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Traditional wedding in your country

Postby Arale » Sat Jul 23, 2005 7:05 am

How is a traditional wedding taken place in your country? In my country, Vietnam, it's a very important event for both the bride and the bridegroom. Actually, there are many steps in a traditional wedding.

First, there is a small party called "an hoi" in Vietnamese, which is similar to promising to marry before the wedding one or two weeks (depending on each area).

Second, on the wedding day, all the groom's family have to go to the bride's home on time (they chose the good time before that). The traditional gifts include betel and areca-nut, cake, and fruits. Then, the groom and the bride worship at the altar of ancestors.

Next, the bride puts the ring onto the bride's finger, earrings into her ears, and a necklace onto her neck.The bride also puts a ring onto the groom's finger.

After that, the groom brings his bride to his house. In that evening, they have a wedding party with their relatives and friends. There is usually a band to play music during their meal. In the middle of the meal, the couple go around and go to each table to get wishes and gifts or money from their relatives and friends.

Finally, on the day after the wedding, they-the couple come back to the bride's house to greet her parents and relatives, then having a meal together. The couple will have their honeymoon after all.

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Postby Arale » Sat Jul 23, 2005 7:13 am

In fact, we don't always need to do all the above steps in a modern wedding. It also depends on each family. A simple wedding is better, I think. I attended a modern wedding of my friend. Just a small party with the friends of the couple in a restaurant. But very funny and happy! As I see, the old don't like a simple wedding much. What is your opinion?

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Postby authorityquery » Sat Jul 23, 2005 4:29 pm

Yeah, in my opinion, I don't like old style wedding, modern wedding now 's better.
You know,I heard a sad story: A man 's so poor, woman's family 's richer than man, and when both of them wanted to get married, they had some problems, you know what,...the man don't have enough money to celebrate a big party as woman's parents wanted, so her parents forced him to say goodbye to her, and besides of it, the age of man and woman is not well-matched, so they were not allowed to get married.
No way. her parents believe in fortune-teller. My god.
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Postby manrat » Sat Jul 23, 2005 5:38 pm

I dont have time to write in detail about customs in my country but I'd like to mention one thing for the moment.

So what could be the first thing a newly-wed couple in Germany has to do?

Well, I have to add that this custom is not popular all over Germany, but it´s possible that you´ll see it at one or another wedding or rather after the ceremony.

How to Saw a Log

Here's How:

1. Step out of the church with a happy smile on your face like all newly-weds do until they see a huge log of wood waiting for them.

2. Come close to the log (it should be placed on a sawing horse) and inspect it.

3. Choose a knotless sector (otherwise your log-sawing will replace your dinner, your party, and all things planned).

4. Take a saw with your right hand (unless you are left-handed).

5. Be sure to see your spouse on the other end of the saw (and across the log).

6. Encourage each other with a smile and start moving the saw!

7. Don't mind your friends and relatives with their kind (but distracting) remarks and laughter -- keep sawing.

8. When the saw stucks (yes, it will), get it out of the log and start moving it anew.

9. After you have finished, be careful: the logs (now two of them!) tend to land onto the sawyers' feet...

10. Sigh with relief (not too loud) and kiss your sawdusted spouse.

*giggle* Well, it's more of a funny custom after the ceremony and meant to have some fun and laughs and its a little bit of a symbol, the first thing the newly-wed couple does together ... and hopefully many more in the future.
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Postby Shazzam » Wed Jul 27, 2005 10:06 pm

During the 1900's in Australia the traditional wedding was very similar to England. A minister of the church presided over the ceremony, the reception would be held at either a Church Hall or Club of some description, followed by the couple leaving for their honeymoon. The bride wore white (and usually looked more like a meringue pie than a person). Full veils were worn.

These days in Australia alot of people are opting for civil ceremonies conducted by Marriage Celebrants at Parks, Beaches etc. There still is the occasional meringue pie bride :lol: .

The only thing that worries me is that in the 1900's couple's weddings were generally paid for by the Bride's parents. This is no longer a tradition in Australia as alot of couples are opting for very expensive weddings and want total control over the details of their weddings.

The overall cost of a wedding now is over the top. They are like celebrity weddings. It seems to me that it is a hell of a lot of money to pay out for one day of your life. Sure it should be memorable and enjoyable, but you shouldn't have to be paying it off for ten years after the day.

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Postby Coolfish » Wed Sep 14, 2005 2:59 am

Traditional chinese wedding is very special, but nowadays we will have few chance to see it.

First, the groom will get to bride's home and pick her by sedan-chair. The couple are wearing traditional wedding dresses, normally in red. There is always some band, who are playing chinese music loudly.

Before the couple are coming into their new home, there are a lot of firecrackers set off.

Then the couple will go on with some special ceremonies with their parents and relatives.

After that, it's the wedding dinner.

I just tried to give you some overall understanding of chinese wedding. The wedding is interesting and memorable. And I'm glad to talk with you guys about it.
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Postby nien » Tue Sep 27, 2005 5:45 am

Hi,

I'm from Indonesia .. which any of you might know is an island country devided into thirty provincies consisting many tribes.
Each tribes has its own traditional wedding ceremony which of course unique.

For example in Jakarta with Betawi as its origin, the wedding ceremony is quite unique and entertaining. The bride and the groom are stayed apart in different house. As moslems, 'marriage vow' is already done one day or couple of hours earlier. So the wedding ceremony is just a celebration and announcement to the neighbours or society that the 2 persons are married.

Back to the ceremony, while the bride is waiting in her house wearing traditional wedding clothes, the groom walks all the way to the bride's house in convoy with his relatives. They carrying presents such as dresses, varied traditional foods and cakes, fruits, etc, but the most famous from Betawi traditional wedding ceremony is "crocodile bread" :P

When he arrives in front of the bride's house, a representative of each side (bride and groom) will deliver limerick toward each other. Then after some q&a limericks, the groom may proced entering the bride's house. Wedding procession continues.

Ah, sorry, I'm trying my best to describe it clearly. But if you still get confusion while reading it, sorry again guys.
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Postby Shazzam » Tue Sep 27, 2005 6:05 am

nien wrote:Hi,

I'm from Indonesia .. which any of you might know is an island country devided into thirty provincies consisting many tribes.
Each tribes has its own traditional wedding ceremony which of course unique.

For example in Jakarta with Betawi as its origin, the wedding ceremony is quite unique and entertaining. The bride and the groom are stayed apart in different house. As moslems, 'marriage vow' is already done one day or couple of hours earlier. So the wedding ceremony is just a celebration and announcement to the neighbours or society that the 2 persons are married.

Back to the ceremony, while the bride is waiting in her house wearing traditional wedding clothes, the groom walks all the way to the bride's house in convoy with his relatives. They carrying presents such as dresses, varied traditional foods and cakes, fruits, etc, but the most famous from Betawi traditional wedding ceremony is "crocodile bread" :P

When he arrives in front of the bride's house, a representative of each side (bride and groom) will deliver limerick toward each other. Then after some q&a limericks, the groom may proced entering the bride's house. Wedding procession continues.

Ah, sorry, I'm trying my best to describe it clearly. But if you still get confusion while reading it, sorry again guys.


So romantic! Sounds lovely like something from a movie.. 8)
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