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Hi Shahrbanu
Posted: Thu Sep 26, 2013 10:49 am
by Kamelia
How are you? How is teaching these days? Oh I read your post right the day you wrote it but unfortunately in the afternoon when I wanted to reply to it I ran out of internet credit so I postponed it to now.I'm so sorry if it took me so long but anyway, I hope that by now you are feeling very well
So let me introduce myself at first. I am from Iran and I live in a little town in northern pat of Iran.But I studied English Literature in a very famous university in Iran in Mashhad city. I actually learned to speak English from when I was 13 years old. I used to go to institutes which teach language in its four skills but they mostly focus on conversation and speaking competency, so to speak! Hmmmm....you know what? I used to teach English as a tutor since I was a little girl, say 15 years old. I taught whoever was eager to read and learn. But this year it is very different, I took part in an institute's entry exam which is mostly the TOEFL and was accepted in the interview section too. So I chose to take two classes, one with adults ranging from 16 to 23 and the other with little kiddos of 10 to 15 ![Very Happy :-D](./images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif)
The experience was awesome, I'd never had a classes like this. I remember I used to teach in dormitory to a great many of my friends at the same time(like a class) too, but nothing is like a facilitated official class with grade numbers and papers
you know what I mean!
And you know what is so good and fun about teaching English? It is that you can use every method you enjoy to spice up the class. You can play music, work with colors, read stories, do riddles, watch a movie or cartoon or even play games. And they all contribute to learning so very well, right?
Now tell me about your students, how many are they? Girls, boys or both? What level is the book you teach? What sort of materials do you have to focus on more? What do you do to reduce the tedium of grammar parts?
Hope to read from you so soon,
The Paradox of Our Time
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 1:40 pm
by behnam
THE PARADOX OF OUR TIME
(Please read this essay carefully!)
A wonderful Message by George Carlin:
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.
Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.
Remember to say "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak, and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
Once again:
Remember, spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Please share this article with all people who are selfish, arrogant, and think they are perfect in all aspects!
All the best,
Behnam, 29 September, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Sun Sep 29, 2013 2:25 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
Thank for your post . This is a fact, and I am wallowing in despair to be far away from my love ones. This my job which spare more of my time.
Very nice to see your writing .that is a signal that you have been released from doctor ,please don't squander more cash on hospital , come back to your sporting manner. I used to see Behnam as sport man.
All the best
Mohsen
Hi
Posted: Sat Oct 05, 2013 12:54 pm
by behnam
Hi to all,
First of all, I'd like to say I've missed you terribly. How are you my friends? I hope you are doing well, and enjoying this beautiful season.
I am going to the hospital 3 times a week to have some exercise like walking on treadmill, bicycling, etc. It is funny, no matter how much and how fast you walk, you are at the same point! It is similar to the life of the poor! No matter how much they work, they are in the dog-house! Apparently, misery is an unchangeable destiny of some people. I don't know, but feel so! Oh, sorry for digressing. I was saying that on even days I go to the hospital. It starts at 8:00am and ends at 9:30am! I don't go to work. I have to stay at home and take rest. I will go to work in November.
In the evening, I have a one-hour walk at the park. I have to lose some weight. I have to change my diet too! My wife does not put salt on the table and only pours a little bit salt into foods. This is what the nutritionist has said to my wife! My wife has to stop frying chicken and potato, etc. in oil. She has to use chicken instead of red meat in preparing foods!
Anyway, my life has changed. I have changed too. I am not the same person. I have lost my accuracy and concentration. My brain does not work like an atomic clock anymore! I know, nobody is reading this line, so, to tell you the truth, it didn't work like an atomic clock before!
Once mullah Nasereddin( a comic person) jumped over a donkey to ride it. Poor mullah jumped from one side and fell down from the other side. He couldn't sit on the donkey's back. He sighed and said, "Oh, my youth you have gone, alas I am old now." He looked around and saw nobody was noticing his failure. Then he whispered to the ear of the donkey, "To be honest, I was nothing in my youth". Now, to be honest, my brain has never worked like an atomic clock!
Oh, something else from my PhD exam. Iranian Measurement Organization(I don't know what they measure, how, and what the unit is; meter, kilogram, sack, bag, buckle, etc.) has announced a report which shows my average(the average of verbal and oral exams) and my rank. My verbal mark was 9007 out of 10000, and my oral mark was 2500! I ranked 21st at the university, while the 20th person is accepted! How funny and unfair it is! They have given me a number(2500 out of 10000) to make me the 21st person, no matter how my talents, answers, abilities, skills, knowledge, etc. were! Now, I must sit and wish the death of one of those 20 students.
If one of them dies or leaves the country, or stops studying for any reasons, I may get accepted! There is some light at the end of the tunnel, but I dislike it.
Let's stop bothering you. Good memories are always flying in the sky of my mind. I am breathing with those sweet memories.
All the best,
Behnam, 5 October, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Sun Oct 06, 2013 1:00 pm
by shahrubanu
I love my friends!
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Sat Oct 12, 2013 6:44 am
by Elham
Dear Shahrebanu,
Many thanks for sharing that Turkish music on facebook. Although I don't understand even one word of it, listening to it takes my soul to another world. As if I have lost sth and it reminds me of it!!!! Ohhhhhh, thanks honey for gifting me this great sense today, for these wonderful tears on my face, for reminding me of my old days, old memories, happy days, memorable hours in the past...
........
I can't stop listening to it... I can't stop my tears... I can't stop thinking and feeling.....
Thanks honey
Hi Ellie
Posted: Sat Oct 12, 2013 9:16 am
by Kamelia
How are you? How is it going?
Listening to music? And alone? Not gonna share it with your friend? Oh Ellie....Ellie
I'm curious, tell me about it too,
Waiting impatiently
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Sat Oct 12, 2013 10:19 pm
by [amal]
Hi Elham,
How are you?
Ohh WOW! I can't believe my eyes!
When I opened the thread and saw you name, I thought that I had made a mistake and didn't read the name correctly, I thought that I was still asleep and dreaming of you!
![Very Happy :-D](./images/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif)
I was too amazed!
Dear Eli, Listening to music is something good. However, when it makes us cry it started to be a bad thing. I really like to hear that you are enjoying your time but I hate it when you cry. please please if listening to music makes you cry, pleeeease stop it!
I know that sometimes things remind us of old memories and days and we hardly can prevent our tears but let's let the past in the past and look forward to the future.
I hope all your days are full of happiness and joy.
Amal
Music isn't optional or selective!
Posted: Sun Oct 13, 2013 7:53 am
by behnam
Hi friends,
It is my favourite season and I am enjoying the special beauty of nature these days. Enjoying something does not necessarily mean doing something or having a particular activity. For me, walking, looking at trees and birds and the shades, breathing the air of autumn, friendly sunlight etc. are all enjoyable.
It is very nice to read your posts. Reading your posts makes me really happy and joyful. Thank you very much for keeping your contact with this thread and friends. There is a saying in Azerbaijani language 'Har zadin tazasi, dustin kohnasi'(هر زادین تزسی، دوستین کهنسی). It means 'every new thing is favourable, but when it comes to friendship, an old friend is favourable'! I couldn't translate it properly. You know, some phrases and expressions or sayings cannot be translated. You lose the meaning when you translate them from native language into another one. This saying is one of them. Anyway, I hope you'll get the meaning.
Amal's style of writing has made me amazed. I am not exaggerating at all. Her way of writing, and the structures she uses in her writings make me absolutely amazed. I wish I knew how she had made such a great improvement in her writing skills. I guess she is reading some novels.
As always, Elham is full of emotions and feelings. I guess she feels nostalgic about the past. She remembers some happy memories and wishes that things had not changed. I am not going to advise her, since (رطب خورده منع رطب کی کند)! In English it means, someone who has eaten date, cannot tell someone else to stop eating it! I feel nostalgic about the old days too. Old memories are like sweet dreams, marching in front of my eyes.
Kamelia and Shahrbanu are too stingy to write more! What they are doing is so similar to the action of a person who is aware of someone's thirst. S/he shows a glass of ice-water to that thirsty person and lets him/her touch the glass, but doesn't quench his/her thirst! You were lucky that I used water and thirst to explain the situation. You know, using apples and things like that to make myself clear is easier and funnier!
Where is Mohsen? I've missed him and his posts.
Finally, we shouldn't blame Elham for her feelings. Actually, she hasn't chosen that piece of music. Someone else has put it on her Facebook and she has listened to it. Let's suppose Elham has chosen such a sad piece of music. Even in this case, we have no right to blame her, because music is not selective. We cannot choice either happy or sad piece of music. As a matter of fact, our feeling makes decision about the kind of music we like listening to at a specific period of time.
Yesterday, I was talking to a friend of mine. I wanted her to listen to happy music! However, we listen to music which is in accordance with our moods or feelings. What I am saying is this: We enjoy listening to a piece of music which is compatible with our moods or feelings!
All the best,
Behnam, 13 October, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Mon Oct 14, 2013 4:54 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
You did a great job , walking in autumn is fantastic ,you took important step to access your complete health
The autumn is making the days short and the nights long , and you know that the night is belong to ladies
, I should be beside my wife . so there is little time to write here .
Also my desire for sleeping has been doubled in autumn. I don't know why my mood has been change , maybe this is normal for all people !! what is your sense ? do you feel you would like to sleep more in autumn ?
I am nostalgic in fall , for what ? I don't know , maybe it is the guilt of my album which i was looking at ,the old memories comes to my mind ,...but it was worth and enjoyable.
It is really pleasing to find myself a little craving to stay in bed and watch a movie.
I am able to remove all concerns from my mind and enjoy my life.
all the best,
Mohsen
Nights belong to....!
Posted: Tue Oct 15, 2013 5:08 am
by behnam
Hi Mohsen,
It was very nice reading your post and hearing about you. Thanks!
To be honest, in terms of sleeping, for me it does not matter which season we are in. I sleep 7 to 8 hours every day.
Mohsen wrote:The autumn is making the days short and the nights long , and you know that the night is belong to ladies
, I should be beside my wife .
The night belongs to ladies! What do you mean? Which night do you mean? Well, suppose one night in a week belongs to ladies, what about other 6 nights? You might mean nights belong to ladies! If so, you have big trouble spending nighttime with your wife.
Make your wife busy with her personal tasks. Ladies have many things to do. When they are not busy, they either speak on phone or talk to their husbands(or to a listener)!
You know such things much better than me. I should stop sounding like an adviser.
All the best,
Behnam, 15 October, 2013
Strange things we see these days!
Posted: Tue Oct 15, 2013 9:54 am
by behnam
HI Friends,
A few seconds ago I was in the kitchen; talking with my wife about the strange things we see these days. When we were talking, I decided to share the main part of the story with you.
First, as you may know, apple is my first favourite fruit. My second favourite fruit is pomegranate. As you know, pomegranate ripens in autumn. About 2 hours ago, we were to the market to do the shopping. Some people were selling pomegranate. I bought a big basket of it. After getting home, I went to the kitchen and took a knife and cut one of the largest pomegranates. Strangely, the seeds inside it were whitish and dry! I cut another one. It was worse than the first one! I cut about 10 pomegranates, but they weren't eatable. My wife said, 'it is not possible to be crooks and frauds and to have good harvests." I added, "Why do farmers send such bad fruits to the market? Why don't they cut such useless trees down? What do they think?"
It is not fair to put the blame on farmers. No matter where we are living in and what we are doing. Everybody who doesn't perform his/her duties must be blamed. As a general rule, things are linked together like chain rings. The farmer is just one link in the chain.
This summer, before having heart operation, I couldn't buy sweet red watermelon. No matter in what size I bought, the watermelons were tasteless.
Three weeks ago, I was in Tabriz; my motherland. In the vicinity of Tabriz, on the road sides, people were selling different things. Somewhere some people were selling apple. Oh my God! Apples were really really really perfect. They were large, bright,watery and as tough as I love. They have pleasant smell and beautiful colours (a nice combination of orange, yellow and white). I bought two large basket of apples and brought them to Tehran. Oh, you cannot imagine how nice they were and how I felt when biting those apples. Some friends could hear the sound of my bites when talking to me on the mobile phone or Skype!
You may say, "Well, Behnam you have paid a large amount of money for those large apples." Swear to God, the price of apple in Tehran is about twice as its price in Tabriz. However, the quality of it in Tehran is much less that its quality in Tabriz.
I paid a big amount of money to those pomegranates; mentioned above, but I burned the money actually!
My question is this: Hey farmers, salesmen, producers,... when you know your products are terrible, why are you selling them? why are you producing them? Simply and briefly, why do we all deceive each other?
All the best,
Behnam, 15 October, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Tue Oct 15, 2013 2:26 pm
by shahrubanu
hi Elham,
how are you my friend? I hope that you are very well,the song that I have shared is about Sultan Sülayman as it s understood from its name , the song tells that ''nobody could stay in the earth eternally even Sultan Süleyman'' and so on...
By the way it affects me deeply too.
Happy Eid-Ul-Adha!
Posted: Tue Oct 15, 2013 4:52 pm
by behnam
Hi friends,
I am writing this to say a warm Happy Eid-Ul-Adha to all Muslims brothers and sisters in all over the world. I hope we will follow the rules and laws of Islam and then will follow the path of perfection!
I'd like to say a special Happy Eid-Ul-Adha to the friends who have performed Haj. They are called Haji Agha and Hajiye Khanom in Iran. I hope the big 'NO' which they have said to Satan-by throwing stones at its symbol- will guide them towards perfection all the time.
I may not find an opportunity to add something to Sharbanu's post. What she means is a Turkish ruler known as Suleiman the Magnificent, who greatly improved the Ottoman Empire in its government and culture. However, I am afraid I disagree with her. I think it mentions to prophet Suleiman, the son of David; one of the kings of Israel. His name has come in the Holy Koran. He could talk to animals, and had miraculous powers. In Azerbaijani language there are many poems which have similar meanings. For instance:
Bu donya fanidir fani,
Bu donyada ghalan hani?
Davud oghli Suleimani,
Takhtinan salan dunya.
This world is transitory,
Who is staying in this world?
This world has brought Suleiman, the son of David down from his throne. [It means that when someone like him has left the world(has died) we will obviously die too!]
Another one is said by Shahreyar the great:
Heydar baba donya yalan donyadi,
Suleimannan Nuhdan ghalan donyadi,
Oghul doghip darda salan donyadi,
Har kimsiya har na verip alipdi,
Aflatunnan bir ghuri ad ghalipdi.
Heydar baba(this is a mountain's name in Azerbaijan, mainly in Hashtrud, where Shahreyar was born) the world is a big lie,(=is nothing),
This world is inheritance of Suleiman and Noah, (it means that such important men have left this world, but it still is remained! This phrase metaphorically means that when such great men have died we will obviously die too),
This world gives birth to son, and puts him into trouble and pain(metaphorically means that human beings are in pain and grief all the time),
It has taken back whatever has given to anybody,
Only a name is remained from Plato(an ancient Greek philosopher, who had a very great influence on European philosophy).
HAPPY EID-Ul-Adha!
All the best,
Behnam, 15 October, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Tue Oct 15, 2013 10:51 pm
by [amal]
Hi Behnam,
How are you? I hope you are enjoying autumn in every single moment..
First of all, thank you for your posts, I really love your words and love learning from them.
Emm, Do you really think that my English is getting better?! Oh! Inshallah!
Sadly, these days, I don't use it as usual and I rarely chat in English.
![Sad :-(](./images/smilies/icon_sad.gif)
In fact, I don't know how the time flies but it does!
![Sad :-(](./images/smilies/icon_sad.gif)
By the way, so sorry about leaving so fast in our last chat, but I couldn't stay more and couldn't wait, I really wished we could talk..
You know, your guess was right, I have bought a new phone and downloaded some books so whenever I have some free time, I read. I don't know how that will effects on my English but I am trying my best...
In the end, I wish you and other friends a happy Eid, may all your days are full of joy and happiness.
* In Syria now we have a long holiday started from Friday and will end on Saturday.
I hope you enjoy your holidays.
Amal
Hi Amal!
Posted: Thu Oct 17, 2013 9:38 am
by behnam
Hi Amal,
Thank you is not strong enough to say in gratitude for what you have done for me during the long friendship I have had with you. You deserve the most special and warmest 'thank you' from the bottom of my heart.
Your English is excellent, and your way of writing is impressive, effective, and profound. You are so creative. The most important aspect of your writing skills is that you play with words. You are riding the words; they are not riding you!
It is extremely important for English learners to be confident enough to look at the English from somewhere above, in a way that not to be imprisoned by vocabulary and grammar. In other words, learners should not let the complexities of a language dominates them!
Your posts say that the English language is flexible for you. Congratulations!
Oh, I hope you'll fully enjoy your holidays. I wish you happy moments with your beloved people!
All the best,
Behnam, 17 October, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Thu Oct 17, 2013 6:21 pm
by Mohsen
Dear Behnam,
Thank for your congratulation message to your friends for Eid Ghraban (Eid-Ul-Adha).
We had a party, and one of our family member who is Sayed ( a person who is descendant of prophet Mohammad PBUH) had invited us to his house. I enjoyed the Eid very much beside many relatives who was gathered in Sayed's house.
Also the day before Eid-ul-Adha is very important , it is called the day of Arafeh in Iran , and many people gather in mosques and read the Arafeh prayer. The Arafeh prayer was said by Imam Hussein ( the grand child of prophet Mohammad). This prayer is a miracle which said by Imam when he was in Haj pilgrimage 1400 years ago. It is the most beautiful prayer ( Dua) I have ever read . If you want to read it please go to the following website, it is written in Arabic and English translation.
http://www.duas.org/zilhajj/arfday.htm
Thank you for your advice , your writing is always practical , I try to make my wife busy , Tonight I incited her to read a book which I had borrowed from library. She read some pages and went to sleep , It is about 10 PM and I am sure she will be awake very soon.So I should finish my post soon.
Have a pleasure time
Mohsen
They must be busy!
Posted: Fri Oct 18, 2013 6:44 am
by behnam
Hi Mohsen,
Thank you very much for your reply. Thank you once again for sharing the address of that wonderful place. I really enjoyed reading some parts of it(Doae Arafeh). It was great.
Idleness can create some illness. That's why-maybe-Imam Ali(PBUH) has said, "Working is the best entertainment."
If a man would like to get completely rid of his wife's disturbance, he should make her busy with some routine tasks. The task must be routine, otherwise she will keep asking some questions when carrying it. This will lead to some other disturbance. Therefore, it's essentially important to give them some routine tasks.
If a lady gives birth to a baby, the man will become released from some prisons. However, a big amount of money is needed to spend on both the baby and the mother. Therefore, for a rich man, the easiest solution is making his wife become a mother! If a lady gives birth to two babies-like my case-she will forget her husband for a long period of time.
Joking aside, everything has got its advantages and disadvantages. Good sides and bad sides are always together. We cannot choose only the positive sides of something. They are always mixed. Nothing is perfect in the world. To say it in different words, there isn't any perfect situation in the world. This is a fact, however, our visualization of it is different. Everybody says this phrase 'Nothing is perfect', but only a few percent of people understand it.
All the best,
Behnam, 18 October, 2013
A Conversation!
Posted: Sat Oct 19, 2013 2:24 pm
by behnam
Please spare time to read the below lines till the end. I loved it and hope you will like it too.
Pencil: I'm Sorry.
Eraser: For What? You Didn't Do Anything Wrong.
Pencil: I'm Sorry Cause You Get Hurt Because Of Me.
Whenever I Made A Mistake, You're Always There To Erase It.
But As You Make My Mistakes Vanish,
You Lose A Part Of Yourself.
You Get Smaller And Smaller Each Time.
Eraser: That's True. But I Don't Really Mind.
You See, I Was Made To Do This. I Was Made To Help You
Whenever You Do Something Wrong.
Even Though One Day, I Know I'll Be Gone
And You'll Replace Me With A New One,
I'm Actually Happy With My Job.
So Please, Stop Worrying.
I Hate Seeing You Sad.
Parents Are Like The Eraser
Whereas Their Children Are The Pencil.
They're Always There For Their Children,
Cleaning Up Their Mistakes.
Sometimes Along The Way...
They Get Hurt,
And Become Smaller
(Older, And Eventually Pass On).
Though Their Children Will Eventually Find Someone New
(Spouse)
But Parents Are Still Happy With What They Do For Their Children,
And Will Always Hate Seeing Their Precious Ones Worrying, Or Sad.
I Found This Conversation Between The Pencil And The Eraser Very Inspirational.
All the best,
Behnam, 19 October, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Tue Oct 22, 2013 6:07 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
I am still searching for some routine tasks to make my wife busy with. As you know according to Islamic rules the woman is a treasure at home and the man should admired her too much , a man is not allowed to force her wife to cook at home or force her washing dishes and clothe , a man is not allowed to ask her wife to take care of child.
Because I have not enough money to employ a maid for my wife to help her for household chores , I have to do them myself most of the time.
Never think that I have not power to force her for doing the house holding affairs , I am not use to ask anybody to do something for me ,even my wife.
My wife has being fascinated by my characters , and day by day she love me more and more. If I want to give a grade to her love when we got married , I give 100 , but know her love grade to me is 1000.
Since her burning love to me , she omitted all of her friends and relatives from her life. She always says " you are the first and end of life for me." If I be late a little when coming back from office ,she calls me several times.see me off at morning and welcome to me at evening .Sometimes she has to go somewhere without me , she goes ,but with a wet eyes.
Her life is totally depends on me , if I die one day ,she will die the next day. How can I find for her an amusement which I have no rule in it , something that make her busy , God knows..!!
Once you recommended me for having a baby , My wife can't bear the baby voice for a minute , I also recommended her to continue her education , going to gym , take part in one of women associations, but nothing satisfied her.
Now she is asking me for eating dinner and watching the Pejman serial movie on TV.
Have a nice night,
Mohsen
Hi Mohsen!
Posted: Thu Oct 24, 2013 6:25 pm
by behnam
Hi Mohsen,
First of all, let me say 'Happy Eid-Al-Ghadir' to you and to all Shiite friends. I hope we will be the real followers of Imam Ali(PBUH). Following someone is acting and reacting like him/her.
I read your last post three times. I think this post is different from others. In other words, this Mohsen sounds different from the Mohsen who has written the previous posts!
Mohsen wrote:I am still searching for some routine tasks to make my wife busy with. As you know according to Islamic rules the woman is a treasure at home and the man should admired her too much , a man is not allowed to force her wife to cook at home or force her washing dishes and clothe , a man is not allowed to ask her wife to take care of child.
Because I have not enough money to employ a maid for my wife to help her for household chores , I have to do them myself most of the time.
I know what you mean. In Islam, mothers can demand money from fathers for the breast milk! As you have mentioned, women do not have to do household chores. They are also exempted from fighting battles. There is a big question: What is the use of women in an Islamic society? The answer of this question can be a big insult to women!
I totally disagree with inactivity of women in the society. I believe, women and men have to shoulder the responsibilities that life gives them! Certainly they have rational differences, abilities and capabilities, but those things cannot cause women to be passive in the society.
Mohsen wrote:My wife has being fascinated by my characters , and day by day she love me more and more. If I want to give a grade to her love when we got married , I give 100 , but know her love grade to me is 1000.
Oh, wonderful! So happy to read this paragraph. Her mark shows a dramatic increase in love and love-based things. How lucky you are! I wish you everlasting happiness and good lucks.
Mohsen wrote:Since her burning love to me , she omitted all of her friends and relatives from her life. She always says " you are the first and end of life for me." If I be late a little when coming back from office ,she calls me several times.see me off at morning and welcome to me at evening .Sometimes she has to go somewhere without me , she goes ,but with a wet eyes.
How romantic! I wish you happy moments. This sounds very nice.
Mohsen wrote:Once you recommended me for having a baby , My wife can't bear the baby voice for a minute ,...
Oh my God! This statement is against other paragraphs! Why Mohsen? In answering to my big question someone might say, "The main responsibility of women is giving birth, then keeping the generation going". However, frankly speaking, your wife apparently abdicates her responsibility in giving birth!
The love among couples is an excuse to attract them to each other and to persuade them into having children! Well, people are different and they have different attitudes towards life. However, I believe, the main philosophy of the attraction between two genders is keeping the generation going! What is the philosophy of gay-marriage(same-sex marriage)?
In the holy Koran, God HAVE said that putting kindness and friendliness among couples' hearts is one of his great signs, and it creates calmness! The question is this: Why have you created panic? If there were no panic, there were no need for calmness!
If we deeply think about these things we will realize that all the feelings, needs, emotions and desires are necessary for building such a complex system!
Why have you created such a system? God SAY in the holy Koran that HE HAVE created humankind to worship him! What is the need for this worship? Is God competing with other Gods?
It is said that the worship is an opportunity for people to get complete! The use of worship is just for the worshipers. I don't understand the need of such a complex game!
It seems that using 'I', without considering God and HIS role in the universe, is not possible! On the one hand, this thought satisfies my curiosity, on the other hand it opens the door of a room full of unanswered questions!
I have digressed, so sorry!
All the best,
Behnam, 24 October, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Tue Oct 29, 2013 6:30 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
Thanks for your post , thank for your congratulation message to your shiite friends for Eid-Ghadir , As you know ,in that day Prophet Mohammad(PBUH) chose Imam Ali(AS) as his successor, Prophet took the Imam Ali's hand up in front of people and said" Ali is the mawla of whom I am mawla" and in this place ( Ghadir) the verse revealed to Allah’s Messenger “This day I have perfected your religion for you, completed My favour upon you, and have chosen for you Islam as your religion.” [Surah Al Maidah, 5:3] , according to Shiite belief.
If you are interested to read more about Ghadir event there are many website ,but read it via following address.
http://abna.ir/data.asp?lang=3&id=474999
Dear Behnam , there many defects in people behaviour ,as we are not perfect. Man's not perfect.. Of course it should not be an excuse for people to do wrong things and say " man is fallible" but regretfully we do it ,even sometime keep insist on doing wrong things.
I don't know my wife is lazy or lacking in motivation. But she has got used to put every little jobs on my shoulder. These days she is suffering from pain in her spine, tomorrow I should take her to visit a doctor who I 've already made an appointment . I wish she could visit the doctor alone ,and don't waste my evening, she is able to drive car , but she like me to be her driver and to be with me all times. I have advised her not rely on me on every little things.Women are free to drive in Iran.
Today I was explaining for her that how miserable are the women in Saudi Arabia ,as they are not allowed to drive car. What I get from the policy of Saudi government is that they are trying to downgrade the feature of Islam in the world, Why Saudi government opposes the women driving ? Many news agencies and presses had many reports about the action of Saudi , BBC repeat this news many times , why ? what is behind of this policy? What is the relation of Saudi and Uk?
All the best,
Mohsen
symbols pronunciation
Posted: Fri Nov 01, 2013 1:14 am
by faishalrani
hy all senior
I'm new comer..
I still confused, when determine the symbols pronunciation from words or sentences
so my question, how to determine symbols pronunciation a words or sentences?
thank you before :)
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Fri Nov 01, 2013 4:38 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam ,
Tonight my wife was speaking by phone , and I had the option to be with own job , I had time to open the website and look at the pages. About half an hour ago my wife decided to call her sister because she felt that she had missed her sister. I was very happy as I always asked her to call her family members and friends and speak as long as possible. But nowadays she is a little cautious; she read the news about USA surveillance of phone commutation throughout the world. NSA is an organization which spy for USA by controlling phones, eavesdropping on people communication . Now my wife is afraid of speaking by phone specially for long period.
I was laughing at her sentences when she said " my phone is controlled "
I told her my dear what is important in your speaking with your relatives and friends , don't be afraid , they control the phone of important people like Angela Merkel .
Now it is revealed that the USA embassies has been armed with espionage systems all over the world . God bless Edward Snowden who is revealing the real face of USA government for people of the world, this is the fact which was claimed by some students in Tehran when they captured the USA embassy 33 year ago ,but at that time nobody believed them , and their claim was condemned by many countries at that time .
"Today's friends maybe become future's enemies" this is the slogans of USA government for interfering and spying in other countries. How this claim is absurd and impudent.
All the best
Mohsen
One of the best allegories I’ve ever heard
Posted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 5:38 pm
by Mohsen
In a mother’s womb were two babies.
One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?”
The other replies, “Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.”
“Nonsense,” says the other. “There is no life after delivery. What would that life be?”
“I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths.”
The other says, “This is absurd! Walking is impossible. And eat with our mouths? Ridiculous. The umbilical cord supplies nutrition. Life after delivery is to be excluded. The umbilical cord is too short.”
“I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here.”
The other replies, “No one has ever come back from there. Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery it is nothing but darkness and anxiety and it takes us nowhere.”
“Well, I don’t know,” says the other, “but certainly we will see mother and she will take care of us.”
“Mother?!” You believe in mother? Where is she now?”
“She is all around us. It is in her that we live. Without her there would not be this world.”
“I don’t see her, so it’s only logical that she doesn’t exist.”
To which the other replied, “sometimes when you’re silent you can hear her, you can sense her. I believe there is a reality after delivery and we’re here to prepare ourselves for that reality.”
Thank you Mohsen!
Posted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 1:53 pm
by behnam
Hi Mohsen,
So many thanks for your posts. I loved reading the story. It was interesting.
Dear Mohsen, on Saturday, 9th of November, I will be in Shahin Shahr(Malek ashtar University of Technology). I am there to give PhD interview. 6 people are invited to have interview. I rank first among them. Please wish me luck in the interview.
All the best,
Behnam, 6 November, 2013
Welcome Faishalrani!
Posted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 4:45 pm
by behnam
Hi Faishalrani,
Welcome to this thread. Thank you for joining us and putting post here. I am afraid I didn't get what is meant by Symbols pronunciation. Would you please clarify your question?
All the best,
Behnam, 6 November, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Wed Nov 13, 2013 7:43 am
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
I hope you had a good interview for your PHD, wish you were successful .
I had no time during last days , because every evening I was in Imam Hussein ceremony for 9 days and tomorrow is the most sad and mournful day in human being history (the 10th of Moharam).
Imam Hussain was the grandson of the Holy Prophet Muhammad, through his daughter, Lady Fatima and son-in-law, Imam Ali, peace be upon them all.
In less than half a day on the 10th of Muharram ( Ashura) in the year 680 A.D. (61 A.H.), on the hot desert sands of Karbala in Iraq, Imam Hussain(as), and 72 of his family members, friends and followers, including his 6 month old infant son, were martyred under most gruesome circumstances. These included His brother Hazrat Abbas (as) the standard bearer, His young 18 yr old son Ali Akber & his 4 year old daughter Sakina who died while in prison in Damascus. The Oppressive ruler; Yazid son of Mu'awiya son of Abu Sufiyan & his very large army of over 30,000 men, committed these heinous crimes against the small group which included the household of the Prophet. Lady Zainub (sister of Imam Hussain) also played a key role especially subsequent to the battle to inform people of the truth.
The group, including the six-month infant Ali Asgar, was without food and water for 3 days before their martyrdom. Ali Asgar was martyred thirsty in his father's arms when his tender throat was pierced by a three-pointed poisoned arrow, while his father implored the tyrants to allow water to the infant, after all his other companions were martyred at their hands.
Imam Hussain resolved to defend his thirsty entourage from the killer army’s onslaught, rather than submit to their forcible extraction of allegiance to a criminal despotic regime which used the name of Islam. He was going to stand to his principle to defend True Islam, even though he might be the last man standing with no support, no help.
The martyrs were beheaded & their heads were put on spears, while their corpses were trampled upon and left unburied. The ordeal did not stop at this as the women and children in the Imam's entourage were held captives and tortured while being led on an arduous journey to Damascus to be paraded and later imprisoned . The only male survivor was Imam Zainul Abideen (as) son of Imam Hussain (as) who was ill at that time, yet chained & repeatedly beaten. He subsequently wrote a 'Treatise on Rights' & a monumental prayer book called Sahifa Kamila.
In the history of Islam, al‑Husayn ibn 'Ali, the martyr of Karbala, wrote one of the most brilliant chapters; a chapter which still and after more than fourteen centuries, echoes in the minds and hearts of Muslims everywhere. It is remarked by a modern Muslim writer that 'With every Karbala Islam is renewed'.
Edward Gibbon (1737-1794) considered the greatest British historian of his time. Wrote “In a distant age and climate the tragic scene of the death of Hussein will awaken the sympathy of the coldest reader." [The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire, London, 1911, volume 5, pp. 391-2]
Wish you the best,
Mohsen
Working Hard is Good Enough!
Posted: Wed Nov 13, 2013 7:59 am
by behnam
To be honest and straight forward with you, only hard work will NOT promote you in your professional life. There are several other aspects of your overall personality which are accounted for your growth. When I say overall personality, I mean your outer and inner personality. And when I say Outer personality, I mean your verbal (when you speak) and non-verbal (when you are not speaking) features of your personality. Together I call it "Corporate Image". In this article I shall cover sure fire techniques to improve your Corporate Image. But please bear in mind that the hardware will always be the prime and foremost aspect of your growth.
Well, let us understand first why you should give importance to your official image?
Why Personal branding is important?
In your routine official life, you are being observed by your team lead, managers and/or senior managers on how you work, behave, speak, act, react, meet, greet, resolve and so on. All these observations are contributing towards your overall image. This image analysis is being done by the management for everyone. So when it comes to new opportunity or project in the department, it will be awarded to the one having good professional or corporate image.
Here are the things which you need to work on to promote your corporate image:
1-THINK BIG:
It all starts from your brain. Good Mind Good Find. It is as simple as that. Focusing on your thoughts will give maturity to your speech and actions which consequently would result in great personality. If you think you should only work on the physical appearance factor of your personality by looking nice through branded coats, pants and other accessories; it is going to result in a disaster since it will be equivalent to a bitter toffee in a nice wrap. Once the wrap is removed, the toffee is going to give a bad taste anyway.
2-WORK BIG:
Try to get engaged in more and more projects. If you really want to do task you will find a way to do it, if you don't, you will find an excuse so grab more tasks; off course not at the cost of your family life. Try to meet expectation as much as possible. Done go to your boss with a problem without solution. Develop skills such as problem solving, analytical Skills and creativity. Be efficient, confident, sharp, dynamic in your day to day life.
3-TALK BIG:
Be socially active, do not skip meetings. Try to give your positive and optimistic opinion as much as you can. Say hello to everyone. Be enthusiastic, humorous and friendly. Do not miss any telephone calls. Avoid reacting. Treating everyone with equal respect, Avoid irritating & negative comments. Build a vocabulary of positive words. Use and practice these again and again. Develop effective communications skills.
4-LOOK BIG:
Physical appearance matters a lot. Whether you are sitting in a meeting or walking in office or just working from your chair, you need to look confident. Your posture should portray your confident personality. When you are meeting with someone, try to work on your First Impression. Ask yourself whether the person is going to call you a Decent chap? Rough? Polite? Nice or what?. Your way of handshaking, standing/sitting, smiling, eye contact, shoes, dressing, voice, physical fitness, remembering names matter a lot. Do you have old suits in your wardrobe? Get rid of them. Do you have old hair style for some time? Change it. Do you use same colors of clothes? Buy new. Do you talk too quietly or too loudly? Change your tone. . Remember, you don't need to be in high end tuxedo for great impression, you can achieve the same by having a simple life style.
5-BEHAVE BIG:
Live an ethical life . Your personality should reminder others as a confident, honest, friendly, organized, creative, trustworthy and decent but mature person. Help others whenever it is required. Seek first to understand then to be understood. Don't impose your decisions on someone. Listen emphatically. Listen more and speak less.
Conclusion:
Hard work is definitely the key to success however you need to work on several aspects of your personality to move on your professional ladder. Always remember that consistency in your actions is critically important. Your inconsistent behavior is an indication of your non-predictive personality due to which people won't trust you.
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All the best,
Behnam, 13 November, 2013
السلام علی الحسین
Posted: Wed Nov 13, 2013 9:54 am
by behnam
Hi Mohsen,
Thank you very much for writing about the great revolution of Imam Hussein against Yazid Ebn-E-Mavie! What he has done is a big lesson for not only Muslims, but also for all people in all over the world. What is that big lesson? Actually, What Imam Hussein and his followers or supporters did in Karbala teach everyone about all aspects of life. For example, believers must water the tree of faith with their blood when it is necessary. Karbala clearly clarifies the duty of sister, brother, child, wife, husband, daughter, son, aunt, uncle, etc.
The majority of people do not pay close attention to the colourful painting that Imam Hussein has painted in Karbala. They only look through a narrow angle, may put themselves in his position and then become sad and cry. It is very good to cry for Imam Hussein and his great supporters, but the cry must be done wisely. Some people imagine themselves to be in similar situations. They say, "What would I do if I were in their situation in Karbala? What would I do if I lost my son?" These thoughts make them cry, but it is useless. We should know that the poets we write or the stories we tell about Karbala are our own reactions to a similar situation. In almost all cases, we insult Imam Hussein and his great supporters and family by our silly words. Why? Money is involved!
In my opinion, we must be proud of having such a great Imam who has lived honourably and has given his blood, his family, his brothers, his sons, his followers and relatives, etc. to his faith; Islam! What is Islam? How to live freely and honourably under the umbrella of God! This is Islam.
It should be kept in mind that every era has got its Yazid and Karbala. Therefore, it is our duty to know the Yazid of our own era and the Karbala(the battle) AND most importantly, to play our role! Karbala wasn't an only opportunity for a limited number of people to enter Heaven directly. We should have faith in repeating this process- happening this event- in all eras in our everyday lives. In other words, it is the philosophy of history of humanity-the battle between fact and fake-happening continuously like days and nights. Why? To give people the chance to choose. To choose what? To choose which side they are going to be on!
I am proud of Imam Hussein. I never cry for those great men who lived and died bravely, but I cry for myself; for my smallness and littleness. I cry for being the slave of my stomach! I cry for being the slave of my desires and needs. I cry for being the salve of my passion. I cry for being the slave of my body. How shameful it is to cry for some heroes who lived and died honourably.
Finally, I cry for those stupid brainless people who killed the grandson of their Prophet Muhammad. Who was Muhammad(PBUH)? Muhammad was sent by God; who started Islam in Mecca and made a great empire from some wild groups of Arab people. Yes, that's an undeniable fact that before Muhammad Arab groups were not civilized. They were killing their daughters. They were fighting with each other over silly things.
My question is this: How could they kill Hussein when they knew who he was? It is written in the history that when Shemr( لعنة الله علیه ) was cutting Imam Husein's neck said, "People witness that I am not cutting his throat because Muhammad has kissed this place. I am cutting his neck from back side instead!" How devilish! How shameful!
السلام علی الحسین و علی اولاد الحسین و علی الصحاب الحسین و لعن الله امّة قتلتکم
All the best,
Behnam, 13 November, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Wed Nov 13, 2013 12:46 pm
by Elham
Dear Behnam,
Your post about Emam Hosein (سلام الله علیه) is great and touching. Like always...Behnamish...
Thanks
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Wed Nov 13, 2013 4:34 pm
by shahrubanu
thanks a lot brother Behnam you made me aware of the fact,The fact is that we are greedy and we have to cry for ourselves you are totaly right I got what you mean.It touches my heart,thanks dear....
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Fri Nov 15, 2013 5:53 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
I must gratitude to your nice article.
It just took 50 years from when the prophet Mohammad (PBUH) raised the Imam Ali’s hand and nominated him as his succession in Ghdir to when the Shemr raised the Iman Hussien’ head on spear , From when they burned the door of Hazrat Zahra (SW) to when they drag ged her daughter (Hazarat Zainab) in plain of Karbala to show her the death bodies of her kin, it just took 50 years.
Did you see the movies of rebel in Syria , how he cut the chest of a death and took out his liver ,when I saw this scene I remembered the Muawiya’s mother when she cut the chest of Hazarat Hamzeh ( SW) and took his liver out, chewed it and spat it out.
You had a question (My question is this: How could they kill Hussein when they knew who he was?)
The basic of the cruelties come back to Madina , when the Islam was deviated from right path after the death of prophet , and it is continued to present time , you see how Suadi Arabi ,Ghatar, Bahrain , Emerate …so on support the rebels in Syria , and when the rebels fired their weapons they say Allah Akaber, The same as the Yazid troop when they were killing the Imam Hussein and his forces , the cried Allah Akaber , and after they killed all of them ,they did their prayer to thank God.
If the Force of Hezbullah from Lebanon didn’t come to help Syrian army , it doesn’t clear what has happened in Syria .
About 35 years ago the force of Hezbullah organized by Dr Chamran ( God bless him) in South of Lebanan and the y are real followers of Imam Hussien ,also we are happy that we can help them by all efforts.
Dear Behnam ,I don’t agree with you about crying for Imam Hussien is useless. In fact I don’t want to open the discussion about it ,but sometimes the order which placed by God , we can not analyse them correctly by our small brain.
As Imam Sadegh (God bless him) said “all creatures of skies and earth, birds, animals, jinn, mankind and angels have participate and participating in this crying.”
All the best
Mohsen
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Sat Nov 16, 2013 12:10 pm
by Mohsen
Sorry dear Behnam,
I had two mistakes in my last email ,revise it as follow
When they burnt the door of Hazrat Zahre ' house(SW)
Intention Counts!
Posted: Sat Nov 16, 2013 3:49 pm
by behnam
Hi Mohsen,
Finally the mourning finished and we mourners killed Imam Hussein and became quiet! On 'Ashura' I took my wife to her parents' quarter. At noon, they finished the mourning and people ran towards the mosque to be served by 'Gheyme'(a cooked food containing rice, small pieces of meat, shelled peas and fried potato). I was talking to someone. Suddenly, he broke the conversation and ran towards the mosque, saying, "we will talk later, now it is time to eat 'Gheyme-e-Imam Hussein'! "Hurry up! Hurry up!", he was advising me! You know what I am saying. I won't explain further!
To tell you the truth, when I was writing that paragraph, I knew that would make you show your sensitivity! However, I want you to pay close attention to what I've written; to read it as carefully as possible. Let's once again look at what I've written:
behnam wrote:It is very good to cry for Imam Hussein and his great supporters, but the cry must be done wisely. Some people imagine themselves to be in similar situations. They say, "What would I do if I were in their situation in Karbala? What would I do if I lost my son?" These thoughts make them cry, but it is useless.
I'm not saying that crying for Imam Hussein is useless. What I mean is crying for our own problems; for example, crying for our lost goats or sheep, instead of wisely thinking about the philosophy of Imam Hussein's great revolution and taking lessons from it. In a nutshell, as I have put it, crying must be done wisely, not blindly!
Some people say, "من بکی او ابکی او تباکی وجب له الجنة ", but it can't be true. Crying must be done for some special purposes such as making people aware of the great revolution, showing how cruel the enemies have been, teaching people how to live, how to keep the faith, etc. Remembering our own misery and difficulties such as losing our goats, having bed-related problems with our wives and husbands, having car accident, being bald, getting old, etc.and crying for them when mourning is USELESS! ![Laughing :lol:](./images/smilies/icon_lol.gif)
All the best,
Behnam, 16 November, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Mon Nov 18, 2013 4:28 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
Thanks, I got it. You are right, the ritual ceremony should be done wisely , I believe that words and thoughts should be appeared in acts, it should be placed in the nature of people .Their deeds ,interactions,moods and totally their life should be according what they say in words
You see that people say their prayer 5 times in a day and ten times say "We just worship you and we ask for your help" but I can say that nobody is able to act this sentence 100%, maybe 90% of people say this sentence ,but never think about it wisely and never perform their life according to it.
Hypocrisy is to say something that you really don't act.
All the best,
Mohsen
The Questions You Ask May Tell Who You Are!
Posted: Fri Nov 22, 2013 12:29 pm
by behnam
Hi Mohsen,
How are you? I hope you are fine. I am happy I could make my point clear to you. I do agree with you. The vast majority of Muslims (me included) pray five times a day. As you have pointed it out correctly and wisely, they say "ایّاک نعبد و ایّاک نستعین " ten times in 24 hours. However, they (me included) are lying. This is one of the biggest lies that a human can tell! A very long time ago, I was discussing with a friend of mine about praying. I said "ان الصلاة تنهی عن الفحشا و المنکر ". My friend laughed at me and said, "Come on! Many thieves and criminals pray five times a day like other Muslims". I laughed and replied, "They are not praying. Actually, they are acting habitually". Yes, that is true. We can do something from habit, but it is USELESS!
When evaluating and judging on people (well, sometimes it is necessary to evaluate someone's actions. For instance, when a girl or her family is making decision on either accepting a boy's proposal or not, they have to evaluate his personality), they should pay close attention to see if he is an honest person or not. Is he a loyal person? Is he a compassionate person? Some qualities cannot become habits. Nobody can say, "I always tell the truth from habit"! However, praying can become a habit, although it is not a bad one.
As you know, I had two interviews two weeks ago. One of them was in Isfahan (Shahin Shahr). The other one was in Bonab(near Tabriz). From the questions they asked me, I could easily evaluate the quality of the universities. I don't want to write the details here. However, I'd like to say that great people ask great questions!
Before marriage, I visited some girls at their houses, in order to get familiar with each other. As you know, since you are an experienced man (LOL), in such cases, the families sit in the living room and let the boy and the girl talk in an open-door room (LOL). The door must be open, you know the reason!
Anyway, in one of the meetings, I talked with a physician(doctor). She asked me some silly questions such as what my favourite colour or food or hobby, etc. was! What was my birth month (to check my horoscope!). For the first meeting, these questions sounded ridiculous! I won't tell you what I said to the girl in answering to her stupid questions!
Before writing this paragraph, my wife called me for lunch. There was pickle on the table. Apparently, a friend of my wife had given it as a gift. The vegetables weren't balanced and they weren't chopped rightly. I said to myself, "Behnam, write it that even from chopping an onion, it is possible to judge on her skills"!
I have digressed! Why am I writing these things? I don't know.
Whatever I write cannot be stronger than that famous saying 'actions speak louder than words'!
All the best,
Behnam, 22 November, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Mon Nov 25, 2013 3:45 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
I hope you enjoy and taking pleasure in your favourite autumn.
My goal for pointing out the problem of what we say in our prayer as the words and sentences ,and our actions which don't comply with that words and sentence is that we are not allowed to say that we don't say the prayer anymore because we don't think wisely and don't act what we say. The same view for ritual ceremony for Imam Hussein, although what mattered is our deed which has a big distance with the words we say.
Some people apparently living in joy by making themselves amusement. One of the critics of the ritual ceremony in my family is a close relative of my wife. She seriously critics people and what they do in the first ten days of Moharam in the mosques and streets .She states that the ceremony spoils her joy. Include herself as a rational people which never take part in such a ceremonies and base on her Islamic belief she bring me her reasons.
I try not to laugh at her when we have discussion because I know to whom I am discussing . Of course I never start discussing with her ,she always like to say her idea about everything.
Her job is to decorate the wedding ceremony table( سفره عقد) . She use a lot of time to decorate some objects in the table for some crazy people who give her a lot of money. Also she is a special cook . she spends a lot of time to prepare a kind of delicious food for some lazy people for special ceremony and get a lot of money. Her favourite TV channel is Manoto . ( a satellite channel which work on the mind of such a people) .In summery what she does is related to the some parts of body just under the neck. Of course she says her prayer and also read Quran. I say nothing to her about the words and sentences she says and her actions «یَعْلَمُونَ ظاهِرا مِنَ الحَیاةِ الدُّنْیا وَ هُمْ عَنِ الآخِرَةِ هُمْ غافِلُونَ», because these people are blind and deaf. She is very kind to me and sometime she forget that I am a man, belong to another woman.
I write about her because she is in my house now and she is speaking with my wife loudly in the living room. Sometime I go to the other room and interfere in her discussion, because I afraid that she deceive my wife.
She is an skilful lady ,she know about preparing all kind of pickles , food, and confectioneries. She is also a tailor for women. She knows how to make handicrafts ,even a carpet weaver. A good driver, swimmer and knows about all kind of music style and plays drum (تنبک).
Once she told me that she had gathered an orchestra at her home ( 40 people) and they play and singing until the morning.
What a wonderful lizard she is!!!
Let me stop her ,I am hearing her ,she is going to red lines.
Have a nice Autumn
Mohsen
Girls' Old Friends!
Posted: Fri Nov 29, 2013 6:14 am
by behnam
Hi Mohsen,
Thank you for your wonderful posts. Apparently, great ladies come to your home to visit your wife! However, I have asked my wife to finish having any sort of friendship with single girls. I believe a married lady should form friendships with married ones. Keeping contact with single girls(by a married lady) can be poisonous to a couples' happy marriage. Haven't you ever heard that birds of a feather flock together?
For making these shocking words clear, some explanation is necessary. Suppose a single girl is visiting a married one. The married one asks the single one some things like these, "What about marriage? Are you dating with someone? Have you got someone under your pillow? Have you set traps for catching your Mr. Right? Etc." How would she answer to these questions? It depends on many factors such as her mood at that time, her personality, her emotions, ...! What she says as a reply may affect the mood of the married lady positively or negatively. For example, suppose she says, "I prefer to have my freedom. I hate to cook and wash up everyday. I am not stupid to tolerate someone's nags all the time. I am my own boss...." These insincere replies may affect the married lady's life negatively. In some cases, such things are destructive.
She may say, "Oh my friend. You were lucky. You met a wonderful man. Girls envy your wonderful life. They wish they could met their Mr. Right as you did. Oh, you should pray to God for such a great success. .."! However, girls are naturally jealous. Their jealousy does not let them be wise and reply wisely. Therefore, such replies are rare!
To be honest, I have had both of them, both cases in my life. No matter a lady is highly educated or illiterate, they have the same emotions and feelings. As a matter of fact, all human beings have got both destructive and constructive emotions. Education cannot change our nature. Some men fool themselves and say, "My wife is a professor, or a doctor, she is different! she is not an easy prey." Unfortunately, statistics show that highly educated ladies are not skillful enough to manage such difficulties in life. Education(memorizing some facts without being able to analyze and digest them) is different from wisdom.
Dear Mohsen, don't let that lady come to your home, but I suggest you going to her home and enjoying your life. She can be ....! Pardon my French! Hahahahahahahahaha....
All the best,
Behnam, 29 November, 2013
Rephrasing!
Posted: Sun Dec 01, 2013 1:52 pm
by behnam
Hi friends,
I am tired of texting. Today, from the beginning of the day until a few seconds ago, I was texting to a friend. My fingers are numb now and I feel I am not OK! I came here to spend some time on writing. It relieves me!
A person was making herself/himself ready for IELTS exam. S/he intends to leave Iran and to study PhD in another country. That person asked me for some help with their English skills. One of the questions which is convenient to share with you was about 'rephrasing'. As you know, in writing module, the candidates have to write an essay. They give them a topic and want them to write an essay about it. The candidates should repeat the topic with a different structure in the introductory paragraph; however, the meaning must be kept. This is called 'rephrasing'!
Suppose the topic is about something like this: Children watch too much television these days. It causes them to lose their creativity. Do you agree or disagree?
How can we rephrase it? As you know, a word can preform a variety functions. It can be a noun phrase, an adjective phrase, etc.We should use different structures that mean the same. Read the following sentences:
1- Children watch too much television; as a result, they lose creativity.
2- Children watch too much television; consequently, they lose creativity.
3- Children watch too much television; therefore, they lose creativity.
4- Children watch too much television; hence, they lose creativity.
5- Children watch too much television; because of this, they lose creativity.
6- Children are so interested in television that they lose creativity.
7- Children watch so much television that they lose creativity.
8- Children watch so many TV programs that they lose creativity.
9- Children lose creative ability since they watch so much TV.
10- Children lose creative ability because they watch so much TV.
11- Children lose creative ability because of the fact that they watch so much TV.
12- Watching too much television is the reason for loss of creative ability.
13- Watching too much television is responsible for loss of creative ability.
14- Watching too much television leads to loss of creative ability.
15- Watching too much television contributes to loss of creative ability.
16- Watching too much television results loss of creative ability.
17- Watching too much television causes loss of creative ability.
18- Loss of creativity results from watching too much television.
19- Loss of creativity follows from watching too much television.
20- Loss of creativity is due to watching too much television.
21- Loss of creativity is a result of watching too much television.
22- Loss of creativity is a consequence of watching too much television.
23- Watching too much television kills creativity.
24- Watching too much television takes away creativity.
25- Watching too much television stifles creativity.
26- Watching too much television discourages creativity.
..............
You can add many similar structures. I am sure about it.
I just wanted to change my mood by writing this post. I hope that is useful.
All the best,
Behnam, 1 December, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Sun Dec 01, 2013 5:07 pm
by shahrubanu
ooh! dear brother Behnam thank you so much, you increase our knowledge.. you are a great teacher HEAD TEACHER!.Thank you for teaching us.By the way,I m so curious , could you please kindly let me know who you were texting to today?
with great respects..love my friends
Hi Shahrbanu!
Posted: Sun Dec 01, 2013 5:17 pm
by behnam
Hi my lovely sister Shahrbanu the great,
How are you? I hope you are fine. Thank you for parsing me. You are a great teacher yourself.
About the friend I was texting to, unfortunately, I cannot share her/his name here. Maybe, s/he doesn't agree to have her/his name shared in this place. I am sure, you are a wise lady. You can take a guess quite easily. S/he has been absent from this thread for a long time. I was missed for him/her. I hope to read his/her wonderful, full of emotions and energetic posts soon. I hope so!
All the best,
Behnam, 1 December, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Sun Dec 01, 2013 5:25 pm
by shahrubanu
That's ok. dear brother.I'm good at guessing but this time I can't guess his/her name:) it doesn't matter .You are always kind to your friends.Behnam you have a golden heart.I wonder how such a golden heart pumps blood into your vessels. Hearts are supposed to be made of meat, but yours is made of gold!
bye for now....miss you :)
The most valuable thing in the world!
Posted: Mon Dec 02, 2013 11:01 am
by behnam
Hi my dear sister Shahrbanu,
Your comments make me happy. You are very kind and friendly. I am proud of having a sister like you. Thank you very much for posting your friendly posts in this thread.
The price of gold is decreasing radically in Iran. I wish my heart was made of something more valuable than gold. What could it be? I don't know! What's the most valuable thing in the world? I guess this varies from person to person. For me, the most valuable thing in the world is satisfying God! What is your most valuable things?
Hope to hear from you soon.
All the best,
Behnam, 2 December, 2013
The art of conversation!
Posted: Mon Dec 02, 2013 12:12 pm
by behnam
Hi friends,
I was reading a report in a daily newspaper which was focusing on the causes of divorce in some countries(my country was included). Statistics show that the rate of divorce is increasing and the rate of marriage is decreasing in some countries. Experts have their own views on the causes and these issues have being discussed for a long time. As a matter of fact, the rate of registered divorces is high, but in reality it is higher than what is going on in the societies. A new phenomenon- Emotional Divorce-is not considered in statistics! What does it mean? It means that there are many officially married couples; living under the same roof, but haven't got any emotional involvements with each other! These couples are tolerating each other. They are actually not living. In some cases, despite having serious problems, couples tolerate each other because they have got children. They don't want their children to grow up in a single-parent family! However, some couples are emotionally divorced, whereas they haven't got any children! Unfortunately, this type of marriage is common among educated couples!!! Why?
This is a strange thing. There are limited sources to see and gather data about this phenomenon. It is hard to dig this issue more, because you cannot ask people to share their personal things, like in-bed quality, with others! How silly it would be, or what would you receive in response if you asked someone if s/he made love regularly and normally or not? You might receive a punch in the stomach. Don't try it!
Fortunately, for a basic primary study, you don't need to ask couples about their private lives. Although it is quite impossible to go to Mars and experience living there, scientists apply universal rules and guess how life could be on other planets. Similarly, you may not know what is going on among 'Emotionally Divorced' couples, but you can guess what is not going on!
One of the not-going-on things is conversation. They don't know how to talk with each other. They are both educated, but they don't know how to talk with each other! This is unbelievable, but we have to believe it!
Many people don't know how to make a constructive conversation. They lack the art of conversation. They speak; put words together and build sentences, but they don't understand the language of each other! Don't get me wrong! They are both from the same country and their mother tongue is the same! Why? Maybe, they don't listen to each other. Maybe their ears are closed!
In some aspects, conversation is similar to house-building. We have to make a strong foundation first, then put bricks on each other, using cement among them to keep them fixed, ...! Putting bricks with different shapes on each other without using cement result in nothing! You will finally have a pile of ruin! It is neither brick, nor cement! They are inseparable, worse than the initial states they had!
We should respect diplomacy. We should learn how to talk. Talking is different from barking! We need to talk wisely! Who am I writing to? Believe me, I am writing these things without thinking about someone. This is one of our serious everyday problems in this modern world with New Phenomena!
I have to leave right now. I have no time to check the mistakes and to correct them. So sorry!
All the best,
Behnam, 2 December, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Tue Dec 03, 2013 1:18 pm
by [amal]
Hi Behnam,
How are you?
Thanks for you posts, I really love your words.
I read your post about report in the newspaper which focusing on divorce. In fact, I think these days the divorce is increasing because both men and women become independent and both of them have their interests which are different from each other. Therefore, they lose the communication. Above that, nowadays, everything is changing, men are changing and women are changing. The value of morality and loyalty has changed too. So it's normal to see such marriages and divorces!
Dear, How is your marriage? Or maybe, I shouldn't ask! I maybe receive a punch in the stomach!
Wish you a happy life.
Amal
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Tue Dec 03, 2013 8:28 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
Your suggestion about going to that lady's home is tempting, especially for me, because my wife from time to time stays at her mother's home and some nights I am alone until the morning like tonight. Also that lady is a special case, she lost her husband in a car accident few years ago and now she is single. it is difficult for a married woman to continue her life singly. I think it is my duty to help her ,for seeking of God I should help her and save her from depression.
At first when I read your suggestion, my judge was unfair; I told myself that Behnam is one the Satan's soldier. But tonight I changed my mind, you are right, I am alone tonight and she is alone at her house. I will call her and make a decision whether she comes to my house or I go to her house. You know that there is a difference between having a visit with a woman and a girl. The girls should have permission from her parents,but woman doesn't need. I am talking about Islamic limits. As I told you she is special case. I can visit her without making sin and consider that I may save her from deviation ,I receive reward from God.
Now I am sinking in my thoughts ,your enticing suggestion. I can't focus on anything else. I read you detail description about divorce. Thank you , you right it excellently. But I didn't get a part of it "A new phenomenon- Emotional Divorce-is not considered in statistics! What does it mean? It means that there are many officially married couples; living under the same roof, but haven't got any emotional involvements with each other!"
What is emotional divorce , and why when it doesn't consider in statistics , it means that registered married couples haven't got emotional involvements?
I was in Tehran international spare parts and car exhibition for two days , I humbly requested my boss to left me alone and visited the exhibition without me . but he didn't responded to my plea and took me to this journey by force ( God may make his life short) . I really don't like travelling , visiting fair ,coming back with a bag full of catalogues ,DVDs and echantillons.
My best time is when I am lying in bed and watch TV
All the best
Mohsen
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Wed Dec 04, 2013 6:28 pm
by behnam
Hi Amal,
Your post made me extremely happy. Thank you very much. You write beautifully. I love your writings VERY much.
In answer to your question, my marriage is happy. We've got many emotional involvements with each other!
Dear Amal, there is a channel on TV entitled 'Press TV'! It is in English. I seldom watch TV, but if I have a chance to watch it, I watch 'Press TV' which broadcasts global news. The news about your country makes my heart painful. The war has made Syria go back to stone age. Some sections of Damascus is actually a pile of ruins! I hope they will make an agreement in coming conference in Geneva!
All the best,
Behnam, 4 December, 2013
Challenging things!
Posted: Thu Dec 05, 2013 1:38 pm
by behnam
Mohsen wrote:I can visit her without making sin and consider that I may save her from deviation ,I receive reward from God.
Hi Mohsen,
I am sure your wife isn't aware of your posts. What you have written is challenging. Visiting someone isn't forbidden and then sinful.You may mean something else by 'visiting'! How can you save a widow from deviation(as you have put it) by visiting her? How skilful you are! By the way, what do you mean by 'deviation'? You have written such challenging vague things, because you have found the thread empty from brave ladies. When the cat is away the mice play!
Mohsen wrote:What is emotional divorce , and why when it doesn't consider in statistics, it means that registered married couples haven't got emotional involvements?
Suppose you decide to carry out a study on the rate of divorce or marriage in a society. What will you do? You may go to some registry offices where the information about registered marriages and divorces is kept. After gathering some data you may conclude that, in big cities, one in three marriages ends in divorce! This is 'called statistical study' of an issue.
However, there are some couples. They are living under the same roof, but they have nothing to do with each other. They are married, but they don't have any marital activities! These people have marital problems, but they haven't went to a registry office to get divorced and register it!
Dear Mohsen, joking aside, the lady you are speaking about is an occasional case, but I guess you don't dare to take this golden opportunity. You either feel afraid of your wife, or you are not strong enough to handle the issues! Islam is in danger man! Why don't you hammer the nail of Islam in kofr-threatening land?
All the best,
Behnam, 5 December, 2013
Re: Let's learn together!
Posted: Tue Dec 10, 2013 8:17 pm
by Mohsen
Hi Behnam,
There are legal behaviours which are allowed by law, Deviation is when someone infringe the law. What is the law? The law in our society is the rules that God develops in order to have whole people following it.
Surly my wife doesn't know about my post, good deed should be done in hidden ,charity should be paid in secret.
When people who were men of true piety and devoted their life to God, have fallen in love ,lost their faith and couldn't control their feeling .What should I expect myself , I am not more faithful than Shiekh Sanan.
Shiekh Sanan who was living in Mecca, left there and went to RUOM, There he saw a beautiful Christian girl. He fell into passionate love with the young girl, forgetting his place among his followers and his prominence as a learned and spiritual pious Muslim.
The girl, who was much younger than the Sheik refused his love and instead asked him to perform impossible tasks, throwing obstacles in his way in order to change his mind. She asked him to worship an idol (highest crime in Islam), burn the Quran, drink wine (forbidden in Islam) and finally to lose his faith in Islam. Of all four requests the Sheik only agreed to drinking wine and asked the girl to forewent the other three.
The girl then asked for the Sheik to become a Christian. He agreed to her demand and changed his religion. Having seen no hope in averting the Sheik's love, the girl asked for him to provide her with dowry money. The Sheik, having lost his faith and gotten into the habit of drinking, responded that he neither had spiritual wealth nor material possessions. The young girl feels sorry for him and instead of a dowry asks him to attend to her hog farm (a sacrilege in Islam) for one year.
Having Bewildered by Sheik's apparent state of lost spirituality and craze, his followers tried to find a way to rescue him. They asked one of his Morid "devout followers" who was away at the time of his departure from Mecca, to come and lend a hand. The follower went to Ruom and found the Sheik in the pathetic state of raising pigs! He then asked the followers to pray for the Sheik for forty days, asking God to bring back the Sheik in to the path of righteousness.
After forty days, the prophet Mohammed came to the Morid's dream and informed him of God's will to return Sheik's sanity back to him. As for the girl, she waked up one morning and realized what she had done to the Sheik and asked forgiveness from God, becomes a Muslim and follows him as her spiritual leader.
You see Behnam , I have not Morid to pray for me ,I have a friend who encourage me to hummer the nail
.
What do you expect me , I am alone tonight and bewildered ![Confused :~:](./images/smilies/icon_e_confused.gif)