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The nightingale is singing!

Posted: Mon Jun 24, 2013 7:24 am
by behnam
Hi Amal,

How are you my kind friend? I hope all is going well with you. Nightingale, thank you so much for singing beautifully again. :lol: :lol: :lol:

They know that the sound system doesn't work properly, but they don't care. It sounds unbelievable? Yes, unfortunately that's a bitter fact. People don't shoulder their responsibilities.

Yes, the car was good for dreaming, but I didn't dream you! Maybe later! Maybe, you didn't like to come in my car! Who knows! :lol: {-: :lol: {-: :lol:

It's nice reading your posts. Please write more.

All the best,
Behnam, 24 June, 2013

Read the previous page!

Posted: Mon Jun 24, 2013 7:26 am
by behnam
Hi again Mohsen and Maniya,

Please read the previous page. I've replied your posts.

All the best,
Behnam, 24 June, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Mon Jun 24, 2013 7:28 am
by Maniya
My God, I'm crippled by stress

DR behnam

You know yourself better dont ask me. :oops:

No pain no gain!

Posted: Tue Jun 25, 2013 4:14 am
by behnam
Hi Maniya,

It is not a proper time to advise you, but an English proverb says 'no pain no gain'. These moments are painful, but they will turn into sweetness in case you succeed in the exam. I guess mothers who give birth normally- without surgical delivery; cesarean procedure-are kinder, because the pain makes the result sweet. The more pain, the sweeter! I am not sure, I just took a guess. {-: :lol: {-:

I wish you success in the exam.

All the best,
Behnam, 25 June, 2013

Some sentences were left!

Posted: Tue Jun 25, 2013 4:41 am
by behnam
Hi again Maniya,

.....
Just visualize you are working as a specialist in a hospital and they keep saying-in the speakers- 'Khanome doctor Maniya be bakhshe jarrahi'. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Or visualize you are studying medical science; hanging a bag on your shoulder, putting a think book-in English of course-on your chest, and wearing high-heeled shoes which makes those special womanish noises; tigh, tagh, and drawing all boys' attention. You'll fly over the clouds in the sky. :lol: {-: :lol:

However, be careful with being too much arrogant and saying 'NO' to boys who propose marriage, because as time goes by, the ripe fruit goes soft! This is a fact, because a flower is beautiful for a short period of time! There are many single specialists in hospitals who are rich and famous, BUT they suffer from a sincere care or attention. They often keep dogs or cats as pets. When a dog wags its tail, they get surprised! They say: Oh my God! What an understanding caring loyal dog! He wags its tail for me! Yes, if you ignore boys' care, you will be finally punished by the world's natural laws :lol: {-: :lol:

I wish you success in the exam.
Good luck!

All the best,
Behnam, 25 June, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Jun 25, 2013 5:18 am
by Maniya
DR BEHNAM

yeah you are right in this situation i prefer to get marry with some one but who??? :lol:
wh0 wants to be my husband? {-;
I dont want to go to college I want to get married I prefer to be a good wife . :mrgreen:
ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I take my kids to the natural way.its better than surgery but i dont want to go university.

DOCTOR What is your opinion on my marriage? :lol:

Marriage!

Posted: Tue Jun 25, 2013 10:58 am
by behnam
Hi Maniya,

Thank you so much for replying promptly. You are giving me the excuse to write. These days I feel I am energetic! :lol:

About marriage, I don't know what to say. But, I know something strange has happened. Some years ago, when I was a student at a famous high school in Tehran, one day a week we were off. We had to work somewhere one day a week. It was called 'Tarhe Kad'! There was a girl in our neighborhood who was studying at secondary school(guidance school). I was in a youngish love with her, but it was quite difficult to meet each other. Believe it or not, on the off day, I had a chance to see her going to school, because on other days I had to go to school earlier than her. When meeting her, my heart used to work quickly. How sweet those moments were! How sincere our youngish feelings were! How pure we both were! I cannot describe them as they were.

Two weeks ago, I was waiting for taxi in Tajrish Square in Tehran. Three girls were in the queue. Speaking and laughing loudly, they were checking their make up in a public place! Unbelievably, they were frequently teasing boys! The boys were silent, but the girls were teasing them! Surely, something has happened! :lol:

I am writing something in Azerbaijani. I won't translate it into Farsi or English. If someone is interested in it, they can find a way to understand the meaning.


من عاشق قيز قيزا
اوغلان قيزا قيز قيزا
اوغلان قيزسا تز سونر
واي اوندادي قيز قيزا


As your posts represent, your attitude towards marriage is positive. It will certainly help you marry soon. It is reasonable, because according to some experts, our thoughts become some body languages.The body language becomes signals and we transfer the signals in the space around ourselves. People receive these signals and decode them. This is done automatically and unconscionably. When someone has positive thoughts about something, his/her body creates some relevant body languages which are detected by the opposite sexes. Even the brightness of the skin color of a positive person differs from that of a negative one. Why? Well, our thoughts affect the hormone level in our blood, and it affects the brightness of the skin color respectively. Things are connected to each other magically and mysteriously. {-:

I wrote those things to say that positive people have more chance to succeed than negative ones. Your posts say you are a positive person, so don't worry. Rely on God and follow his rules and instructions. You will be successful in every aspect of life. I wish so!

All the best,
Behnam, 25 June, 2013

Our eyes must bleed instead of tears!

Posted: Tue Jun 25, 2013 11:38 am
by behnam
Dear friends,

Yesterday, I saw the video clip of recent mindless violence in Caro, the capital city of Egypt! As it was clear in the video clip, some fundamentalist Sunni people killed four Shiite people and insulted their corpses! Why? Is it logical to kill someone because of his/her belief and idea? How do they justify their actions?

When I was reading the history of Ashura in Karbala, I used to say: It is impossible! How could those Arab people kill the grandchild of prophet Mohammad and rode horses on his corpse? I used to accept the history with some doubts. However, yesterday, after watching the video clip, I came to terms with the bitter fact that politics close people's eyes and make them blind. History is a great teacher. It helps us understand the present time better, because it is the reflection of the past. People haven't changed. We have the same needs and desires that thousands of years ago ancient people had.

Shiite and Sunni are two main branches in Islam. They haven't got ideological differences. They have got some political differences. For example, in Shiite people's opinion, Ali; Prophet's son-in-law, had the provable right, merit, and competence to become the leader. I think this political view is one of the most important differences between Shiite and Sunni. Other stories are mostly created by storytellers from both sides to convince each other!

Anyway, disappointing things are happening in Syria, Egypt, and some other Arab countries. It seems they have forgotten the main enemy. Now, Islam is against Islam! Who benefits? That's obvious even to children!
}: }: }: }: }: }: }: }: }: }:

That's the maximum degree of sadness someone can show on EC. But, wise people must cry blood!

All the best,
Behnam, 25 June, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Jun 25, 2013 2:54 pm
by Maniya
Hi my dear doctor
I'm glad you gave me the confidence. :-P
that is your poem? :lol: I understand Turkey as well as you but this poem, what does it mean? :shock:
I've been in love before :oops: You know who I love? :~:
ساسی مانکن really.
I had all his posters and photos . :-D


and about your video clip i can say this kind of war in the Arab earth cause the past.
you know they used to kill our prophet because of politics.As you say (Ashoura)
thier killed many innocent people.
some of them not belief in Emam Ali and they are use to say Emam Ali doesnt Emam and He was Caliph.
look at Iraq. How Many years that there is a war?
or Palestine.
Their ground is cursed }:
I heard that a clerical said those land does not have any time to relax and never cant find it.

Tips for a Successful Relationship

Posted: Wed Jun 26, 2013 2:49 pm
by behnam
Having a good relationship can be tough to maintain for many couples. However, there are some things you can do and tips to learn to maintain a successful and happy relationship. Here are several tips to keep your successful relationship going for years to come.

1. Spending Quality Time Together: One main tip for having a successful relationship is spending quality time together. If you never have time for each other, then you both start to wonder, why you are together in the first place. Make it one of your main priorities to spend at least a couple of hours together a day. Even if you both work, this is a crucial attribute in a relationship. Make time for each other.

2. Setting Goals: Setting goals and making plans for the future can be a key in having a successful relationship. This shows that you are both in it for the long run. Think about where you both want to be in five years. Do you both want kids? Do you both want to build a new home together? These are questions to bring up, if you are both in it for a while.

3. Be Intimate: Being affectionate and passionate in a relationship is a strong point for a successful relationship. Having intimate times throughout any time of the day is a great thing to do when making the relationship work. Running out of physical connections can lead to problems in a relationship. Therefore, for a successful long-term relationship, keep the intimacies going.

4. Be Supportive of Each Other: Be supportive of each other. Never judge each other, and hold blame. Remember that you are a team, never enemies. In order to be supportive of one another, root for each other daily.

5. Be Their Best Friend: Not only should you love your partner, but you also have to like them. Being in a successful relationship means that you have to be there best friend. Becoming friends first always helps to evolve into a long lasting relationship.

6. Trust Each Other: Trust is essential for having a successful courtship. You always need to have trust in your relationship in order to make it work for a long time. When there is no trust, is when you should worry. This could be an ugly feat to have in any relationship. Always put trust in each other. Jealousy can ruin a relationship in an instant.

7. Love Yourself: In order to have a successful relationship, you must love yourself first. You simply cannot love anybody else unless you have love for yourself. Having confidence and being secure with yourself is an important factor, when wanting to love someone else. If you are secure in yourself, you can be more secure in your relationship.

In having a successful relationship, you just have to roll with the punches, and take whatever you both are dealt. If you both stick together, there is nothing you both cannot handle. Be grateful you have each other, and always be caring. Taking in these few tips can make it all worth having a partner you can spend your whole life with.


Extracted from the Internet.

All the best,
Behnam, 26 June, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Thu Jun 27, 2013 1:23 pm
by [amal]
Hi friends,

How are you?

I have missed you all. :-(
This is just to let you know that I am very well but sadly I can be with you because there is no electricity...
We had spent 3 days without electricity!!! I am verrrrrrry angryyyyyyyyyyyyy. Oh my god!! I am angry not because it's off but because I have promised my friends to be with them then I couldn't come, now they are calling me a bad girl!!! :cry: :cry:

Swear to god, I was dying to be with you, I was dying to know your news but I couldn't!!!

Anyway, I hope you are all fine.
Wish you the best,
Amal

Re: Our eyes must bleed instead of tears!

Posted: Thu Jun 27, 2013 1:33 pm
by Mohsen
behnam wrote:Dear friends,

Yesterday, I saw the video clip of recent mindless violence in Caro, the capital city of Egypt! As it was clear in the video clip, some fundamentalist Sunni people killed four Shiite people and insulted their corpses! Why? Is it logical to kill someone because of his/her belief and idea? How do they justify their actions?

When I was reading the history of Ashura in Karbala, I used to say: It is impossible! How could those Arab people kill the grandchild of prophet Mohammad and rode horses on his corpse? I used to accept the history with some doubts. However, yesterday, after watching the video clip, I came to terms with the bitter fact that politics close people's eyes and make them blind. History is a great teacher. It helps us understand the present time better, because it is the reflection of the past. People haven't changed. We have the same needs and desires that thousands of years ago ancient people had.

Shiite and Sunni are two main branches in Islam. They haven't got ideological differences. They have got some political differences. For example, in Shiite people's opinion, Ali; Prophet's son-in-law, had the provable right, merit, and competence to become the leader. I think this political view is one of the most important differences between Shiite and Sunni. Other stories are mostly created by storytellers from both sides to convince each other!

Anyway, disappointing things are happening in Syria, Egypt, and some other Arab countries. It seems they have forgotten the main enemy. Now, Islam is against Islam! Who benefits? That's obvious even to children!
}: }: }: }: }: }: }: }: }: }:

That's the maximum degree of sadness someone can show on EC. But, wise people must cry blood!

All the best,
Behnam, 25 June, 2013
Politics is running by USA , money supported by Saudi and Ghatar , operation by mercenaries or idiots .
The process of Taliban and Afghan government reconciliation is on agenda , Poor Afghan people who should recognize the Taliban as a legal opposition. When Karzai avoid speaking with Taliban , he has been threat by a big explosion which was occurred near his palace a few days ago. Now Karzai has been given up , He can't resist against USA 's will

Topic maybe Interests

Posted: Sun Jun 30, 2013 7:11 am
by Moroo
Today I want to share with you a topic maybe it Interests some of you

Do you think success depends on which of the following:

Qualifications, effort, luck, what God has written.

All of us have examples of people who don't have qualifications although they are in a good position in life, like singers ,actors, managers in companies and business, and when you are trying to find the reason for him of being success you will find that they have nothing.
Like Shaaban Abdel Rahim he is well known singer in Egypt although his voice is very bad, the lyrics of his songs has no meaning, wears like parrot, when he talks you think that he is insane.

In business you can find a boss of big company doesn't have any qualification to make him reach this position.

Do you think hard work and determination will lead any on to what he need. :?:

Really I don't know, I'm confused. :roll:

Do anyone have different opinion?

All the best

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Mon Jul 01, 2013 12:36 am
by [amal]
Hi Moroo,

How are you? I hope you are enjoying your time.

I want to say that I am very sad about what is going these days in Egypt, it's sad to see Muslims are fighting against each other.
On the other hand, I am proud of Egyptian people because they are very brave and when they want something, they ALL go to streets and ask for it, they are united and love each other.. I wish our people do the same one day! :-D

Anyway, let me write about the mean topic of this post now.. First of all, I want to thank you about this interesting and important topic.

In my opinion, being successful depends on the person himself and of course about God willing.
For example, a lot of people have all the qualifications which are needed to success but they aren't successful just because god doesn't want. meanwhile, others have nothing but they become very important..

There are something very important should be mentioned too, That here in Arab's countries, no matter what a person has, if he doesn't know someone important in the cov, he can't achieve anyyything. :-D :oops: :roll:
It's shameful but this is the truth..

For example, my uncle was the best student at medicine univ, his marks all were full. However, they gave the scholarship for a girl who know nothing, neither in medicine nor in the univ!!!!! Therefore, my uncle left everything and went to America. In America, he continued his study then a director of hospital came to his house and asked him to work there!!! Do you see the difference?!
In Arab countries they want there OWN benefits. Meanwhile, in America they try their best to stick to the scientists and the doctors in order to achieve a public success and the country benefits!!

Emm, about Shaban Abd Alrehem, emm, I don't like him a lot and I don't like his personality.
Maybe he didn't get his success easily as we think but of course his luck helped him a lot. Once I saw an interview with him on TV and he explained how he published his first cassette.. He said that everything happened by accident when he was driving his car, he saw a producer so he threw the cassette to him from the window. When that person heard it, he called him back! See, his luck was the key of his success!

In the end, I want to say that we should do our best then achieving success or not is God business.

Wish you the best.
Amal

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Mon Jul 01, 2013 9:47 am
by Moroo
Hi Amal how are you :-)

Hope you, your family and all Syrian people are safe :-D

I would like to say In respect of what is happening in Syria, really I don't know which side is right Bashr's side or the opponents.

Maybe the opponents is right, even if they are right there are hidden hands out of Syria support them for mean reasons not for Syrian people to be better, like what is happening in other Arab countries now.

You mentioned that "being successful depends on the person himself and of course about God willing".

Do you know, I agree with you especially about the part of God willing because I believe baby who born for rich family or poor family it's because of the God willing.

About what happened to your uncle, I think that's always happening in any country or institution that holds a head of the country or institution corrupted, when the head of anything is corrupted he will choose the assistant is corrupted too and when the assistant who is corrupted will choose his assistant is corrupted too and so on.

And because the hierarch is bad the boss doesn't question his assistant about what he is doing.
In America and good countries they have system and no one can break it.

In a country the police was suspect of a boss in the government that he is a spy but the police can't find any evidence, after he resigned one of them asked him personally "we were sure that you were a spy but we can't find the evidence" he replied my job was very simple, when candidates apply to a job I choose the worst one that’s all.

You know that’s the worst things that destroy any country.

At the end I would like to express my admiration about what you have written at the end of your post, it's totally true.

Wish you all the best.

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Jul 02, 2013 4:47 am
by Mohsen
Hi ,

Oh my God , I am always in dilemma, in daily life dilemma happens for us , may be I choose a wrong way, from investing money or help people. Once I had invested my money to buy the shares of a company , the company was bankrupted and I lost my money , Once a beggar asked me for help , I didn't help him because in my view he was not a real beggar but a fraudulent .
When we save a life ,it is possible that we made a mistake , look at the following story

Some of children were playing, They were playing exactly on the two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.
The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?
Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make...

Good Luck

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Jul 03, 2013 5:05 pm
by Elham

"Let's learn together " is not just a simple name of a thread to me. It means much more, much more!
When I think of it, I remember many things, many many. I remember the first time I came across it on net, the first post I read on it, the first impression...I remember many people, many friends, many serious and emotional posts, many sad and happy memories.... I remember the friendships, love words, smiles, tears, conflicts,heart to heart words, brotherhood, sisterhood,support,hatred ......

I remember our friends , Veronica, Mohsen, Amal, Andrew, Marina, Rosa, Julia, Chinese friends, Turkish friends, Iranian friends, Arab friends,.....

I remember dear Behnam and all his great posts, strong ideas, naughty jocks,assertive manner, nice sense of humor and gentle feelings.

Oh and I remember myself, Elham. I remember what influences being a member of this thread has had on me.
It relaxed me to express my thoughts and emotions here. I loved to write my head and heart out in English in 'Let's learn together'. I remember my posts about the God, Mother, childhood,hijab friendship,rain and snow,summer and winter, spring and autumn, love and hatred, and many many other things.
I miss it, I DO MISS IT. :cry: :cry: :cry:

In one hand,for some reasons I can't continue writing in my lovely thread, on the other hand I can't leave it simply without any word cause here's important for me. I'm not like some of our previous friends who left us without any simple explanation or goodbye, disrespecting us! Once I told Mohsen nothing can prevent me from writing in here unless death since I love to practice my English and express my ideas here, but I never thought about other reasons that can prevent me!

You may ask what this reason is and want me to be clear.I give you right. Unfortunately,dear Behnam and I are not friends anymore, and I'm afraid my presence and my words bother him, therefore I prefer not to write here anymore. I behaved too rudely to him and made him regret his friendship with me. You know, it's very sad to understand that we've made mistake making friend with somebody and recently dear Behnam came to this conclusion about me. It's one of the saddest regrets one can experience and dear Behnam did. :-( :-( :-( I apology to him for making him feel sad and regretful. Although I love this thread and writing in it, I have to stop annoying him more and leave "Let's learn together".

I could leave here without any word, I know my absence doesn't change anything and even nobody noticed it, but I wrote this post just because the thread means a lot to me and I hated to leave it as if it's sth unimportant, cause I do have feelings towards this thread and all my memories.

I try to tolerate not writing here but I'll always read your posts and enjoy them. :-)

Wish you all the best,
Elham

Let's learn together! ( AS FEMALES )

Posted: Thu Jul 04, 2013 8:31 am
by Moroo
Hi my beautiful friends,

I Hope all of you are fine.

These days I'm trying to find a good site to chat to practice my English and I didn't find any good one. :-(

Really I didn't use to chat before. mmm I think I tried to chat using ICQ many many years ago but I didn't continue.

When I tried to chat these days using sites like English Club chat room or other sites, although these sites manly for people who would like to practice English. I have found something very strange for me that I would like to share with you.

When I tried to communicate with someone ( M or F ) after some words they stop writing to me :-( I don't know the reason :roll: , maybe because my subjects are boring, when I followed those people who stopped writing to me I found theme would like to chat about fiddling subjects, at least to me, as well as they stop writing with me without saying anything :-x

mmmmm :roll:

Finally I found something make them like very much chatting with me. :idea:

Guess what !!!!

I used A female name :twisted:

Now a lot of them trying to chat with me and I choice. :lol:

But unfortunately Males only

For me its ok.

Now I have many friends :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

All the best for you all

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Jul 05, 2013 12:41 pm
by [amal]
Hi Elham,

How are you?

This place isn't just somewhere to write in. It has our heart, it is our home.. And here we are all as a family. Brothers and sisters may fight and become sad with each other but they always return to THEIR home no matter how the fight was big, they forget everything and stay together with each other.
You know Elham? I started to hate this place, I even don't come here anymore because I know that you aren't here and I can't write to you or that you wont answer me, therefore, why I should come?! Today I was surprised! I didn't believe my eyes when I saw your name! Then when I read your post, your words broke my heart! :cry: You are leaving the thread, your home!! Why???!!!
Honey, I don't think that Behnam has ever wanted that, right??
You who kept this place running and I don't think that Behnam would deny this thing sincce YOU who insisted him to make another "Let's learn together" after the old one was closed! Remember Behnam?? Uh!

In the past, we had a promise, I am sure that both of you -Elham and Behnam- still remember it. We promised each other that we will stay together FOREVER no matter what happen. So in life we faced a lot of bad things, we became sad with each other but then and because our love is more important than anything, we became friends again, we forgot our pride for something more valuable. So what has changed now?! Please both of you think of your sweet memories together, think of the things you passed together. Do you think that all those things are meaningless??!!

Dear Behnam, I am not trying to change your mind but I -as a friend- dislike to see you BOTH are wasting such a great friendship, this really breaks my heart! :-x :cry:

Dears, you know that you are the most important people in my life. If there is something I am proud of the most in my life then it would be our friendship. Please please think of this matter very well and don't waste it, don't let me lose the most valuable thing. :cry:

Wish you the best.
Amal

I am Back!

Posted: Fri Jul 05, 2013 2:25 pm
by behnam
Hi friends,

How are you? I hope you are great.

I am back! I took a one-week trip to Azerbaijan; my mother and fatherland. I really really really enjoyed it. Many interesting things happened to me. I will tel you about them.

I'd missed you terribly. In many places, when I was making tea with wood-burned, handmade stove which is built by three big pieces of stones, I remembered you and your words. I wish you had been there with me.

I am pleased to say that I went to the Fort of Babak Khorramdin In Kaleibar. Oh my God! How can I describe my feelings when I saw the Babak castle for the first time! It was great, wonderful, amazing, fantastic, inspiring,...

Let's see what Wikipedia has said about it:


Bābak Fort or Babak Castle (Persian: دژ بابک or قلعه بابک‎ Azerbaijani: بابک قلعه سي ), also known as the Immortal Castle or Republic Castle, is a large citadel and National Symbol of Iranians on the top of a mountain in the Arasbaran forests, which is located 6 km southwest of Kalibar City in northwestern Iran. It has been identified as the stronghold of Bābak Khorramdin, the leader of the Khurramites in Azarbaijan who fought the Islamic caliphate of Abbassids. Iranian Azarbaijanis gather at Babak Castle during the first weekend in July for the annual commemoration of Babak Khorramdin.


For more information please google 'Babak's Castle'. Be careful with the Address that Iranian sites have given.Many of them have said that the castle is located in Ahar, but it is wrong. The castle is placed in Kaleibar.

After getting home and taking a shower and some rest, I got connected and checked the thread and my mailbox. A few minutes ago I finished reading dear Amal's post(I do mean Amal is a dear friend of mine). However, she hasn't mentioned that I was on a trip, whereas I'd emailed and informed her about the trip!

Elham's post is funny and full of misjudgements, some false assumptions and misunderstandings that all caused her to jump to the wrong conclusion. I expect her to give further explanation to the readers about the story which is gone between us.
Elham wrote:You may ask what this reason is and want me to be clear.I give you right. Unfortunately,dear Behnam and I are not friends anymore, and I'm afraid my presence and my words bother him, therefore I prefer not to write here anymore. I behaved too rudely to him and made him regret his friendship with me. You know, it's very sad to understand that we've made mistake making friend with somebody and recently dear Behnam came to this conclusion about me. It's one of the saddest regrets one can experience and dear Behnam did. :-( :-( :-( I apology to him for making him feel sad and regretful. Although I love this thread and writing in it, I have to stop annoying him more and leave "Let's learn together".


I want her to tell the full story of what has happened, and then let others judge about it. Of course, she has the right to keep it secret from others, but she hasn't the right to speak about my probable regret without mentioning to the things that might make me regret. This is really unfair.

From some points of view, forming a friendship is like planting a small fruit tree and watering it in the hope that it will give sweet eatable fruits. Although a tree with uneatable bitter fruits forces the gardener to admit that all his efforts had been in vain, he never removes the tree from the garden because he doesn't like to see any place of the garden empty! In other words, although the tree doesn't produce eatable fruits, it makes the garden look green! This is valuable and undeniable.

All the best,
Behnam, 5 July, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Fri Jul 05, 2013 5:42 pm
by Elham
Dear friends,

Just to remove dear Behnam's worry about your judgement I have to give an explanation.
As I told you. I behaved too rudely too him, I don't want to mention it here, I feel ashamed, but I made Behnam shocked by my rude and unbelievable behavior, I made him very sad. He didn't expect Elham to behave this way. He had right to regret, even if I were him, I would make the same decision as he did! Every wise person would do the same. Just as he explained, the fruit tree is unable to give sweet trees, it's dried! :-( So there's no any other way but to remove it and plant a new fruitful tree on behalf. There are special trees for decoration and making the environment green.

Anyway, after what happened I feel ashamed to attend here anymore. I do accept the fact and the result of my behavior. :oops:

Thanks, bye


PS. Dear Amal, thanks for your kind post. Don't mix things with each other. I was just a simple member of the thread. My absence doesn't change anything. Go on writing and be sure that I read them all. You are a very green and lovely tree with very sweet fruits, the garden needs you. :-)

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sat Jul 06, 2013 4:53 am
by Shaghayegh
Hi. I'm Shaghayegh, from Iran,24. And I'm software engineering student at university of Tehran. Honestly, I've wanted to join here because I'm trying to learn English, but very soon i realized here has a most friendly atmosphere and i really like it. So I hope to can be a good friend and member like others here. At first i realized a big number of members are Iranian. am I right?

I want to speak a little about my English abilities (if there are :)) ). So , I'm good in reading and listening. But ,as you see, I'm terrible in writing and speaking! One reason of this is I've been reading books and sources in English and there wasn't any pressure on me or even need to learn speaking and writing. I've learned a lot of words and studies many English texts, but I can't use them when I need them! When I decided to continue my studying in USA, I've realized that my inabilities in English speaking and writing are big shortage to success :( . Now I'm trying to improve my English writing in anyway i can. I study and exercise about 8 hours of day.Listening to musics, watching movies, using English learning programs etc. Very soon I've understood that the best way to learn English is just trying to involve myself in speaking with others.

Finally, excuse me there are errors. Still I can't speak fluently. But I'm trying to improve that.
In next post i will speak more about myself and now I'm reading the rest of posts here to know better you.
Thanks a lot.

What do we do?

Posted: Sat Jul 06, 2013 12:29 pm
by behnam
Hi Elham,

How are you? I hope you are fine and the hot weather of Najafabad doesn't bother you, but I guess it does since you have always complained about Najafabad's hot weather and praised Azerbaijan for its cool weather in summers. I also dislike hot climates.

Elham, sometimes it happens, we make a mistake but we don't try to find a way to correct it. Our selfishness(something inside us; I don't know what it is, maybe stubbornness is a proper word for this purpose) tempts us to give some insensible reasons for our actions or decision. Giving incorrect reasons or making faulty logic results in further mistakes.

Elham, this thread isn't mine. I am a member of this thread. You are also a member of it. This thread belongs to people who write and read the posts. Therefore, it is wrong to let our personal problems influence our decision.

Elham, you know that many times I have decided to leave the thread, even to leave the Internet, but the right of people who are hidden and follow the posts( who are somehow spiritually, mentally, emotionally, etc connected to me and my posts) has stopped me from leaving.


I am sure, if I stop writing, or if I leave the Internet, you will become extremely sad. You are a good example. Other people have the same feeling about you and your posts. Therefore, there are some people who have emotional involvement with you. You should not let your selfishness or stubbornness hurt others' lives.

If you still follow your brother's advice, I advise you to continue writing. As I said above, many people follow your posts regularly. Do not impose emotional sanction on them! It is cruel to humanity to make someone lose hope!

The tree isn't dry! It has produced uneatable fruits, but there is a way to modify the tree! Ask your father for that special action; like tree surgery(in Farsi it is Peyvand zadan). :lol: :lol: :lol:

In my analogy, the tree is green and useful(not dry). Do not change my words! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

All the best,
Behnam, 6 July, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!( AND ALWAYS )

Posted: Sun Jul 07, 2013 10:49 am
by Moroo
Dear my beautiful friends Behnam and Elham

I'm not here for a long time but I feel all of us are family, it's sad to see beautiful friends like you both are not going to be friends anymore. :-(

I really don't know what had happened, but I have a story that happened to me maybe it can help.

I had a friend of mine and he was my cousin as well, we were very close friends during 35 years ago, we were two members of four close friends, we used to go out with each other etc…

Eight years ago I had a fight with him, in this fight I was very angry and I said very bad things and I insulted him.

The reason of this fight wasn't because of the ethics or other important things like that.

During those eight years I tried to call him and said to him that I'm really sorry, it's the first time for me to make you angry and we all do mistakes, please forgave me. but till now he refused to accept my apology.

because of him the situation now, we become two separated groups and we won't become one group again.

In my opinion I did a mistake but this mistake is nothing comparing with our situation now because we lose each other and he and I can't find another good friends like us.

What I want to say sense the problem not because of mainly things in the personality it can be fixed, we are human we all do mistakes and we will always do.

Hope I made my idea clear {-:

All the best

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Jul 07, 2013 1:20 pm
by behnam
Hi Moroo,

Many thanks for sharing your experience with us. I agree with you about our human-related faults and destructive emotions. We all make mistakes. That's OK. to make mistakes. Nobody should blame someone else for making mistakes, because nobody is perfect. However, some actions cannot be considered as mistakes. Therefore, mistake is a delicate matter, and it has many definitions.

A mirror is expected to reflect our face back. This is the main purpose of building a mirror. Imagine you buy a mirror from the market but it doesn't shows your face, or the picture isn't clear. This mirror doesn't work properly, or it doesn't function well. Therefore, this mirror has got some faults or defects. Faults and defects are different from mistake. The mirror just does not come to your expectations. In this case, the matter isn't forgiveness or forgetfulness. Something is against your expectations!

A tree should either give eatable fruits or make shadow, or give some greenness(some beauty) to the garden. When it is dry, it must be cut down! It doesn't work properly.

Fortunately, in our case(Elham-Behnam friendship), we both work quite well, but not completely well. At least we make some shadows, or we have some green leaves. Therefore, a wise gardener should not cut us down. :lol: :lol: :lol:

I believe, when someone doesn't come to our expectations, we must leave him/her, even though the person is our sister, brother, father or even mother! In other words, a dry fruit must be cut down, no matter it is apple tree or orange one!This is cruel, I know, but I do believe in it, and fortunately or unfortunately, I practically follow this policy in my life. Many people have told me that this way of thinking is wrong, but I haven't cared about other people's view on this matter.

In your case, I don't know what has happened, but I guess not only is your cousin's heart broken, but also it is smashed. The pieces are too small to be glued to each other. To put it another way, in your case, the problem isn't occurring some cracks in his heart, it is maybe smashing his heart into pieces. It won't work, even though you glue the pieces. It is maybe totally damaged. }: }: }:

I am in a hurry. I have to leave quickly. I didn't check the post. I hope my mistakes are not too many!

All the best,
Behnam, 7 July, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Jul 07, 2013 1:28 pm
by Maniya
hi

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Jul 07, 2013 2:12 pm
by Mohsen
Dear Friends,

During the last week I had not a regular life. There were three wedding ceremony which I had been invited ,and my life was changed, influenced by these ceremonies. One of them was a friend of mine , and the two other weddings were my relatives, My wife 'brother have a son and his son got married, my sister has a daughter who got married. My niece ceremony was the most important for me , and I was in my sister house for three days ,I was receipt by delicious foods ,different color sweet things and fruits.
Before interring to Holy Ramadan month ,it is a rush hour for wedding ceremony. Many couples try to hold their wedding ceremonies before Ramadan .
It also took time to think, consult for purchasing three good gifts for three couples of brides and grooms. The meeting I had with my wife was not effective for buying a gift and finally we bought gold with different values.
Sometimes living differently is enjoyable and it is worth to pay gold for it.

B.Wishes,
Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Jul 07, 2013 2:20 pm
by Mohsen
Dear Elham,

My feeling about virtual world is different , the virtual world (forum ,chating,) is like a game ,we should attend it and enjoy it , it is not a place to be ashamed , to be bother , to be angry.
Off course as a Muslim I feel responsibility for what I say, even in a chat room, but I never been ashamed if I write rudely ,or write something insulting. If I make a mistake , I will instantly apologize for my mistake.
Please don't make your decision sensitively , I have a fellow citizen in this forum , you are my only hope who are able to resist against Azarbyjan,please don't leave me alone :cry: .

Waiting for you
Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Jul 07, 2013 2:51 pm
by Mohsen
Dear Behnam,

Nice to hear that you enjoy you trip to your hometown. A good weather in north and visiting beautiful sceneries increased your morale to enjoy your life.
For the garden and the trees, A tree is getting dry ,because of bad soil , If we change the soil or fertilize the soil ,the try will be save . So it needs time, and we should give a chance to tree .
Your policy against people who doesn't come to your expectation is really a big mistake. Do you want to cut down your oppositions. God bless your wife, if she can't meet your expectation.
Being patience against a person who doesn't meet your expectation is the best policy , particularly people like parents and relatives. If you are a Muslim, you are not allowed to behave your own feeling. You have to obey your Islam instructions.
I don't know what happen between Elham and you. What she had done that she has decided to leave the forum. When Elham says she is ashamed of her wrong behavior , it is enough for a girl like Elham and she should come back.

B.Wishes
Mohsen

A warm and friendly welcome to Shaghayegh!

Posted: Sun Jul 07, 2013 7:03 pm
by behnam
Hi Shaghayegh,

Welcome to this thread and thank you very much for joining us. About the history of 'let's learn together!' and its members, it should be said that the first post was written by me on 7th of December 2007 on a site named http://WWW.English-at-home.com. The thread was really successful, because many people from different parts of the world were posting in it, and interesting topics were discussed by the members. The posts were gathered by Elham in four books(in PDF format) and uploaded on http://WWW.scribd.com. You can go there, search and easily find them.

After four years, we had to leave the site. We moved from English-at-home to another site and continued writing, but the site was isolated. After about one year, we moved to this powerful site. Many people for different purposes were reading and posting, but little by little we lost some of them. Some ladies got married and now they are busy with their families and personal matters. Some men went to university, and some people gave up learning English. {-:

Happily, some of us are still here. We are still practising. I hope you will participate actively in discussion and will make the atmosphere of the thread more friendly and nicer.

Your English is excellent. You write effectively and beautifully. Congratulations! I hope we will help each other with improving our English skills.

I hope to hear more from you.

All the best,
Behnam, 7 July, 2013

P.S. You can find some information about me on the first page. If you need more information about me just let me know. Please do not hesitate to share your ideas, experience, and points with us. I would welcome any advice or suggestions with open arms.

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Sun Jul 07, 2013 11:30 pm
by [amal]
Hi Shaghayegh,

How are you?

Welcome to this thread.

Oh it is very nice to meet another Iranian lady here. In fact you are very kind and helpful people.
When I came to the internet my main aim was learning English then I met Behnam and Elham. They helped me a lot with my English and we'd become best friends. So it was like killing two birds with one stone. {-;

I am sure that this forum is a perfect way to improve your English so thanks for joining us and I hope you enjoy your time here.

Wish you the best.
Amal

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Mon Jul 08, 2013 6:24 pm
by Elham
Hi Mohsen,

Thanks for your words but presently I've made the right decision.

What? Resistance against Azerbaijan?????? I don't get. I love Azerbaijan and Azerbaijani people. What and why should i resist again?!

By the way, dear Behnam isn't making mistake about friendship. We make friends cause we gain sth from this relation, friends are different from family members. we don't owe them and there's no strong emotional connections between friends as there are among family members. When the relation doesn't meet our expectations why should we continue?
Behnam is right in this case. Please don't blame him.

B.wishes
E.

P.S. Dear Behnam, thanks for your post. But it's not like what you said, my absence doesn't change anything. You kindly exaggerated about it! :-) Wish you success and happiness.

What do you mean?

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 4:45 am
by behnam
Hi Mohsen,

Thanks for your posts. You are one of the great and effective members of this thread.

I didn't get the point in your message to Elham which was as a piece of advice! Could you please explain it?

We are thinking about a dry tree in a garden. What should we do with that? We are not speaking about the reasons which have caused the tree to become dry. Answer me frankly Mohsen, what should we do with a dry tree in a garden?
Mohsen wrote:During the last week I had not a regular life. There were three wedding ceremony which I had been invited ,and my life was changed, influenced by these ceremonies. One of them was a friend of mine , and the two other weddings were my relatives, My wife 'brother have a son and his son got married, my sister has a daughter who got married. My niece ceremony was the most important for me , and I was in my sister house for three days ,I was receipt by delicious foods ,different color sweet things and fruits
Mohsen, regardless of your controversial posts and comments during our 5-year friendship on the Internet, only this paragraph is sufficient for an individual to take a wise guess about your personality. You are a self-loved person! I am a selfish and self-loved person too, but your level of narcissism is higher than that of mine. :lol: {-: :lol:

I wonder how you two Esfahani people are going to beat an Azerbaijani man, since as you know; as everybody knows; as the history says; as it is obvious from the history of Esfahan, Safavi kings who were originally from Azerbaijan made Esfahan famous. If your are proud of Naghshe Jahan square, for instance, it has been built by Safavi kings. :lol: :-D :lol:

Mohsen, forget beating Behanm, you cannot! :lol: :twisted: :lol:

All the best,
Behnam, 9 July, 2013

Patience is a virtue!

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 4:55 am
by behnam
Hi Elham,

How are you? I hope you are very well. You are well aware of my opinion about friends and their importance. I am not exaggerating at all. You are one of the most important, effective and valuable people in this thread. Please keep on writing regularly and don't punish yourself and us. By the way, time is a great healer; emotional pain will grow less as time passes. Be patient my kind sister!

All the best,
Behnam, 9 July, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 8:26 am
by Mohsen
I wonder how you two Esfahani people are going to beat an Azerbaijani man, since as you know; as everybody knows; as the history says; as it is obvious from the history of Esfahan, Safavi kings who were originally from Azerbaijan made Esfahan famous. If your are proud of Naghshe Jahan square, for instance, it has been built by Safavi kings.
Dear Elham,
You see what I mean by saying resistance against Azarbaijani , I believe what dear Bahnam say is not right. What we have in Esfahan is from Safavi kings is wrong idea ,may he got this idea by reading forging documents . He should read the history books , Buildings in this era were built by Shaikh Bahaie and Mirdamad.What I heard about Shah Abbas greatness is that Shah Abbas made his child eyes blind . What Azarbaijanian did in Iran history is giving the half of Iran territory to the enemy in Ghajar era. :lol: :cry:
What do you think Elham ? Please help me to clear this point for Behnam.
waiting for your prompt reply.

Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 6:52 pm
by romana
Hi everyone,

I'm Romana I wanted to improve my writing through joining this thread. I find this thread so interesting and the members are very helpful. I am from Philippines, although English subject is part of our educational curriculum I still find it difficult to use it in writing and speaking as well. I am wishing to improve my skills in writing and speaking as this is so essential in my daily living. Please help me everyone to reach my goal. I would be very much appreciated if you correct my grammar and spellings. Thank you.

All the best,
Romana

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 10:35 pm
by Shaghayegh
Hi Dears Behnam and Amal.
Thank you very much for your hospitable kindness. I think and hope we can be good friends.
Behnam;
I have some dramatic stories about my internet and specially forum activities too. I don't if you know about forum.persiantools.com. I've been an active member there and had many friends. Yesteryear, under pressure of government , administrator decided to close many popular and even scientific ,historic ,art ... threads and ban many users. by this many valuable posts and threads has been deleted:( , and as more important , I've lost some of my best friends:((.
I've shifted my activities to some other forums but after months I couldn't make friendship like persiantools. I despaired and left all forum activities.
After months because I've decided to continue studying abroad, I've been searching for English learning resources and found this site by chance.And I surprised! Now I'm happy for friendly speaking here without censorship.And I promise I will be here ever I can if this site be alive and even I married:))
And dear Behnam I know that my English is terrible :)) Specially about tenses. But I'm really trying to improve my English abilities. I request you to tell me any error in my writings. I'll be so grateful for your helps.
Amal;
I'm happy to see Iranians who interested in English Learning here too. We can understand and help ourselves better than other nations.can't?
Thank you so much and Can I ask about your sex?

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 10:56 pm
by [amal]
Hi Shaghayegh,

How are you?

Thanks for your reply, I love to read from you.

I am female from Damascus- Syria.

I understood what you wrote to Behnam because we had have the same feelings. After closing the old Let's learn together, I've lost a lot of friends. However thank god that my best friends are still here with me. -Elham and Behnam- :roll: :-)

Today is Ramadan, I want to wish you happy days. can I ask you about your custom. Do you make special food for the first day? Do you visit your relative?

Wish you the best.
Amal

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Tue Jul 09, 2013 11:08 pm
by [amal]
Hi Friends,

How are you?

May This Ramadan be as bright as ever.
May this Ramadan bring joy, health and wealth to you.

May this Ramadan bring in u the most
brightest and choicest happiness and
love you have ever Wished for.

Wish you a very happy Ramadan Mubarak

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 6:40 am
by Shaghayegh
Shaghayegh wrote: administrator decided to close many popular and even scientific ,historic ,art ... threads and ban many users.
Correct : and to ban
Shaghayegh wrote: I've shifted my activities to some other forums but after months I couldn't make friendship like persiantools.
Better and correct: I shifted My activities to some other forums but after a while I realized I can't make friendships like PersianTools.
I've been searching for English learning resources
Correct: I was searching
:oops:
Any more error? {-:

Happy Ramadan!

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 7:34 am
by behnam
Hi friends,

First of all, I'd like to take this opportunity to tell all Muslim friends a friendly 'Happy Ramadan!'. I am not in a position to give speech about Ramadan like what religious men(clerics) do, or to write poems about it. I merely say: Please pray for me-remember me-when you are breaking your fasting. In particular, I ask female friends for praying, because God is male and then puts them first. This is what we men do when interacting with ladies. A man is often kinder to women than to other men. Why? I don't know! Do you think God take men and women equal? Give reasons! :lol: :-D :lol:

Dear Mohsen, I am not good at history, but some facts are not deniable. I believe, Safavi kings provided opportunities to genius people to design and manage important projects like 'Aleeghapu', 'Monarjonban', etc. in that era. If you have a different view, I respect it. By the way, I am originally from Azerbaijan, and as everybody, I am proud of my motherland. It is your right to be proud of yourself and your city too. As a matter of fact, every individual MUST feel proud of his/her nation, otherwise s/he cannot justify having a sense of belonging to the culture in a society.

Dear Shaghayegh, so many thanks for replying. Neither am I exaggerating, nor am I paying some nice compliments to make you happy. but your English is excellent. You write beautifully and effectively. As far as I'm concerned, your English is much better than that of mine. It is so nice to know that you like this thread and have intended to stay here until the time the site is active. How long have you been learning English? I hope we will help each other make good progress in our English skills.

About the forums, I am sure every site has its special rules and limits. For example, politics and religion are two heated topics. I speak from a bitter experience. Discussing political and religious issues always creates tension, hostility, and hatred which all result in unnecessary fights. We should avoid them. In addition to that, writing about immoral things is not acceptable. Degrading a nation, a culture, a person, a ceremony, an opinion, a philosophy, etc. is not reasonable. However, giving constructive criticism is appreciated and valuable.

There is a fine line between criticizing and degrading! In many cases, it is quite difficult to mind the line between them. I am personally one of the careless people when it comes to minding that delicate line between constructive criticism and degrading! This is one of my thousand weaknesses!

Dear other friends, please join us in discussing some topics. I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,
Behnam, 10 July, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 7:46 am
by Shaghayegh
[amal] wrote:Hi Shaghayegh,

How are you?

Thanks for your reply, I love to read from you.

I am female from Damascus- Syria.

I understood what you wrote to Behnam because we had have the same feelings. After closing the old Let's learn together, I've lost a lot of friends. However thank god that my best friends are still here with me. -Elham and Behnam- :roll: :-)

Today is Ramadan, I want to wish you happy days. can I ask you about your custom. Do you make special food for the first day? Do you visit your relative?

Wish you the best.
Amal
Hi Dear Amal;
I'm fine and what about you?

Unfortunately I receive very bad news from your country ,everyday :-( I really hate of war and I think war is the final solution for human problems. Albeit if I can, I would say that it is not a human being solution. When I see mans killed by mans for no reason or foolish reasons and among this foolish war just many many innocent men,women and children are died and again will die, I depress and sad!

However, Dear Amal;
How about you city and neighborhood?Is there safe?

I really wish to see your beautiful and ancient country again in peace. War just leave ravages and full of corpses ceremonies.

It is good to correct ourselves!

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 8:01 am
by behnam
Dear Shaghayegh,

Hi again. I just saw your last post. You have suggested some new structures and corrected some mistakes. That's wonderful! However, they are not some big mistakes. Many of them are matters of taste. You convey a message in a sentence, but someone else may use other words to transfer the same message.It is only a matter of taste! They aren't mistakes.

For example, in your sentence
Shaghayegh wrote:administrator decided to close many popular and even scientific ,historic ,art ... threads and ban many users.


I prefer this one:
The administrator decided to close many popular and even scientific ,historic ,arty,etc. threads and banned many users.

Or even this simple one:
The administrator closed some popular threads and banned many active users!

Meanwhile, more importantly, it should be mentioned that 'popular, scientific, historic' are all adjectives, but 'art' is a noun, so according to a famous grammatical rule-I guess it is named parallelism, or something like that, I am not sure about the name-it is not correct to use 'art'. It must be an adjective like 'arty'!

Dear Shaghayegh, I am not correcting you. I just wanted to say that being too much obsessed with our sentences and words may have negative impacts on our skills. It may discourage us! Keep on writing. The most important purpose of learning a language is making conversation and communication with people. You are doing it perfectly.

All the best,
Behnam, 10 July, 2013

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 3:47 pm
by Mohsen
Dear Muslim friends,
Happy Ramadan to you.

The Holy Quran refers to two features of fasting in Ramadan: mental and practical. These are like the wings of a bird on which man flies through the heavenly space of spirituality in the month of Ramadan.

B.W

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 3:48 pm
by Mohsen
Dear Behnam,

During the history, Esfahan has been the cradle of civilization, if you look at the history of Jameh mosque which is the largest mosque in Esfahan , it comes back to 1000 year ago . Esfahan never had army to defend against aggressors. It was a city like Switzerland , attractive and land of art and industry. So many people desired to capture this beautiful city and during its long history many kings attack to Esfahan. I agree with you that everybody should have feeling about his city , but I am an exceptional , because I am not interested in a piece of lands , because the lands thoroughly were made by God ,also nobody has option to be born in Esfahan or Azarbiajan or Japan or USA ….

Good Luck
Mohsen

Re: Let's learn together!

Posted: Wed Jul 10, 2013 3:53 pm
by Mohsen
Mohsen wrote:Hi ,

Oh my God , I am always in dilemma, in daily life dilemma happens for us , may be I choose a wrong way, from investing money or help people. Once I had invested my money to buy the shares of a company , the company was bankrupted and I lost my money , Once a beggar asked me for help , I didn't help him because in my view he was not a real beggar but a fraudulent .
When we save a life ,it is possible that we made a mistake , look at the following story

Some of children were playing, They were playing exactly on the two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the rest on the operational track.
The train is coming, and you are just beside the track interchange. You can make the train change its course to the disused track and save most of the kids. However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?
Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make...

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally. But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?
Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was. This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

How To Develop Motivation in Your Everyday Life

Posted: Thu Jul 11, 2013 9:21 am
by behnam
How To Develop Motivation in Your Everyday Life

First, let's find out what the importance of motivation exactly is. Simply put, motivation is that driving force which allows you to achieve your goals and go after what you want in life. If you want to change your personality for the better, get a promotion at work, start a new habit, be a better person who is part of the community, become a better parent for your kid – all of these things would be easier accomplished if you are properly motivated.

As long as you have a strong personal motivation, you can achieve almost anything that you want from life. However, remember not to fall into the trap of looking for short-cuts to achieve your goals. It's perfectly fine if you have to take a long and winding road to achieve your goal. It will be an even sweeter victory when you finally achieve your goal, knowing that you have had to go through several hurdles to attain it.


Developing Motivation in Life
So how can you develop motivation in life? If you wish to accomplish a goal – be it short-term or long-term in nature – how can you find it in you to be properly motivated? Here are a few things that you should keep in mind:

1. Focus on one goal at a time.
This should be partnered with the fact that you should make sure that your short-term goals all help in achieving your long-term goals. One of the best ways for you to focus on one goal at a time is to make a diary of your goals – yes, write it down – so that you will have a visual representation of the things that you want to achieve rather than letting it all get lost in your head.

2. Get rid of all the distractions which might prevent you from achieving your goal.
Let's say that you are a writer who wants to finish a book. How can you type away on your keyboard one chapter after another if there are many distractions surrounding you like television, friends chattering away or the lure of aimlessly browsing through the Internet. In order for you to stay properly motivated, make sure to steer clear of any distractions.

3. Completely block out any negative influences.
Finally, make sure that you are completely blocking out any negative influences in your life. If you feel that you are being distracted from your goal by a problem which does not seem to go away, ask yourself what you can do to eliminate such a challenge and distraction in your life. Maybe you are being sidetracked by negative thoughts and feelings because you have no faith in yourself. Addressing the root of the problem, completely blocking out any negative distractions and thinking purely positive thoughts is the best way for you to develop motivation in your everyday life.

Constantly Work At Motivating Yourself
A goal doesn't do you much good unless you are constantly thinking about, and working towards it. Write down your goal and place it somewhere that you will see it at least 1-2 times a day. If you have a weight loss goal, place your written goal beside the refrigerator. If your goal is to get physically stronger, place your written goal near your weight bench so you can see it when you are working out. This provides the extra motivation you need for those tough days.

A great way to motivate yourself with business goals is to put up a motivational quote beside your desk. Do a Google search for motivational quotes, then print off one and put it inside of a picture frame. Keep it there and read it occasionally throughout the day. Whenever you find yourself not looking at the quote anymore, or it no longer provides the inspiration that it once did, it's time to change the quote. It's perfectly OK to change this quote every 1-2 weeks for maximum motivation.

Some people make a habit of reading their goals either when they first wake up or right before they go to bed. When you read your goals upon arising, you may begin to notice that you find yourself doing more each day to help you reach your goals. Similarly, when you read your goals right before bed, you may notice that you wake up with good ideas that you never thought of before.


Final Thoughts

It's important to have motivation in your life. Motivation is the fuel that you need to continue striving for your goals. Soak up motivating things in your life on a daily basis. Read great books that will inspire you. Read great blogs that are both positive and informative.

It's human nature to have days where you aren't very motivated. However, if you continue to surround yourself with positive and motivational things, those days will be few.
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All the best,
Behnam, 11 July, 2013

A suggestion!

Posted: Thu Jul 11, 2013 11:26 am
by behnam
Hi Shaghayegh,

How life is going? I hope all is going well with you.

I rarely correct someone, because I am a learner myself. However, from your posts it seems you are thirsty for English grammar. I don't mean to correct you, not at all, because as I've said before your English is much better than that of mine. In order to motivate you and to give you some excuses to write more, I'd like to write something about one of the sentences that you have corrected it yourself. Let's have a look at:
Shaghayegh wrote: I shifted My activities to some other forums but after a while I realized I can't make friendships like PersianTools.
Firstly, 'shift' is often followed by 'from' and 'to' in formal writing! we shift something from somewhere to somewhere else. Or we move from one place or position to another.

Secondly, all verbs are in the past simple tense, but one of them isn't! Therefore, 'can't' must be used in past simple form; 'couldn't', because you are speaking about something in the past. By the way, being unable to make friends in other forums has been temporary, so it is not a fact. Therefore, using 'can't' does not suit your purpose.

Thirdly, friendship often collocates with 'form', 'develop', cement, establish, spoil, and so on! For example, 'Spending several weeks on holiday together has cemented their friendship.'

Finally 'like persianTools' doesn't make sense. Use 'Like' in comparisons followed by a noun! For instance, 'a car is not like a bicycle'. In your sentence, you are comparing two actions; making friends on different forums, but 'like' doesn't compare those actions. All in all, my suggestion is this:


I shifted My activities from PersianTools to some other forums, but in a little while I realized I couldn't make friends in those places as I used to do in PersianTools.

That is my suggestion, but I am not sure whether it is wrong or right.

Dear Shaghayegh, we seldom correct each other in the thread. However, in order to make you participate in discussing, I wrote something about one of your sentences. I hope this won't make you annoyed. I really hope so!

All the best,
Behnam, 11 July, 2013

Everything you do matters!

Posted: Thu Jul 11, 2013 2:55 pm
by behnam
Everything you do matters!

In a world of six billion people, it's easy to believe that the only way to initiate profound transformation is to take extreme action. Each of us, however, carries within us the capacity to change the world in small ways for better or worse. Everything we do and think affects the people in our lives, and their reactions in turn affect others. As the effect of a seemingly insignificant word passes from person to person, its impact grows and can become a source of great joy, inspiration, anxiety, or pain. Your thoughts and actions are like stones dropped into still waters, causing ripples to spread and expand as they move outward. The impact you have on the world is greater than you could ever imagine, and the choices you make can have far-reaching consequences. You can use the ripple effect to make a positive difference and spread waves of kindness that will wash over the world.

Should the opportunity arise, the recipient of a good deed will likely feel compelled to do a good deed for someone else. Someone feeling the effects of negative energy will be more likely to pass on that negative energy. One act of charity, one thoughtful deed, or even one positive thought can pass from individual to individual, snowballing until it becomes a group movement or the ray of hope that saves someone's life. Every transformation, just like every ripple, has a point of origin. You must believe in your ability to be that point of origin if you want to use the ripples you create to spread goodness. Consider the effect of your thoughts and actions, and try to act graciously as much as possible.

A smile directed at a stranger, a compliment given to a friend, an attitude of laughter, or a thoughtful gesture can send ripples that spread among your loved ones and associates, out into your community, and finally throughout the world. You have the power to touch the lives of everyone you come into contact with and everyone those people come into contact with.The momentum of your influence will grow as your ripples moves onward and outward. One of those ripples could become a tidal wave of positivity.

All the best,
Behnam, 11 July, 2013

The Emotional Bank Account!

Posted: Thu Jul 11, 2013 3:13 pm
by behnam
The Emotional Bank Account

When it comes to improving and maintaining our relationships with others, Stephen Covey's metaphor of the Emotional Bank Account is probably one of the most powerful ideas ever created for the development of interpersonal relationships. If you've never heard of this, it basically means that anyone with whom we have a relationship with, whether it be our coworkers, family or friends, we maintain a personal "emotional" bank account with them. This account begins on a neutral balance. And just as with any bank account, we can make deposits and withdrawals. However, instead of dealing with units of monetary value, we deal with emotional units.

The emotional units that Covey speaks of are centered around trust. When we make emotional deposits into someone's bank account, their fondness, trust, and confidence in us grows. And as a result our relationship develops and grows. If we can keep a positive reserve in our relationships, by making regular deposits, there will be greater tolerance for our mistakes and we'll enjoy open communication with that person. On the contrary, when we make withdrawals and our balance becomes low or even overdrawn, bitterness, mistrust and discord develops. If we are to salvage the relationship, we must make a conscious effort to make regular deposits.

This post will discuss Covey's six major ways of making deposits into these Emotional Bank Accounts and how we can avoid making withdrawals.


1. Understanding the Individual

In Covey's book, seven habits of highly effective people, one of the seven habits is "seek first to understand then to be understood". Truly understanding what others are feeling is not always that easy. We must remove ourselves from our egocentric viewpoint and put ourselves into the minds and shoes of others. I say minds and shoes because we must try to first understand the thought patterns and second walk in their shoes or empathize with them.
One of my major faults when communicating with others is, while they are talking I tend to think what I am going to say next. Truly understanding someone requires us to wholly and completely concentrate on what the other person is trying to say, not reloading, just waiting to fire off your response


2. Keeping Commitments

Certainly when we break our promises to others, we make major withdrawals from their Emotional Bank Accounts. However, keeping commitments is not just relegated to promises. It also includes things such as arriving to work and appointments on time, fulfilling our duties, and living up to every word that comes out of our mouth.

3. Clarifying Expectations

There is nothing more frustrating in a relationship than not understanding what is expected of you. Although many of us wish we could be, we are not mind readers. And because each of us sees life differently and has different backgrounds and life experiences, expecting someone to just "know" is not only unfair but completely unrealistic. It's important that the person with whom you are dealing with, knows exactly what is expected of them. Doing this will keep them out of the dark and allow them to relate you confidently, knowing that what they are doing is in line with your expectations.

4. Attending to the Little Things

Little courtesies, kind words and warm smiles are at the heart of the little things that brighten up a relationship. It shows recognition and an awareness of others. It's interesting, but within our relationships, if you want success, it's the little things that really become the big things.

5. Showing Personal Integrity

Nothing is probably more damaging to a relationship, then a lack of integrity. Being that the Emotional Bank Account is based upon trust, you could essentially be doing all of the previous things, but without trust, it is to no avail. Integrity means wholeness, completeness, or soundness. In this case soundness of moral character. Integrity is the rock-solid foundation upon which all successful relationships are built.

6. Apologizing Sincerely When We Make a Withdrawal

Granted, we are all mortal. We make mistakes. That's part of life and learning. Knowing when you are wrong and admitting your mistakes prevents the wounds that you've caused in others from festering and allows them to heal. When appropriate, sincere apology will keep your relationships accounts in the positive, allowing you to maintain the balance that has been created in your application of all of the previous steps.

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I hope you have enjoyed reading this post.

All the best,
Behnam, 11 July, 2013