shazzam1452 wrote: I think it comes down to your lifestyle. I am a stay at home mother. I left my career after the birth of my second child. As I witnessed the deterioration of my first childs development in daycare situations. I have always committed myself to the day to day care of my children. I'm not saying that all mother's should do the same. I just don't understand the benefit of SLEEPING with your children. I mean think about it you are asleep...What is happening?
You're lucky that you're a housewife now, so you will have more time for your kids than you used to. My cousin's wife started working again after two weeks of giving birth to her first and second sons. For the third son, she decided to stay home for a month to take care of him. After that, she works for eight hours a day. As like I said in my earlier post, she and her husband (my cousin) are considered as busy parents. They go to work at 8 in the morning and get home at 5 in the evening; therefore, they only have several hours with their kids before they all have to go to bed to start another day with the same old things again. How could parents bond with their children when they have only several hours with them for a day? They don't get home and immediately hug their kids for hours. And that's where co-sleeping jumps in. A mother or father who share the bed with their kids normally hug them until they're deeply asleep. The hugging, the little talk before they fall asleep provide them comfort and a loving feeling.
Moreover, when they suddenly wake up at night and see that their parents are around, it will provide them safety; therefore, it will be easier for them to go back to sleep. A child builds trust on his/her new surroundings and people if he/she feels safe. How would a child build his/her trust when he wakes up at night all alone in the dark room?
shazzam1452 wrote: In my opinion quality time is heaps better than quantity of time anyway. There is actually more medical evidence supporting not sleeping in the same bed with your children than for it in Australia.
Exactly! It goes for all. If you can't have quantity time with your children, build it with your quality to make it quantity time and worth in a way of quality time.