Does it really matter how we treat babies?

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I once heard a story about an orphanage where something very weird was going on in the babies' room. It was a room filled with cribs, one next to another. For months, the orphanage staff observed that the babies that slept in the last crib of the row grew up healthier and happier. Why did that happen? What was wrong with that crib?

Well the answer was simple: every night, after the maid had finished her task, she would rest by the last crib, and talk and caress the baby in it.
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I think it is very significant subjet & it must be taken in our consideration, due to its greatest importance. There is no doubt , babies are our future , through them we hope to accomplish our dreams, ambitions & aims, that we had no opportunity to achieve them. Babies are our delightful God's gift,& the successful end of our life. They will complete our life messge to maintain our traditions, beliefs, & moralities from one generation to another,which enable them to do the best for their families & their homelands.They are our young future & we proudly see our glorious future through them.
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TalkingPoint wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do YOU think?
Baby child is so vulnerable, we must treat them very carefully, even though, they might not remember what happened to him in his 1 - 2 years old.
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Let´s put it the easy way.

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Of course it matters the way we treat and teach our sons. Let me just ask you something. Would you like to be treatted nice and with love or would you like to be mistreatted or would you like to be abuse by someone. Babies, eventhough they can not express themsleve they have feelings and they undestand what happend at their enviroment.

So of course it matter and we should all take care of our babies and of the childs.
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i think they don't sense what's good or bad for them but they can feel what make them comfortable or uncomfortable
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I am a mother of a six month years old baby now. You don't know that how clever they are. They use their clear eyes to watch what is going on around them. They smile to you if you treat them in a kind way, them cry if you do any bad things to them. Maybe they really can not remember thing at their early age, but it not means we can treat them as we like, right? How come if you have pet dog or cat? They can not speak also, but you can treat them bad? No!!!right, you will love them.
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sandra wrote:I have no baby, so not an expert :lol: But I regard it as a common sense we should treat every human beings in this world with mercy.
Having a baby does not make you an expert. Were that true, we wouldn't have so many broken families in the world.

I remember seeing and listening to many experts on the matter saying that the most important years in a person's life are the first 5 years, because during these years the person builds up his/her personality, which is very very important to suceed in any society.

Also, I remember this news I saw about a year ago, where this hospital where twins were born very early, and they noticed a baby was not doing so well. The nurse decided to put both babies in the same machine... she was thinking that perhaps the company of the little bother could help the sick one.

I was very surprising to see how the little baby improved his health. And it was amazing to see the little brother's support: he usually "hugged" his brother by putting his arms just above his brother's chest... sort of like cheering him up.

Ain't it touching?
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TalkingPoint wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do YOU think?
First : We think that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives , but in reality we remember that by doing something which is related to our mind ...( my teacher said that xD ) so , it really matters how we treat babies and toddlers .

ps: sorry my english is poor
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sure it's really matter how we treat babies
and toddlers?
I think we all teart babies and toddlers with a different way
these differences have an impact on how good the experience of childhood is
so if u want a good person u have to prepare this person from the beginning u have to treat him very well u have to respect him from the beginnig.
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Do you do it for the babies or for your reputation ? :lol:

Hey, baby ! wash the dishes, clean the kitchen, bring me my beer. :lol: (mouarf)

You do it to be happy, not for your social image.



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yes, we should. This is the stage of one's life where he/she adapts well to the environment. We may not know, but don't we realize why a baby or toddler understands the language fast? I think this is the time where we are most brilliant. So whatever was instilled to the baby's mind will retain in him..
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it really does!!

you know, if you treat your babies in a way that is not acceptable from a genuine mother to do.... cuz you know, your babies might grow up to obtain an over rude behavior, and that certainly based on the way you treated them.. but if you did the exact opposit, you won't be a bit sorry for, cuz they will present their comunity in the future, for sure as you taught them... besides, they will be decent once that you could be proud of, and, too, they will be proud of having such coool mother such as you...

there are a lot to say about this issue.. but you know i don't like to enlarge the topic cuz your question is specified... actually i did :lol:

thanx 4 ur ask

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of course it's important, in the minute the baby born we have to treat him/her a good treatment, becaue he/she understands us and aware of what's going on around him/her, besides, from that moment he/she starts to perceive and absorb what he sees and hears. each day he/she learns aomething new and us who teach him/her.
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I don't have a baby yet :) but I always taking care of my cousin's babies when she can't handled them in sametime..I think its great experience so I know how to take care baby someday, watching them grow up.
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It is of great impotance. I may not remember but I can imagine my birth have been born in the living room of our home infront of a warm coal fire. I do remember sitting in my pram in the front garden and being admired by passers by. I was often asked the time and it was always ten to two. I also remember being persuaded to throw my dummy on the fire, but I might have been about 10 by then. He he!.
The ones who cared for me most in those early years and those friendly people who passed by have remained friends and favoured relatives.
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If parents love their children they treat them accordingly no matter if children are one yaer old or three years old. Of course adequate parents change the way they treat their boys and girls when the latter become teenagers.
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Yes offcourse, The babies always learn from every step we take whether that is in happiness or anger they learn from us. So what ever we react directly affects them and they also try to implement those points in their lives
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yes,it really matters.I agree with hedwig14.it is most important and precious movement where they learn quickly than other stages of life.
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yes, our way of treating babies play role on building their personality.
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sandra wrote:As far as I am concerned, babies and toddlers may not rememeber things vividly.But they do have the ability to sense things around them.They could tell the affection and caring. Any sweet whispers, gentle strokes and tiptoed movements.If they grew up in a loving family, they became secure and confident.These things will have vital impact on their furture life.
Hello Sandra,
You have a good point of them. Indeed, I did not grow up in a loving family, so your message is especially important to me. =)
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sandra wrote:I have no baby, so not an expert :lol: But I regard it as a common sense we should treat every human beings in this world with mercy.
Hi Sandra,
I disagree with you because some people do not know what mercy and love are all about. What is a common sense or not; it depends on the individual because I regard everyone has a variety of knowledge and opinions. =)
But we are fortunate because we do know them, so our future children will be living in merciful and loving families. =)
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In my mind it is important how we treat babies beacuse even we can not remember this time we assimilate different behaviours which depend on it. People derive models to follow from the youngest years of their lives.
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In my opinion children dont remember exacly how their parents treated them in the childhood, but every child subconsciously know if the family loves them or not. It is really important to treat children the best as it is possible, because children have feeling too, and we have to remember that they are defenceless.
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In my point od view it is importance to treat babies very well. Maybe babies can't remember first two years, but they develop emotion and safety and sense od love are necessary.
Also i think every children look like his/her parents in the future.
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According to me the way we treat the children what they are causing in the future. For example, if from the birth we will give child sweets in the future will be thick. Or when a child is too often bite it later will be afraid of people. I when I was child that I could leave the table just like everything I ate. It came to me for good because now I eat almost anything.
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I suppose that nobody remember exactly what took place in our the first years of live, but I would think that even than something stay in our memory and it can affect how we treat babies and toddlers.
So, in my opinion we should treat every person (particulary children and babies, but not just them) very well, because nobody want to be badly treated.
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In my point of view it is really matter how we treat babies and toddlers because they are humans like we. What is more although the fact that babies can't remember anything from the first one or two years of their lives everyone should treat them with respect and taking care of them any time. Furthermore if we treat them in a bad and irresponsible way we should really reflect on our behavior and think how we could feel if we were them.
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I think that how we treats baby is of great importance. Through the prism of our actions and words baby shapes its own personality and perception of the world which affects the life and development at a later stage. Scientists have conducted many studies on the effect of the treating babies. One of them had sho the effect of raising babies without love. As a result of this experiment, the most of babies died. This shows that how we treats babies is very important.
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In my opinion it does metter how we treat babies. They have feelings like adults. It is true that they will forget about it, but children feel that we love them or not. Bad treatment affect on their behavior.
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Yes, it is. It is very important to treat babies as well as it is possible. Children are sensitive. They learn from us everythink. our behaviours is connected with futhure character of our child.
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Yes , how we treat babies is really very important. We should take care of them with love and affection and it will have major impact on their behavior .
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yes of course it matters. Our Children learn what we want them to learn, they are just raw material we can mould them anyway we want. When they grow up and become adult then their activities and thoughts are the reflection of our lesson which we had given them at the time when they were growing
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Yes, it matters totally! Even the most recently researches about babies show us that earlier treatment is very important because affect in different ways along their lives. On the one hand, there exist psychological effects in order to improve the affectional development; meanwhile, on the other hand, there exist neurological effects too in the stimulation that they receive. So, in sum, how you treat babies is very important to general development, even although they couldn't remember specific actions, but it affects in other ways.
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