mamuta wrote:OK, sounds logically...but are you sure you will always be guided by common sense? Sometimes feelings go beyond all reasons Don't you think your heart is unpredictable?
jrkp wrote:I must confess this is one of the most original explanation about this subject I´ve ever read!!! To me, even though it´s sound very logical, you have to remember that our actions are guided by two things: our emotions and our capacity to reason out, and both are always in eternal contradiction. It´s very difficult to balance those sides of our personalities, especially when we are talking about love, because it´s essentially emotional. Let me give you and example: A good girl is fallen in love but her boyfriend turns out to be a bump, I mean, he´s a guy who doesn´t work, he´s on drugs and he beats her everyday as well. Logically speaking, she shouldn´t be with him but you can see many cases where ladies not only don´t leave those "angels", also they justifies them for what they do. It´s the same thing when somebody is cheating.
I agree with you...particulary...Sometimes you meet a person and think that he/she is all your life...You think that you will never meet any one like her, anyone who will bring the meaning to your life again if you losing her (and even if you met your love, never can be sure if your feelings are mutual),...perhaps you're right.
If you're in doubt whether forgive a person who cheated on you, that is resonable, because it could be happen when you don't even expected that...You have a choice to forgive her, or live with a thought what to do with your suddenly broken heart etc...There may be many reasons so why people forgive..I am not trying to persuade them..everyone decides based on his own mind.
But as for me, I would choose the second one not only the matter on her, also because of me...why did she make a step toward infidelity is also my mistake.