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This (forum topic) is really a very attractive invitation for English Learners. Congratulations to the organizer(s) and those who supported and still supporting this topic!
It is really nice to know that you have seen the good side of being on this site and how you can make use of what is being offered here to support your English studies.This site is really useful to all of us wanting to learn and improve our English.
I too, had been using this site to support my English studies and also, helped me a lot to improve my reading and writing skills. Though you will find some (most of the time new) members spoiling some board topics from time to time, just don't worry because eventually they will find their way and see for themselves that this site can help them too.
Good luck to all!

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Hi Krisi,

Welcome to this thread, and thank you for putting comment. Thank you once again for joining us. You've been on this site since 2007, and you've written more than five thousands posts! That's amazing! You are an experienced learner and writer. I'd like to know where you have put the posts.

Would you mind introducing yourself? What do you do? Your English is excellent. What level you are at?

I hope to hear more from you.

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Hi kamelia,
A man enjoy when incite a woman to prove something, I know that you want to say that no no … the fact is something else …

About my old house which I used to live ,it was a big house with ten big rooms, two kitchens, some rooms had arch roof ,and all doors and windows were made of wood.
A pool in middle of yard ,a stone fountain in middle of pool ,in the morning or evening we sat on benches which were around the pool ,eating fruits or tea while the water went to the air by fountain. The pool overflew to the garden. We enjoy swimming and play with water in summer, also cared about fishes not to fell in the garden when the water overflowed .there were also some big red fishes in the pool. The well was full of water; the water was pumped to water source on the roof and then leaded to the stone fountain.
Dear Kamelia , I never lived in the apartment, no experience I have , now I am living in a 200 qm villa house , it is a jail for me.

Women always prove that men are doing wrong .
See you after next holiday.
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Hi Friends,
Once a ship got caught in a violent storm. It wreaked havoc and the waves cast its wrecks on the sands of the shore. Among them was a sailor who lay senseless on the beach. When he came to his senses, he cursed the sea saying, "The Sea is a cheat indeed. It attracts people with its cool and calm waters and once they are in its grip, it turns furious and destroys them."

Hearing his reproach, the sea felt pinched. But it didn't want to trouble the sailor anymore. So, it came to the sailor in form of a damsel.

"Who are you, O lovely lady?" asked the sailor.

"I am the sea and am as lovely as you see me now. You are blaming me for the wreck but it isn't just." Surprised, the sailor asked, "Who is just then?"

The sea urged, "The wreck was caused by the cruel winds that blew into gusts and gales over me and created stormy waves in my calm waters."

The sailor had nothing to say except feeling sorry for blaming the sea.


Almost all unhappiness in life comes from the tendency to blame someone else. - Brian Tracey

Are the Dzhokar Tsarnaev and Tamerlan Tsarnaev reponsible for Boston explosion .
They were from USA , originally they were from Chechen, They had no interest in Islam ,the had no faith, the were good cases for doing a new plan and making a new story against Muslims.

What people do for money ,when their minds washed by Zionists.
Are the USA people believe what the USA media are telling them !!!!


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Hi Friends,
I heared the voice of their mother from the news, she claimed that her childern were under the FBI control for many years, they couldn't even take one step without police eyes.
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Hi Dr. Behnam:

You news regarding being the forth among 300 students was for me another Iranian quake.
I think the quake came just as a result of the that news. Earthquakes come because of reasons. so, that news was another quake and made me instead of asking about your live to write to congratulate you!

Dear Dr., Forgive me for my late responses. I have tried many times to post here and suddenly fail. I don't know why?

Please accecpt my latest congrats on the occasion of your success! I kept it late on purpose. I want you to feel that your success is our success as a whole Ummah. You know what? If I was about to congratulate you with people, may be you will be happy for some moments then you will forget your great success. But I want you to stay feeling it longer and know that people are proud of your great achievement!

God bless you,
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Defensive

If someone is defensive, the person feels criticized and quickly tries to explain.

Example:

Don't be defensive; I just asked why you didn't vote!
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8 Qualities of Successful Person

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8 Qualities of Successful Person

1. Burning Desire
The motivation to succeed comes from the burning desire to achieve a purpose. Napoleon Hill wrote, "Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve." A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment. Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great results.

2. Commitment
Integrity and wisdom are the two pillars on which to build and keep commitments. This point is best illustrated by the manager who told one of his staff members, "Integrity is keeping your commitment even if you lose money and wisdom is not to make such foolish commitments."

3. Responsibility
People with character accept responsibilities. They make decisions and determine their own destiny in life. Accepting responsibilities involves taking risks and being accountable which is sometimes uncomfortable.Responsible people don't think that the world owes them a living.

4. Hard work
Success is not something that you run into by accident. It takes a lot of preparation and character. Everyone likes to win but how many are willing to put in the effort and lime to prepare to win? It takes sacrifice and self-discipline. There is no substitute for hard work.

5. Character
Character is the sum total of a person's values, beliefs and personality. It is reflected in our behavior, in our actions. It needs to be preserved more than the richest jewel in the world. To be a winner takes character. George Washington said, "I hope I shall always possess firmness and virtue enough to maintain what I consider the most valuable of all titles, the character of an honest man."

6. Positive believing/Thinking
Positive believing is a lot more than positive thinking. It is having a reason to believe that positive thinking will work. Positive believing is an attitude of confidence that comes with preparation. Having a positive attitude without making the effort is nothing more than having a wishful dream.

7. The Power of persistence
The journey to being your best is not easy. It is full of setbacks. Winners have the ability to overcome.Persistence means commitment and determination. There is pleasure in endurance. Commitment and persistence is a decision. Athletes put in years of practice for a few seconds or minutes of performance.
Persistence is a decision. It is a commitment to finish what you start. When we are exhausted, quitting, looks good. But winners endure. Ask a winning athlete. He endures pain and finishes what he started. Lots of failures have begun well but have not concluded anything. Persistence comes from purpose. Life without purpose is drifting. A person who has no purpose will never persevere and will never be fulfilled.


8. Pride of performance
In today's world, pride in performance has fallen by the wayside because it requires effort and hard work. However, nothing happens unless it is made to happen. When one is discouraged, it is easy to look for shortcuts. However these should be avoided no matter how great the temptation. Pride comes from within, which is what gives the winning edge.
Pride of performance does not represent ego. It represents pleasure with humility.

The quality of the work and the quality and the worker are inseparable. Half-hearted effort does not produce half results; it produces no results.
Excellence comes when the performer takes pride in doing his best. Every job is a self-portrait of the person who does it, regardless of what the job is, whether washing cars, sweeping the floor or painting a house.


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hi Behnam.
I want to know In English, what was the secret to your success? :~:
You are fluent in English so good. {-:
I really can not speak English in public. :oops:
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Hi Maniya,

First of all, I'd like to say a warm welcome to you. Welcome to this thread! Thank you for joining us.

You've considered me a successful person in English, and you've said that my English is fluent! Thank you very much for paying some nice compliments. That's very kind and generous of you. However, I am an English learner. My English is neither good nor bad. I just can pull my own weigh! In chat rooms, I have no difficulty in making conversation with people, but I am not fluent at speaking.

About six years ago, when I started to learn the English language seriously, some friends of me used to ask me for the goal of learning English. They used to ask, "Behnam, what's your ultimate goal of learning English?" Once I answered, "A good action doesn't need any motivation or goal. It is a goal itself."

I planted a tree 6 years ago. I've been watering it(looking after it) for 6 years. I can easily say that at least 4 hours a day I've practised different English skills; listening, speaking, reading, and writing. I took every single opportunity to improve my skills and abilities in English. I spent a lot of money, energy, time on it. Some people wrongly think that learning English is easy. On TV, for example, sometimes I see some funny advertisements claiming to to teach English(the to learn it) in 10 sessions, in one month! I often laugh at those advertisements and at people who believe such ridiculous things. Learning a new language is a lifelong process.

After 6 years, in PhD entrance exam, I picked the fruits of that tree! People who are learning a new language must be patient. I believe patience is one of the most important factors in achieving our goals. Obviously, patience plus hard working result in success. Some people are patient, but do nothing. Therefore, it is necessary to be determined, patient and hard working when learning English.

In order to speak in public places, you need to have self confidence. Being confident about your ability is extremely important. Try it, little by little you will gain enough self confidence to speak in public. Don't worry about making mistakes. Even native speakers make mistakes. Try to learn from your mistakes. If we don't make mistakes, we learn nothing.

I have to leave right now. I will write about this topic again.

Please write more about yourself.

All the best,
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How are you doing? I hope everything is going on very well with you and your lovely family.
Oh come on! You do not mean that you were provoking me to prove you THAT! LOOL

Anyhow, you succeeded, what comes next? :-D You did me the favor to put more time and write more often, half kidding actually :-D Since I am a bit freer in this time of the year so...

Never mind about Muses stuff, so let's seeeee....your house was quite a dreamy old one! An old mansion with arch roofs and so on :-o that must have been so interesting for you as a a child to wonder and search about the house. I am thinking that children in those eras (not that you are an old man, in no sense :-D ) had much more fun because everything they needed as to serve their curious consciences were already provided by the lovely big house :-D

Thank you so much for telling me about it. You know what made me ask you that? In the Noruz Holidays that we just passed I used to watch documentaries about Persian ancient styles of houses with the gorgeously beautiful architectural design then I kept wondering who could I ask more about it. Oh and most of the houses belonged to Esfahan, Yazd and Shiraz!

So thank you again for making time to write to me about it,

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Hi friends,
How are you all? I have to tell about something very important for me and you . Of course, it means I need your help.

This is to let you know, I am going to present my presentation at the college tomorrow morning . My university subject's name is "Practical Research Methods. "

In this subject, our Dr. choose a topic for every student. Then, according to the time and the day you have chosen, you have to stand to perform your topic in front of your doctor and the whole class and according to your performance you can get your marks .

My topic for Monday is about "Participant Observation. " It is very short. but very important for every researcher. It is of two parts, the first one is direct observation. and the second is participant observation.

Participant observation is of two types: openly and secretly participation.

I want your opinions about this topic. It does not matter what it is, just write something you know about the topic .Also, I want to hear those graduated students who have well knowledge and enough experience.

I have gathered enough information and many videos as an example for these two types of observation. One is about an American citizen who have been in Yemen for long time. He is studying Arabic language. He is an example of participant observation who tried to immerse himself in the Yemeni society to know more about their behaviours, habits, and customs. He has entered Islam. But it is indicated from his speech that he is doing a secret research.
The second video is about a British citizen. An Arabic Tv have met him at the street of Old Sanaa. He was chewing Qat as yemenis do. He speaks Arabic good. He is an example of direct observation because he is a joournalist. and trying to gather news. Therefore, no need to immerse him sled in the Yemeni society . I was shocked when I saw this video. This British man was my friend. I have met him alot during the first days of Yemeni revolution. He is a journalist. He worked as an editor for a local English newspaper, Yemen Times, and at the same time was working for the British newspaper, the guardian. His name is Tom Finn.
I hope I can hear from you so soon so that you can enrich my topic. I am going to write to you as soon as I finish my presentation and get access to internet.

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good for you Behnam.
I try to speak English and use it in every day conversation but so difficult when you are not in enviroment .because of that You forget so easy.
for example I have a lot of problem in my grammer and I need someone to correct my mistakes Just do not look at me.
I start learning English about two years ago when I was 16.(Safir Language Academic)
my father is upset that I can not speak English during these two years.
It is close to the June exams and this year I have a university entrance exam.
My mind is too involved and I do not know what to do.
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How can we correct ourselves?

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Hi Maniya,

Many thanks for your reply. Safir institute has knowledgeable teachers. After finishing all courses in Kish institute, I went to Safir institute and took part in IELTS skills courses; listening, speaking, reading, and writing. The courses were really useful.

There is a saying in English, 'if you don't use it, lose it'! It comes true when we consider learning a new language. It is the same for all learners.

Obviously, when writing and speaking, we put some words beside together to make a sentence. We must know that putting words randomly beside together hardly creates a correct meaningful sentence. In making conversations structurally correct sentences are necessary. In other words, knowing grammatical rules is important in making effective conversations. There are many methods to learn English grammar. Self-correction is one of the most effective methods. How can we correct ourselves?

When putting words beside together we must care about some rules. In order to make it clear, let me give you an example from your own post:
Maniya wrote: I start learning English about two years ago when I was 16.(Safir Language Academic) my father is upset that I can not speak English during these two years.


These two sentences are written wisely. The first sentence indirectly mentions to your age. It says that you are 18 now! As you know, making conversations and communications in English is one of the main purposes of learning the English language. The conversation has been made perfectly, since I understood what you meant. However, you may intend to improve your grammar. You can do it-to a great extent- by self-correction, but how?

In the first sentence, you are speaking about something which was done in the past. So the tense of verb must be in past simple. Therefore, It must be 'I started learning English about two years ago.' You can ask yourself, which of the following sentences is correct and why?:


a) I started to learn English two years ago.
b) I started learning English two years ago.


Then you refer to some reference books and see that they are a little bit different, but for this case both can be used. When we say 'I stop(start) to smoke', the action isn't done before stopping. In other words, the action will be done after stopping(starting). However, when we say 'I stop(start) smoking', we are doing the action(smoking in this case).

In the second sentence, your father is upset because of something, so that's better to use 'because' instead of 'that'. Plus, 'can not' is a common mistake. It must be 'cannot'. In addition to these minor mistakes, 'during these two years' doesn't make sense. I guess you mean something like this:


Despite taking part in some courses and practising English for two years, I still cannot speak English well, and this has made my father disappointed in me. Or, ...and this has made my father angry with me!

When we use 'during these two years' we emphasis on the duration of time that the action has been done. In the second sentence, you are, actually, complaining about dissatisfaction with your spoken English. Speaking is considered as the result of your learning. In other words, your father expects you to speak quite well now. Therefore, it is incorrect to use 'during these two years' for this purpose!


I don't mean to correct you. What I am saying is that by spending some time on the structures and considering other possible options we can both correct ourselves, write more effectively and beautifully.

I hope that helps!

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How are you dear friend? I guess I never got the chance to write to you. This is my first time and it is a little bit hard to start the posting since answering your post is a little bit difficult.

So I see you got a presentation. Tell you what? I guess most of my friends from Iran here are too much familiar with the presentations, or at least guys my age!
These lectures have become a routine way of achieving grades in Universities nowadays and they are really good BUT....only if they are presented in a very articulate professional way! Not by a sleepy tired student trying to finish it as soon as s/he can! Do you see what I mean? :-D

Oh I passed research methodology course about two years ago. I new almost all the subjects by heart but unfortunately I never even heard of participant observation or maybe I was not as good at it as I thought I was! :-D

Could I ask you something? What is your major?

Hope to read from you so soon,
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How are you doing dear friend? How is everything going on?

Dear Maniya, I read your post and then dear Behnam's post to you. I was thinking that what I could help you with as an English learner. I am not a very good adviser but there are some stuff which I faced when I was your age and learning English.
Actually I remember my first and worst problem was that why could not I learn which propositions go with which verb! Next problem, why could not I speak fluently and stop pausing after each word I used? You see? There was a lot to go. I could not even write properly! What I thought was that I could NEVER learn them, like really hell NEVER!

Now, I am not as educated or as experienced as Behnam is in teaching or in English but I know something. You are never going to learn a language unless you give yourself SOME TIME! Try to level with your father that in two years you are not going to be a professional BBC news reporter! You see what I am trying to say?

Oh and something else, more than trying to speak, LISTEN! Listen to everything English that is available! Listen and then repeat them to yourself.

It is funny but I had a very fluent teacher in speaking who told me that he used to talk to himself! Alone! He used to bring up a subject for himself so then he thought about it and tried to discuss with himself. This seems a very easy way, right? Because we think of too many stuff everyday and then if we could just spit them out in English, miracles would happen!

Best of Luck dear
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How are you dr? :-D Long time and no posts to you made me miss you so I am finding a little excuse to write to you here.

I was reading your post to Maniya. I still cannot express how much I liked it. You advise people greatly without even making them feel like you are a very knowledgeable person to whom they HAVE to pay much respect, do you see what I am trying to say? No pompous airs! While you ARE that great person!

I always look carefully to learn new tips and hints from you. Thank you for being so inspiring :-)

Hope to read so soon from you,
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Hi Kamelia,
How do you do? I am glad to know you. Please let's start a new page of friendship. I know only more about Behnam. So I am going to take the chance.


Thanks a million for writing to me even if my writings were broken. Since language is way of communication so it doesnot matter. In my opinion, nowadays, those who write free writings are better than those who write formal writnings. I think those mistakes are the one and only which can attract the attention of the reader. What does matter is the idea. If you have an idea and some rules that make you convey it in an understandable way.

Once again, thanks for sharing me your experience. Oh my God, sorry! Take it easy if I said you asked me a question I am tring not to answer. So, it is an obligation for me to answer since it is your first question. My major is Translation plus ..!
I hope to know more about you.
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Dear Behnam &Kamelia
I am grateful for your helpful instruction to improve my language
but I think I can never be like you. }:
You and the other member are very good at talking. {-:
I like successful people in their life and trying to be one of them :oops: .I think Behnam is one of that successful people Who makes life so much attention. ;-)

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How do you do? I am glad to know you! Have a big shout for joining this thread! I am happy to know the forth Iranian Friend. I know only the female ones, Mohsen and Behnam. But my beloved ones, Kamelia and you, I am sorry if I say I know not your gender. Fact must be siad, I have problem in recognizing names whether is it male of female. Since I think there is no rule in the English language to allow you to distinguish genders.

In Arabic, my mother-tongue, I can recognize a person through knowing his name. However, I suffer nowadays from a phenomenon of westernization of Arabic Names. For example, I know the old-male name 'Ahmed, Mohammed, Ali, Hassan', but couldn't recognize these recent names as : ' Barakat, Alawi, Faten, Sa'aoud', though these names are Arabic. The reason is that in every Yemeni area, some name a woman as "Barakat" and the others name a man as "Barakat", depending on the culture of each area. I don't know if there is scientist who can manage this problem.

Your English is very good since you are studying English at an institute. If I am going to compare your English with mine, as a university-student of English, it will be shameful on me. I am not flattering with you. This is what I see. Dr. Behnam has a good experience in struggling to get the language.

For me, I was studing English at an institute.I think, it is nothing if we compare the institute's syllabus with the university's curriculum. That is to say, academic teaching is the real teaching. Of course, there is something its name is "Distance Learning" that makes us rich of enrolling universities. In my opinion, universities are like paper-books during E-books. Paper- books has its beauty and characters.

That's it!!!
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Today, Our doctor was absent of his lecture. I was so nervous all night till I dreamed that I was doing my presentation in front of my doctor. It was hard for me since I saw myself nervous. I think that is a natural feeling every one have it if s/he is about to do something for the first time publicly, except some.

Now, I have lost that feeling. I am now comfortable. I have decided not to do it again. I hate doing things again. However, I love doing things again in one condition, that is if I fail doing it. So, since I didn't fail doing it, I am going to delay it or choose another topic while I hate alot being fail. I know failure is a friend of successful people but I hate it in my studying.

Of course, every one want to be the first one in everything. Every one want to achieve his goals in order to help his parents and his country. Sometimes I get some laziness. For one year or more, I have been addicting with Facebook. I spend more than 8 hours each day. Please pray for me to get rid of facebook. I spend most of time in politics. This is what made me leave this thread since I was active member in every thread that Behnam was trying to build. He was moving from one site to another untill he has stayed here. He was leaving those sites for some reasons. Anyway, I do love his obstinacy.


To conclude, everyone need to be stubborn in getting his rights and achieving his goals. I think it is the one and only tool that allow us to achieve what we want otherwise we may be eaten by others. We have a proverb in Arabic "كن ذئباً والا اكلتك الذئاب", its translation is:' Be a wolf, otherwise you will be eaten by other wolfs"

That's it!!!
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Re: Let's learn together!

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Dear Kami,

Happy to see you here these days. I check the posts everyday, I really want to write, a looooooot, but I don't know why I don't feel like writing. I've really missed writing long energetic posts.

I'm sorry for being late to reply to your post and questions you had asked me about poem! Honey I love to write about this topic, but I prefer to do this while I'm in a poetic mood!haha :-)

There are times when I get terribly poetic and feel deeply in love! In love with what? Emmmm, different things, different persons.... I love those times,.............

Oh Kami I do love to write about this topic aloooooooot, alooooooooooooot, I miss writing.... but I don't know what's wrong with me...... ~.....

You know, There are bothering thoughts preventing me...

Kami? What has been your biggest loss in life? What's the worst feeling you've ever experienced? If you could change one thing in your life, what would it be?
What do you think is the saddest thing you may experience?

Oh sorry Kami, I was supposed to answer your questions not to ask!

Emmm........ busy mind.... sorryyyyyyyyy

Hope to write to you in a better mood soon,
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dear Naseh
that is kind of you.thanks a lot. :-(
I,m female.
i am so glad to be one of your Iranian friend. ;-)
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Always try to stress doing writing assignments!!! Best Advise I can give any educator.

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Hi Kamelia,

How can I provoke a smart girl like you , no one believe it , you write here like other girls , but I can't ignore that currently you are more active than Elham . It means that writing is like eating a piece of cake for you.
I confess that I use dictionary for my writings, it is not because of having no time to practise , I am not created for memorization of words , but my imaginations is not bad or muses stuff.
A I told you I have never been living in apartment , the house always has been a large villa house for me. I am having some pictures for your consideration from old parts of Isfahan.
Look at this picture

http://mjrd1.persiangig.com/image/amin%20house1.jpg

This is the house of Aminotojjar , It was destroyed about 45 years ago by municipality of Isfahan for establishing a new street which is called Abdulrazagh street . The remain of this mansion is still remain in one side of street .
The house of Aminotojar is famous , he was the father of Banoo Amin , a famous Islamic woman who was buried in old Isfahan cemetery which is called Takht e foolad .This the picture of her shrine.

http://www.iqna.ir/news_imgs/553084_5img243%20L.JPG

In some part of the city the mixture of old and new architecture is seen , look at the following picture

http://www.chn.ir/Images/News/Larg_Pic/ ... 834949.JPG

It is an old lane in which the old houses and monuments are being destroyed , The shrine in this picture is belong to Avicenna , a famous scientist who was buried in Isfahan.
Where was you born ? Did you have experience of living in old house?

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How are you doing dear Translation student? How was your presentation by the way? Oh i wish that went really well.

I am no judge of people's English but I got some bones to pick up with you, first things first, right? Hope you don't get mad at me! :-D Dear friend, you got a lot on your mind and you want to bring them all on the writing page but there is one rule to that. It does not really matter how much you are good at English or not but you have to order them one by one so that the person who reads them gets time to think of them and then either agree or disagree with it, you might want to put some room for them, right? This way, if you keep pouring out the words and then jump from one sentence to another without a good connection, mind you, the reader would be frustrated, confused and then might even have difficulty grasping the real meaning of what you intended to write, do you see what I am trying to say? I really really hope that you do not mind. I am only telling you this as a friend, alright? By the way, I was a horrible writer too. I used to cram my sentences with words and never put a full-stop at the end till the reader gets me! :-D You see?

Anyway, your major is Translation, English to Arabic and vice versa, is it? Mine is English literature. Glad to meet you :-)

Oh problems with Facebook and recognizing names, pretty global these days :-D I got problem with recognizing people from names too, especially these days! They put every name that seems "beautiful" on their children, they don't think of the poor child's future! There was a list that was published recently, it gave you information about the weirdest names that people choose. One had chosen the "Crazy Frog" for her son, now I don't know if the frog has got a positive connotation in their culture but it is really gross, huh?

Facebook, yeah I wish you drive it away. It really is time consuming especially if you got friends with high photographing capabilities LOOOL

Enough talking too much with me :-D

Hope to read from you so soon,
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How are youuuuu dear one? How is everything going on? I hope you are doing just fine.

Oh come on, excuses again? :-( Why do you always have to make me wait to read something from you? Have you forgotten how much I enjoy writing to you? Reading from you? Your posts are highly energetic funny ones which I have always read with utmost pleasure. Oh you cruel girl, so you have to be in a poetic mood now, huh? :-D Ok Ok I give up, you are smart in twisting the matter. Cami is defenseless now, write about it whenever you felt like it :-D

Oh Ellieeee, what has been preventing you from writing? What has upset my dear friend? I know, things happen. Even if the worst thing happened to you, God forbid, then you just have to take it easy. Grief is always there. There is no escape to that, but you have to be strong. The Kami that is writing here has suffered LOTS of terrible stuff, she has cried, grieved, writhed with the pain of some loss in her life, but what can she do? Kill herself? Nope, life goes on. Everyday is a new one. You cover for you loss, make up to your heart, pray that God gives you a new energy and happiness to start all over again. I mean is not life just a circle? It is you who gives meaning to this endless circle!

The biggest loss of my life, hmmm, huge question. It is too hard for me to answer this since it goes a bit to personal matters, but anyway, I will make a general thing out of it. Well actually the biggest loss of my life is the worst feeling that I have EVER experienced, so your two questions go unwrapped with one answer :-D Ummm...for almost a week I felt I was abandoned, alone, life did not mean anymore. I could not talk about it to my friends, my little sister, the loveliest little sister on the whole planet was the only person I could talk to. I was afraid that my mom would even be sad because of me, so the alternative of talking to a parent was a NO-NO one! Uh..but what could one do? Cry till you die? It relieves you for a while but then you see that even the tear drops would not console you. You know what? Here is a little secret, books relieve me like I am born again. I put myself under extensive reading, This loss or terrible experience or whatever your names it happen in a year ago and I remember there were these four-unit courses that I, quite unbelievably, got 20! LOOOL I changed the loss to something more powerful, glorious a bit! :-D

Oh...what would I change? I would turn my life to 5 years ago, erase all the stupid stuff I had done and take another chance. Everyone deserves a new chance, don't they? :-)

Naughty Ellie, you cannot keep me writing like this since you have to answer all these questions plus the poetry stuff. Oh and NO cheating! Your burden would not be unloaded except you start writing :-D

Hope to read from you so soon,
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How are you doing? LOL Ellie told me she is in no mood to write long posts so I guess that is why I am "postful" these days but otherwise she is a VERY faithful friend of this thread. I mean where was I when she used to write and make all the friends here happy with her posts? :-D Hope that she comes up soon :-D
There is something else too, due to the shortage of semester, our professors have decided to put the mid-terms away that is why the happy Cami that you see frequents the PC-room and library these days :-D

Oh and...no it is not that much a piece of cake. I have to use the dictionary too but the lazy kid that I am, I ignore it this easy LOOOOL

Oh Mohsen, you don't know how fun it was examining the pictures here. Actually some days ago I was checking the Tabatabayi ha House (in kashan I guess :?: ) , which was so amusing too.

Thank you so much for the pictures. I really liked them. I am going to ask you something about the last picture, but you have to promise that you would not laugh at me, alright? Is not the Avicenna shrine in Hamedan? :-?

Oh I was born in Gonbad-E-Kavus in Golestan. Do you know the Ghabus-Ebn-E-Voshmgir tower? It is believe to be the tallest brick tower in the world. It feels so good when you watch it so close, it gives you a strange feeling. Or maybe all ancient places do give me this feeling.
Uuuuh...living in an old house, well yes I do have such an experience. Well the house was not as big and as beautiful as yours, I am sure, but it felt so cozy and warm, warmer than these new houses with modern designs. Not that I hate modern or post modern architectural stuff but that I just love the air of those old houses, mansions, huts, whatever :-D

Hmmm...anyway I am no architecture neither an engineer. I don't know about structures at all. I just feel so good watching the old houses and even living in them, with all the hardships they might have. Do you know what made me write about this topic? I see huge cranes and building machines all around the cities everywhere in our country, and with this huge population growth, God knows what will happen in future! And when I see an old lovely house with the garden and fountain and etc. is being destructed, my heart wrenches! Hmm...do you see what I am saying? It simply is sad. Are we on the same track? Or you believe in "extending the city programming" and these stuff?

Mohsen it was so0o0o fun writing to you about it and if I just overwrote about this feeling of mine, you have to excuse me :-)

Hope to read from you so soon,



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A nice article, please read

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How To Make It A Great Day

Have a great day. I say it all the time. It sounds so simple, doesn’t it? My friend Kay always says, “Make it a great day.” This shows others they have power over their circumstances.

The following are 10 simple steps that will make every day a great day.

1. Give of yourself. Help others, go the extra mile and share your gifts and talents. Each day we have limitless opportunities to put others first. Out do yourself today. Commit to helping 5 people. Everyone needs an extra hand. Be the first to offer yours.

2. Tell others you love them. Is there a person in your life that is difficult to love? Yes, that’s the person. Tell them first. Then text your friends, children or parents, “I heart U.” Surprise someone with a handwritten note expressing your appreciation and love. When you think of someone silently whisper, “I love you.” We all need love and many don’t get enough.

3. Be thankful.Finish the sentence, “I want and need to thank __________ for ____________. Now do it. Thank the earth, the flowers, the trees and the air. Thank the trees, the server, the cab driver. Thank the cashier, the co-worker and web designer. Thank everyone who is making the world a better place. Especially thank the most difficult people in your life.

4. Welcome your lessons. Today you’ll face difficult and unpleasant situations, welcome them all. They give you the opportunity to learn and grow. You’ll also have plesant and easy situations. These will teach you joy and appreciation. Welcome them and they’ll increases tenfold.

5. Forgive and let go.Everyone hurts someone. Be the first to apologize. Be quick to forgive and the last to judge. Walk a mile in someone’s shoes. We feel better about ourselves when we go to bed without enemies and regrets.

7. Ask for quidance. Ask to see the truth. Ask for a different perspective. Ask for the wisdom to do the right thing. Ask to see the higher road. Listen to and take action on the guidance you receive.

8. Own your greatness. Know that you are a unique spiritual being born to do great things. Make a difference. Believe in yourself. Take action no matter how small the step. You have a reason for being. The world needs you to do your part.

9. Lighten up and laugh. Grab a happy attitude. Speak happy words, think happy thoughts and do happy things. Look for opportunities to laugh. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Instead choose to have fun.

10. Make a difference in someone’s life today. Give a hug, a hand, a wink or a smile. Small thinks don’t go unnoticed. Everyone is carrying their own set of problems. What we all really want is to love, be loved and know that we matter.

When you’re feeling stressed, grumbling over your finances or complaining life isn’t going as it should remember how easy it is to make each day great. Make each moment count!

What are your ingredients for a great day?
What are you willing to do to make yours great?


http://theboldlife.com/2009/10/great-day/
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Hi my dear Kami,

Oh honey, thanks for your very friendly reply. You are so lovely dear, I like the way you put your thoughts into words.You've got your own way and I enjoy it.

Wow, I was impressed by how you had turned your sad mood to hard-work and got those incredible results. Seems you are very good at transforming one type of energy to another in an effective way! You have learned your Physics lessons very well honey!Good job :lol: :lol: :lol:

Ok , sweet Kami, I promise to write more later. I'm just writing this to thank you for your nice and kind post.

Warmly,
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Hi Kamelia,

We had heavy rain for three days in the afternoons, it was unforgettable days, it looks that we have a fruitful summer,also it sustain some damages, my phone line was disconnected ,because the water penetrated to the line boxes , I had also drops of water which was dripped from the ceiling ,but the ceiling is still firm and stable above my head.
I don't know why Ellie is in no mood , may be she is learning physic , physic is difficult but there is Behnam here to help . I never try the difficulties. I like to be free of compulsion.

Thank for your writing about your birthplace , I never been in Gonbad-E-Kavus ,give me the website address for visiting the tower.
Today I came home sooner , my wife is sick .. and I am in the kitchen, She don't like the outdoor food , so I am preparing a delicious food by ostrich meat.
Have you ever eaten ostrich ? it is very useful for people who have shortage Fe and also have fat and cholesterol in blood ,because ostrich has unsaturated fat.

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Hi
What has happened!!?
My valuable data was stolen by hackers.
may be the hacker is grumpy cat.
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The value for people is the appearance , clothes and money . When I enter a party i see how people are received, the rich people are welcome differently by host and they sit in the best place of the hall. but the ordinary people have no place ,no worth for the host.
In my opinion we should not respect people for their money,.... usually I never say hello to rich people ,because they are proud of themselves , and i like to screw them up.

Please read the following story

Once upon a time in the Iranian city of Shiraz, there lived the famous poet Sheikh Saadi. Like most other poets and philosophers, Sheikh Saadi was not a rich man. He led a very simple life. A rich merchant of Shiraz invited Sheikh
Saadi along with a lot of other big businessmen of the town on the occasion of his daughter's marriage which was to be a grand affair. Sheikh Saadi accepted the invitation and decided to attend.
On the day of the wedding, the host and his family were receiving the guests at the gate. They were ushering all the guests towards the dining hall. All the rich people of the town attended the wedding. They had come out in best of their
attires. Sheikh Saadi wore simple clothes which were neither grand nor expensive. He waited in a corner for someone to approach him but no one gave him as much as even a second glance. Even the host did not acknowledge him and
looked away. Seeing all this, Sheikh Saadi quietly left the party and went to a shop from where he could hire clothes. There he chose a richly brocaded dress which was embroidered in gold on the margins. He selected a fancy turban and a
waist-band to go with it. As he put on the hired dress and looked into the mirror, he found himself a changed person.

With this, Sheikh Saadi entered the dining hall and this time was welcomed with open arms. The host embraced him as he would do to an old friend and complimented him on the clothes he was wearing. On seeing Sheikh Saadi, host
said? And here comes our favorite poet. What took you so long, friend? We have been waiting for you for ages! How good of you to have come. The gathering surely would have been incomplete without your gracious presence! Sheikh Saadi
did not utter a word and allowed the host to lead him to the dining room where other guests had assembled. Tasty dishes had been laid out on grand carpets.
Sheikh Saadi was offered a seat with soft cushions. The food was served in fine crockery and cutlery made out of silver.

The host led Sheikh Saadi by hand and himself served out the chicken soup and the fragrant rice to him. After this, something strange happened. Sheikh Saadi dipped the corner of his waist-coat in the soup and sprinkled some rice on it.
Addressing the clothes, he said: This is a feast for you, you should enjoy it.

All the guests were now staring at him in surprise. The host said? Sir, what are doing? How can your clothes eat? And why should they? To this query, Sheikh Saadi very calmly replied: My dear friend, I am indeed surprised with the
question coming from you?

Aren't you the same person who did not even throw a look at me when I came dressed in simple clothes? I can guess that it is my clothes and appearance that matter with you, not my individual worth. Now that I have put on grand clothes,
I see a world of difference in reception here. All that I can now say is that this feast is meant for my clothes, not for me.
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Dear Friends,

We should not have illuision about others and make an fake image from people. We are all falliable and we should not judge others by feeling. When we face to other and make a relation we get that our image about them is fault ,so it is better to make our world with facts .

Look at the story of a clerk who thinking of getting a reward made him blind.

In a ceremony a king gave his daughter a beautiful diamond necklace. The necklace was stolen and his people in the kingdom searched everywhere but could not find it. Some said a bird might have stolen it. The king then asked them all to search for it and put a reward for $50,000 for anyone who found it.

One day a clerk was walking home along a river next to an industrial area. This river was completely polluted, filthy and smelly. As he was walking, the clerk saw a shimmering in the river and when he looked, he saw the diamond necklace. He decided to try and catch it so that he could get the $50,000 reward. He put his hand in the filthy, dirty river and grabbed at the necklace, but some how missed it and didn't catch it. He took his hand out and looked again and the necklace was still there. He tried again, this time he walked in the river and dirtied his pants in the filthy river and put his whole arm in to catch the necklace. But strangely, he still missed the necklace! He came out and started walking away, feeling depressed.

Then again he saw the necklace, right there. This time he was determined to get it, no matter what. He decided to plunge into the river, although it was a disgusting thing to do as the river was polluted, and his whole body would become filthy. He plunged in, and searched everywhere for the necklace and yet he failed. This time he was really bewildered and came out feeling very depressed that he could not get the necklace that would get him $50,000.

Just then a saint who was walking by, saw him, and asked him what was the matter. The clerk didn't want to share the secret with the saint, thinking the saint might take the necklace for himself, so he refused to tell the saint anything. But the saint could see this man was troubled and being compassionate, again asked the clerk to tell him the problem and promised that he would not tell anyone about it. The clerk mustered some courage and decided to put some faith in the saint. He told the saint about the necklace and how he tried and tried to catch it, but kept failing. The saint then told him that perhaps he should try looking upward, toward the branches of the tree, instead of in the filthy river. The clerk looked up and true enough, the necklace was dangling on the branch of a tree. He had been trying to capture a mere reflection of the real necklace all this time.

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Once again I had a debate with my boss during this week and it was led to a long discussion and finally shouting and anger.
Few days ago he opened the door ,came to my office and told me" I have booked three plane tickets for the next week , there is an exhibition in Dubai for car industries next week ,and I want to visit the exhibition with you and Mr. X. I stared at him surprisingly and told him" excuse me , I am a human ,not a slave .. you should asked me before you booked the ticket , you can go accompany with Mr. X. I don't want to go Dubai , I don't like travelling.
My boss tried to keep his calm ,but when he saw my resistance ,he suddenly roared " My God , look ,people have staff and I have staff , whenever I say something ,whenever I suggest something , he is negative.

And I answered angrilly "this is because you never consult with your staff about your decisions" Are you a king!!?
"An idiot may goes to Dubai in this warm season for visiting a place."I showed my rage by telling this sentence.
I have always discussion with my boss about everything , but today I told him I would go with him provided that he never repeat it and make a decision by himself. Although I know that he never listens to me and me too.
Generally, I am always happy and nimble , I don't need something to refresh me. Specially traveling to some places which are good for people who concern about feasting and drinking. May my boss reserve an Islamic Hotel for me :-o .
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Hi
I should be neutral against my brother 's child , because I like both of them , my brother and his child are dear for me , although sometimes I become very angry about their behavior .

There are moments which I can't intervene to a matter ,because both side has their own rights.

Look at the story of an old man who had two daughters. One of them was married to a farmer, while the other to a pottery maker.

Once old man decided to pay them a visit. He first visited the daughter who was the wife of the farmer and reaching her house, he inquired about her health.
The daughter said: "Dear father, my husband has cultivated a large area of land and if it were to rain, we would be the most prosperous of the entire tribe."

Then, proceeding towards the house of the other daughter, whose husband was a pottery maker, he inquired about her health.
The daughter said, "Dear father, my husband has moulded pots in great quantity and if God were to withhold the rains till his pots dry up, we would be better off than the entire tribe.

As he departed from the house of his second daughter, he prayed: "oh God! Act as you deem fit for, in this situation, I cannot pray for either of them."


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Dear Dr.Bhnam!!!

How are you my friend :-P It has been a long time we didn't talk with you and with my other beautiful friends ,I'm really sorry to you all , during this days I was working for a long time.

Any way now I'm here again !!

I read in the newspaper about your PhD GONGRATULATION!!!! :lol:

Your amazing perseverance as well as your dedication has at last paid off! I know that you can do it because ever since you have started studying I always believe in you.

You now got your PhD and that will be perfect for you as you shine.

You are helpful and great man and you deserve it.

All the best
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Hi friends,

How are you?

I have missed you a loooot. I know that I should be a better friend and write here or chat with you more but believe me, I couldn't, I couldn't find appropriate time to do that. You wont believe how ugly and sad my week was, I call it "Problems Week"!!! :-x

It is not because I have problems, no, not at all. My life was great, I was very happy and I had a peaceful mind until I knew that my three best friends are facing some problems in their own lives and this made me verrrrrrrry sad, I don't know why. But I dislike it when my friends have something bothering them and I can do nothing for them!!! :-( And maybe I was sad because I had experienced their feelings before and I know how much hard they are. :-( :-(

It's really hard to see your dears are suffering, I just tried to be with them as possible as I could and give them an emotionally support. believe it or not but sometimes I had to chat with three complaining friends at the same time! Oh sometimes I said the same sentence for all of them at the same time!!! For example : "Oh don't worry dear everything will going to be OK, inshallah". This is really funny, I laugh at myself! :lol: :roll:

other times, the chat go in a way which hurts me too. For example my friend told me " Oh Amal how did you forget?!" My reply was: " Who said that I had forgotten??! I just used to this.". :-( :/
Uh this is really disgusting and my sadness wasn't usual, it was as if I took all my three friends' sadness and put it all in my heart!!!

Thank god, today one of friend's problem had been solved and she finally could tell her family about the person who she loves and they are waiting her family improvement to get engaged, I am really happy for her.

Now I still have to convince my other friend to forget her boyfriend who left her without saying any reason, he doesn't deserve her at all, he doesn't deserve any minute of her thinking!!! And I have another matter which is bothering me but there is no need to mention it here since you already know it. :-D :-(

Emm, you may ask" Why did I wrote those things here?! And what can you do to me?" Well, you can do nothing but I feel this place as if it was my home and writing here makes me calm and relaxed.

Anyway, I love you a loooooooooooooot and be sure that you are in my mind always and I have never ever forgot you.

Best wishes,
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Kind and soft-hearted!!

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Hi Amal,

It is so nice reading your post. Thank you very much for sharing your feelings with us. It is early morning, I dropped by to say hello to you. I have to go to work.

It is sad to hear that your friends are suffering emotionally. That's common among people, particularly, among ladies to have something to suffer from! Well, women are created to emotionally suffer from men's behaviour and actions. :lol: :lol: :lol:

I've decided not to advise anybody anymore, but it is unfair not to care about my close friend's sadness. Dear Amal, psychologists suggest avoiding negative people. Negative thinkers and people who have always something to nag or complain must be avoided. People, even someone from your relatives, close friends, etc. who have bad impression and are pessimistic must be avoided. If your friends affect your life negatively, you'd better leave them. However, if you feel or you think that you are emotionally strong enough to have empathy for them, that's a virtue.

Anyway, I love reading your post. I'd missed you terribly. Your heart hurts because it is so kind. Your heart hurts because it is on the right place. Your heart hurts because you are a real lady. I wish you all the best in the world.

All the best,
Behnam, 16 June, 2013

P.S. I'd like to say thank you to all friends who have written to me and their posts have remained unanswered. I will compensate your kindness soon.

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Dear my friend Amal

How are you doing

I read your post about your three friends, a beautiful person who has kind heart like you is rare this days.

To be with your friends is a very good thing but don't live their felling, only share with them with your mind only during the chat. After you leave them leave the problems with them.

They always say be good with everybody even if they are not good with you, I don't know why they say that.

But be sure that they deserve your time and your feelings. Sometimes you keep giving someone but when you need him he didn't give you back, I think you have to test your friends.

I have a close friend I used to help him and I didn't ask him for help before, after many years I faced some problems and when I asked him for help they didn't help me at all .

Thank you very much for sharing your feelings with us, that's will encourage me to share with you my thoughts.
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Hi Moroo,

How are things? I hope all is going well with you. The weather is unusually hot in Tehran. The sun is strong and the dust in the air doubles the problem. This is the only thing that I nag about. To be honest, I am even not complaining about the weather. I started this post by mentioning to the weather in order to break the ice.

I agree with you on the way of dealing with people who share their sadness with us. We should learn to share our happiness with others. When you share your sadness you divide it, but when you share your happiness you multiply it! It is morally unacceptable to share your sadness with people.

It was around 8th of October, 2007 I arrived at the Internet to practise English with people. From that time, I have chatted with thousands of people from different parts of the world and made friends with hundreds of them. I've rarely shared my sadness with people. As everybody, I had both sad and happy moments in my life, but I preferred not to give negative energy to others.

In our culture, owl is a symbol of unluckiness. Some people are like owls. Wherever they go, they take misery and unluckiness with themselves. I personally dislike people who keep speaking about their sickness(body problems), sadness and problems.

A colleague of mine used to complain about his difficulties in his life. He used to say; "Oh Behnam, life is difficult. Last night I couldn't sleep. My child kept crying. I had a nasty headache. The neighbor kept making noise....". I used to say, 'well, these things are common among almost all people. I never think of these things as difficulties in life. They are some ordinary things."

Sometimes, you are angry with someone. For example, you have fought with the manager at office. In such cases, speaking about the event isn't sharing sadness. It is just justifying your actions.

Dear Amal must evaluate her talents, capabilities and capacities. If listening to the friends' problems affects her life negatively, she must avoid doing that. However, if she is emotionally strong enough to listen to the friends, without getting affected by their negative energies, she should do it.

people are different. We cannot generalize about them. It is not possible to expect people to behave and think similarly. However, I personally prefer to be a nightingale rather than an owl!

It should be mentioned at the end that I took this subject as an opportunity to write something. To tell you the truth, I'd like to be as strong as mountains to shoulder all the problems and difficulties of people around me. Of course, this is a virtue. Great people are like mountains. They are patient and strong in a way that-for them- ordinary problems are like gentle winds which cannot remove mountains from their places. I am not sure, but I guess in the Arabic language, mountain is male. Females cannot be like mountains. Some of them just can be like hills. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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Dear Behnam

How are you

10 years ago I was agree with you in respect of people who always complaining but after marriage I don't, when I married my wife she used to complain about a lot of things like home work, kids, headache, etc.

finally I told her that I have problems too but I don't like to complain at all, as example now I have stomachache but I didn't tell you.

She replied not complaining is not a good thing, you should tell me about anything that pain you so that I can help you, because if you didn't tell me what is hurting you and during that you deal with me in a bad way I will be angry with you because I don't know the reason for this bad behavior with me.

Another thing when you are angry with me you should tell me the reason of being angry to fix the problem bit by bit, don't keep silent tell the problem become beggar and then you will explode for little thing and then I'll be astonished why you did that.

P.S my wife always convinced me because she always right and I'm always wrong :mrgreen:
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Hi friends,

When I looked out of the plane window I couldn't see the Persian gulf, because there weather was cloudy, a man was waiting for us in the airport and we directly went to the hotel. It was 9 o'clock. We had breakfast as we took a shower and ready to go to the exhibition. From 10 Am to 7 PM we were in the exhibition and this was repeated for three days.

On Friday we had nothing to do except going to Iranian consulate for taking part in Iran president election. The consulate entrance was blocked by Dubai polices. The police asked for people ID documents, check people documents , and people who had the UAE residence permit were allowed to enter to consulate and vote . I told them the I had complete documents ,but I was not a residence of UAE ,but they didn't allow me and many other people who were like me . An Iranian person who had come to Dubai from USA was very angry with UAE police and UAE government , he started to swear the UAE polices. He shouted " every vote of us is an arrow to USA back, So the UAE government which is the USA lackey doesn't allow us to vote." I laughed at his sentence and asked him to be calm, I told him that he might be arrested by police . He was very angry that UAE police was interfering in our affair . He called a person in consulate ,understand that the consulate was under UAE government force and couldn't do anything for Iranian people. Many people came back home helplessly.

On Friday afternoon we came to the market and I bought a cellophane.

The next day we were in Jabal Al for doing some business . That was the last day . I came back to Tehran and today I am at home .

Thanks God the I came back home soon , There was nothing attractive in Dubai for me . I checked time every day to come back sooner.
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Hi Moroo,

Many thanks for your prompt reply. I guess, we are both confused. The definition of sadness is different from anger. The relationship between family members, close relatives, and couples are different from the friendship. It is important to differentiate between them.

We must avoid people who are negative. Negative people spread negative energy, increase stress, and express disappointment. We should leave these people. If it is not possible to leave them we should try to spend less time with them and not to let them get to us.

It is very good to listen with empathy and in a nonjudgmental way. However, we should always ask ourselves what helps us feel better. It is not enough to just respect the feelings of others, we have to show others that we care. We do this through empathy and understanding. Plus, we should accept people's feelings. There are just as valid as our own. Listening with empathy and care, without advising, criticizing, controlling and lecturing people increases our emotional intelligence. However, this is very difficult.

Dear Moroo, today I was discussing the election and the new president with some colleagues. I said, "watching TV, last night my wife said the previous president was better than this newly chosen one. But, I believed they were both Iranian and almost the same."

A friend of mine said; "Behnam, your wife is wise. Good for you!"
I replied; "Oh, if your eyes have caught her, and you love my wife, I am ready to give her to you!" People laughed loudly and my friend became embarrassed. Of course, I was joking. I said it humorously.

You are admiring your wife. That's OK., but it has some advantages and disadvantages. You may guarantee some things(!) by praising her, but its disadvantages shouldn't be denied! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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Hi Mohsen,

How are you doing? I hope you are having a good time. Thank you very much for showing great determination in keeping this thread active and alive. So sorry for my inactivity in recent months. I had many things to do, and I wasn't in the mood for writing.

As you have written in the last post, you have been to Dubai. How did you find that city? Would you please mention to some cultural differences? How about the weather and climate? How did you find the people? Cultured and civilized? What was special about Dubai? What was special about the trip? Could you use enjoy the fruits of your hard work in learning English? I mean did you speak English with people?

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Hi Moroo,

How are you?

Thanks for your kind words. :-)
I think we should be good with others even if they weren't good with us because we are just showing our moral and what our parents taught us and inshallah god will reward us.

Thanks a lot for your advise but you know, my friends who I mentioned in my last post are the best and closer people in my life, they have done a lot of favors to me in my happy and sad times so now no matter what I do to them, they deserve more. Therefore I was sad for them.

It's really sad to see your friend who you take strength from is weak. It's really sad to see your friend who you take happiness from is unhappy. :-(

Thank god now things are better and I am doing my best in order to help them. :-D

Please don't hesitate sharing us your thoughts, I love to read from you.
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Ohhhh Hiii Behnam,

How are you?

Finally, I have missed your words and advices. Thanks for everything, in fact I get your words and maybe you are right with them, my friends' matters caused problems to me but they -the problems- are all tolerable and I shouldn't ignore my best friends for them, you know, what if I was the only hope they had? My presence may help them a lot as you helped me in the past. :-D {-;

Sometimes we just need someone to listen to us and support us. In fact I will be a bad friend if I just left them in their bad times. Moreover, those negative effects or bad impression have made me a stronger person. ;-)

Anyway, how was my impression on you when I was an owl? :lol:

Seriously, you are strong as you said, right? So how was your feelings when I kept nagging about my old story? Did you stay normal or you became sad for me? Emm, did you forget everything after we end the chat?

Oh Oh Behnam, I have some new news and they aren't bad :lol: but you know sadly I can't share them here! {-: SO sadly happiness can't multiply! :lol: I will tell you about them when we chat together. {-;

See you and thank you again.

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Hi Amal,

I am happy that I have got the chance and opportunity to write to you. I really love writing to you and reading your posts. You are a wonderful friend, and I am really proud of you. Thank you for being my friend. That's a great honour for me.

Dear Amal, at that time you were sad and something was bothering you. You had to complain about the cruelty of life and people. It was normal, because it happened in a short period of time. It wasn't your habit to be negative and to share negative energy all the time. It just was related to your critical situation you were in at that period of time. I liked to listen to you and enjoyed it. However, some people are negative all the time. No matter they are at a wedding party or in a burying ceremony. They are like owls all the time and see the empty half of the glass. We should avoid these people.

Some people keep crying without saying why they are doing it! You decide to help them, to listen to them, or to have empathy for them. They never say what makes them cry. They just cry! A person who was around me for years used to say, "I am sure I won't get married until my dying day. I will die unmarried!" Well, I had the right to ask her/him for the reasons. However, I didn't get any logical reasons. These people are difficult to deal with.

Yesterday, I bought a new car. It is very beautiful. Guess what the colour is? The colour is exactly as the same I am using in chatting and writing on the Net for about 8 years! You see, even the colour I love is known to all people who are around me. This is me, clear and simple, available and accessible. :lol: :lol: :lol:

I wrote about the new car, because I wanted to tell you a story about it. The other day, a friend of mine who used to try to prove that he is sincere and trustworthy, promised to come with me to the company to help me get the car. We made a plan about the time we had to leave the homes, and the possible passes that leaded us to the company safely and quickly. Our final words before saying goodbye were these, "OK. Behnam, just call me in the morning when you want to leave home. I will come with you to help you with the delivering process."

In the morning, I called the friend, but he was at work! He said, "Behnam, come to the office. We can go to the company from the workplace!". He simply broke his promise!

I changed my decision and went to the company on my own. He called me and said, "I am waiting, why don't you come?", I replied, "Thank you very much. You were supposed to wait for me in the morning at home, not at office! I am getting the car. I shouldn't have asked you to come with me. I was wrong. Thank you for not coming. You gave me a very big lesson. You reminded me and highlighted the importance and the accuracy of an old saying which says 'Eat the flesh of your..., but don't ask the butcher for meat'! This is an Azerbaijani saying. It is impolite, but meaningful. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Leave the people around you, even the parents if they are breaking their promises and affecting your life negatively. We shouldn't let negative people play with our emotions and feelings. They have no right to come closer!

Oh something else. Tomorrow this time I will be sitting for an important English exam. Please pray for my success. I haven't studied and practised sufficiently. I am not fully ready for the exam. {-: {-: {-:

All the best,
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Hi Behnam,

Oh congratulation on your new car! I am really happy for you. :-)
I love it toooooooo much, the color is lovely and it is Behnamish! :lol:
Oh when are you going to take me for a trip? :lol: {-; :geek: :roll:

I love the blue color which you use in writing but I prefer black for cars. {-;

Oh by the way, write to me about your exam whenever you finish it -tomorrow :lol: - I wish you the best and I am sure that you will pass it with high marks inshallah.

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Hi friends,

How are you? I hope you are fantastic. Although the weather is hot, there are many fresh fruits in the market. Thanks to summers we can eat fresh fruits, because in other seasons they sell us frozen vegetables and fruits. My wife has bought some tomatoes which were round and bright; shining like the sunset. I said those unripe tomatoes were picked and kept in freezers. They seemed nice, after slicing one of them up, we fond the inside of it green! Well, ripe fruits cannot be kept in freezers. They put unripe watermelons and tomatoes, etc. in cold places to sell them at the time that the lack of them in the market causes a dramatic increase on their prices!

Oh, I am digressed. On the morning of today, I had TOLIMO exam. TOLIMO is the Iranian version of TOEFL, because the questions and sections are exactly as the same as in TOEFL. Its name is different, and the money that candidates pay is much less than TOEFL price too. By the way, the receiving certificate is only valid in Iranian universities, not anywhere else.

In front of the entrance door, there were some people from both sexes. They were supposed to open the door at 7:30am and to start the exam at 8:00am, but they simply didn't follow the written rules. You know, in some nations rules and laws are just beautifully written on papers, they are not followed and cared. Some candidates came to me and asked me if it was my first time or not that I was taking the exam. They wanted me to share my experience with them, but unfortunately it was my first time. The majority of them were PhD students at different universities. We were four people that broke the ice after a while. After sharing some basic information about each other, we started criticizing the authorities, because they didn't open the door on time. Little by little, the discussion crept into political issues that I always hate! One of them said, 'Iranian people are two-faced and thieves. They are famous for these two characteristics in all over the world!" At this moment, I remembered our friend Mohsen and his reaction, "How are you going to write these things in the thread?", I said to myself. :lol: :lol: :lol: Anyway, I am doing it.

The person was trying to tie these two bad characteristics with the government. I disagreed and said, "According to the history, those two manners have been with Iranians from the binging of the life in Iran. With the exception of 100 years in Achaemenid Empire era mainly at Cyrus the great time(You can google 'Cyrus cylinder' to see how important Iran has been thousands of years ago.), evidence claims that those bad manners can be found throughout the history of Iran, in all eras. This is maybe because of the geography and the kingdom way of ruling of a country for thousands of years. I personally believe that a habitual behaviour becomes gene and transfers from one generation to others."

One of the candidates was studying Genetics. He disagreed with me. He said genes are the same. They don't change. They only transfer from one generation to others by marriage. I asked him some questions. He couldn't answer! I don't want to make you bored.

After getting in and sitting on the chair, I found out that the hanging clock was asleep! Oh my God! The same story again. How am I going to manage the time? When I was sitting for PhD exam, the clock was asleep! Apparently, 'asleep clocks' has become an epidemic in Iran. It shows that Iranians don't care about time! :lol: I complained about the stopped clock and they tried to find a AA battery, but they didn't find any!!! :lol:

The exam was terrible, because the sound quality was awful. I couldn't recognize even one word! I thought I had hearing problem, but after the exam I found out that all candidates couldn't understand the listening section, because the sound system was terrible. The voice wasn't clear at all. Listening section had 50 questions. I answered them just by chance!

There were also 50 questions in Grammar and structure section. Those were simple. I answered them quite well. Although reading section was difficult, I could manage to answer to 25 questions out of 50 questions! Why? Well, the time for reading section finished. I had to listen to ridiculous listening section! I wish I devoted all the time of listening section on reading articles! Listening was a total waste of time! :cry: :cry: :cry:

1) Grammar and structure: 50 questions. I answered quite well.
2) Reading: 50 questions. I answered to 25 questions.
3) Listening: 50 questions. I answered to none of them.

I am going to register again. Next time, I will forget listening section and will distribute its time on reading section. I am one hundred percent certain that even native English speakers cannot understand the listening conversations, because the sound system was really awful.

Oh, dear Amal, I followed your order and took some photos of myself and the new car. I emailed those photos, to all friends of course, yesterday. Did you receive them?

All the best,
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