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Hi friends,

When I looked out of the plane window I couldn't see the Persian gulf, because there weather was cloudy, a man was waiting for us in the airport and we directly went to the hotel. It was 9 o'clock. We had breakfast as we took a shower and ready to go to the exhibition. From 10 Am to 7 PM we were in the exhibition and this was repeated for three days.

On Friday we had nothing to do except going to Iranian consulate for taking part in Iran president election. The consulate entrance was blocked by Dubai polices. The police asked for people ID documents, check people documents , and people who had the UAE residence permit were allowed to enter to consulate and vote . I told them the I had complete documents ,but I was not a residence of UAE ,but they didn't allow me and many other people who were like me . An Iranian person who had come to Dubai from USA was very angry with UAE police and UAE government , he started to swear the UAE polices. He shouted " every vote of us is an arrow to USA back, So the UAE government which is the USA lackey doesn't allow us to vote." I laughed at his sentence and asked him to be calm, I told him that he might be arrested by police . He was very angry that UAE police was interfering in our affair . He called a person in consulate ,understand that the consulate was under UAE government force and couldn't do anything for Iranian people. Many people came back home helplessly.

On Friday afternoon we came to the market and I bought a cellophane.

The next day we were in Jabal Al for doing some business . That was the last day . I came back to Tehran and today I am at home .

Thanks God the I came back home soon , There was nothing attractive in Dubai for me . I checked time every day to come back sooner.
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Emotional Intelligence!

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Hi Moroo,

Many thanks for your prompt reply. I guess, we are both confused. The definition of sadness is different from anger. The relationship between family members, close relatives, and couples are different from the friendship. It is important to differentiate between them.

We must avoid people who are negative. Negative people spread negative energy, increase stress, and express disappointment. We should leave these people. If it is not possible to leave them we should try to spend less time with them and not to let them get to us.

It is very good to listen with empathy and in a nonjudgmental way. However, we should always ask ourselves what helps us feel better. It is not enough to just respect the feelings of others, we have to show others that we care. We do this through empathy and understanding. Plus, we should accept people's feelings. There are just as valid as our own. Listening with empathy and care, without advising, criticizing, controlling and lecturing people increases our emotional intelligence. However, this is very difficult.

Dear Moroo, today I was discussing the election and the new president with some colleagues. I said, "watching TV, last night my wife said the previous president was better than this newly chosen one. But, I believed they were both Iranian and almost the same."

A friend of mine said; "Behnam, your wife is wise. Good for you!"
I replied; "Oh, if your eyes have caught her, and you love my wife, I am ready to give her to you!" People laughed loudly and my friend became embarrassed. Of course, I was joking. I said it humorously.

You are admiring your wife. That's OK., but it has some advantages and disadvantages. You may guarantee some things(!) by praising her, but its disadvantages shouldn't be denied! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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Hi Mohsen,

How are you doing? I hope you are having a good time. Thank you very much for showing great determination in keeping this thread active and alive. So sorry for my inactivity in recent months. I had many things to do, and I wasn't in the mood for writing.

As you have written in the last post, you have been to Dubai. How did you find that city? Would you please mention to some cultural differences? How about the weather and climate? How did you find the people? Cultured and civilized? What was special about Dubai? What was special about the trip? Could you use enjoy the fruits of your hard work in learning English? I mean did you speak English with people?

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Hi Moroo,

How are you?

Thanks for your kind words. :-)
I think we should be good with others even if they weren't good with us because we are just showing our moral and what our parents taught us and inshallah god will reward us.

Thanks a lot for your advise but you know, my friends who I mentioned in my last post are the best and closer people in my life, they have done a lot of favors to me in my happy and sad times so now no matter what I do to them, they deserve more. Therefore I was sad for them.

It's really sad to see your friend who you take strength from is weak. It's really sad to see your friend who you take happiness from is unhappy. :-(

Thank god now things are better and I am doing my best in order to help them. :-D

Please don't hesitate sharing us your thoughts, I love to read from you.
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Ohhhh Hiii Behnam,

How are you?

Finally, I have missed your words and advices. Thanks for everything, in fact I get your words and maybe you are right with them, my friends' matters caused problems to me but they -the problems- are all tolerable and I shouldn't ignore my best friends for them, you know, what if I was the only hope they had? My presence may help them a lot as you helped me in the past. :-D {-;

Sometimes we just need someone to listen to us and support us. In fact I will be a bad friend if I just left them in their bad times. Moreover, those negative effects or bad impression have made me a stronger person. ;-)

Anyway, how was my impression on you when I was an owl? :lol:

Seriously, you are strong as you said, right? So how was your feelings when I kept nagging about my old story? Did you stay normal or you became sad for me? Emm, did you forget everything after we end the chat?

Oh Oh Behnam, I have some new news and they aren't bad :lol: but you know sadly I can't share them here! {-: SO sadly happiness can't multiply! :lol: I will tell you about them when we chat together. {-;

See you and thank you again.

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Hi Amal,

I am happy that I have got the chance and opportunity to write to you. I really love writing to you and reading your posts. You are a wonderful friend, and I am really proud of you. Thank you for being my friend. That's a great honour for me.

Dear Amal, at that time you were sad and something was bothering you. You had to complain about the cruelty of life and people. It was normal, because it happened in a short period of time. It wasn't your habit to be negative and to share negative energy all the time. It just was related to your critical situation you were in at that period of time. I liked to listen to you and enjoyed it. However, some people are negative all the time. No matter they are at a wedding party or in a burying ceremony. They are like owls all the time and see the empty half of the glass. We should avoid these people.

Some people keep crying without saying why they are doing it! You decide to help them, to listen to them, or to have empathy for them. They never say what makes them cry. They just cry! A person who was around me for years used to say, "I am sure I won't get married until my dying day. I will die unmarried!" Well, I had the right to ask her/him for the reasons. However, I didn't get any logical reasons. These people are difficult to deal with.

Yesterday, I bought a new car. It is very beautiful. Guess what the colour is? The colour is exactly as the same I am using in chatting and writing on the Net for about 8 years! You see, even the colour I love is known to all people who are around me. This is me, clear and simple, available and accessible. :lol: :lol: :lol:

I wrote about the new car, because I wanted to tell you a story about it. The other day, a friend of mine who used to try to prove that he is sincere and trustworthy, promised to come with me to the company to help me get the car. We made a plan about the time we had to leave the homes, and the possible passes that leaded us to the company safely and quickly. Our final words before saying goodbye were these, "OK. Behnam, just call me in the morning when you want to leave home. I will come with you to help you with the delivering process."

In the morning, I called the friend, but he was at work! He said, "Behnam, come to the office. We can go to the company from the workplace!". He simply broke his promise!

I changed my decision and went to the company on my own. He called me and said, "I am waiting, why don't you come?", I replied, "Thank you very much. You were supposed to wait for me in the morning at home, not at office! I am getting the car. I shouldn't have asked you to come with me. I was wrong. Thank you for not coming. You gave me a very big lesson. You reminded me and highlighted the importance and the accuracy of an old saying which says 'Eat the flesh of your..., but don't ask the butcher for meat'! This is an Azerbaijani saying. It is impolite, but meaningful. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leave the people around you, even the parents if they are breaking their promises and affecting your life negatively. We shouldn't let negative people play with our emotions and feelings. They have no right to come closer!

Oh something else. Tomorrow this time I will be sitting for an important English exam. Please pray for my success. I haven't studied and practised sufficiently. I am not fully ready for the exam. {-: {-: {-:

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Hi Behnam,

Oh congratulation on your new car! I am really happy for you. :-)
I love it toooooooo much, the color is lovely and it is Behnamish! :lol:
Oh when are you going to take me for a trip? :lol: {-; :geek: :roll:

I love the blue color which you use in writing but I prefer black for cars. {-;

Oh by the way, write to me about your exam whenever you finish it -tomorrow :lol: - I wish you the best and I am sure that you will pass it with high marks inshallah.

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Hi friends,

How are you? I hope you are fantastic. Although the weather is hot, there are many fresh fruits in the market. Thanks to summers we can eat fresh fruits, because in other seasons they sell us frozen vegetables and fruits. My wife has bought some tomatoes which were round and bright; shining like the sunset. I said those unripe tomatoes were picked and kept in freezers. They seemed nice, after slicing one of them up, we fond the inside of it green! Well, ripe fruits cannot be kept in freezers. They put unripe watermelons and tomatoes, etc. in cold places to sell them at the time that the lack of them in the market causes a dramatic increase on their prices!

Oh, I am digressed. On the morning of today, I had TOLIMO exam. TOLIMO is the Iranian version of TOEFL, because the questions and sections are exactly as the same as in TOEFL. Its name is different, and the money that candidates pay is much less than TOEFL price too. By the way, the receiving certificate is only valid in Iranian universities, not anywhere else.

In front of the entrance door, there were some people from both sexes. They were supposed to open the door at 7:30am and to start the exam at 8:00am, but they simply didn't follow the written rules. You know, in some nations rules and laws are just beautifully written on papers, they are not followed and cared. Some candidates came to me and asked me if it was my first time or not that I was taking the exam. They wanted me to share my experience with them, but unfortunately it was my first time. The majority of them were PhD students at different universities. We were four people that broke the ice after a while. After sharing some basic information about each other, we started criticizing the authorities, because they didn't open the door on time. Little by little, the discussion crept into political issues that I always hate! One of them said, 'Iranian people are two-faced and thieves. They are famous for these two characteristics in all over the world!" At this moment, I remembered our friend Mohsen and his reaction, "How are you going to write these things in the thread?", I said to myself. :lol: :lol: :lol: Anyway, I am doing it.

The person was trying to tie these two bad characteristics with the government. I disagreed and said, "According to the history, those two manners have been with Iranians from the binging of the life in Iran. With the exception of 100 years in Achaemenid Empire era mainly at Cyrus the great time(You can google 'Cyrus cylinder' to see how important Iran has been thousands of years ago.), evidence claims that those bad manners can be found throughout the history of Iran, in all eras. This is maybe because of the geography and the kingdom way of ruling of a country for thousands of years. I personally believe that a habitual behaviour becomes gene and transfers from one generation to others."

One of the candidates was studying Genetics. He disagreed with me. He said genes are the same. They don't change. They only transfer from one generation to others by marriage. I asked him some questions. He couldn't answer! I don't want to make you bored.

After getting in and sitting on the chair, I found out that the hanging clock was asleep! Oh my God! The same story again. How am I going to manage the time? When I was sitting for PhD exam, the clock was asleep! Apparently, 'asleep clocks' has become an epidemic in Iran. It shows that Iranians don't care about time! :lol: I complained about the stopped clock and they tried to find a AA battery, but they didn't find any!!! :lol:

The exam was terrible, because the sound quality was awful. I couldn't recognize even one word! I thought I had hearing problem, but after the exam I found out that all candidates couldn't understand the listening section, because the sound system was terrible. The voice wasn't clear at all. Listening section had 50 questions. I answered them just by chance!

There were also 50 questions in Grammar and structure section. Those were simple. I answered them quite well. Although reading section was difficult, I could manage to answer to 25 questions out of 50 questions! Why? Well, the time for reading section finished. I had to listen to ridiculous listening section! I wish I devoted all the time of listening section on reading articles! Listening was a total waste of time! :cry: :cry: :cry:

1) Grammar and structure: 50 questions. I answered quite well.
2) Reading: 50 questions. I answered to 25 questions.
3) Listening: 50 questions. I answered to none of them.

I am going to register again. Next time, I will forget listening section and will distribute its time on reading section. I am one hundred percent certain that even native English speakers cannot understand the listening conversations, because the sound system was really awful.

Oh, dear Amal, I followed your order and took some photos of myself and the new car. I emailed those photos, to all friends of course, yesterday. Did you receive them?

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Hi again,

I forgot to say that writing section was good. The topic was something like this:

Some people think that human needs for farmland, housing, and industry are more important than saving land for endangered animals. Do you agree or disagree with this point of view? Why or why not? Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.

I did it quite well.

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hi friends
I have university entrance exam on 28 July.
oh my god
unfortunately I have two test, One morning and one afternoon.
Pray for me, I'm so nervous :oops: }:
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Hi Maniya,

How are you? I hope you are fine. I know you are under a lot of stress and pressure. That's normal. Don't panic. I am sure you know that in such exams time is the greatest enemy of candidates. Try to manage your time by wearing a watch or taking a chronometer with yourself. The more accurate time management, the better result achievement.

I wish you success in your exam.
Good luck!

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I am afraid I disagree with you!

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Hi again Maniya,

I'd like to play a joke on you by saying I disagree with you signature sentence. I believe, love isn't comparable with a flower, because love is a feeling but a flower is an object, a thing. By the way, love isn't beautiful, but it is pleasant. Hahahaha...

If I were you, I'd write:
The beauty of flowers fades, but you look always beautiful to my eyes!

You could also write:
Flowers are beautiful for a short period of time, but your beauty is everlasting!

The third option could be:
A flower's beauty lasts short, but your beauty is endless! {-: {-: {-: {-: {-:

By the way, I guess 'forever' is much more accurate than 'for ever'! How do you think?

I'm only pulling your leg. I hope I haven't hurt it! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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Hi doctor Behnam

Thank you for the tips.
You know,This year, as in previous years, has more volunteered for the experimental field.So there is a lot of competition in this field :oops:
my daddy says if I do not get accepted to college i should marry. (JOKE) :lol:
I'm not rushing to go to college this year.Anyway I am going to AZAD university so i prefer rest this year {-: .


You are always breaking my heart , Im not at all confident.
Why does my language, dont progress.?????
my speaking is awful.
Believe it or not, but in the class I just do not have the ability to speak :oops: }:
And this is my submission. :-(
i wanna to kil myself :-(
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Hi Maniya,

Many thanks for your prompt reply. I am always breaking your heart! Really? I don't mean that. Seems your heart is so fragile. :lol:

About your English skills, you mustn't despair. Nothing is impossible. If you set yourself a goal and pull your socks up to achieve it, you will do it easily. The majority off people have no goals in their lives. Many people set themselves goals but they do not take efforts and attempts to achieve
them.

I have been learning English for more than 25 years, but my English isn't satisfying yet. Learning a language is a life-long process. We should never give up practising our language skills.

I agree with your father and his advice or suggestion. You should either go to university or get married. This is what the vast majority of girls do. A twenty-year old girl is like a ripe fruit. It goes soft if time goes by! :lol: :lol: {-: However, the main problem is finding someone to pick this ripe fruit up and use it! Hehehehehe..This is one of the main concerns of single ladies these days! :lol: :lol: {-: :-D :lol:

Dear Maniya, I am a naughty man with a great sense of humour. You must come to terms with these Behnamish things. Don't take my words personally. Many girls will read these lines, so I am targeting my gun at a tree that hundreds of girls are sitting on its branches. :lol:

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Dr Behnam

thank you for answering.
this is kind of you.
to day I took the card into the university entrance exam session :lol: .my picture is cool.
like GHAJAR,s girl. :mrgreen:
Your talent is unparalleled in English. :!!: Also quite fluently {-;
Even if you speak very well in terms of grammar.
But what I? :-(
Even I do not know the present simple grammer . :mrgreen: ( dont laugh at me)
I do not know why this time no progress :-(
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Hi Maniya,

Thank you very much for spending some of your free time in this thread. Thank you once again for saying some positive things about my English. That's very kind of you. To tell you the truth, I am a learner. My English is not satisfying. However, I don't like to be satisfied with it, because being satisfied with it equals stopping learning. I prefer to be always thirsty for practising and learning! I really love the English language. The more I learn, the more fantastic it looks!

About your situation, I want you to keep things in perspective. Yes, the konkur exam is a big deal; it's an important test. But, even if you do poorly on the exam, is it the end of the world? Will your family stop loving you? Will you be less of a person? Of course not. Perspective is very important to performance. Of course you should be serious about succeeding. But, don't lose sight of other important aspects of your life.

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Hi Behnam,

I have fallen behind of many jobs which were postponed during my absence. I heard you have bought a new car,also you sent the photos to my mailbox. Congratulation. I hope you overtake the road of life.
About Dubai , in fact I didn't feel that I am in a foreign country ,there are similar cultures between us. There was a mosque near to the hotel and the voice of Quran and Azan were on the load speaker.
The different is that everything in Dubai is doing by foreigners. It is center of business , there is no factory and products made by Dubai people. Everything is imported from other countries . Even building structures materials , and engineering, design… .
Countries like UK and USA have controlling the business in Dubai ,but it can't be ignored the role of Japan and China in Dubai business.
They are giving fish to Dubai ,not let them learning to fish.
During the trip I spoke with many people in English . I didn't think about how to speak English , it was easy ,but speaking with people from India and Pakistan is more difficult than others. I spoke with American lady, this time I enjoyed from her accent.

Tonight I should take part in a feast ,because of Imam Mahdi birthday.

Enjoy your holiday

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DR Behnam

I'm jealous of you So i wanna to kill you. REALLY :mrgreen:
Good for your children cause of their father.thier smart father. :lol:
I wish I was in your place :!!:

That will be the day that I speak English like a nightingale? {-:
oh my ...
never ever }: :oops:
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Hi Behnam,

How are you?

Oh, I am really sad to hear about your exam, why they don't test the sound system before the exam!!!!!!!!!!

I want to thank you too about the photos, I really loved them, and as I said in my last post that the car is Behnamish. :lol:

It also seems that it's good for dreaming! Oh why don't you see me??!!! :lol: :cry:
It also seems that this car will bring happiness to our hearts inshallah, I hope so. {-;

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Hi Mohsen,

Many thanks for replying. How is life? I hope you are enjoying every minute of your time.

Native speakers use simple words in their sentences when making conversation with an English learner. They pronounce the words correctly. However, learners have their local accents. In particular, people from the east Asia have heavy accent. They don't pronounce words clearly. Their voice is bass!

These days I am watching an English series called 'Mind Your Language'! There are ten or twelve adults English learners who are living in England. They are from different countries, so they have different accents. On the weekends, they are participating in an English course at a Further Education Center. The teacher; Mr. Brown, is a native English speaker. The students are so funny. A French lady ; Daniel, is among them. She has made the atmosphere of the class so romantic. The class isn't boring at all. I really enjoy watching these series. I recommend you and all learners see those series. It is a great fun.


Happy نيمه شعبان to you and to people in all over the world. I believe 'Mohammad Mahdi' belongs to humanity, and HE WILL CERTAINLY COME to complete God's unfinished goals on the Earth!

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Hi Maniya,

Thanks for the reply. You wish you were in my place? What do you mean? You feel jealous of me; why? You are going to kill me, why?

The situation isn't enough, the passion for something paves the way for achieving it! In other words, the love for something makes it achievable.

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Hi Amal,

How are you my kind friend? I hope all is going well with you. Nightingale, thank you so much for singing beautifully again. :lol: :lol: :lol:

They know that the sound system doesn't work properly, but they don't care. It sounds unbelievable? Yes, unfortunately that's a bitter fact. People don't shoulder their responsibilities.

Yes, the car was good for dreaming, but I didn't dream you! Maybe later! Maybe, you didn't like to come in my car! Who knows! :lol: {-: :lol: {-: :lol:

It's nice reading your posts. Please write more.

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Hi again Mohsen and Maniya,

Please read the previous page. I've replied your posts.

All the best,
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My God, I'm crippled by stress

DR behnam

You know yourself better dont ask me. :oops:
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No pain no gain!

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Hi Maniya,

It is not a proper time to advise you, but an English proverb says 'no pain no gain'. These moments are painful, but they will turn into sweetness in case you succeed in the exam. I guess mothers who give birth normally- without surgical delivery; cesarean procedure-are kinder, because the pain makes the result sweet. The more pain, the sweeter! I am not sure, I just took a guess. {-: :lol: {-:

I wish you success in the exam.

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Hi again Maniya,

.....
Just visualize you are working as a specialist in a hospital and they keep saying-in the speakers- 'Khanome doctor Maniya be bakhshe jarrahi'. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Or visualize you are studying medical science; hanging a bag on your shoulder, putting a think book-in English of course-on your chest, and wearing high-heeled shoes which makes those special womanish noises; tigh, tagh, and drawing all boys' attention. You'll fly over the clouds in the sky. :lol: {-: :lol:

However, be careful with being too much arrogant and saying 'NO' to boys who propose marriage, because as time goes by, the ripe fruit goes soft! This is a fact, because a flower is beautiful for a short period of time! There are many single specialists in hospitals who are rich and famous, BUT they suffer from a sincere care or attention. They often keep dogs or cats as pets. When a dog wags its tail, they get surprised! They say: Oh my God! What an understanding caring loyal dog! He wags its tail for me! Yes, if you ignore boys' care, you will be finally punished by the world's natural laws :lol: {-: :lol:

I wish you success in the exam.
Good luck!

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DR BEHNAM

yeah you are right in this situation i prefer to get marry with some one but who??? :lol:
wh0 wants to be my husband? {-;
I dont want to go to college I want to get married I prefer to be a good wife . :mrgreen:
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I take my kids to the natural way.its better than surgery but i dont want to go university.

DOCTOR What is your opinion on my marriage? :lol:
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Marriage!

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Hi Maniya,

Thank you so much for replying promptly. You are giving me the excuse to write. These days I feel I am energetic! :lol:

About marriage, I don't know what to say. But, I know something strange has happened. Some years ago, when I was a student at a famous high school in Tehran, one day a week we were off. We had to work somewhere one day a week. It was called 'Tarhe Kad'! There was a girl in our neighborhood who was studying at secondary school(guidance school). I was in a youngish love with her, but it was quite difficult to meet each other. Believe it or not, on the off day, I had a chance to see her going to school, because on other days I had to go to school earlier than her. When meeting her, my heart used to work quickly. How sweet those moments were! How sincere our youngish feelings were! How pure we both were! I cannot describe them as they were.

Two weeks ago, I was waiting for taxi in Tajrish Square in Tehran. Three girls were in the queue. Speaking and laughing loudly, they were checking their make up in a public place! Unbelievably, they were frequently teasing boys! The boys were silent, but the girls were teasing them! Surely, something has happened! :lol:

I am writing something in Azerbaijani. I won't translate it into Farsi or English. If someone is interested in it, they can find a way to understand the meaning.


من عاشق قيز قيزا
اوغلان قيزا قيز قيزا
اوغلان قيزسا تز سونر
واي اوندادي قيز قيزا


As your posts represent, your attitude towards marriage is positive. It will certainly help you marry soon. It is reasonable, because according to some experts, our thoughts become some body languages.The body language becomes signals and we transfer the signals in the space around ourselves. People receive these signals and decode them. This is done automatically and unconscionably. When someone has positive thoughts about something, his/her body creates some relevant body languages which are detected by the opposite sexes. Even the brightness of the skin color of a positive person differs from that of a negative one. Why? Well, our thoughts affect the hormone level in our blood, and it affects the brightness of the skin color respectively. Things are connected to each other magically and mysteriously. {-:

I wrote those things to say that positive people have more chance to succeed than negative ones. Your posts say you are a positive person, so don't worry. Rely on God and follow his rules and instructions. You will be successful in every aspect of life. I wish so!

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Our eyes must bleed instead of tears!

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Dear friends,

Yesterday, I saw the video clip of recent mindless violence in Caro, the capital city of Egypt! As it was clear in the video clip, some fundamentalist Sunni people killed four Shiite people and insulted their corpses! Why? Is it logical to kill someone because of his/her belief and idea? How do they justify their actions?

When I was reading the history of Ashura in Karbala, I used to say: It is impossible! How could those Arab people kill the grandchild of prophet Mohammad and rode horses on his corpse? I used to accept the history with some doubts. However, yesterday, after watching the video clip, I came to terms with the bitter fact that politics close people's eyes and make them blind. History is a great teacher. It helps us understand the present time better, because it is the reflection of the past. People haven't changed. We have the same needs and desires that thousands of years ago ancient people had.

Shiite and Sunni are two main branches in Islam. They haven't got ideological differences. They have got some political differences. For example, in Shiite people's opinion, Ali; Prophet's son-in-law, had the provable right, merit, and competence to become the leader. I think this political view is one of the most important differences between Shiite and Sunni. Other stories are mostly created by storytellers from both sides to convince each other!

Anyway, disappointing things are happening in Syria, Egypt, and some other Arab countries. It seems they have forgotten the main enemy. Now, Islam is against Islam! Who benefits? That's obvious even to children!
}: }: }: }: }: }: }: }: }: }:

That's the maximum degree of sadness someone can show on EC. But, wise people must cry blood!

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Hi my dear doctor
I'm glad you gave me the confidence. :-P
that is your poem? :lol: I understand Turkey as well as you but this poem, what does it mean? :shock:
I've been in love before :oops: You know who I love? :~:
ساسی مانکن really.
I had all his posters and photos . :-D


and about your video clip i can say this kind of war in the Arab earth cause the past.
you know they used to kill our prophet because of politics.As you say (Ashoura)
thier killed many innocent people.
some of them not belief in Emam Ali and they are use to say Emam Ali doesnt Emam and He was Caliph.
look at Iraq. How Many years that there is a war?
or Palestine.
Their ground is cursed }:
I heard that a clerical said those land does not have any time to relax and never cant find it.
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Tips for a Successful Relationship

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Having a good relationship can be tough to maintain for many couples. However, there are some things you can do and tips to learn to maintain a successful and happy relationship. Here are several tips to keep your successful relationship going for years to come.

1. Spending Quality Time Together: One main tip for having a successful relationship is spending quality time together. If you never have time for each other, then you both start to wonder, why you are together in the first place. Make it one of your main priorities to spend at least a couple of hours together a day. Even if you both work, this is a crucial attribute in a relationship. Make time for each other.

2. Setting Goals: Setting goals and making plans for the future can be a key in having a successful relationship. This shows that you are both in it for the long run. Think about where you both want to be in five years. Do you both want kids? Do you both want to build a new home together? These are questions to bring up, if you are both in it for a while.

3. Be Intimate: Being affectionate and passionate in a relationship is a strong point for a successful relationship. Having intimate times throughout any time of the day is a great thing to do when making the relationship work. Running out of physical connections can lead to problems in a relationship. Therefore, for a successful long-term relationship, keep the intimacies going.

4. Be Supportive of Each Other: Be supportive of each other. Never judge each other, and hold blame. Remember that you are a team, never enemies. In order to be supportive of one another, root for each other daily.

5. Be Their Best Friend: Not only should you love your partner, but you also have to like them. Being in a successful relationship means that you have to be there best friend. Becoming friends first always helps to evolve into a long lasting relationship.

6. Trust Each Other: Trust is essential for having a successful courtship. You always need to have trust in your relationship in order to make it work for a long time. When there is no trust, is when you should worry. This could be an ugly feat to have in any relationship. Always put trust in each other. Jealousy can ruin a relationship in an instant.

7. Love Yourself: In order to have a successful relationship, you must love yourself first. You simply cannot love anybody else unless you have love for yourself. Having confidence and being secure with yourself is an important factor, when wanting to love someone else. If you are secure in yourself, you can be more secure in your relationship.

In having a successful relationship, you just have to roll with the punches, and take whatever you both are dealt. If you both stick together, there is nothing you both cannot handle. Be grateful you have each other, and always be caring. Taking in these few tips can make it all worth having a partner you can spend your whole life with.


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Hi friends,

How are you?

I have missed you all. :-(
This is just to let you know that I am very well but sadly I can be with you because there is no electricity...
We had spent 3 days without electricity!!! I am verrrrrrry angryyyyyyyyyyyyy. Oh my god!! I am angry not because it's off but because I have promised my friends to be with them then I couldn't come, now they are calling me a bad girl!!! :cry: :cry:

Swear to god, I was dying to be with you, I was dying to know your news but I couldn't!!!

Anyway, I hope you are all fine.
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behnam wrote:Dear friends,

Yesterday, I saw the video clip of recent mindless violence in Caro, the capital city of Egypt! As it was clear in the video clip, some fundamentalist Sunni people killed four Shiite people and insulted their corpses! Why? Is it logical to kill someone because of his/her belief and idea? How do they justify their actions?

When I was reading the history of Ashura in Karbala, I used to say: It is impossible! How could those Arab people kill the grandchild of prophet Mohammad and rode horses on his corpse? I used to accept the history with some doubts. However, yesterday, after watching the video clip, I came to terms with the bitter fact that politics close people's eyes and make them blind. History is a great teacher. It helps us understand the present time better, because it is the reflection of the past. People haven't changed. We have the same needs and desires that thousands of years ago ancient people had.

Shiite and Sunni are two main branches in Islam. They haven't got ideological differences. They have got some political differences. For example, in Shiite people's opinion, Ali; Prophet's son-in-law, had the provable right, merit, and competence to become the leader. I think this political view is one of the most important differences between Shiite and Sunni. Other stories are mostly created by storytellers from both sides to convince each other!

Anyway, disappointing things are happening in Syria, Egypt, and some other Arab countries. It seems they have forgotten the main enemy. Now, Islam is against Islam! Who benefits? That's obvious even to children!
}: }: }: }: }: }: }: }: }: }:

That's the maximum degree of sadness someone can show on EC. But, wise people must cry blood!

All the best,
Behnam, 25 June, 2013
Politics is running by USA , money supported by Saudi and Ghatar , operation by mercenaries or idiots .
The process of Taliban and Afghan government reconciliation is on agenda , Poor Afghan people who should recognize the Taliban as a legal opposition. When Karzai avoid speaking with Taliban , he has been threat by a big explosion which was occurred near his palace a few days ago. Now Karzai has been given up , He can't resist against USA 's will
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Topic maybe Interests

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Today I want to share with you a topic maybe it Interests some of you

Do you think success depends on which of the following:

Qualifications, effort, luck, what God has written.

All of us have examples of people who don't have qualifications although they are in a good position in life, like singers ,actors, managers in companies and business, and when you are trying to find the reason for him of being success you will find that they have nothing.
Like Shaaban Abdel Rahim he is well known singer in Egypt although his voice is very bad, the lyrics of his songs has no meaning, wears like parrot, when he talks you think that he is insane.

In business you can find a boss of big company doesn't have any qualification to make him reach this position.

Do you think hard work and determination will lead any on to what he need. :?:

Really I don't know, I'm confused. :roll:

Do anyone have different opinion?

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Hi Moroo,

How are you? I hope you are enjoying your time.

I want to say that I am very sad about what is going these days in Egypt, it's sad to see Muslims are fighting against each other.
On the other hand, I am proud of Egyptian people because they are very brave and when they want something, they ALL go to streets and ask for it, they are united and love each other.. I wish our people do the same one day! :-D

Anyway, let me write about the mean topic of this post now.. First of all, I want to thank you about this interesting and important topic.

In my opinion, being successful depends on the person himself and of course about God willing.
For example, a lot of people have all the qualifications which are needed to success but they aren't successful just because god doesn't want. meanwhile, others have nothing but they become very important..

There are something very important should be mentioned too, That here in Arab's countries, no matter what a person has, if he doesn't know someone important in the cov, he can't achieve anyyything. :-D :oops: :roll:
It's shameful but this is the truth..

For example, my uncle was the best student at medicine univ, his marks all were full. However, they gave the scholarship for a girl who know nothing, neither in medicine nor in the univ!!!!! Therefore, my uncle left everything and went to America. In America, he continued his study then a director of hospital came to his house and asked him to work there!!! Do you see the difference?!
In Arab countries they want there OWN benefits. Meanwhile, in America they try their best to stick to the scientists and the doctors in order to achieve a public success and the country benefits!!

Emm, about Shaban Abd Alrehem, emm, I don't like him a lot and I don't like his personality.
Maybe he didn't get his success easily as we think but of course his luck helped him a lot. Once I saw an interview with him on TV and he explained how he published his first cassette.. He said that everything happened by accident when he was driving his car, he saw a producer so he threw the cassette to him from the window. When that person heard it, he called him back! See, his luck was the key of his success!

In the end, I want to say that we should do our best then achieving success or not is God business.

Wish you the best.
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Hi Amal how are you :-)

Hope you, your family and all Syrian people are safe :-D

I would like to say In respect of what is happening in Syria, really I don't know which side is right Bashr's side or the opponents.

Maybe the opponents is right, even if they are right there are hidden hands out of Syria support them for mean reasons not for Syrian people to be better, like what is happening in other Arab countries now.

You mentioned that "being successful depends on the person himself and of course about God willing".

Do you know, I agree with you especially about the part of God willing because I believe baby who born for rich family or poor family it's because of the God willing.

About what happened to your uncle, I think that's always happening in any country or institution that holds a head of the country or institution corrupted, when the head of anything is corrupted he will choose the assistant is corrupted too and when the assistant who is corrupted will choose his assistant is corrupted too and so on.

And because the hierarch is bad the boss doesn't question his assistant about what he is doing.
In America and good countries they have system and no one can break it.

In a country the police was suspect of a boss in the government that he is a spy but the police can't find any evidence, after he resigned one of them asked him personally "we were sure that you were a spy but we can't find the evidence" he replied my job was very simple, when candidates apply to a job I choose the worst one that’s all.

You know that’s the worst things that destroy any country.

At the end I would like to express my admiration about what you have written at the end of your post, it's totally true.

Wish you all the best.
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Hi ,

Oh my God , I am always in dilemma, in daily life dilemma happens for us , may be I choose a wrong way, from investing money or help people. Once I had invested my money to buy the shares of a company , the company was bankrupted and I lost my money , Once a beggar asked me for help , I didn't help him because in my view he was not a real beggar but a fraudulent .
When we save a life ,it is possible that we made a mistake , look at the following story

Some of children were playing, They were playing exactly on the two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.
The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?
Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make...

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"Let's learn together " is not just a simple name of a thread to me. It means much more, much more!
When I think of it, I remember many things, many many. I remember the first time I came across it on net, the first post I read on it, the first impression...I remember many people, many friends, many serious and emotional posts, many sad and happy memories.... I remember the friendships, love words, smiles, tears, conflicts,heart to heart words, brotherhood, sisterhood,support,hatred ......

I remember our friends , Veronica, Mohsen, Amal, Andrew, Marina, Rosa, Julia, Chinese friends, Turkish friends, Iranian friends, Arab friends,.....

I remember dear Behnam and all his great posts, strong ideas, naughty jocks,assertive manner, nice sense of humor and gentle feelings.

Oh and I remember myself, Elham. I remember what influences being a member of this thread has had on me.
It relaxed me to express my thoughts and emotions here. I loved to write my head and heart out in English in 'Let's learn together'. I remember my posts about the God, Mother, childhood,hijab friendship,rain and snow,summer and winter, spring and autumn, love and hatred, and many many other things.
I miss it, I DO MISS IT. :cry: :cry: :cry:

In one hand,for some reasons I can't continue writing in my lovely thread, on the other hand I can't leave it simply without any word cause here's important for me. I'm not like some of our previous friends who left us without any simple explanation or goodbye, disrespecting us! Once I told Mohsen nothing can prevent me from writing in here unless death since I love to practice my English and express my ideas here, but I never thought about other reasons that can prevent me!

You may ask what this reason is and want me to be clear.I give you right. Unfortunately,dear Behnam and I are not friends anymore, and I'm afraid my presence and my words bother him, therefore I prefer not to write here anymore. I behaved too rudely to him and made him regret his friendship with me. You know, it's very sad to understand that we've made mistake making friend with somebody and recently dear Behnam came to this conclusion about me. It's one of the saddest regrets one can experience and dear Behnam did. :-( :-( :-( I apology to him for making him feel sad and regretful. Although I love this thread and writing in it, I have to stop annoying him more and leave "Let's learn together".

I could leave here without any word, I know my absence doesn't change anything and even nobody noticed it, but I wrote this post just because the thread means a lot to me and I hated to leave it as if it's sth unimportant, cause I do have feelings towards this thread and all my memories.

I try to tolerate not writing here but I'll always read your posts and enjoy them. :-)

Wish you all the best,
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Let's learn together! ( AS FEMALES )

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Hi my beautiful friends,

I Hope all of you are fine.

These days I'm trying to find a good site to chat to practice my English and I didn't find any good one. :-(

Really I didn't use to chat before. mmm I think I tried to chat using ICQ many many years ago but I didn't continue.

When I tried to chat these days using sites like English Club chat room or other sites, although these sites manly for people who would like to practice English. I have found something very strange for me that I would like to share with you.

When I tried to communicate with someone ( M or F ) after some words they stop writing to me :-( I don't know the reason :roll: , maybe because my subjects are boring, when I followed those people who stopped writing to me I found theme would like to chat about fiddling subjects, at least to me, as well as they stop writing with me without saying anything :-x

mmmmm :roll:

Finally I found something make them like very much chatting with me. :idea:

Guess what !!!!

I used A female name :twisted:

Now a lot of them trying to chat with me and I choice. :lol:

But unfortunately Males only

For me its ok.

Now I have many friends :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

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Hi Elham,

How are you?

This place isn't just somewhere to write in. It has our heart, it is our home.. And here we are all as a family. Brothers and sisters may fight and become sad with each other but they always return to THEIR home no matter how the fight was big, they forget everything and stay together with each other.
You know Elham? I started to hate this place, I even don't come here anymore because I know that you aren't here and I can't write to you or that you wont answer me, therefore, why I should come?! Today I was surprised! I didn't believe my eyes when I saw your name! Then when I read your post, your words broke my heart! :cry: You are leaving the thread, your home!! Why???!!!
Honey, I don't think that Behnam has ever wanted that, right??
You who kept this place running and I don't think that Behnam would deny this thing sincce YOU who insisted him to make another "Let's learn together" after the old one was closed! Remember Behnam?? Uh!

In the past, we had a promise, I am sure that both of you -Elham and Behnam- still remember it. We promised each other that we will stay together FOREVER no matter what happen. So in life we faced a lot of bad things, we became sad with each other but then and because our love is more important than anything, we became friends again, we forgot our pride for something more valuable. So what has changed now?! Please both of you think of your sweet memories together, think of the things you passed together. Do you think that all those things are meaningless??!!

Dear Behnam, I am not trying to change your mind but I -as a friend- dislike to see you BOTH are wasting such a great friendship, this really breaks my heart! :-x :cry:

Dears, you know that you are the most important people in my life. If there is something I am proud of the most in my life then it would be our friendship. Please please think of this matter very well and don't waste it, don't let me lose the most valuable thing. :cry:

Wish you the best.
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I am Back!

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Hi friends,

How are you? I hope you are great.

I am back! I took a one-week trip to Azerbaijan; my mother and fatherland. I really really really enjoyed it. Many interesting things happened to me. I will tel you about them.

I'd missed you terribly. In many places, when I was making tea with wood-burned, handmade stove which is built by three big pieces of stones, I remembered you and your words. I wish you had been there with me.

I am pleased to say that I went to the Fort of Babak Khorramdin In Kaleibar. Oh my God! How can I describe my feelings when I saw the Babak castle for the first time! It was great, wonderful, amazing, fantastic, inspiring,...

Let's see what Wikipedia has said about it:


Bābak Fort or Babak Castle (Persian: دژ بابک or قلعه بابک‎ Azerbaijani: بابک قلعه سي ), also known as the Immortal Castle or Republic Castle, is a large citadel and National Symbol of Iranians on the top of a mountain in the Arasbaran forests, which is located 6 km southwest of Kalibar City in northwestern Iran. It has been identified as the stronghold of Bābak Khorramdin, the leader of the Khurramites in Azarbaijan who fought the Islamic caliphate of Abbassids. Iranian Azarbaijanis gather at Babak Castle during the first weekend in July for the annual commemoration of Babak Khorramdin.


For more information please google 'Babak's Castle'. Be careful with the Address that Iranian sites have given.Many of them have said that the castle is located in Ahar, but it is wrong. The castle is placed in Kaleibar.

After getting home and taking a shower and some rest, I got connected and checked the thread and my mailbox. A few minutes ago I finished reading dear Amal's post(I do mean Amal is a dear friend of mine). However, she hasn't mentioned that I was on a trip, whereas I'd emailed and informed her about the trip!

Elham's post is funny and full of misjudgements, some false assumptions and misunderstandings that all caused her to jump to the wrong conclusion. I expect her to give further explanation to the readers about the story which is gone between us.
Elham wrote:You may ask what this reason is and want me to be clear.I give you right. Unfortunately,dear Behnam and I are not friends anymore, and I'm afraid my presence and my words bother him, therefore I prefer not to write here anymore. I behaved too rudely to him and made him regret his friendship with me. You know, it's very sad to understand that we've made mistake making friend with somebody and recently dear Behnam came to this conclusion about me. It's one of the saddest regrets one can experience and dear Behnam did. :-( :-( :-( I apology to him for making him feel sad and regretful. Although I love this thread and writing in it, I have to stop annoying him more and leave "Let's learn together".


I want her to tell the full story of what has happened, and then let others judge about it. Of course, she has the right to keep it secret from others, but she hasn't the right to speak about my probable regret without mentioning to the things that might make me regret. This is really unfair.

From some points of view, forming a friendship is like planting a small fruit tree and watering it in the hope that it will give sweet eatable fruits. Although a tree with uneatable bitter fruits forces the gardener to admit that all his efforts had been in vain, he never removes the tree from the garden because he doesn't like to see any place of the garden empty! In other words, although the tree doesn't produce eatable fruits, it makes the garden look green! This is valuable and undeniable.

All the best,
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Dear friends,

Just to remove dear Behnam's worry about your judgement I have to give an explanation.
As I told you. I behaved too rudely too him, I don't want to mention it here, I feel ashamed, but I made Behnam shocked by my rude and unbelievable behavior, I made him very sad. He didn't expect Elham to behave this way. He had right to regret, even if I were him, I would make the same decision as he did! Every wise person would do the same. Just as he explained, the fruit tree is unable to give sweet trees, it's dried! :-( So there's no any other way but to remove it and plant a new fruitful tree on behalf. There are special trees for decoration and making the environment green.

Anyway, after what happened I feel ashamed to attend here anymore. I do accept the fact and the result of my behavior. :oops:

Thanks, bye


PS. Dear Amal, thanks for your kind post. Don't mix things with each other. I was just a simple member of the thread. My absence doesn't change anything. Go on writing and be sure that I read them all. You are a very green and lovely tree with very sweet fruits, the garden needs you. :-)
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Hi. I'm Shaghayegh, from Iran,24. And I'm software engineering student at university of Tehran. Honestly, I've wanted to join here because I'm trying to learn English, but very soon i realized here has a most friendly atmosphere and i really like it. So I hope to can be a good friend and member like others here. At first i realized a big number of members are Iranian. am I right?

I want to speak a little about my English abilities (if there are :)) ). So , I'm good in reading and listening. But ,as you see, I'm terrible in writing and speaking! One reason of this is I've been reading books and sources in English and there wasn't any pressure on me or even need to learn speaking and writing. I've learned a lot of words and studies many English texts, but I can't use them when I need them! When I decided to continue my studying in USA, I've realized that my inabilities in English speaking and writing are big shortage to success :( . Now I'm trying to improve my English writing in anyway i can. I study and exercise about 8 hours of day.Listening to musics, watching movies, using English learning programs etc. Very soon I've understood that the best way to learn English is just trying to involve myself in speaking with others.

Finally, excuse me there are errors. Still I can't speak fluently. But I'm trying to improve that.
In next post i will speak more about myself and now I'm reading the rest of posts here to know better you.
Thanks a lot.
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Hi Elham,

How are you? I hope you are fine and the hot weather of Najafabad doesn't bother you, but I guess it does since you have always complained about Najafabad's hot weather and praised Azerbaijan for its cool weather in summers. I also dislike hot climates.

Elham, sometimes it happens, we make a mistake but we don't try to find a way to correct it. Our selfishness(something inside us; I don't know what it is, maybe stubbornness is a proper word for this purpose) tempts us to give some insensible reasons for our actions or decision. Giving incorrect reasons or making faulty logic results in further mistakes.

Elham, this thread isn't mine. I am a member of this thread. You are also a member of it. This thread belongs to people who write and read the posts. Therefore, it is wrong to let our personal problems influence our decision.

Elham, you know that many times I have decided to leave the thread, even to leave the Internet, but the right of people who are hidden and follow the posts( who are somehow spiritually, mentally, emotionally, etc connected to me and my posts) has stopped me from leaving.


I am sure, if I stop writing, or if I leave the Internet, you will become extremely sad. You are a good example. Other people have the same feeling about you and your posts. Therefore, there are some people who have emotional involvement with you. You should not let your selfishness or stubbornness hurt others' lives.

If you still follow your brother's advice, I advise you to continue writing. As I said above, many people follow your posts regularly. Do not impose emotional sanction on them! It is cruel to humanity to make someone lose hope!

The tree isn't dry! It has produced uneatable fruits, but there is a way to modify the tree! Ask your father for that special action; like tree surgery(in Farsi it is Peyvand zadan). :lol: :lol: :lol:

In my analogy, the tree is green and useful(not dry). Do not change my words! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

All the best,
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Dear my beautiful friends Behnam and Elham

I'm not here for a long time but I feel all of us are family, it's sad to see beautiful friends like you both are not going to be friends anymore. :-(

I really don't know what had happened, but I have a story that happened to me maybe it can help.

I had a friend of mine and he was my cousin as well, we were very close friends during 35 years ago, we were two members of four close friends, we used to go out with each other etc…

Eight years ago I had a fight with him, in this fight I was very angry and I said very bad things and I insulted him.

The reason of this fight wasn't because of the ethics or other important things like that.

During those eight years I tried to call him and said to him that I'm really sorry, it's the first time for me to make you angry and we all do mistakes, please forgave me. but till now he refused to accept my apology.

because of him the situation now, we become two separated groups and we won't become one group again.

In my opinion I did a mistake but this mistake is nothing comparing with our situation now because we lose each other and he and I can't find another good friends like us.

What I want to say sense the problem not because of mainly things in the personality it can be fixed, we are human we all do mistakes and we will always do.

Hope I made my idea clear {-:

All the best
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Hi Moroo,

Many thanks for sharing your experience with us. I agree with you about our human-related faults and destructive emotions. We all make mistakes. That's OK. to make mistakes. Nobody should blame someone else for making mistakes, because nobody is perfect. However, some actions cannot be considered as mistakes. Therefore, mistake is a delicate matter, and it has many definitions.

A mirror is expected to reflect our face back. This is the main purpose of building a mirror. Imagine you buy a mirror from the market but it doesn't shows your face, or the picture isn't clear. This mirror doesn't work properly, or it doesn't function well. Therefore, this mirror has got some faults or defects. Faults and defects are different from mistake. The mirror just does not come to your expectations. In this case, the matter isn't forgiveness or forgetfulness. Something is against your expectations!

A tree should either give eatable fruits or make shadow, or give some greenness(some beauty) to the garden. When it is dry, it must be cut down! It doesn't work properly.

Fortunately, in our case(Elham-Behnam friendship), we both work quite well, but not completely well. At least we make some shadows, or we have some green leaves. Therefore, a wise gardener should not cut us down. :lol: :lol: :lol:

I believe, when someone doesn't come to our expectations, we must leave him/her, even though the person is our sister, brother, father or even mother! In other words, a dry fruit must be cut down, no matter it is apple tree or orange one!This is cruel, I know, but I do believe in it, and fortunately or unfortunately, I practically follow this policy in my life. Many people have told me that this way of thinking is wrong, but I haven't cared about other people's view on this matter.

In your case, I don't know what has happened, but I guess not only is your cousin's heart broken, but also it is smashed. The pieces are too small to be glued to each other. To put it another way, in your case, the problem isn't occurring some cracks in his heart, it is maybe smashing his heart into pieces. It won't work, even though you glue the pieces. It is maybe totally damaged. }: }: }:

I am in a hurry. I have to leave quickly. I didn't check the post. I hope my mistakes are not too many!

All the best,
Behnam, 7 July, 2013
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hi
a flower is beautifull for a day
but love a beautifull flower for ever
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Dear Friends,

During the last week I had not a regular life. There were three wedding ceremony which I had been invited ,and my life was changed, influenced by these ceremonies. One of them was a friend of mine , and the two other weddings were my relatives, My wife 'brother have a son and his son got married, my sister has a daughter who got married. My niece ceremony was the most important for me , and I was in my sister house for three days ,I was receipt by delicious foods ,different color sweet things and fruits.
Before interring to Holy Ramadan month ,it is a rush hour for wedding ceremony. Many couples try to hold their wedding ceremonies before Ramadan .
It also took time to think, consult for purchasing three good gifts for three couples of brides and grooms. The meeting I had with my wife was not effective for buying a gift and finally we bought gold with different values.
Sometimes living differently is enjoyable and it is worth to pay gold for it.

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Dear Elham,

My feeling about virtual world is different , the virtual world (forum ,chating,) is like a game ,we should attend it and enjoy it , it is not a place to be ashamed , to be bother , to be angry.
Off course as a Muslim I feel responsibility for what I say, even in a chat room, but I never been ashamed if I write rudely ,or write something insulting. If I make a mistake , I will instantly apologize for my mistake.
Please don't make your decision sensitively , I have a fellow citizen in this forum , you are my only hope who are able to resist against Azarbyjan,please don't leave me alone :cry: .

Waiting for you
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Dear Behnam,

Nice to hear that you enjoy you trip to your hometown. A good weather in north and visiting beautiful sceneries increased your morale to enjoy your life.
For the garden and the trees, A tree is getting dry ,because of bad soil , If we change the soil or fertilize the soil ,the try will be save . So it needs time, and we should give a chance to tree .
Your policy against people who doesn't come to your expectation is really a big mistake. Do you want to cut down your oppositions. God bless your wife, if she can't meet your expectation.
Being patience against a person who doesn't meet your expectation is the best policy , particularly people like parents and relatives. If you are a Muslim, you are not allowed to behave your own feeling. You have to obey your Islam instructions.
I don't know what happen between Elham and you. What she had done that she has decided to leave the forum. When Elham says she is ashamed of her wrong behavior , it is enough for a girl like Elham and she should come back.

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