Dixie wrote:Something similar happened to me last week. I was trying to give some advice to a friend who had been in trouble and the more I tried to cheer him up the more upset he got I was like, hey I am just trying to cheer you up, why do you get mad at me?
When we are sad, we expect our beloved to tell us things that comfort us. We want them to say what we want to hear. When they don't, we think they are against us; but all they are trying to do is to help.
Shazzam1452, maybe you should let your friend decide what she wants by herself. I mean, give her some advice, of course, tell her what you think regardless of whether she gets mad or not. You should be careful, obviously, but after all you're just trying to help her. Maybe she cannot see it now, since she's going through really hard times. But she will in the future. Don't worry, just do your best to help your friend, let her know you're there for her and will always be. Whenever she gets mad, just make it clear that you're just trying to tell her what you think it's best for her. She shouldn't get mad at you
juhainah wrote:Let her calm down. Tell her in a cool way "if you need some advice, why do you become upset?. Tell her that you are trying to help her to get over pain and don't show any frustration upon her. Be patient with her. Perhaps she is moody and stubborn, understand her and give her a choice to decide what she needs and if some of her decisions are not ok, comment on that in a way that doesn't make her upset. You said she is a lovely person, so never break up this friendship as long as you find her lovely.
shazzam1452 wrote:Without going into details I have a friend who is a lovely person; but i feel is very monetory orientated (ie loves money). ?
Ms.A.Z wrote:shazzam1452 wrote:Without going into details I have a friend who is a lovely person; but i feel is very monetory orientated (ie loves money). ?
Tell me some thing,for how long you know your friend ? You said that she used to be a lovely person but lately she become a monetory orientated? If you know her very well, have you try to you find out why she changed or what made her to change like that ?
Every disease has a cause, and for every/almost every cause there is a cure. Try to find out what was the cause and you will find the cure very soon.
Don't get weak when your friend cries, its better she cries and get little hurt by your true advicies now THEN cring for the rest of her entire life.
Ms.A.Z wrote:HI Shazzam
WOW, I really don't know what to say to you especially after reading your last post. It seems like your friend dose not care about any thing else but money(I know a person who thinks some what like that too).I feel that I will be a bad person if I said that I agree with you, your better off way from her if she is that bad. Who knows maybe when all her friends and loved ones are go away from her maybe she might realise their value. I just hope it will not be too late.
I know one thing for sure relationships that are based on money never last forever infact they never begin
juhainah wrote:I agree with what Ms.A.Z said. Probably when her friends leave her and money becomes over, she will realize that the path that she used to follow was misleading because friendship is valuable and can't be bought by money. However, leaving her is better be temporal as it should last until she changes into the best
She has always LOVED MONEY and spends like crazy. What has happened is that the money has run out and the stress over it has broken up her marriage. She is still trying to get money whatever way she can from her husband and is using it like a lolly with a child; if he is a good boy and keeps handing it over whenever she wants it she lets him see his children. I think it is terrible. He actually is a really nice man. He loves her very much. The problem is she doesn't love him and never did; she married him for money!!!
shazzam1452 wrote:she hides behind her Christianity saying that God will understand. But redemption to me is the only path if you want his help. She hasn't acknowledged that she has done anything wrong. I hate the way some people use their religion like this it makes me sick!!
married him for money!!!
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