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moving on

Postby pinas » Sun Oct 17, 2004 5:51 pm

Feeling hurt and angry after a breakup? There's a
right way and a wrong way to get past the pain.
Take a look at Dr. Phil's list what you should (and
shouldn't!) do to heal the heartbreak.


DON'T lose sight of what's important.
Sometimes the relationship you need to rescue is
the one with yourself. Moving past a breakup is all
about you, not your ex. Don't worry about
becoming friends right away?if ever. You have to
be your own friend first.

DON'T get stuck.
Grief is a process to go through, not a destination
in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting
one foot in front of the other. Days turn into weeks,
weeks turn into months... each little step is part of
the process of healing your heart.

DON'T embarrass yourself.
Driving past your ex's house, making dozens of
phone calls, e-mailing non-stop?that's not the
way to let go of the past. Don't get in a situation
where you'll look back someday and feel
humiliated.


DO watch your vocabulary.
We all have an internal conversation with
ourselves. Since it shapes our outlook, be careful
about the language you choose. Words
like "nightmare," "terrible" and "horrible" are
catastrophic terms. If you use them, you're bound
to spend time dwelling on the negative. Spend
more time focusing on what you can do.

DO define your real intentions.
Are you trying to move past the break-up, or are
you hoping to get back with your ex? Define the
emotional goal. You won't move on until you've
truly accepted that the relationship is over.

DO allow yourself to own your feelings.
You can't get over being hurt until you know you've
been heard. Give yourself permission to express
your anger, your sadness?whatever emotions
you may be experiencing. It's better to be angry
with someone else than to blame yourself.

DO learn to trust again.
Whenever you get involved in a relationship, you
know there's risk. Don't let a bad experience keep
you from living your life to the fullest.
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Postby Dixie » Sun Oct 17, 2004 10:22 pm

Thank you Jellen. That was great. Although I hope never to have to use those advice ;) Image
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Postby tahrer » Wed Oct 20, 2004 2:26 pm

yea, great pin
make me shrink my forehead to think what you want to say.
really my english still poor to understand what you want to tell.
any way, I got it already even need a time. :wink: :wink:
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Postby pinas » Wed Oct 20, 2004 6:54 pm

Dixie wrote:Thank you Jellen. That was great. Although I hope never to have to use those advice ;) Image


thanks...
and you're welcome...
i don't wanna use 'em as well..
i don't wanna lose my man...
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Postby Mr. Wiggles ™ » Fri Oct 22, 2004 2:07 pm

nice one jelly belly...
very practical ....
profound words, i should say
have a nice weekend girl
stay happy
wiggle it just a little bit ™
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