1. Conversable. You are glad to talk many topics with friends, then the others would tell you more what they know and they like.
2. Extensive interests. If you like movie, many movies lovers would talk the good movies with you. If you like song, many song fans would show their feelings about the songs. If you like cars, many care lovers would invite to race....
3. Kind and Friendly. Any one hopes to have a nice chat one line after hausted work one day. In the happy circumstance, two sides all feel comfortable as chat face to face.
4. Keep in touch. After good chat, your friend would remember you and hope you fine and happy. If you hava a good news, pls share with friends. If you feel sad, pls talk with friends to cheer up.
5. Help as you can. Help your cyber friends to resolve some small troubles... That makes them feel helpful and warm.
Hope everyone can Skype many good freinds.
How to make more friends?
Moderator: EC
-
DingBilly
- Member
- Posts: 10
- Joined: Thu Oct 07, 2004 11:00 am
- Location: China
-
Arale
- Rising Star
- Posts: 377
- Joined: Mon May 31, 2004 7:05 am
- Status: Learner of English
- Location: Vietnam
Thanks much,DinhBillyDinhBilly wrote:
1. Conversable. You are glad to talk many topics with friends, then the others would tell you more what they know and they like.
2. Extensive interests. If you like movie, many movies lovers would talk the good movies with you. If you like song, many song fans would show their feelings about the songs. If you like cars, many care lovers would invite to race....
3. Kind and Friendly. Any one hopes to have a nice chat one line after hausted work one day. In the happy circumstance, two sides all feel comfortable as chat face to face.
4. Keep in touch. After good chat, your friend would remember you and hope you fine and happy. If you hava a good news, pls share with friends. If you feel sad, pls talk with friends to cheer up.
5. Help as you can. Help your cyber friends to resolve some small troubles... That makes them feel helpful and warm.
Hope everyone can Skype many good freinds.
I guess you have so many good friends,don't you?
Nice to know you here.
_Arale_
-
DingBilly
- Member
- Posts: 10
- Joined: Thu Oct 07, 2004 11:00 am
- Location: China
I am very happy that you like this post. Hope to make many good friends here.
My MSN: *******.com
You are what you think and act.
You are what you think and act.
-
peiying
- Member
- Posts: 4
- Joined: Sat Oct 09, 2004 1:09 pm
- Location: china
Re: How to make more friends?
clever man will make more and more friends as you[quote="DingBilly"]1. Conversable. You are glad to talk many topics with friends, then the others would tell you more what they know and they like.
2. Extensive interests. If you like movie, many movies lovers would talk the good movies with you. If you like song, many song fans would show their feelings about the songs. If you like cars, many care lovers would invite to race....
3. Kind and Friendly. Any one hopes to have a nice chat one line after hausted work one day. In the happy circumstance, two sides all feel comfortable as chat face to face.
4. Keep in touch. After good chat, your friend would remember you and hope you fine and happy. If you hava a good news, pls share with friends. If you feel sad, pls talk with friends to cheer up.
5. Help as you can. Help your cyber friends to resolve some small troubles... That makes them feel helpful and warm.
Hope everyone can Skype many good freinds.[/quote]
2. Extensive interests. If you like movie, many movies lovers would talk the good movies with you. If you like song, many song fans would show their feelings about the songs. If you like cars, many care lovers would invite to race....
3. Kind and Friendly. Any one hopes to have a nice chat one line after hausted work one day. In the happy circumstance, two sides all feel comfortable as chat face to face.
4. Keep in touch. After good chat, your friend would remember you and hope you fine and happy. If you hava a good news, pls share with friends. If you feel sad, pls talk with friends to cheer up.
5. Help as you can. Help your cyber friends to resolve some small troubles... That makes them feel helpful and warm.
Hope everyone can Skype many good freinds.[/quote]
-
Pirate
- Rising Star
- Posts: 202
- Joined: Sun Nov 16, 2003 6:58 am
- Status: Learner of English
- Location: Vietnam
*Well, if you can afford, the book is available on http://www.amazon.com, follow the link for more details of buying:DingBilly wrote:How to find the book? Do you know what website there is the book to read? Tks.
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/de ... 9?v=glance
*This is Dale Carnegie's summary of his book, from 1936
http://www.westegg.com/unmaintained/car ... iends.html
*A Book Review
by Michael C. Gray
June 28, 2002
http://www.profitadvisors.com/friends.shtml
You can find more with google searching engine. If you like, I will translate some interesting parts back into English since my book is in Vietnamese.
See you,
Pirate
Last edited by Pirate on Sun Oct 17, 2004 9:58 am, edited 1 time in total.
-
DingBilly
- Member
- Posts: 10
- Joined: Thu Oct 07, 2004 11:00 am
- Location: China
Thank for giving me so much information. I will try to see it.
My MSN: *******.com
You are what you think and act.
You are what you think and act.
-
peiying
- Member
- Posts: 4
- Joined: Sat Oct 09, 2004 1:09 pm
- Location: china
-
DingBilly
- Member
- Posts: 10
- Joined: Thu Oct 07, 2004 11:00 am
- Location: China
-
Pirate
- Rising Star
- Posts: 202
- Joined: Sun Nov 16, 2003 6:58 am
- Status: Learner of English
- Location: Vietnam
This is only my translation (not exactly what Dale wrote) and just some parts, to help you read a bit something worthy. Hope this is not a violation of copyright.
Part One
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
...
We should understand that criticism we utter is like a pigeon, it always return to the same place. The ones condemned by us will surely find all reasons to defend and get back to condemn us.
Understanding that, Abraham Lincoln was most famous in human history for his talent in handling people. When he was young, he excitingly criticized anyone, he even wrote satiric poems aiming at people and spreaded them out in the streets so all could read and laugh. Once that habit nearly pushed him in a sword duel. Since then he never sneered or teased anyone, instead he became clement and lenient. His precept was: “Never criticize people unless you like to be criticized back”.
In the Civil War, once the losing Southern troops withdrawing till a river were not able to get through because of the high water level in a stormy night. He sent a telegraph, and to make sure, he also sent a messenger to give a command to General Meade who was in charge of the battle, to immediately attack the Southern troops leaded by General Lee. But Meade hesitated and the Southerns escaped successfully in the chance the water level got lower. They lost the unique chance to end the War...
Lincoln was really angry, shouting: “What’s on Earth was that mean?”
And he complained to his son: ”The enemy was able to escape right when they were in our hands! In that case anyone could have defeated General Lee. If I had been there, I must have been able to win the battle!”. Then he fretfully wrote down the following letter:
Dear General!
I couldn’t believe that you understand how disastrous it was to let General Lee escape! His troops were in our hands, and if we had attacked right away so the War could have ended by one battle. Now no-one know when it has elongated to. Last Monday you were not able to defeat him, today he is across the river and your force is only two thirds of that day, how can you win over him?
... Your once in a blue moon chance has gone and nobody understand my sorrow! ...
That lightly blaming letter, he wrote but did not send. After he died people found it in his papers.
Perhaps he had thought: “Wait ... don’t be impulsive. It was easy for me to stay safely in this White House to command. But if I had been there in the battlefield like Meade for some weeks, I had seen people bleeding, had heard the groan of the soldiers, perhaps I wouldn’t be eager to attack the enemy. Anyhow it’s all been done and words can do nothing now. If I send this letter my anger would get down a bit, but Meade would be less self-confident and what if he resigns.”
...
When I was young I was very assuming. Once I received a letter that included some more lines: “This letter was read for another one to write down, I do not check.” I liked those writing a lot because it gives us the manner of someone busy and important. One day later, in order to be clever-clever before a novelist, I wrote him and added those lines. The novelist send the letter back to me writing :”Only your stupidness goes well with your rudeness”.
To tell the truth I was impolite and the condemnation was deserved. But I’m just a man, so I felt so much insulted and I hated that novelist so much that when he died 10 years later, I only remembered the way he had put me down instead of feeling regret for a talented man.
So readers, if you want to be hated till death, use the most cruel criticism. If not please remember that humankind is not always sensible. We think and act according to their sentiment, prejudice, arrogance and snobbery. Condemnation is like a lighter whereas the self-esteem is like an ~, whose encounter will explode and result in enormous disaster.
...
Any crazy man can blame, criticize and condemn others; but only ones who have noble mind and are highly self-controlled know to understand and forgive. So instead of criticizing someone, we should try to understand them and try to find reasons for their actions. That’s the root of clemency.
Even God wait to judge people after their Death. How can we be more strict than Him?
<End of number 1 – part 1>
I’m interested in this translation but time forbids. See you later.
Pirate
Part One
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize, condemn or complain.
...
We should understand that criticism we utter is like a pigeon, it always return to the same place. The ones condemned by us will surely find all reasons to defend and get back to condemn us.
Understanding that, Abraham Lincoln was most famous in human history for his talent in handling people. When he was young, he excitingly criticized anyone, he even wrote satiric poems aiming at people and spreaded them out in the streets so all could read and laugh. Once that habit nearly pushed him in a sword duel. Since then he never sneered or teased anyone, instead he became clement and lenient. His precept was: “Never criticize people unless you like to be criticized back”.
In the Civil War, once the losing Southern troops withdrawing till a river were not able to get through because of the high water level in a stormy night. He sent a telegraph, and to make sure, he also sent a messenger to give a command to General Meade who was in charge of the battle, to immediately attack the Southern troops leaded by General Lee. But Meade hesitated and the Southerns escaped successfully in the chance the water level got lower. They lost the unique chance to end the War...
Lincoln was really angry, shouting: “What’s on Earth was that mean?”
And he complained to his son: ”The enemy was able to escape right when they were in our hands! In that case anyone could have defeated General Lee. If I had been there, I must have been able to win the battle!”. Then he fretfully wrote down the following letter:
Dear General!
I couldn’t believe that you understand how disastrous it was to let General Lee escape! His troops were in our hands, and if we had attacked right away so the War could have ended by one battle. Now no-one know when it has elongated to. Last Monday you were not able to defeat him, today he is across the river and your force is only two thirds of that day, how can you win over him?
... Your once in a blue moon chance has gone and nobody understand my sorrow! ...
That lightly blaming letter, he wrote but did not send. After he died people found it in his papers.
Perhaps he had thought: “Wait ... don’t be impulsive. It was easy for me to stay safely in this White House to command. But if I had been there in the battlefield like Meade for some weeks, I had seen people bleeding, had heard the groan of the soldiers, perhaps I wouldn’t be eager to attack the enemy. Anyhow it’s all been done and words can do nothing now. If I send this letter my anger would get down a bit, but Meade would be less self-confident and what if he resigns.”
...
When I was young I was very assuming. Once I received a letter that included some more lines: “This letter was read for another one to write down, I do not check.” I liked those writing a lot because it gives us the manner of someone busy and important. One day later, in order to be clever-clever before a novelist, I wrote him and added those lines. The novelist send the letter back to me writing :”Only your stupidness goes well with your rudeness”.
To tell the truth I was impolite and the condemnation was deserved. But I’m just a man, so I felt so much insulted and I hated that novelist so much that when he died 10 years later, I only remembered the way he had put me down instead of feeling regret for a talented man.
So readers, if you want to be hated till death, use the most cruel criticism. If not please remember that humankind is not always sensible. We think and act according to their sentiment, prejudice, arrogance and snobbery. Condemnation is like a lighter whereas the self-esteem is like an ~, whose encounter will explode and result in enormous disaster.
...
Any crazy man can blame, criticize and condemn others; but only ones who have noble mind and are highly self-controlled know to understand and forgive. So instead of criticizing someone, we should try to understand them and try to find reasons for their actions. That’s the root of clemency.
Even God wait to judge people after their Death. How can we be more strict than Him?
<End of number 1 – part 1>
I’m interested in this translation but time forbids. See you later.
Pirate
-
Pirate
- Rising Star
- Posts: 202
- Joined: Sun Nov 16, 2003 6:58 am
- Status: Learner of English
- Location: Vietnam
Good news
Hey all,
I have a good news for those who are interested in "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. Now that a good guy has just sent me the e-book and I'm glad to share it with you. Send me a private message with your email address and I'll send u the book!
:D
I have a good news for those who are interested in "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. Now that a good guy has just sent me the e-book and I'm glad to share it with you. Send me a private message with your email address and I'll send u the book!
:D