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We can't find happiness if we try to look for it . I quite subscribe to this point of view. A person who always want to search for happiness can hardly feel happy . Sometimes happiness is only from the smallest thing you have : like U have two eyes , two ears, good books to read , food to eat , to the great things you have : your family , your relatives , your friends . People often don't know how to appreciate happiness until they lose it . But I want to tell all of you a thing that : RESPECT EVERYTHING U HAVE . DON'T LET HAPPINESS BE OUT OF YOUR HAND . EVERYTHING U HAVE IN YOUR LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS . Bi bi all of U ! :) [/b]
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NO BODY CAN BE HAPPY BY TRYING TO FIND HAPPINESS

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i GUESS that the keys of happiness and the self reconsiliations with one self . If we know over selves very much and understand humans nature with all positiveness and negativness , when we understand that no humans is demon as well as no human is completely eveil . If got that and dealt with each other on this base we will have self happiness .
if we learnt from life and understand that it cannot give us all happiness when we r standing on our positions . if we learnt that what we do in this life, we grow it also in life in long terms .
Above all if we understand that life gives us happiness as well as sadness and that we all have our share from life because there is no complete happiness as well as no complete sadness and sorrow coz thats life ..its mix of all ..and we have to look to it in beautiful hearts to live happy and to have peace in it
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I do agree with this opinion, happiness lies in everything that we have and that we are going to have. The only important thing is to find this happiness in our life, from the bottom of our heart. As we may agreed: happiness may mean 1000 or more kind of things to 1000 persons. So, cherish what we have that we regarded as happiness. May all of us a very happy life.
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[quote="hiddenone] For myself, I'm finding a lover but it seem not easy because maybe there's no love in the world of gays.[/quote]

This is so wrong. You just can't say everyone is gay or gay people don't love each other. We need to open our arms and accept their differences. If you say, "God created us to become like this or God created man and woman for a reason" If he did, why there is love in gay people? Why do they feel different? Why do they feel there's no attraction for a person of different gender? We can't just bring God to explain whatever we disagree with or we fear of. We're all humans and we're all equal.
Anyways, we can be happy to find happiness and it's possible to find if you do look for it. The point is whom do we find happiness for? If you find happiness for yourself then good for you because you knows what you're aiming for in life. If you find happiness for others, it's also good for you because you're an unselfish person. You'll do nice things when you're trying to seek for happiness because only nice things make people happy. Examples are you'll feel sorry for a loss of a stranger, pity for an orphan who has no home to go to, happy when someone gets well, and so on. You will try to make this world better; a world's full of flowers--a world's like heaven.
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i believe that people can not find happiness while they are busily looking for it . Maybe the only way to obtain happiness is to learn to appreciate what you have got.less compaining will help you to feel happy.
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I completely agree .Yeah happiness is not out of reach but we need take a look around .Sometime it is near by our side but we cannot see it .Happiness is a struggle and a happy one is one who fight and strive for it !

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Happiness is a state of mind. The reason to feel happy varies from time to time. In my opinion, it depends on a person that what sort of happiness, he is looking for and what makes him happy? Some feel happiness to have money and luxurious life. For others, it is good health, love or success. We have the choice to be one of two types of people, one who brings happiness whenever he comes or one who brings happiness whenever he goes….
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    Waqar wrote:
    I feel happy when I draw a smile on someone’s face.
    Hello, I like your sentence.That you feel happy when you bring happiness to others is really wonderful !I call it purity happiness.

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    We find something when we are ready for that...the happyness it's found for they that are reading for to find something so natural and so inside of everyone...
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    endless for hapiness..

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    well...human's persuit to find happiness... seems to be endless..
    whateaver they posses fineally ..we can't find it forever untill it has passed by us...eventually we found it was our happiness..at that time...
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    I will tell you a story about Happiness.

    Long time ago , evils wanted to take the revenge with human .Then they tried to find the most paintful way .One evil said "Let's hide their happiness because only losing happiness people hurt the most ."All other evils agreed with this way but where could they hide human's happiness ?
    An evil said "Hide it in the sky " ,other said " No ,hide it on deep ocean " ,others added " No ,hide it in deep land " ...
    The oldest evil said " No ,people are very intelligent they will find it though we hide in the sky ,ocean or deep land .I advice that we should hide it in theirselves . That is the only place people never find !"
    All evils agreed with this idea .Then they hide human's happiness in theirselves . That is the reason why people always go to find their happiness though it is only inside therselves !
    My friends , happiness is not far ,not out of reach .It is near our side ,right on ourselves .Don't waste time to find it .
    If you think u are happy , you will be happy !!!

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    Post by yuniu »

    Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

    Obvious the above judgment is wrong. Happiness should be sense with our heart. One object might lead to various effects of human feeling because of subjective perspective.
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    Then what is happiness in your definition, teacher :D ? Have a nice day.
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    Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

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    Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness?

    Is it possible to find happiness if you look for it? Is it an impossible dream? Is it selfishness that will end in failure? Or is it the right of every human being?
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    I think you should enjoy each happy moment, because that is the secret for a happy live. If you wait by a great moment for by happy is posible that this moment never arrive. On other hand if you enjoy each little happy moment you don`t have to wait by a great momen, but if the great moment arrive enjoy it and share with someone that you love. :wink:
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    Post by Akire_san »

    Well, there's one phrase that I herad in spanish that said: "the humans live of dreams and hopes" so is part of the human happines to go for that dreams and reach them and if you can't reach them you have the good feeling that you at least try to reach them when there are a lot of people that give up without giving their best
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    Post by trantrungav »

    Is it possible to find happiness if you look for it?
    Sometimes people can find happiness if they try to find. I don't think you have happiness without looking for or building it. We have to keep it and protect it evryday.
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    i think that nobody can be happy or sad all time. hapiness can be found in the most simple things of our days. the problem is: people are never pleased. it's necessary to see the life in a simple way, allways remember good happenings in it
    there's no space here to write everything i wanted
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    Rodrigo Klassen wrote:i think that nobody can be happy or sad all time. hapiness can be found in the most simple things of our days. the problem is: people are never pleased. it's necessary to see the life in a simple way, allways remember good happenings in it
    EXACTLY! ;)
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    Yeah, I agree this qoute
    Do good things, help poorer, satisfy yourself, try your best, make anothers smile.
    You'll get happiness.
    And it's the right of human being, but somone can't find happiness because their desires are endless and they never want to stop, they want to do everything, they want to reach the perfect things. no one is really perfect, that's human. If not you are god, or angel.
    Believe that.
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    i'll not agree with this point of view entirly.
    as we know that life is always full of happiness and unhappiness things, would it be possible if we lost something our lovable somewhere, how could u get the feeling? perhaps the best way at this time is try to find something happiness while let the unhappy alone. :mrgreen:
    would u agree with this point? :lol:
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    Post by leen@rasel »

    ithink that all people can find happiness if they understood life and the that it goes it is not a matter of having money itis amatter of beeing satisfied with your self your life and your GOD idont think that happiness means that you are selfish it is your right and your choice and no one will charge you :roll:
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    ithink that all people can find happiness if they understood life and the way that it goes it is not a matter of having money itis amatter of beeing satisfied with your self your life and your GOD idont think that happiness means that you are selfish it is your right and your choice and no one will charge you :roll:
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    Everybody wishes to have the happiness but it is not in our hands .. but it is coming from Our God ( Allah ) .. We can search about the happiness causes but we can't find the happiness ..
    There are somethings bring happiness but not all of the happiness like money but not all times also .. by money we can buy a part of happiness .. and happiness come from the good health and by living with a family that its members can understand and love u .. and it is also not the wholly happiness ,,
    In shortness .. There is no one that has the all happiness as the word means .. because if he has it in his house and between family .. He couldn't has it everywhere in society and work and such as .
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    I had better say " Happiness is like a butterfly, you run after it, it keeps flying, but if you stand still, it comes and sits on you.
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    H wrote:

    I had better say " Happiness is like a butterfly, you run after it, it keeps flying, but if you stand still, it comes and sits on you.
    A beautiful speech ..
    But I think it's not correct all times ,, sometimes we have to run after the happiness to catch it :wink:
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    ABC wrote:I am agreed to this point.
    Nobody will bring any happiness to you if you don't feel happy with them.
    You always think that it's not worthy of doing. Maybe you have lost many chances and time to get happy things. But when you are trying to look for happiness for yourself, it will be far from you.
    yes,I like your idea, we must do our best in job, love... so that we 'll feel really happy, and noone can help us to get our happy.
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    yuniu wrote:Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

    Obvious the above judgment is wrong. Happiness should be sense with our heart. One object might lead to various effects of human feeling because of subjective perspective.
    I think this topic is true in some aspect. A person try to find happiness, but I think such a person 'll never know that there's limit to everything and he 'll find more, find forever and it's possible that he never feel happy!!
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    Rodrigo Klassen wrote:i think that nobody can be happy or sad all time. hapiness can be found in the most simple things of our days. the problem is: people are never pleased. it's necessary to see the life in a simple way, allways remember good happenings in it
    the best idea!!
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    'The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don't have' (Woody Allen)
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    I think that it is difficult to say black and white.
    every one just live in different situation and it is unfair to force others to fall into one's line.
    I am now learning to be sastisfied with myself because I realise that it brings me happiness when something in this life lets me down and I can t do any thing else but to accept it.
    However you are right. To live is to fight. You cant expect something to come true without any efforts. I now come to get things for myself not to wait for a magic or simply luck. And it makes my life more meaningful and active.
    I think you may end in failure but even failure is a precious experience for future success. If you dont try, you are neither failing nor successful.
    I just dont want to be such a passive one.
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    I think that a person gotta find his happines in God! :D
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    i believe in this saying by Albert Camus:

    You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.

    it comes in between, side by side, both ways or not at all..
    if we never got to notice our happiness.. then..it's all useless..
    if we're too busy looking or searching for happiness, we may never notice that we have it after all.. :wink:

    it's a matter of sitting down, or pausing to see the beauty of things.. :wink:

    i also like this quote:
    If only we'd stop trying to be happy we'd have a pretty good time.by Edith Wharton
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    Yes :) you're right. But in my opinion, we could find our happines in God. :P There's some people who doesn't trust in God but they're happy too. Boh I think I'm happy thanks to God.
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    Post by sunnyni »

    Everyone has his own character, so every one has a difference understand of the happyness. The most regret is many people don't know what is his happyness. So he will pursue his happyness all the time, though happyness is round him, but he can't recognize it .
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    You're right too..if a person searches his happines he could not see it..so be calm and live your life!!!! :wink:
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    I think we should try to find the happiness if we want. But the way of looking for happiness is very important.
    Franky, when you find it but you can't enjoy because it doesnot belong to you , it it terribe!
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    I think that the word "Happenies" is something can't be considered in one or two words. In my openion, if you look around you, and feel satistified of what you have, this bring you the happenies. Even the things around you are little or something normal now. This look will be changed by you, if you miss one of them in a time....
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    For me , I can find happiness if I try to find it . In my religion if I apply all rules and pray on the time the happiness comes from the God direct without I search about it
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    Post by Pearla »

    happiness is something possible and one can be happy if he felt satisfayed with what he have and accepting and loving himself as it is.
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    It's an endless process.

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    We as humans have never satisfied with what we have had,may be now i want something, haven't got it ,i feel unhappy. i think that i'll be happy if i got it. But after having it ,the happiness may just last for a period of time and vanish.
    So , i would conclude that the human's desire that make humans always chasing for happiness.
    Humans chase for basic needs, after having that,chase for more luxurious needs,then after having the wealthy life ; ones still would feel unhappy, they'll go for names and fames, the chasing would last until the end of ones lives. The Moslow theory had explained humans' needs thoroughly.
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    Whatever you are talking about, i just keep quite.

    I donnot want to think too much about life.

    Am i right?
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    To me, nobody can be happy when they try to find happiness.I have read a very interesting story about this issue.
    A group of devils hold an appointment in order to do something to make people miserable and after a few hours they decide to hide human happiness but they don't know where to hide it.A member say 'we should hide it on the peak of Everest mountain' but the others dont approve because people could climb up and get it, another one want to hide it at the deepest place of ocean but it isn't available too as people have many sophisticated tool such as sub-marine so they can find it easily. An elder one suggest putting it in people's heart because they often try to go to very far place to find happiness but they don't know their most precious are around them.
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    To me, nobody can be happy when they try to find happiness.I have read a very interesting story about this issue.
    A group of devils hold an appointment in order to do something to make people miserable and after a few hours they decide to hide human happiness but they don't know where to hide it.A member say 'we should hide it on the peak of Everest mountain' but the others dont approve because people could climb up and get it, another one want to hide it at the deepest place of ocean but it isn't available too as people have many sophisticated tool such as sub-marine so they can find it easily. An elder one suggest putting it in people's heart because they often try to go to very far place to find happiness but they don't know their most precious are around them
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    I liked the story narrated by Laxuan, and to my mind it really characterizes the real life. And that is the question to this discussion. There's no need to waste time on looking for happiness, it will come itself. And besides, a question arises: where one can look for happiness? That's ridiculous. And what does happiness mean in general? When you have close people by your side, friends, a good job, when you can pass ur free time like u want (going there and there, travelling, and doing what u want), when you're in love, or just have a bf or a gf. For me all these components form happiness, and even my not very good health does not mean that much, cuz I have all above stated "components of happiness" in my life. Happiness is all around us, we only have to realize that is happiness, and not to look for it. that's :). Have a nice day everybody, don't worry, BE HAPPY. Life is too short, so enjoy every moment of it. :P
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    Post by meylenlau »

    chenggiant wrote:Whatever you are talking about, i just keep quite.

    I donnot want to think too much about life.

    Am i right?
    Interesting, well, in a forum you can't just keep quiet. You can't
    control your mind from thinking about life ,right? Chasing and fulfilling your need/desire could be happened unconsciously in your life..... in silent!!
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    Post by awalee »

    I think we become happy when we want to be happy.

    But some times we find some kind of happiness whwen we becom sad ( if we not feel sadness :cry: we can not feel happiness :D )

    Are you agree with me ? :roll:
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    i think so!happy life is very natural!
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    ı completely agree with you.happiness is a kind of toll and we must know how to play with it.
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