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We are all basically selfish.

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Re : is everybody selfish

Postby annie » Fri Nov 21, 2003 2:41 pm

People is selfish in nature basically . But we live in a big community, sometime it is unexpected to encounter some trouble , if we give him/her a hand , maybe will make him/her better. for the time he or she only a word of "THANK" to you at most ,and not repay you anything . But next time when you meet trouble , maybe another body will help you generously . It's so natural and common seeing -A KIND OF GOOD NATURE CYCLE . So people's action can change the nature . " Try to do more for others , then you will get more repay from them ." Do'n't be too selfish .
annie
 

Postby Guest » Sun Nov 23, 2003 8:22 am

no not all selfish .. :? i 'm not selfish but sometimes be a selfish..

who is the selfish ???

most of people want to be a better and better that's good .. but they want alone without any people .. and tha's fuelt..


ummmmmm .. sorry .. i don't know very well english .. and i have a lot of mistake .. but you can understand 8)
Guest
 

Postby Chivalry » Sun Nov 23, 2003 1:51 pm

Well if we are not living for ourselves then who are we living for. Life is a gift to us, ourselves as individuals. There is a balance I believe you must find to truly live the way you are supposed to.

To be overly selfish and not care about others is wrong. But then again to be selfless is also wrong. Being totally selfless will only result in you being bound to the will of others. A slave if you will, in some ways at least.

For example: It is a known fact among people who know me that I will go out of my way for anyone if they ask. My car is the best example. I will give anyone (of my friends) at say a social event who needs a lift home just that. On the first offer it was received with much thanks. Similarly the second time. After that people began to see my kindness as their right not merely something I have done for them. They even go so far as offering other people lifts in my car without asking me for a lift themselves, just assuming I will. They turn up to parties just assuming the I'll give them a lift. Invite me someplace, and later mention I am driving. When I can't they get offended, after all how dare I. I owe them the kindness.


So you see selflessness is also bad. Balance is what you need. Selfless and selfish acts are a part of nature. To be truly happy you go somewhere in between.
Chivalry
 

Postby Maryam » Fri Nov 28, 2003 8:29 am

hello girls & guys.
mothers and fathers can not be selfish.
I am selfish with my family,especially with my mother
She gives me every thing,but I give her nothing.
.On the other hand, I am full with love And sacrifises with my husband & his family.
I dont like selfishnes ,so I am trying 2 not be selish.
Maryam
 

We are basically selfish

Postby galina » Wed Dec 03, 2003 5:54 am

I think reasonable selfishness encouradges us to take care about us, our health, our mind, our fitness. It also helps to make a good asessment for ourselves and embolden for futher activity.
But, on the other hand, we should not forget about society, about people who live near us. Communication and ability to understand and help others are key factors in taking the right place in live.
galina
 

selfish or altruistic

Postby hehe » Mon Dec 08, 2003 1:30 pm

are human bings selfish or altruistic??it is too hard to say clearly.human is a complex biology in the world,they live in their own houses but they can't love without others.in other words ,they depend on their fellow citizens.so we are sometimes selfish and sometimes altruistic.what the hell are the men like?? it is due to the situation.that is men is amid completely selfish and completely altruistic.
hehe
 

Sure it's true. But why?

Postby Virgee » Mon Dec 15, 2003 8:26 am

We are all hurt by a sin.And we like to be hurt, not to fight with the Bad in us. If this won't change we're not going to live in a better way. Don't look to Asia, Africa and so. The answer is in Europe. Christianity.
Virgee
 

Are we selfish

Postby Lyuda » Thu Dec 18, 2003 7:40 am

Maryam wrote:hello girls & guys.
mothers and fathers can not be selfish.
I am selfish with my family,especially with my mother
She gives me every thing,but I give her nothing.
.On the other hand, I am full with love And sacrifises with my husband & his family.
I dont like selfishnes ,so I am trying 2 not be selish.


I do really agree with you, we sometimes don't pay enough attention to our family. But we must always remember what our parents have done for us, that's why we must pay more attention to them and I advise you not to forget your parents and to spend more time with them.
REMEMBER: YOUR PARENTS LOVE YOU!!! :D
Lyuda
 

Postby Katherine,Guest » Thu Dec 18, 2003 7:47 am

selfish wrote:"We are all basically selfish" is a truth, it's been believed by our human. But many people don't like being describled as selfishness by others.
There are two conditions:
One is that I am really selfish, I have never thought about anythings for others only for myself. And I am angry when I heard I was selfish and blamed by someone living around me. Because I think it is my right to care or not, why I need do it for you?
This kind of man will not be respected and accept by other people.

The other one is I think and do many things for you. But it's regarded as harmness, even to be said selfishness. In this condition, I will be unhappy or sad. The opinion to help others will be moved or disappeared.
So we should understand each other and take care more of others.
If we are all think so, we are not regarded as selfish man. :D :lol:



:) I agree with u:) we are all selfish in our life:) and it's has been created for us:)=people:) as for me I 'm selfish but only sometimes for example when I have bad spirit:)
and of crs we should take care of our relatives and friends:) and then they won't consider us to be selfish:) :D
Katherine,Guest
 

Re: Re : Elaborate your deeds!

Postby Lera » Thu Dec 18, 2003 7:49 am

annie wrote:People is selfish in nature basically . But we live in a big community, sometime it is unexpected to encounter some trouble , if we give him/her a hand , maybe will make him/her better. for the time he or she only a word of "THANK" to you at most ,and not repay you anything . But next time when you meet trouble , maybe another body will help you generously . It's so natural and common seeing -A KIND OF GOOD NATURE CYCLE . So people's action can change the nature . " Try to do more for others , then you will get more repay from them ." Do'n't be too selfish .


You know, I liked here 2 opinions about selfshness. Yours and the second one was about:... we must not also be selfless :!: . I think that there are some people that can abuse your kindness very much and this is also bad. Because these people can use your kindness in a wrong way and after that you can have an opinion that they only use you. And you know that to a decent person it'd be hard to realize that someone just use you. So, be just yourself and don't let your kindness be thrown away. :!:
Lera
 

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