First of all, I'd like to say a warm welcome to you. Welcome to this thread! Thank you for joining us.
You've considered me a successful person in English, and you've said that my English is fluent! Thank you very much for paying some nice compliments. That's very kind and generous of you. However, I am an English learner. My English is neither good nor bad. I just can pull my own weigh! In chat rooms, I have no difficulty in making conversation with people, but I am not fluent at speaking.
About six years ago, when I started to learn the English language seriously, some friends of me used to ask me for the goal of learning English. They used to ask, "Behnam, what's your ultimate goal of learning English?" Once I answered, "A good action doesn't need any motivation or goal. It is a goal itself."
I planted a tree 6 years ago. I've been watering it(looking after it) for 6 years. I can easily say that at least 4 hours a day I've practised different English skills; listening, speaking, reading, and writing. I took every single opportunity to improve my skills and abilities in English. I spent a lot of money, energy, time on it. Some people wrongly think that learning English is easy. On TV, for example, sometimes I see some funny advertisements claiming to to teach English(the to learn it) in 10 sessions, in one month! I often laugh at those advertisements and at people who believe such ridiculous things. Learning a new language is a lifelong process.
After 6 years, in PhD entrance exam, I picked the fruits of that tree! People who are learning a new language must be patient. I believe patience is one of the most important factors in achieving our goals. Obviously, patience plus hard working result in success. Some people are patient, but do nothing. Therefore, it is necessary to be determined, patient and hard working when learning English.
In order to speak in public places, you need to have self confidence. Being confident about your ability is extremely important. Try it, little by little you will gain enough self confidence to speak in public. Don't worry about making mistakes. Even native speakers make mistakes. Try to learn from your mistakes. If we don't make mistakes, we learn nothing.
I have to leave right now. I will write about this topic again.
Please write more about yourself.
All the best,
Behnam, 27 April, 2013