questions about mental health

[hanami]

Here it seems that everyone only care physical health while for me mental health is always most important. I have usually been sad for many years. Sometimes i feel hopeless. However there is a cause envolved to physical health here. Only one year ago i was once very sick. I could eat very little as i have had a wounded stomach. It is diffcult for me to swalow when i often feel vomitted. Afterwards i tried to eat more and take exercise everyday. My health is being improved a lot. But my spirit is not good. Very often i feel lonely and disapointed. The sad feelings is at times even unreasonable. To now I do still not understand it is the mental sickness that cause my physical sickness or vice versa. I don't know how to release my mind.

[Pirate]

As is the case with most issues, the idea of health and wellness is one that is not universally agreed upon. There is no one, overarching set standard or way of viewing health and wellness by everyone who inhabits the planet. Thus, in order to comprehend the magnitude of differences pertaining to this issue it is critical to analyse it from various perspectives. Achieving a state of optimal health is often a goal for many individuals. Good health is more than the absence of disease; it is the balance of physical, emotional, social, spiritual and intellectual well-being. The balance of all these components is usually based on the principle of self-responsibility.

http://understanding.takingitglobal.org/health

[Guest]

Here it seems that everyone only care physical health while for me mental health is always most important. I have usually been sad for many years. Sometimes i feel hopeless. However there is a cause envolved to physical health here. Only one year ago i was once very sick. I could eat very little as i have had a wounded stomach. It is diffcult for me to swalow when i often feel vomitted. Afterwards i tried to eat more and take exercise everyday. My health is being improved a lot. But my spirit is not good. Very often i feel lonely and disapointed. The sad feelings is at times even unreasonable. To now I do still not understand it is the mental sickness that cause my physical sickness or vice versa. I don't know how to release my mind.

We can become sick if we're too overwhelmed with stress and anxiety. It's because there is a big relationship between physically well-being and mentally well-being; they are associated with each other. Some people are being happy although they're not healthy inside while others are sad even when they're in a good health. People who are stressed with mental problems are not as healthy as people who are having diseases but being happy because of the imagination that makes them weak. They think they're weaker than they're supposed to be. In another words, they tend to give up on trying or fighting with certain problems that they're having.
As for your problem, I think stressing is the main reason that doesn't make you as strong as you think you are-- you're too overwhelmed with depression, worrying, pressure, and sadness. My guess is you've been thinking too much of the reason, which you might be the cause of some of the problems in your life or it could be a self-esteem problem, etc.. who knows. The main point to your problem is you need to get over the feelings that make you weak. Moreover, you need to give yourself some credits of what you're doing, even the slightest and smallest one. Don't blame yourself for everything if you haven't done anything wrong. Accordingly, you need to love yourself first to be able to love others and be positive always. Good luck, ok.

[hanami]

Oh len, do you realize me? Thanks for your advice, which is really useful to me. It seems that you undestood me already, a lot. If we hadn't confided so much as in the past time, i am sure you couldn't understand my thoughts like that. I also think my sickness is the result of thinking so much, with anxiety, sadness and lack of confidence. I see what you want me to do and i will. And after all, i want to tell that you are very kind to me and that i will always remember that.
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[Guest]

Oh len, do you realize me? Thanks for your advice, which is really useful to me. It seems that you undestood me already, a lot. If we hadn't confided so much as in the past time, i am sure you couldn't understand my thoughts like that. I also think my sickness is the result of thinking so much, with anxiety, sadness and lack of confidence. I see what you want me to do and i will. And after all, i want to tell that you are very kind to me and that i will always remember that.
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I knew it was you, but my advice wasn't based on what I knew about you, it was based on what you wrote in your previous post, which you said you felt sad, hopeless, lonely, disappointed, and didn't know how to release your mind. You might be surprised to know that I used to be like that. My personality has changed a lot during stages of my life. When I was in elementary school, I used to be a hyper, positive, energetic, lively, self-absorbed kid. When I was with my friends or people I knew, I always wanted to be the center of attention and I always got what I wanted. Then I changed to a rebel kid when I was in middle school; I becamse a bad kid in school, a black sheep at home, and a hardcore to my friends. I loved to be like that and I thought I would not change myself forever; and my family began to turn their backs away from me because of the way I acted. From that point on I started to realize that my family was everything to me than how cool I could have become. Furthermore, I tried to change myself; however, I had done more harms to them to give them enough time to forgive me. They excluded me out when it came to family gathering, activities, and so on. It made me feel so lonely and I was being negative of my personality. I hated myself because I was thinking if my own family didn't like me, other people would not. Then I came to the wish I could turn back time--every day I was overwhelmed with the pressure of how I could turn back time to redo whatever I had done. It was my only solution to my problem. I became a quiet, bitter, depressed person. Several years in high school of mine were hard for me to get through. Fortunately, I had a good counselor who was there for me. He taught me how to win back my family by doing good in school and being a good kid. Before I was doing all that, he told me to stop blaming myself and stop finding the way to do the impossible thing while there were many possible things I could do in front of my eyes. Thereafter, I learned to love myself that I could change for people I cared and loved enough. Instead of wasting my time to worrying about what they thought how horrible I was, I wanted to show them how energetic, lively, cheerful, spirited I could be when I was with them. Slowly, I regained their trust. As a result, my family took me back.
Now I take whatever happens in my life with an appreciation. I've gone through bad and good times; I've met people with different situations, including mine. Thus, I don't wanna waste my time on being sad or depressed. I hope you would, too since you're my friend and I want the best to happen to you.

[hanami]

Oh len, no matter what you say, no matter what happened to you, i still feel you kind to me. Of course i thought you read my previous post very carefully but i didn't think you based on only it. That is difficult to say surely.
Well your story makes me think a lot. Now i knew already that we both used to be overwhelmed with bad things and tried to overcome. However, your situation was completely different from mine. Nobody ever hates me so far, or if there is anyone that does, it may be a very small number. I don't know why i dare to say this but i am almost sure of it. I used to be a very shy kid so i never made anyone hurt. But i was allergic to most things around me, which even up to now i can't understand in the exact reason. Maybe you were true when saying that i seemed self-esteem. Not really but almost. I had a very lovely childhood with many lively friends and a family that loved me so much. The wonderful period of time lasted until i started a different life in high school. That was the point that marked a big change in my mind. I started to pay attention to the things around and judged them in my own way. I started to be aware of the difference of sex. And i started to look at myself. I felt not confident at all and took myself away from everyone. While many people said we, students of a math-specialising class, were supposed to get a lot of pride, i didn't feel like that. I hated my class and found my classmates were rude. They seemed to like making funny things and saying badly about others even teachers behind their back. However true that was, now i think i shouldn't have reacted in the way, too silly of me. Then i overcame and entered university. The years at university are not good for me either but i am happy now. I have changed a lot to adjust to them and i think i can do what i want.
Hey, it is my whole story, very different from yours, right len?