Grown-up children should look after their elderly parents.

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crystalfrogw wrote:surely...
only animals will leave when they grow up instead of take care of their parents.
but we are human beings knowing that we should repay our parents' love.......

My dear friends.
How about a father who didn't want to admit his child because he was not sure if the child was his biological child. He thought that the child was a reasult of affair between his wife and her boybriend???
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BOGINYA wrote:I consider, that children have to take care of their old parents.
Of course, we must to care about our parents, but many countries have a special institutions for care about them. In Russua, for example, every man must to care about own parents. Besides it, the government care about the elderly people. But a level of their life is very low.
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did you guys all come from the same playground? nice to meet you here anyway :lol:
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Welcome, Russians.
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ofcourse, and it's not enough. the only way where we can rapay our parents is when we have children of our own. we should have that sense of gratitude to them.
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So, but what about an elderly people, who can't cares about themselves and what relatives don't want to care about them? Does the government have to care about them and would it really do it? :?:
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bambang wrote:Welcome, Russians.
Thanks, nice to be here! :)
I always want to speak english with other people (not with russians!) :)
So, it's a people law - fistly parents care about you, then - you have to care about them. But not always parents are friends to their children...
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Konstantin wrote:
bambang wrote:Welcome, Russians.
Thanks, nice to be here! :)
I always want to speak english with other people (not with russians!) :)
So, it's a people law - fistly parents care about you, then - you have to care about them. But not always parents are friends to their children...
Oh you snob! :lol: Don't want to bother you with my poor and humble knowledge of English, but tell, please, where have you all come from? Seems like your teacher has discovered this web-site and you joined successfully :wink:
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Tora, this things usually discusses in a private messages! :D :D :D
But special for you: I'm from Voljsky, it's under Volgograd. :) I always want to speak English with real people, who live in englishword counties. But I speak very bad... :cry:
So! If people have only one parent, what do they must to do? If one of parents left family many times ago? Not dead, but left! :?: :?: :?:
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Ded wrote:There are many children in our country whom have one parent. How do you think, must they care about his or her one parent(mother or father), who has grown his child all his life better or not?
I think - yes. If you really love your one parent, you have to care about him, if he needs for it.
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If we find happiness in caring for others why can't we to our own parents. However, (I think) this cannot be carried out as a law because it is very depressing to the elderly if the child is unwilling. (Instead of living longer ... you know what I mean, don't you? :roll: )
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Be honest, it's quite controdictory. My personal experience is I did took after my Mom very well as she raised me up very hardly. I appreciate her a lot and nothing can describe how I'm grateful for her. But, ironically, I did nothing to my Dad as he never took his responsibility to the family when I was a child. His behavior hurt me a lot....
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spaintaiwan wrote:Be honest, it's quite controdictory. My personal experience is I did took after my Mom very well as she raised me up very hardly. I appreciate her a lot and nothing can describe how I'm grateful for her. But, ironically, I did nothing to my Dad as he never took his responsibility to the family when I was a child. His behavior hurt me a lot....
But, he still is your father.
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Yeah of course that we need to look after for our parents.Cuz only they cared for us,didn`t sleep at night for us,creid when we cried,smiled when me smiled,only they were happy when we were,only they were angry when we were angry.It`s our task to love them,to care for them and to look after for them cuz they are the best gift that God can send to a child.In my country 98 % or 99% of boys look after their parents,it`s a custom.
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offspring wrote:I think that looking after elderly parents is a kind of appreciation for their effort to bring us up. Undoubtedly they sacrificed a lot during our growing up.
In addition, the day we will need our children's help is not so far. Therefore the personal example to our own children is the best way to teach them to take care for us later.
I couldn't agree more.
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we must
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yup..they really should.. it's the best way to return what they have done for us when we were younger.
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Do you know when a man understands the real inner feelings of an elderly person or an aged person? When he himself become an aged person. Here I have mentioned words like man or himself which are also refering to a woman.Yes.Very few can understand the trauma what he goes through in his ripe-age or advanced age. For example a son realises his father's frustration when he's neglected by him when his son neglects him when he turns old. And this goes on and on generation after generation.Then what is the solution for this indifferent attitude? Should parents expect their children to look after them when they turn old?
You have to take me as an example. I'm in early fifties.Eventhough this is not an age to depend on children but even at the later stage I do not wish to depend on anybody that includes even my children. I even feel I will be disturbing them. Instead Ipray to God that let him bless me with good health and make me work till the last day of my life! One might ask me whether it is possible? My answer is BIG YES. Your mind is your age.There are many things you can do where you require mental strength not your physical strength. Your education also come handy. Dear Parents depend on yourseves and teach the same to your children. But one important factor don't foget. You have to keep yourself healthy. Shall we prove this to the world dear parents ?
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Of course. The grown-up children should look after their parents. As parents spend much time and energy in companying with their kids, especially in China. From a little small baby to a adult, parents contributes all the things that they cherish to their childrens.
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I think it is akind of duty , coz they spent their life looking after us when we were children.we should return apiece of what they gave us.

I feel sorry and pity when I saw senior ppl living by themselves no one look for them :-(

Miss my lovely parents :geek:
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This is how it works in my culture. It’s easy; your parents raise you up to be grown man/women. In return, you have to take care of them when the needs you since they helped you when you needed them.
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The love of our parents is self-giving, they will do their every best to provide a good growing environment for us. Even when we are growing up and we have our own home, they will still keep worring about us. They have done so , so much for us and it's our responsibilities to take care of them when they get old. For my part, whatever we do for them, its just not enough compared with their sacrifice to us .
Tree prefer calm while wind not subside; Son choose filial while parents died. So if you don't want to suffer this tragedy, then do it now! Do something for your parents.
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Speaking of myself, it should be so beyound any question. It's the problem of responsibility.
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The debate on whether grown-up should look after their elderly parents or not. On the one side many argue that Children should look after their parents, not only this, should sacrifice their life for their parents. On the other hand, many people argue that children have their own life , career and family to look after. I am of the opinion that Children should take care of their parents in any condition whether they are rich or poor, whether they are handicapped or well etc.

Parents raise their child, make them educate, learn the good things by the bottom of their and try not to feel them sad in any moment in the entire life. Parents fulfill their obligations by making their heritage educationed and good people and encourage them towards positive ways in the life. Parents earn money to bring their children up a good knowlegde and manners that he could face the difficulties and hardships in the way of life.
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Definitly yes. for me, i can't imagine my life without them. after all they look after me when i was young, so i must take a good care of them that i'm a grown-up now.

when people do sacrifice so much for the sake of their children, it is the least to do. In my opinion, it is impossible to repay them for taking care of you whem you where so helpless.
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TalkingPoint wrote:Grown-up children should look after their elderly parents.

What do YOU think?
Nothing is wrong. It depends on both party and the culture they follow.
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Yes, definitely.
As parents are responsible to look after their kids when they are young and small, And they dont know how to live, so the parents teach them how to live.
Similiarly children are responsible to look after their parents when they grow older and we have to treat them the same as if they are kids, because in the elder age they really need our love and care
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