accepting and loving himself as it is.
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It's an endless process.

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We as humans have never satisfied with what we have had,may be now i want something, haven't got it ,i feel unhappy. i think that i'll be happy if i got it. But after having it ,the happiness may just last for a period of time and vanish.
So , i would conclude that the human's desire that make humans always chasing for happiness.
Humans chase for basic needs, after having that,chase for more luxurious needs,then after having the wealthy life ; ones still would feel unhappy, they'll go for names and fames, the chasing would last until the end of ones lives. The Moslow theory had explained humans' needs thoroughly.
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Whatever you are talking about, i just keep quite.

I donnot want to think too much about life.

Am i right?
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To me, nobody can be happy when they try to find happiness.I have read a very interesting story about this issue.
A group of devils hold an appointment in order to do something to make people miserable and after a few hours they decide to hide human happiness but they don't know where to hide it.A member say 'we should hide it on the peak of Everest mountain' but the others dont approve because people could climb up and get it, another one want to hide it at the deepest place of ocean but it isn't available too as people have many sophisticated tool such as sub-marine so they can find it easily. An elder one suggest putting it in people's heart because they often try to go to very far place to find happiness but they don't know their most precious are around them.
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To me, nobody can be happy when they try to find happiness.I have read a very interesting story about this issue.
A group of devils hold an appointment in order to do something to make people miserable and after a few hours they decide to hide human happiness but they don't know where to hide it.A member say 'we should hide it on the peak of Everest mountain' but the others dont approve because people could climb up and get it, another one want to hide it at the deepest place of ocean but it isn't available too as people have many sophisticated tool such as sub-marine so they can find it easily. An elder one suggest putting it in people's heart because they often try to go to very far place to find happiness but they don't know their most precious are around them
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I liked the story narrated by Laxuan, and to my mind it really characterizes the real life. And that is the question to this discussion. There's no need to waste time on looking for happiness, it will come itself. And besides, a question arises: where one can look for happiness? That's ridiculous. And what does happiness mean in general? When you have close people by your side, friends, a good job, when you can pass ur free time like u want (going there and there, travelling, and doing what u want), when you're in love, or just have a bf or a gf. For me all these components form happiness, and even my not very good health does not mean that much, cuz I have all above stated "components of happiness" in my life. Happiness is all around us, we only have to realize that is happiness, and not to look for it. that's :). Have a nice day everybody, don't worry, BE HAPPY. Life is too short, so enjoy every moment of it. :P
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chenggiant wrote:Whatever you are talking about, i just keep quite.

I donnot want to think too much about life.

Am i right?
Interesting, well, in a forum you can't just keep quiet. You can't
control your mind from thinking about life ,right? Chasing and fulfilling your need/desire could be happened unconsciously in your life..... in silent!!
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Post by awalee »

I think we become happy when we want to be happy.

But some times we find some kind of happiness whwen we becom sad ( if we not feel sadness :cry: we can not feel happiness :D )

Are you agree with me ? :roll:
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i think so!happy life is very natural!
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Re: My Happiness ....

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ı completely agree with you.happiness is a kind of toll and we must know how to play with it.
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What is happiness? Everybody has his own happiness. With someone, happiness is very simple. Example, with the poor, happiness is to have delicious meals, beautiful clothes and have enough money to pay school fees for their children. But with the rich, happiness is far different. They have much money, so maybe their happiness is power and fluence,... I am not sure. Now, my happiness is to find a good job, earn much money to learn everything I love, such as learn to play piano, learn to draw picture,... Can I find my happiness. I think the answer is yes. What is your happiness? And what will you do to have your happiness?
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Pardon me if I disagree. We can find happiness. What is the essense of happiness if nobody can find it? That's the logic behind why happiness exists. It depends, however, how one defines happiness. What is happiness for me may not be happiness for others. Remember the relativity of things. But to be happy is not to the detriment of others.
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i liked the lines you wrote.
it's true, if someone walks away in search of getting Happiness s/she won't get it, but if a person let it go....stop thinking and stressing...it's possible to be HAPPY then...
Im impressed with your lines sounds like an inteligent and experiences person there...

Will be glad to see you here srm_*******.com

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ONE EXPERT SAID IN HIS SPEECH;
"TRUE HAPPINESS IS WHAT DEPEND ON OURSELVES ,OUR THOUGHT,IT'S THE FEELING COMING FROM INSIDE" DEEP DOWN , EACH OF US KNOW WHAT'S TRUE HAPPINESS TO US.
BE PLEASED WITH THE PRESENCE AND LOOKING FORWARD IS ALSO A KIND OF HAPPINESS.
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Of course you can try to find the happiness .first , you should try to find friend who you feel well with them and you can do everything with them without they be sad of you .second , you have to try to find a good wife to feel happiness with her , third you try to find good neighbors to live with them in happiness .

So you should to try for happiness :wink:
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I think that happiness consists in having a good health and a bad memory. I´m not a happy person but I have a lot of happy moments so I don´t try to find happiness because I´m afraid of feeling frustrated if I don´t get it.
If you want to be happy I recommend you a tabloid whose name is WILL. A person without will is a disaster.
There are three positive feelings: pleasure, gladness and happiness. Don Quijote de la Mancha said that "happiness there isn´t in the inn, only in the middle of the way". It´s a way of life. But to get it you must be in a good balance and have a project of life.
In front of the sea there is a sailing ship. The life. A pessimist person blames the wind, the optimist waits a change and the realist adjusts the sails.
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nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness

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Happiness is a way to be...it does not exist if we are pessimistic and a selfish person ! as Jean-Claude VanDamme said : "be aware !!!" that's the real way of life... :lol:
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i thinke that happiness not imposiple thing becuse evryone much search for it in this life & not to wait it to come lonelly :)
but i want to ask what dose happiness mean ?
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Looking for happiness means your mind has no happiness. Don't seek it ! The more you seek happiness, the more it evades you. If we have happiness, we dont need to go out for searching it.
Happiness lies nowhere but inside yourself. Yes, when you smile to someone, they would do the same in return. That also means if you close your heart, everythings would be out of your reach.
No one brings you a real happiness unless you bring what you think cheerfulness to them. That's the practical experience in our life.
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i thinke happiness not mean the outer expressions as big smiles or laughing but this thing come from inside our self & this give us the feeling of comfortable & safe so how we try to disappear these things it will note through our behavior & eyes glances so we should have strong resolution .
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I don't think trying to find happiness is bad. We thirst for happiness, we try to find it in stead of sit down and wait for it. Finding happiness is just give your love to everyone, then you can receive it, and happiness will come easily. If everyone on the whole world do that the world will be beautiful, and full of happiness.
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I don't think trying to find happiness is bad. We thirst for happiness, we try to find it in stead of sit down and wait for it. Finding happiness is just give your love to everyone, then you can receive it, and happiness will come easily. If everyone on the whole world do that the world will be beautiful, and full of happiness.
Absolutely. That means you must have your love first. The love is inside your mind and heart. We dont need to find love anywhere else. With love available within yourself, you would find it easy giving others what they really need : assistance, talk, even a lovely smile.etc..
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you feel happy,you are happy.the ture sence.
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There is no key to happiness - the door is always opened.
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There is no key to happiness - the door is always opened.
Right!. It's as simple as the spreading horizon. Open one's heart, happiness would go in,otherwise,it would flee away.
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happyiness is just a kind of feeling ....it depends on the view you hold to life.

If you believe a grim, rainy day beautiful, it is beautiful because you enjoy it..............If you think a sunny spring morning is ugly it is ugly....

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The happiness exists in our minds. Each one create your our happiness because is not the same for all. There are people that don’t need much to be happy. I think that the happiness is subjective and changeable. Nowadays you can be happy with something or someone and tomorrow not more. In some times I feel nostalgia about this topic because I wish I could to find the real happiness in myself and the rest. :?:
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In fact,Happiness is a journey.U couldn't find it out.but you can feel it.
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What is the point to seek for happiness when sadness is bound to come? Everyone's life is repeating the same thing, cant ppl see that this kind of repeating life is meaningless?

I wonder how long will it take for human being to grow beyond happiness and sadness. Maybe human are just too afraid to step into unknown, hence history keep repeating itself.
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I agree with that the happiness exists in our minds. I believe so too and that is why I believe also that it is possible to be happy at anytime, anywhere or in any situation. Of course it is not easy or often, but I think it is possible. It just needs some work.

I see there is two kind of happiness. The first one is passionate happiness, that is found by outside. If something really good happens then the happiness we feel is passionate happiness. But that is not everlasting happiness. If the good thing that made someone happy is suddenly gone, then the happiness is gone also. In the passionate happiness, if something good happens, we feel enormous happiness, but if something bad happens, we feel enormous sadness. It is like the wind. First it asks something good and after that it loves the world outside.

The second kind of happiness is an attitude, calm happiness. That comes from inside of us, from our mind. That comes if somebody loves that he has, loves the chance to love etc. If somebody feels that kind of happiness, there is no need to something fantastic to happen. In calm happiness we are glad of the good things that happens, but if something bad happens, we do not lose the happiness. It is that what gives the strenght to us to face the bad things and it is our attitude that reminds us that there is always something to be glad of. Then we are happy for the hardship, because we have an opportunity to learn something from that. In calm happiness there is first the love from inside of us and then comes other things.

Passionate happiness: "I love just because I am happy."
Calm happiness: "I am happy just because I love."

Passionate happiness: "I am everything. If you have me, you can see only me and you are in heaven. But if you don't have me, you see only the loss of me and you suffer."
Calm happiness: "You don't have to look at me. You look with me, I am your attitude. You can watch the outside world in peace with me."

If you seek passionate happiness, you maybe want to be always richer, more beautiful or you wannt to have more lovers, fame or honour. Then you ask for things.
If you seek calm happiness, all you need is your love. You don't have to be anything more. Then you can give.

Finding happiness depends wholly on that what you ask to be happy.

This is how I see happiness, but of course this is only one way to see it.
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Hi Valery.

I'd like to comment your opinion on happiness.
You said that we cant find it. I am not with you on this matter. Happiness is something that we can find. A small example is when we can make somebody happy, we'll usually be happy too. We can be happy by making somebody or others happy. And to do it, we've got to learn the way.

I know that happiness is subjective. But it is real. We can feel it. And to get that feeling, process is needed. Struggle is needed. To make it simpler. I'll give you one example. Here it is:

One day a daughter wanted to make her mom happy in her mom's b'day. Then she wrote a song for her mom. She sang the song beautifully on her mom's b'day. She did her best. Then she kissed her mom and gave a hug and said "Mom, thank you for everything you have done to me. I really appreciate it. I am proud to be your daughter. You are the best mom in this world". She said that sincerely. And she cried while kissing and hugging her mom. Her mom was impressed and cried too. The girl recalled her dad who had passed away. Her mom did it too. Even though they were crying, they were very happy on that day. And of course that happiness didn't come from nowhere. It happened because the daughter had fought to make her mom happy. He thought hard to write an impressing song just for her mom. She fought for that and then she got it.

So, Valery. My point is do not wait the happiness comes to you. instead, pls fight for it. Go for it.
Find it.

Thanks Valery. Keep in touch. :)

Sincerely,
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