How are you?
Thanks for your kind post to me.
Dear I was just trying to make Mohsen write the same as you did with us.
However, in fact my question was serious, some men "bridegrooms" try during the engagement period to show a better impression about themselves just to make the brides love them more "this is not bad but in somehow it's fooling cause it isn't their real personality!".
For examples, sometimes they try to pretend that they are generous by giving her a looot of gifts and buy expensive things but after the marriage all this disappear and the brides discover that the grooms are mean. Other times men try to show themselves kind and romantic and again after the marriage the girls find them different. OR maybe...."It might be Behnam's explanation"
Emm, they try to fool their brides just to have.....
..... Isn't that fooling??!!!
Dear, you asked: "is he not going to live with her till the rest of his life? Has not he chosen her as his partner?"
Yes for sure, but maybe they try to change their characters just to let the brides fall in love in the beginning in order to accept living with them the rest of their life, they think that after marriage the girls wouldn't leave them "sometimes women accept to stay with a person who she doesn't like just for her children". Above that, in some cultures, it is bad if a woman got divorced. There are too many reasons for fooling others even our beloved ones so let's stop speaking about the bad things.
Of course, there are a lot of good grooms with good intentions, I am not claiming that ALL men are like that. More over, I don't have a bad view about men but I am just trying to explain what I meant by my question to Mohsen.
So dear what's your opinion? Am I right?! Do you think that it's OK to fool somebody "in a good way"? -as you wrote-
Kami! Now you HAVE TO answer my many questions cause you let me write what Mohsen supposed to do!
I am waiting impatiently for your reply.