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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Fri Nov 23, 2012 8:25 am

Dear Nana,

Thank you very much for your last post to me, in fact I did not get it well ,would you please write the story in detail , What is the previous life?

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Postby Mohsen » Fri Nov 23, 2012 8:26 am

Dear Behnam,

Thank you very much for your post , I agree with you about not being pessimistic about people ,also I admire your great sentence about benefits and loss ,different attitudes about it ,someone beneficial idea is the loss idea for other.
I know a shopkeeper who sell his goods base on the price which he has bought it . he doesn't consider the current price of goods in the market. If he had bought goods with a cheap price he would sell it cheap. He is such a shopkeeper that never had economically impressive progressed. He is proud of his manner while some people believe that he is a fool man.
He is also a man who responsible for preparing tea for the people who come to the mosques, every nights he is working behind his tea desk free of charge and prepare tea service for thousands of people who come to the mosque.

Behnam, my idea about pretenses actions was in general, it has vast dimensions in social and ideological belief. While many young people are attracted to pretenses actions and change their basic beliefs.

I don't know the following example is the evidence for my statement or not , but I write it.

1500 years ago some pagan Arabs used to kill the baby if she was a girl. With the advent of Islam laws the practicing of female infanticide was condemned. Islam brought a new lease of life to women and elevated the status of women to great heights: so high that she stood shoulder to shoulder with man.
Islam also condemns abortion. During the development of fetus,when the body received the life-energy ( given the soul to the foetus) killing the baby (abortion ) is like killing a person in the street. A person who does it should pay fine like killing a human being .
But these days the civilized people have abortion with no fear of God like that ancient pagan Arabs , Does the civilization of human decline to 1500 years ago. What is the different between those uncivilized people and modern civilized people . Is the act these people shows that they come back to 1500 years ago?

It is great sentence which Elham mentioned it "sometimes we want to believe fake ones since it is pleasant to us and we can benefit from it, and sometimes we like to deny the true ones since we find it unpleasant" Thank you Elham for this great sentence.

B.W
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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby WiLZiN » Fri Nov 23, 2012 8:58 pm

A thoughts of poetry #4:


Don't kill my dream
Don't kill my dream
Don't kill my dream that I built my hopes on it
And I decided to live with it what was left from my years
Don't kill it, it's still a baby
Don't kill it, it's an innocent angel
Don't kill it, it's candle light
Don't kill it, it's a beacon of the road
Don't kill it, love doesn't forbidden
Don't kill it, my talk doesn't criminalized
Don't kill it, don't kill it
Don't kill my dream :cry:


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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby WiLZiN » Sat Nov 24, 2012 12:34 am

Hi my friends...

In my last post I did intended mistakes.Can you find and correct them?!
What are your Opinions about the subject that I wrote about "dreams killing"?!
I'm waiting for your answers my dears...

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby [amal] » Sun Nov 25, 2012 12:05 am

Hi Wilzin,

How are you my friend?

There is no need to correct your writing since it is what you felt and it's your belief, I always follow my feelings and do what I believe that's the right thing to do. Anyway, who knows what is the right or the wrong?!

In answering your question about dream killing, I prefer to kill my young dream instead of living a fake reality.

Sometimes, it's better to give up dreaming and try to transfer it into a reality. Sometimes, killing a dream opens for us other beautiful doors and maybe give us the chance to have bigger dreams. Sometimes, killing a dream give us the chance to know other nice people and have a good memories about the old ones; Or give us the chance to know another world...

My friend, the life doesn't end, if you didn't get one of your dreams. But it would end, if you stopped dreaming.

Please don't let your life concern about just one dream...

Best wishes,
Amal

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Elham » Sun Nov 25, 2012 8:12 am

Dear Wilzin,

I never give up on my dreams. I live with my dreams, without dreams I'm nothing. Actually, what gives me hope and makes me take next step is my dreams.I never meet them completely, but you know? My dreams makes me! When I want to know myself, I refer to my dreams, dreams I've had in the past, and dreams I have now for future! I have so many dreams, not just for external things! I have dreams on who I want to be, on which persnality I like to be seen as, on what kind of daughter, friend, wife and mother I want to be! :-D

I'm sure that just dreaming is not enough! I try not to be a blind person. I believe I'm a patient person! Sometimes I see other people are meeting MY dreams; sometimes, I get tooooooooo close to my dreams that there is just one step left to reach it, but I lose it; some times I just see that I'm getting away from my dear dream, ohhhhh, the worst case that has happened to me is reaching my big dream but just having it in my hands, it pures like water when you hold it in your hands and observe it leaving through the distance between your fingers! :-( :-( :-( :-( :-(

So you see, many dangers may threaten our dreams, but that never doesn't mean we have to kill them. We have to find the best way to cope with what fate brings to us! :-)

I love my dreams, they keep me alive, I try to reach them or in case I can't, I keep them some where in my mind! Emmm, maybe I convince myself that it hasn't been a right dream!

Dear Wilzin, one of my biggest dreams is to be a good person, the one who god loves! I do do do envy those who are such persons. Good for them, what is more pleasant than that? To be his lovely child,to be the one whom he feels proud of, the one whom he is satisfied with!
............good for them, good for them, good for them....

How enjoyable it is to know you're taking steps rightly in his way! Oh how sweet is when you know what you're doing is what makes him happy, that way you do it with all your heart and soul, you die for doing that! You sacrifice everything just to let him know that you love him!ohhh........

Good for them, oh good for them........

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby behnam » Sun Nov 25, 2012 8:34 am

Hi Elham,

At the moment, I don't know what to write. However, I've promised to write a long report-formed post to you. I really love writing, but writing aimlessly is like talking carelessly or walking randomly! I wish you had given me a topic.

Today is final day of our religious Holidays. I have to stay at home. I am here at my computer from the beginning of the day until the evening. I check my mailbox, reply to some emails, send some emails to my friends, read the headlines, chat with my friends on EC, Skype and Yahoo Messenger, etc.

Let me write about the things I did yesterday. I got up at about 6am and after saying my prayers, I filled the kettle and switched it on. Then I took keys and drove to baker's to buy some bread. Unfortunately, the shop was closed. I tried different bakeries, but all were shut! I called my wife and consulted with her. She said; "That's OK Behnam. Forget fresh bread. Today is Tasua. I guessed the shops would be inactive. We had some bread from the previous day. We could use them." This message made me happy, since I was feeling embarrassed about being back empty-handed. LOL :lol:

We had breakfast at about 8am. We ate honey, cheese, walnut, with Lavash(a sort of bread in Iran). We also drank some mugs of tea.

After the breakfast, I turned my computer on. Fortunately, the kids where asleep. My wife cleaned and washed up. There where nothing more to do, well the house wasn't untidy. It was about 9am one of the kids started making some noise. My wife was in the kitchen. I took the kid and checked whether he was hungry or needed to have his nappy changed. Actually, both of them were correct. He needed both food and clean nappy. :oops: My wife wanted me to look after him for a short time, and I did. Then she came and gave proper services to them. I just helped her prepare warm water and wash them in turn. {-:

I sat at my computer and checked mailbox, read headline, surfed the Net for a while and joined my friends in the chat room. It was about 12:30am that my wife wanted me to call local sandwich seller and order two sandwiches. I did it. After some minutes, a motor driver rang the bell and gave me the sandwiches and the bill. I paid for them and thanked the man.

After praying, we ate lunch at about 1pm. Then I went to the bed, while the computer was downloading 'Soviet secret weapons'! I got up at about 5pm. It was dark. I switched the lamp on and checked computer to see if the file was downloaded completely or not. It was downloaded. I left the room and saw my wife watching TV. The kettle was on the cooker, and tea was ready. The kids were awake, making some noises, like ghoghagum bigh baghoo, dirrrrrr, shirrrrrrr, I aped them for a while then poured two mugs of tea. After, drinking tea, my wife wanted me to look after the children, because she wanted to cook something for dinner. I did it, but in fact they didn't need.

It was about 8pm we ate dinner(as a habit, we eat dinner early). Then I was at my computer. First, I watched the downloaded file. It took me 55 minutes. The file was in English. I chatted with some friends on Yahoo Messenger, Skype, and EC. Finally, we went to bed at about 11:30 I guess.

Something else: On Thursday afternoon(my favourite day of the week is Thursdays. I love Thursday very much. It looks like people are happier on Thursdays. Everything seems to smile at me. I am happy too.) We went to the market(Tarebar) to buy some fruit and some special vegetables and Vinegar, since my wife had decided to make some pickle. While doing the shopping, some people were giving candy to customers. In fact, on Thursdays some people distribute dates, fruits, or candies among people in order to indirectly ask them to pray for their dead members! In other words, they ask people to read 'Al-fateheh'(a famous verse in the Holy Koran) for dead members. As a religious belief, 'Al-Fatehe' helps dead people have happy soul in grave. In particular, Thursdays are so suitable for this purpose. I don't know how it works!

Due to the fact that date and fruit are expensive, these days people distribute some cheap candies among people. When one of them took the pocket of candies in front of me and said, "here you are", I took a candy and said, "I don't think this candy can help a dead person go to Heaven. Why don't you give banana?" People around me, specially some girls, laughed at my way of talking. To be honest, I said it on purpose, to make people(girls) laugh!

Today is Ashura(the tenth day of historical fight of Imam Husein with Yazid's troops). Yazid was a cruel caliph. He didn't care about Islam and its rules. He wanted Imam Husein to say 'yes' to him, but Imam Husein said 'NO'! Imam Husein was the second grandchild of prophet Muhammad. He knew the real Islam and what wrong with Yazid was! Yazid wanted him to say 'YES', otherwise he threatened to be killed. Imam Husein said, "I prefer dying to humiliation" Finally, they fought! Imam Husein had 72 helpers. They fought bravely with thousands soldiers.The point is this: They knew that they would lose the battle, but they fought to die. They didn't want to say 'YES" to a unbeliever cruel Caliph.

Imam Husein has given the most important lesson to human beings. The message is this: Dying for your beliefs is more valuable than living in relief! Imam Husein has taught us that blood finally wins sword! To convert this sentence into this modern world's language; blood wins atomic bomb! This blood is the blood which some brave people(believers) give to water the tree of their belief!

Imam Husein has showed us that there are only two ways of living in this world. Living freely, while supporting the facts(truth), and living among unbelievers; supporting cruelty!

I don't know what to write. My mind doesn't work properly. I hope this will make my dear friend Elham happy.

All the best,
Behnam, 25 November, 2012


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Postby Elham » Sun Nov 25, 2012 8:52 am

Hi dear Behnam,

Oh thanks for your nice post! Sorry if my request took your valuable time. Since I love your posts, I asked you to write a post just for me. Thta's very kind of you, thankssssssssss.

I specially loved the last part you have written about Imam Hosein (Alyhe sallam). Woww, I loved this part:


Imam Husein has given the most important lesson to human beings. The message is this: Dying for your beliefs is more valuable than living in relief! Imam Husein has taught us that blood finally wins sword! To convert this sentence into this modern world's language;
blood wins atomic bomb!This blood is the blood which some brave people(believers) give to water the tree of their belief!

You have written it in a wonderful, thoughtful, great way. Many thanks my dear friend.

Wish you and your lovely familly happiness,

Elham

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Postby WiLZiN » Sun Nov 25, 2012 10:48 am

Hi Amal & Elham...

How are you my dears friends?!

Thanks for your replays. They made me so happy and gave my a potion of positive energy. :-D
I Promise you to do the best I can to achieve my dream. Now I have a clear path in my life. I will go forward and nothing will stop me except death.
I'm very glad to say that "I have a dream". :-)

Have nice days...


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Postby behnam » Mon Nov 26, 2012 1:50 pm

Dear Behanm,

I hope your babies and wife are health and happy.

For you,as a new father,everyday is rich and pleasure.I shouldn't bother you.However one question is confused me and I need your answer.As you see the post I wrote to Amal,I visited a friend last weekend.She divorced, got the renal failure,lost her job.Every unlucky thing takes place on her.But she is a nice and good person.She havn't done a bad thing or hurt other people.Even if her husband treats her so badly,she wouldn't hate him.Why she meet so many unlucky things. It's said "Give cake and ale to perfect soul".God should bless that people who is doing good thing?Can you give me a answer?

Best regards

Nana


Hi Nana,

First of all, I should say sorry to be this much late in replying to your post. There are some reasons for this long delay:


1) This question is really difficult. This cannot be answered and understood by means of materialist philosophy which is popular in the world.


2) This question is not my piece of cake! As you know, my filed is Physics. I know only a little bit Physics and some basic things in English.


3) I was really pressed for time when you asked me this question. I had a very busy schedule. I was the main secretary and manager of a conference. Therefore, I had a lot of things to do. That's why I couldn't concentrate and think about it properly.

4) To be honest with you, after the conference, I completely forgot the question, but thankfully our dear friend Elham reminded me.

I have promised to write something about your difficult question. It should be mentioned that I am just writing something about it. In other words, I am not answering to your question, since it belongs to another area; beyond my field of study.

Firstly, according to the Holy Koran, this world is just a place(and of course an opportunity) for people to make themselves ready for transferring to another world. You may ask; "well, when someone dies earlier than others, they don't take enough time to prepare for the travel." That's true from one aspect, but having long longevity doesn't necessarily mean good preparation. The majority of people waste their lives. These people make themselves heavy with committing sins. Committing sins and bad actions result in short wings. Therefore, they cannot fly! Plus, time is extremely important. For many people, the longer longevity, the higher possibility to get heavy!

In order to make it understandable, let me make an analogy between sin and heaviness on the one hand, good action and wing on the other hand. Committing sins make someone heavy, which is against of the rule of travelling, and good deeds result in long and wide wings which lead to easy flight.

Using simple maths shows that for bad people it is better to leave this world earlier, and good people can live longer, because the more they live, the bigger their wings become! This calculation is correct from our stand of view, but who can guarantee that those good people will be good forever? Maybe, today someone has got two big wings(due to good deeds), but tomorrow they may act badly and, consequently, their wings get shortened. Who knows?

For some people, leaving early is good(dying), for some others, staying longer is useful(living more). Only God knows what is good for people!

Secondly, when we evaluate things by using our feelings and thoughts, we consider some things lucky(as you have put it), some others unlucky. This way of categorization does not work from God's point of View! This way of evaluating has created by human beings. Your friend looks sick. We(you and I) say, "Oh, poor she!". We are not aware that this sickness may result in some good events. Maybe for that person, leaving earlier is the exact luckiness! Who knows?

Finally, we say, "Poor she", because we think the life is just limited to this world. This way of thinking is one of the disadvantages of materialist philosophy. Although it makes people work hard to have better lives(taking the only opportunity and maximum benefits, because we can live once according to this philosophy), it has some negative effects. For example, the poor and sick people are disappointed. In addition, people(the poor and the rich) are spiritually weak. Being spiritually weak can be one of the main reasons for self-killing in the modern societies.

In conclusion, I think, our way of evaluation and calculation is wrong! We are not aware of the exact luckiness and unluckiness!

I hope it helps.

All the best,
Behnam, 26 November, 2012



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Postby behnam » Tue Nov 27, 2012 4:22 pm

Hi friends,

How are you? I hope you are fine. EC is going to choose good chatters in November. I am among nominates. Please go to the following link and vote.

http://my.englishclub.com/profiles/blog ... ember-2012

All the best,
Behnam, 27 November, 2012



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Postby behnam » Sat Dec 01, 2012 5:59 am

Hi Elham, Amal, Mohsen, Nana, Wilzin, and all people who read this post,

This is just to let you know that I've missed you terribly. I hope everything is going well with you and you are enjoying every minute of your beautiful life.

Please do not forget to post something here from time to time, since there is someone who loves hearing from you. I am patient, sure, but not that much! I am always waiting for your posts.


All the best,
Behnam, 1 December, 2012


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Postby WiLZiN » Sun Dec 02, 2012 1:19 am

Hi Behnam...

How are you my older brother?

I have missed you too :-(
In Syria... the internet stopped for 52 hours... We were in desert :-(
I hope you and your family are happy :-)

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Postby Mohsen » Sun Dec 02, 2012 3:00 pm

Hi Behnam,

My boss took me to Tehran by force, I hate him. There is an automobile fair in Tehran international Exhibitions location , Most of companies were from Iran, China and Turkey. My boss asked me to have meeting with some companies in the exhibition and discuss about business. There were 150 companies from China. In each booth there were one or two Chinese girls and a boy . I don't know why the girls only were able to speak English. The girls were slim and short like a doll. I spoke English well with them, of course this was my boss's idea, because I have a chance that my boss doesn't know English at all, Chinese speaking English were as good as me. Poor my boss.
I am against my boss strategy , he always wants to buy goods from China ,because they are cheaper, but I encourage him to buy the goods from Iranian companies. Fortunately we signed a contract with Iranian company.
Today I came back from Tehran.
Have a good time
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Postby [amal] » Sun Dec 02, 2012 3:37 pm

Hi Wilzin,

How are you?

Oh you were in a desert but I wasn't alive at allll!!! I was really sick all those 52 hours, I slept all the time, having cold and not being in contact with my friends killed me. A lot of bad thoughts came to my mind and I was afraid that I'll never ever be in touch with Elham and Behnam!!!!!!! :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

Sadly when the net worked yesterday I was too tired and couldn't do anything although I miss Eli and Behnam. :cry: :cry:

What did you do last two days? And how is your study?

Best wishes

Amal

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Postby WiLZiN » Sun Dec 02, 2012 5:54 pm

Hi Amal...

How are you my dearest dear?

Oh my God, :cry: :cry: :cry: I'm very sad for what's happened to you
the two past days, I was preoccupied with find a way to connect my friends and you on the top of the list.
Oh my dear, :cry: :cry: :cry: I hate sickness because it's Breaks my heart on whom I love. I pray to God for you to be save from sickness, sufferance, and sadness. {-:
My study is good and it's in progress. Please don't forget to pray for me all time because you have a pure snow white heart so your pray is accepted responded. {-:

God bliss you, and let's be in touch permanently.
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Postby Mohsen » Sun Dec 02, 2012 6:30 pm

Hi friends, this moral story ,I forward it to you

Nafiseh sat waiting for her friend Narges who was coming to visit her. She was surprised at her friend's demand for a private meeting. Nafiseh thought Narges must have a serious problem, so she was anxious to see her friend, when she arrived a few minutes late. Nafiseh waited for her to start talking while Narges tried to appear composed.

Then she said, "Can I ask you a question!"

"Yes, with pleasure!" said Nafiseh.

Narges said, "I want you to answer frankly."

"Now you know I am always frank!" Nafiseh assured her.

"Why did you refuse Ramin's proposal of marriage!" burst out Narges.

Nafiseh was taken aback by the question. She was silent for a while, and said, "Can I also ask you a question!"

"Of course, you can," said Narges.

"Why do you ask me a question that might upset me? You know he is my relative and I have refused him for certain reasons."

Hesitantly Narges said, "Well, he has proposed to me. That's why I want to know your reasons for refusing him."

"Oh, I see!" said Nafiseh, and went silent. Then Narges began to plead with her saying, "I must know. I am your friend, am not I! Don't you care for me?"

"Yes, you are my friend and I do care for you, so I will tell you the reason. But first of all, what do you know about him? " Nafiseh asked Narges.

"I know that he is a handsome, gentleman, educated, and well mannered with a good social position."

"That's right," said Nafiseh. "He is also wealthy. But is that enough?"

Narges, pale faced, murmured, "He is not a committed Muslim !"

"You know this and yet you still ask me my reason for refusing him?"

"I know that religion is very important, but he might change”, said Narges.

"How?" asked Nafiseh.

"Have you ever thought that he might be guided to the right path?" proffered Narges.

"Is this what you think?" said Nafiseh.

"I think," began Narges, "that refusing him is a kind of cowardice. I think we can bring Ramin and the likes of him back to religion, and that we should strive for that."

"O.K., but how are you going to do it?" Nafiseh said.

"I have means" said Narges. "Anyway why should I refuse him when he has all these good qualifications?

If I leave him, he may marry someone who will increase his disregard for religion. If I accept him, I may bring him back to faith."

"That's your opinion" said Nafiseh. "I won't impose mine on you. However, it is a very dangerous game, or marriage at risk."

"Oh, please do not exaggerate so Nafiseh. Marriage is an adventure. I feel I can tolerate the experience."

"You are quite wrong! Experience does not make a fool wise. There is a great difference between marriage to a committed believer, who is careful of his religious duties which protect him from deviation, and a non-committed Muslim, who cares for nothing but earthly pleasures that change with the times."

"It is a risk" said Narges, "But if I succeed it would be in the best interests of religion."

"You say: ‘If I succeed', this 'if' indicates your doubts. Marriage should start on a firm foundation." Nafiseh told her.

Narges looked down as if in inner conflict. Then she said, "What is your opinion?"

"I don't know what to say" said Nafiseh. "I am afraid you will suffer as a result of such an experience. It is a dangerous game. A husband does not usually accept his wife's opinion and he may even make her accept his. Then the wife may find herself standing at a crossroad leading either to the failure of her marriage or the loss of her religion. You know both are terribly hard to tolerate."

Nafiseh stopped for a while and waited for Narges to speak.

When she did it was in a choked voice, "What then?"

"I think you can spare yourself such trouble!" said Nafiseh kindly.

"Suppose I am forced into doing it. What should I do then ? "

"That's for you to decide Narges. No one can impose their will on you, whoever they are!"

Narges was silent, then said challengingly, "I shall take the risk. I hope that I will be successful."

Nafiseh looked at her and said coldly, "You are free to do what you like. I hope you won't be sorry afterwards." Narges got up saying, "I apologize for having taking up your time."

Nafiseh, "Nothing to apologize for, I feel sorry for you! "

They shook hands and Narges left the house. Nafiseh felt she had just lost a friend.

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Postby Mohsen » Sun Dec 02, 2012 6:31 pm

A few weeks later, Narges sat, waiting anxiously for her husband. It was nearly 11 p.m. and she was very worried. She looked at the clock every other minute, and at half past eleven she heard the door open and close softly. She got up and saw her husband enter. Her face became bright with happiness. She said, "Oh Ramin, you are late!" She was scared when she saw he looked disappointed. He said, "Why haven't you gone to bed yet?"

"How can I sleep when you are still out? " asked Narges.

While he was taking off his suit and putting on his pajama, he murmured, "That will cause you a lot of worry."

"How? " asked Narges.

"Because I shall often be late. There is no need for you to stay awake and alone."

She was disturbed at his answer and could not believe her ears. So instead she said, "Your supper is ready." Smiling he said,

"I ate out. Some friends invited me to a club. They held a party in my honour."

"I hope you enjoyed it. But why didn't you tell me about it before?" asked Narges.

"There was no need to tell you, as you won't go with me to such places," said Ramin.

"Well, at least I wouldn't have got so worried."

Ramin said, "You should have known that I was at a social engagement. I live amongst educated liberals, and cannot be isolated at home with a woman..." he uttered the last words in a sharp tone and then said, "Now, go and have your supper."

With tears in her eyes, she sadly said, "I am not hungry."

Ramin said, "Then let's go to bed."

Narges said, "I expect you've already done your prayer?"

Coldly, Ramin said, "It is after mid-night. Prayer time is over."

"No", said Narges, "It is not yet mid-night. Anyway it must be done even if it is late."

"You don't know how tired and sleepy I am!" said Ramin.

"Fatigue doesn't exempt one from one's religious duty."

Mockingly he said, "Allah will accept my excuse."

"No matter-if you love me you must do your prayer." Angrily, Ramin got up saying, "Please do not mix up my love with praying and fasting. Let me love you in my way not yours. Anyway, I will not allow you to call me to account about my prayer every night!"

He threw himself on the bed and fell asleep leaving Narges shocked at his words. She recalled Nafiseh's words which had apparently come true.

She hurried to the Holy Qur'an to seek comfort and refuge. She opened it at random and read the first verse of the page which said: ...We did them no injustice, but they were unjust to themselves. (al-Nahal, 118)

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Postby Mohsen » Sun Dec 02, 2012 6:34 pm

Days and weeks passed. Narges could find no way of getting Ramin to come to her way of thinking. Whenever she talked about religion, he either mocked her or turned a deaf ear. She tried her best to give him comfort and happiness at home, but she found him more and more interested in spending his time outside. One night she waited long time for him to come home, and when he did he seemed happy, so she thought it would be a good time for her to talk to him.

She said gently, "Don't you see that I am unhappy?"

Ramin surprised said, "You are unhappy? Why? Haven't I provided you with all the means for your comfort?"

“Yes, I must admit you have! Anyway, happiness is what matters; without it, there is no comfort."

"Why aren't you happy then ? " asked Ramin.

Narges said, “How can I be happy when you are so physically, spiritually and emotionally far away from me?"

“That's partly true," conceded Ramin, "but I love you so I do not completely agree with what you say."

"If you loved me you would please me. You know I am not happy about your behaviour."

"Have I hurt you in any way?" asked Ramin, much surprised.

"You have not hurt me physically, but you have hurt me mentally by your disregard for the belief that you promised to respect. You are not careful enough about religion, to bring us closer to each other."

"Well, I am afraid I cannot change my life style. I cannot give up my friends or my social life. I cannot be cut off from others just to spend my life behind these walls. I cannot perform my prayer in a mosque just to please you. Faith stems from personal satisfaction. It would be nothing but hypocrisy if I worshipped Allah just for you. You know that I am an honest, straightforward person, both in my personal and business dealings. What more do you want? "

Narges listened, while her heart sank. She said in broken voice, "What about me? Have I no place at all in your life?"

"You are my beloved wife. I love no one but you. Come closer to my heart and you will know real happiness."

"What do you mean?" said Narges.

"I mean give up ideas that keep you from enjoying life's pleasures. Turn to me whole-heartedly, and I will make you taste a life that you are still unaware of. You are at cross-roads, either you put your hand in mine and I'll take you into a world of happiness, or you stay a prisoner in your house, content with it."

"Isn't there a third choice?" she asked. Ramin was silent for a while and then said, "Yes, there is. We can separate; and though it would be hard for me, it would be less harmful than if you decided to refuse my suggestion."

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Narges was silent. She wanted to scream and run away, but she was helpless. She spent a long sleepless night, feeling as if she was between two fires both of which could burn her. She was about to choose a divorce, but then thought of the tiny creature moving in her womb.

This innocent creature tied her both to the house and her husband. She was soon to be a mother. She felt dizzy with thinking and, throwing her head on to her hand, she went into a dreamless sleep. When she woke up her husband said, "Narges, why didn't you sleep in your bed?"

She opened her eyes to see him standing near her with a cheerful face as if he was ignorant of the reason why she hadn't gone to bed. She looked at him silently.

Anxiously, he said, "Why are you pale? Are you sick?" He put his hand round her and sat nearby.

She said, “Do you really not know why I am sad?"

He laughed gently saying, "Even if I know, what can I do about it? I have offered you my heart, so is it my fault if you reject it? By the way, today I have some visitors, so be ready for the occasion."

"Who are they?" said Narges.

"Just some friends with their wives." He was silent waiting for his wife's reaction.

She said, "Will it be a mixed meeting for men and women ?"

"Of course, you do not really expect me to stick to the old tradition of having a separate room for women, do you?"

"What about me then?" asked Narges.

"You are free to do what you like," said Ramin.

She was silent for a while; then, wishing to compromise and thus show some understanding, she said, “O.K, I shall be present."

Her husband was happy-he kissed her warmly saying, "Do you mean it? How happy I am. I shall be the happiest husband. I shall be so proud of your beauty. You are the sun that will outshine their dim lights."

"What has my beauty to do with anything? To please you, I have decided to be present but I will wear hijab."

Ramin drew back in disgust, "In decent hijab? No! I do not want you to be mocked. Just prepare dinner and leave the house. That will be better. I can find some excuse to explain your absence."

Narges could not tolerate such an insult. She got up saying, "It is better if I leave the house at once."

"What about the guests?" asked Ramin.

"You can take them to a club".

"When will you come back?" asked Ramin.

"I may never come back!" retorted Narges.

"What about my child?" asked Ramin, calmly and deliberately. Those words were strong enough to remind her of the bitter reality, the great dilemma she was in.

She despairingly murmured, "Oh, what a fool I was! How right Nafiseh was!"

When he heard Nafiseh's name, he said laughingly, "Oh, that snob! I proposed to her just to crush her pride and religious vanity. Now you remember her; what has she or her advice ever done for you? You are on the verge of destroying your marriage and your family life is about to fail because of this backward Nafiseh!"

Narges angrily said, "No, I won't allow you to speak ill of her. Had I listened to her advice I would have spared myself such an experience. Anyway, it is my own fault. I must bear the consequences.

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Re: Let's learn together!

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Two years later, Nafiseh sat thinking of her friend Narges. She had heard a lot about her that she found difficult to believe. She could not believe that after a bitter struggle Narges had given in to her husband. She had heard she no longer cared for Islamic hijab but accompanied her husband to parties and nightclubs. She had given birth to a boy, Farid and they said she was always sad and hardly ever smiled. Nafiseh heard such rumours and wished she could see Narges and learn the truth from her.



That morning the doorbell rang and Nafiseh hurried to open it. She was surprised to see Narges herself standing in front of her. She was pale and unhappy. Nafiseh welcomed her and led her into the living room. Narges sat silently, not knowing what to say.

Nafiseh said "Oh, Narges, how I hoped I'd see you; I've heard so much about you, but I was anxious to hear from you yourself."



Narges cried bitterly saying, "I have no news except of disgrace and shame! I have been the victim of foolishness and self-deceit. Anyway I am not worthy of your friendship. I have fallen to the bottom of the abyss and am hopeless, may Allah forgive me!"

Nafiseh felt great pity for her and kindly said, "You are still my sister and I must help you, to overcome this awful experience. Now, please tell me everything frankly as you did in the past."



Narges said, “Well, you know that I never listened to your advice. I believed in a dream and ran to get it; I tried hard to get Ramin to come round to my way of thinking but ailed. He never accepted my religious commitment, and treated me cruelly, humiliating me often. Sometimes, he was gentle and kind and sometimes he was frightening. I thought about divorce, but my son caused me to give up that idea, so I gave in, and obeyed him meekly. He exploited my weakness and increased his domination over me, drawing me ever deeper into disgrace. I accepted everything just as a prisoner accepts his sentence. Now, you see me here!"

Nafiseh could not blame her seeing her as she did and asked, "What's the problem now then?"

"He divorced me a week ago, because he blamed me for the death of our son", said Narges. "Why?" asked Nafiseh incredulously.

"Because I fasted in the month of Ramadhan."

Nafiseh asked, "Did your son die of hunger?"

Narges replied, "Of course not. He was both breast-fed as well bottle-fed. He died after an illness." Nafiseh was greatly moved and felt sorry for the bereaved mother who had suffered humiliation and disgrace. So you see, I have lost everything," continued Narges.

Nafiseh hugged her warmly and said, "You have not lost everything. You still have your religion calling you back through repentance, and I am still your loving friend.

You still have the broad road of the future ahead of you. Perhaps this experience will help you to make a new righteous start; a future that is built on firm foundations. Don't despair, “...surely none despair of Allah's mercy except the unbelieving people.” (Yousef, 87)


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