We are all basically selfish.

[Julia Guest]

People is selfish in nature basically . But we live in a big community, sometime it is unexpected to encounter some trouble , if we give him/her a hand , maybe will make him/her better. for the time he or she only a word of "THANK" to you at most ,and not repay you anything . But next time when you meet trouble , maybe another body will help you generously . It's so natural and common seeing -A KIND OF GOOD NATURE CYCLE . So people's action can change the nature . " Try to do more for others , then you will get more repay from them ." Do'n't be too selfish .

I agree with you because our life can change us and in different situations we can act differently .But help people in difficult situation it is very beautiful But how do you think people can change his or her opinion depends of situation

[Guest]

hello girls & guys.
mothers and fathers can not be selfish.
I am selfish with my family,especially with my mother
She gives me every thing,but I give her nothing.
.On the other hand, I am full with love And sacrifises with my husband & his family.
I dont like selfishnes ,so I am trying 2 not be selish.

I do really agree with you, we sometimes don't pay enough attention to our family. But we must always remember what our parents have done for us, that's why we must pay more attention to them and I advise you not to forget your parents and to spend more time with them.
REMEMBER: YOUR PARENTS LOVE YOU!!!

oh:) Luda u're a great orator:) go-gog -gogo:))
so, I just want to say that I agree with u:) we must remember our parents cause they are everything for usss;))

[Gleb]

hello girls & guys.
mothers and fathers can not be selfish.
I am selfish with my family,especially with my mother
She gives me every thing,but I give her nothing.
.On the other hand, I am full with love And sacrifises with my husband & his family.
I dont like selfishnes ,so I am trying 2 not be selish.

i dont fully agree with you, its really difficult to speak about selfish things in family. Its normal that your mother give everything to you and you give her nothing. It happens in every family but you should give your mother attention and your love, its the most important thing for parents.

its really difficult not to be selfish and i have an opinion that every person is selfish! So even if you if you try not to be selfish person its impossible to do it! Because any person like himself or herself the most! and it will be forever!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Guest]

"We are all basically selfish" is a truth, it's been believed by our human. But many people don't like being describled as selfishness by others.
There are two conditions:
One is that I am really selfish, I have never thought about anythings for others only for myself. And I am angry when I heard I was selfish and blamed by someone living around me. Because I think it is my right to care or not, why I need do it for you?
This kind of man will not be respected and accept by other people.

The other one is I think and do many things for you. But it's regarded as harmness, even to be said selfishness. In this condition, I will be unhappy or sad. The opinion to help others will be moved or disappeared.
So we should understand each other and take care more of others.
If we are all think so, we are not regarded as selfish man.

I agree with u:) we are all selfish in our life:) and it's has been created for us:)=people:) as for me I 'm selfish but only sometimes for example when I have bad spirit:)
and of crs we should take care of our relatives and friends:) and then they won't consider us to be selfish:)

Oh Kate I agree with you because when we have bad mood we can be selfish if you want you can answer me

[Kate,guest]

8) That's true. even when we do smth good for others we expect them to smth good for us. we do not say so but in our inner world we believe in it. there is no person in the world not being selfish!

I fully agree with Cassy. Still i have to add that selfishness is one of the inseparable parts of our main features of character,in fact it is even useful when used properly.How can we succed in our life if we aren't selfish? Love for oneself is selfishness. If you want to look good, to be respected and loved,then you are selfish. Bot selfishness is also smth that can easily be abused,because it is unlimited. Clever people will never hide their selfishness, but they will still never make fuss of it.

[Katherine,Guest]

I think it depends on the situation and the mood..

I agree with u:) it's often depend on our mood:)))
we everything is all right u're not selfish
but when u have bad mood:( u're so selfish!!

[Guest]

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Do you know if people say that they are not selfish they are

[Lyuda]

"We are all basically selfish" is a truth, it's been believed by our human. But many people don't like being describled as selfishness by others.
There are two conditions:
One is that I am really selfish, I have never thought about anythings for others only for myself. And I am angry when I heard I was selfish and blamed by someone living around me. Because I think it is my right to care or not, why I need do it for you?
This kind of man will not be respected and accept by other people.

The other one is I think and do many things for you. But it's regarded as harmness, even to be said selfishness. In this condition, I will be unhappy or sad. The opinion to help others will be moved or disappeared.
So we should understand each other and take care more of others.
If we are all think so, we are not regarded as selfish man.

You must not be too selfish and think only about yourself because people at last will turn away from you. You sould understand that if you do someone smth good that person would like you and he will try to do smth good for you. But if you do everything only for yourself people would'n like you and you'll stay alone, because there is no need in you. Reconsider your opinion

[Lera]

Well if we are not living for ourselves then who are we living for. Life is a gift to us, ourselves as individuals. There is a balance I believe you must find to truly live the way you are supposed to.

To be overly selfish and not care about others is wrong. But then again to be selfless is also wrong. Being totally selfless will only result in you being bound to the will of others. A slave if you will, in some ways at least.

For example: It is a known fact among people who know me that I will go out of my way for anyone if they ask. My car is the best example. I will give anyone (of my friends) at say a social event who needs a lift home just that. On the first offer it was received with much thanks. Similarly the second time. After that people began to see my kindness as their right not merely something I have done for them. They even go so far as offering other people lifts in my car without asking me for a lift themselves, just assuming I will. They turn up to parties just assuming the I'll give them a lift. Invite me someplace, and later mention I am driving. When I can't they get offended, after all how dare I. I owe them the kindness.


So you see selflessness is also bad. Balance is what you need. Selfless and selfish acts are a part of nature. To be truly happy you go somewhere in between.

You know, I absolutely agree with your opinion that we must not be selfless. And I want to say that you are the one in this site who have mantioned this. I agree with U that there are some people who abuse our kindness and your instance about your car only can state that we must not be selfless. I know a lot of occasions when suddenly you become "needless" to other people and after that they treat you badly. And it is hard to understand "WHY?". So basically I agree with you!!!

[Nastya]

"We are all basically selfish" is a truth, it's been believed by our human. But many people don't like being describled as selfishness by others.
There are two conditions:
One is that I am really selfish, I have never thought about anythings for others only for myself. And I am angry when I heard I was selfish and blamed by someone living around me. Because I think it is my right to care or not, why I need do it for you?
This kind of man will not be respected and accept by other people.

The other one is I think and do many things for you. But it's regarded as harmness, even to be said selfishness. In this condition, I will be unhappy or sad. The opinion to help others will be moved or disappeared.
So we should understand each other and take care more of others.
If we are all think so, we are not regarded as selfish man.

Well, I believe it is not too bad to take care of yourself. It is normal, it is a human nature. But I agree with you that people should take care of other people too. People usually like when somebody helps them sincerely. In responce to somebody's help they do the same, they help. And I would also like to add that people often like to feel that somebody needs them. And in some cases it helps, people become less selfish.