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Post by e.eagle » Sun May 01, 2005 3:27 pm

i'll not agree with this point of view entirly.
as we know that life is always full of happiness and unhappiness things, would it be possible if we lost something our lovable somewhere, how could u get the feeling? perhaps the best way at this time is try to find something happiness while let the unhappy alone. :mrgreen:
would u agree with this point? :lol:

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Post by leen@rasel » Sun May 08, 2005 7:15 am

ithink that all people can find happiness if they understood life and the that it goes it is not a matter of having money itis amatter of beeing satisfied with your self your life and your GOD idont think that happiness means that you are selfish it is your right and your choice and no one will charge you :roll:

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Post by leen@rasel » Sun May 08, 2005 7:17 am

ithink that all people can find happiness if they understood life and the way that it goes it is not a matter of having money itis amatter of beeing satisfied with your self your life and your GOD idont think that happiness means that you are selfish it is your right and your choice and no one will charge you :roll:

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Post by someone_cute » Mon Aug 01, 2005 4:42 pm

Everybody wishes to have the happiness but it is not in our hands .. but it is coming from Our God ( Allah ) .. We can search about the happiness causes but we can't find the happiness ..
There are somethings bring happiness but not all of the happiness like money but not all times also .. by money we can buy a part of happiness .. and happiness come from the good health and by living with a family that its members can understand and love u .. and it is also not the wholly happiness ,,
In shortness .. There is no one that has the all happiness as the word means .. because if he has it in his house and between family .. He couldn't has it everywhere in society and work and such as .
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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by H » Thu Aug 04, 2005 4:15 am




I had better say " Happiness is like a butterfly, you run after it, it keeps flying, but if you stand still, it comes and sits on you.

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Post by someone_cute » Thu Aug 04, 2005 1:55 pm

H wrote:

I had better say " Happiness is like a butterfly, you run after it, it keeps flying, but if you stand still, it comes and sits on you.
A beautiful speech ..
But I think it's not correct all times ,, sometimes we have to run after the happiness to catch it :wink:
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Post by phucauto3 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 3:59 pm

ABC wrote:I am agreed to this point.
Nobody will bring any happiness to you if you don't feel happy with them.
You always think that it's not worthy of doing. Maybe you have lost many chances and time to get happy things. But when you are trying to look for happiness for yourself, it will be far from you.
yes,I like your idea, we must do our best in job, love... so that we 'll feel really happy, and noone can help us to get our happy.

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Post by phucauto3 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 4:11 pm

yuniu wrote:Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Obvious the above judgment is wrong. Happiness should be sense with our heart. One object might lead to various effects of human feeling because of subjective perspective.
I think this topic is true in some aspect. A person try to find happiness, but I think such a person 'll never know that there's limit to everything and he 'll find more, find forever and it's possible that he never feel happy!!

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Post by phucauto3 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 4:19 pm

Rodrigo Klassen wrote:i think that nobody can be happy or sad all time. hapiness can be found in the most simple things of our days. the problem is: people are never pleased. it's necessary to see the life in a simple way, allways remember good happenings in it
the best idea!!

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Post by serenella » Tue Aug 09, 2005 1:28 pm

'The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don't have' (Woody Allen)

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Post by anhly » Wed Sep 07, 2005 4:26 am

I think that it is difficult to say black and white.
every one just live in different situation and it is unfair to force others to fall into one's line.
I am now learning to be sastisfied with myself because I realise that it brings me happiness when something in this life lets me down and I can t do any thing else but to accept it.
However you are right. To live is to fight. You cant expect something to come true without any efforts. I now come to get things for myself not to wait for a magic or simply luck. And it makes my life more meaningful and active.
I think you may end in failure but even failure is a precious experience for future success. If you dont try, you are neither failing nor successful.
I just dont want to be such a passive one.

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Post by martazzz » Fri Sep 16, 2005 9:07 am

I think that a person gotta find his happines in God! :D

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Post by TearHere » Mon Sep 19, 2005 3:08 am

i believe in this saying by Albert Camus:

You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.

it comes in between, side by side, both ways or not at all..
if we never got to notice our happiness.. then..it's all useless..
if we're too busy looking or searching for happiness, we may never notice that we have it after all.. :wink:

it's a matter of sitting down, or pausing to see the beauty of things.. :wink:

i also like this quote:
If only we'd stop trying to be happy we'd have a pretty good time.by Edith Wharton

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Post by martazzz » Wed Sep 21, 2005 11:32 am

Yes :) you're right. But in my opinion, we could find our happines in God. :P There's some people who doesn't trust in God but they're happy too. Boh I think I'm happy thanks to God.

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Post by sunnyni » Thu Sep 22, 2005 7:55 am

Everyone has his own character, so every one has a difference understand of the happyness. The most regret is many people don't know what is his happyness. So he will pursue his happyness all the time, though happyness is round him, but he can't recognize it .

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Post by martazzz » Thu Sep 22, 2005 9:07 am

You're right too..if a person searches his happines he could not see it..so be calm and live your life!!!! :wink:

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Post by Trantrung » Sun Oct 02, 2005 2:10 am

I think we should try to find the happiness if we want. But the way of looking for happiness is very important.
Franky, when you find it but you can't enjoy because it doesnot belong to you , it it terribe!
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Happenies

Post by Mero » Tue Oct 18, 2005 9:19 am

I think that the word "Happenies" is something can't be considered in one or two words. In my openion, if you look around you, and feel satistified of what you have, this bring you the happenies. Even the things around you are little or something normal now. This look will be changed by you, if you miss one of them in a time....
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Post by CityYoung » Thu Dec 22, 2005 8:37 pm

For me , I can find happiness if I try to find it . In my religion if I apply all rules and pray on the time the happiness comes from the God direct without I search about it

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Post by Pearla » Thu Dec 29, 2005 9:05 pm

happiness is something possible and one can be happy if he felt satisfayed with what he have and accepting and loving himself as it is.

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It's an endless process.

Post by meylenlau » Wed Mar 15, 2006 9:40 am

We as humans have never satisfied with what we have had,may be now i want something, haven't got it ,i feel unhappy. i think that i'll be happy if i got it. But after having it ,the happiness may just last for a period of time and vanish.
So , i would conclude that the human's desire that make humans always chasing for happiness.
Humans chase for basic needs, after having that,chase for more luxurious needs,then after having the wealthy life ; ones still would feel unhappy, they'll go for names and fames, the chasing would last until the end of ones lives. The Moslow theory had explained humans' needs thoroughly.
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Post by chenggiant » Mon Mar 27, 2006 3:10 am

Whatever you are talking about, i just keep quite.

I donnot want to think too much about life.

Am i right?

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Post by Laxuan » Tue Mar 28, 2006 5:38 am

To me, nobody can be happy when they try to find happiness.I have read a very interesting story about this issue.
A group of devils hold an appointment in order to do something to make people miserable and after a few hours they decide to hide human happiness but they don't know where to hide it.A member say 'we should hide it on the peak of Everest mountain' but the others dont approve because people could climb up and get it, another one want to hide it at the deepest place of ocean but it isn't available too as people have many sophisticated tool such as sub-marine so they can find it easily. An elder one suggest putting it in people's heart because they often try to go to very far place to find happiness but they don't know their most precious are around them.
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Post by Laxuan » Tue Mar 28, 2006 5:39 am

To me, nobody can be happy when they try to find happiness.I have read a very interesting story about this issue.
A group of devils hold an appointment in order to do something to make people miserable and after a few hours they decide to hide human happiness but they don't know where to hide it.A member say 'we should hide it on the peak of Everest mountain' but the others dont approve because people could climb up and get it, another one want to hide it at the deepest place of ocean but it isn't available too as people have many sophisticated tool such as sub-marine so they can find it easily. An elder one suggest putting it in people's heart because they often try to go to very far place to find happiness but they don't know their most precious are around them
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Post by julka » Tue Mar 28, 2006 7:31 am

I liked the story narrated by Laxuan, and to my mind it really characterizes the real life. And that is the question to this discussion. There's no need to waste time on looking for happiness, it will come itself. And besides, a question arises: where one can look for happiness? That's ridiculous. And what does happiness mean in general? When you have close people by your side, friends, a good job, when you can pass ur free time like u want (going there and there, travelling, and doing what u want), when you're in love, or just have a bf or a gf. For me all these components form happiness, and even my not very good health does not mean that much, cuz I have all above stated "components of happiness" in my life. Happiness is all around us, we only have to realize that is happiness, and not to look for it. that's :). Have a nice day everybody, don't worry, BE HAPPY. Life is too short, so enjoy every moment of it. :P

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Post by meylenlau » Fri Mar 31, 2006 10:18 am

chenggiant wrote:Whatever you are talking about, i just keep quite.

I donnot want to think too much about life.

Am i right?
Interesting, well, in a forum you can't just keep quiet. You can't
control your mind from thinking about life ,right? Chasing and fulfilling your need/desire could be happened unconsciously in your life..... in silent!!
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Post by awalee » Sun May 14, 2006 12:45 pm

I think we become happy when we want to be happy.

But some times we find some kind of happiness whwen we becom sad ( if we not feel sadness :cry: we can not feel happiness :D )

Are you agree with me ? :roll:

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Post by xiangjing » Tue Jun 06, 2006 7:47 am

i think so!happy life is very natural!

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Re: My Happiness ....

Post by zahish » Mon Jul 03, 2006 3:29 pm

ı completely agree with you.happiness is a kind of toll and we must know how to play with it.

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Post by hanguyen » Thu Aug 03, 2006 4:04 pm

What is happiness? Everybody has his own happiness. With someone, happiness is very simple. Example, with the poor, happiness is to have delicious meals, beautiful clothes and have enough money to pay school fees for their children. But with the rich, happiness is far different. They have much money, so maybe their happiness is power and fluence,... I am not sure. Now, my happiness is to find a good job, earn much money to learn everything I love, such as learn to play piano, learn to draw picture,... Can I find my happiness. I think the answer is yes. What is your happiness? And what will you do to have your happiness?

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Post by jakeson » Sat Aug 05, 2006 8:55 am

Pardon me if I disagree. We can find happiness. What is the essense of happiness if nobody can find it? That's the logic behind why happiness exists. It depends, however, how one defines happiness. What is happiness for me may not be happiness for others. Remember the relativity of things. But to be happy is not to the detriment of others.

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Re: happiness is struggling

Post by srmlove » Mon Oct 02, 2006 4:44 pm

i liked the lines you wrote.
it's true, if someone walks away in search of getting Happiness s/she won't get it, but if a person let it go....stop thinking and stressing...it's possible to be HAPPY then...
Im impressed with your lines sounds like an inteligent and experiences person there...

Will be glad to see you here srm_786@hotmail.com

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Post by hoanggia » Wed Oct 04, 2006 3:35 pm

ONE EXPERT SAID IN HIS SPEECH;
"TRUE HAPPINESS IS WHAT DEPEND ON OURSELVES ,OUR THOUGHT,IT'S THE FEELING COMING FROM INSIDE" DEEP DOWN , EACH OF US KNOW WHAT'S TRUE HAPPINESS TO US.
BE PLEASED WITH THE PRESENCE AND LOOKING FORWARD IS ALSO A KIND OF HAPPINESS.

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Post by CityYoung » Wed Oct 04, 2006 5:50 pm

Of course you can try to find the happiness .first , you should try to find friend who you feel well with them and you can do everything with them without they be sad of you .second , you have to try to find a good wife to feel happiness with her , third you try to find good neighbors to live with them in happiness .

So you should to try for happiness :wink:

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Post by ilargia » Sat Oct 28, 2006 5:19 pm

I think that happiness consists in having a good health and a bad memory. I´m not a happy person but I have a lot of happy moments so I don´t try to find happiness because I´m afraid of feeling frustrated if I don´t get it.
If you want to be happy I recommend you a tabloid whose name is WILL. A person without will is a disaster.
There are three positive feelings: pleasure, gladness and happiness. Don Quijote de la Mancha said that "happiness there isn´t in the inn, only in the middle of the way". It´s a way of life. But to get it you must be in a good balance and have a project of life.
In front of the sea there is a sailing ship. The life. A pessimist person blames the wind, the optimist waits a change and the realist adjusts the sails.

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nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness

Post by etan » Sun Oct 29, 2006 4:26 pm

Happiness is a way to be...it does not exist if we are pessimistic and a selfish person ! as Jean-Claude VanDamme said : "be aware !!!" that's the real way of life... :lol:

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Post by nessma » Sun Jan 21, 2007 5:20 am

i thinke that happiness not imposiple thing becuse evryone much search for it in this life & not to wait it to come lonelly :)
but i want to ask what dose happiness mean ?

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Post by Lac » Sun Jan 21, 2007 2:07 pm

Looking for happiness means your mind has no happiness. Don't seek it ! The more you seek happiness, the more it evades you. If we have happiness, we dont need to go out for searching it.
Happiness lies nowhere but inside yourself. Yes, when you smile to someone, they would do the same in return. That also means if you close your heart, everythings would be out of your reach.
No one brings you a real happiness unless you bring what you think cheerfulness to them. That's the practical experience in our life.

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Post by nessma » Mon Jan 22, 2007 6:09 am

i thinke happiness not mean the outer expressions as big smiles or laughing but this thing come from inside our self & this give us the feeling of comfortable & safe so how we try to disappear these things it will note through our behavior & eyes glances so we should have strong resolution .

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Post by geminibuon » Mon Jan 22, 2007 10:50 am

I don't think trying to find happiness is bad. We thirst for happiness, we try to find it in stead of sit down and wait for it. Finding happiness is just give your love to everyone, then you can receive it, and happiness will come easily. If everyone on the whole world do that the world will be beautiful, and full of happiness.

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Post by Lac » Tue Jan 23, 2007 1:29 pm

I don't think trying to find happiness is bad. We thirst for happiness, we try to find it in stead of sit down and wait for it. Finding happiness is just give your love to everyone, then you can receive it, and happiness will come easily. If everyone on the whole world do that the world will be beautiful, and full of happiness.
Absolutely. That means you must have your love first. The love is inside your mind and heart. We dont need to find love anywhere else. With love available within yourself, you would find it easy giving others what they really need : assistance, talk, even a lovely smile.etc..

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Post by keeper » Thu Jan 25, 2007 2:36 am

you feel happy,you are happy.the ture sence.

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Post by letsjam » Thu Jan 25, 2007 3:04 pm

There is no key to happiness - the door is always opened.

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Post by Lac » Fri Jan 26, 2007 10:17 am

There is no key to happiness - the door is always opened.
Right!. It's as simple as the spreading horizon. Open one's heart, happiness would go in,otherwise,it would flee away.

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Post by crystalfrogw » Fri Apr 13, 2007 7:04 am

happyiness is just a kind of feeling ....it depends on the view you hold to life.

If you believe a grim, rainy day beautiful, it is beautiful because you enjoy it..............If you think a sunny spring morning is ugly it is ugly....

Attitute decides everything.

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Post by Kathfap » Wed Apr 25, 2007 2:32 am

The happiness exists in our minds. Each one create your our happiness because is not the same for all. There are people that don’t need much to be happy. I think that the happiness is subjective and changeable. Nowadays you can be happy with something or someone and tomorrow not more. In some times I feel nostalgia about this topic because I wish I could to find the real happiness in myself and the rest. :?:

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Post by Valery » Sun Apr 29, 2007 7:46 am

In fact,Happiness is a journey.U couldn't find it out.but you can feel it.

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Post by kpchoo » Wed May 02, 2007 9:25 am

What is the point to seek for happiness when sadness is bound to come? Everyone's life is repeating the same thing, cant ppl see that this kind of repeating life is meaningless?

I wonder how long will it take for human being to grow beyond happiness and sadness. Maybe human are just too afraid to step into unknown, hence history keep repeating itself.

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Post by Ees » Sat May 12, 2007 12:09 pm

I agree with that the happiness exists in our minds. I believe so too and that is why I believe also that it is possible to be happy at anytime, anywhere or in any situation. Of course it is not easy or often, but I think it is possible. It just needs some work.

I see there is two kind of happiness. The first one is passionate happiness, that is found by outside. If something really good happens then the happiness we feel is passionate happiness. But that is not everlasting happiness. If the good thing that made someone happy is suddenly gone, then the happiness is gone also. In the passionate happiness, if something good happens, we feel enormous happiness, but if something bad happens, we feel enormous sadness. It is like the wind. First it asks something good and after that it loves the world outside.

The second kind of happiness is an attitude, calm happiness. That comes from inside of us, from our mind. That comes if somebody loves that he has, loves the chance to love etc. If somebody feels that kind of happiness, there is no need to something fantastic to happen. In calm happiness we are glad of the good things that happens, but if something bad happens, we do not lose the happiness. It is that what gives the strenght to us to face the bad things and it is our attitude that reminds us that there is always something to be glad of. Then we are happy for the hardship, because we have an opportunity to learn something from that. In calm happiness there is first the love from inside of us and then comes other things.

Passionate happiness: "I love just because I am happy."
Calm happiness: "I am happy just because I love."

Passionate happiness: "I am everything. If you have me, you can see only me and you are in heaven. But if you don't have me, you see only the loss of me and you suffer."
Calm happiness: "You don't have to look at me. You look with me, I am your attitude. You can watch the outside world in peace with me."

If you seek passionate happiness, you maybe want to be always richer, more beautiful or you wannt to have more lovers, fame or honour. Then you ask for things.
If you seek calm happiness, all you need is your love. You don't have to be anything more. Then you can give.

Finding happiness depends wholly on that what you ask to be happy.

This is how I see happiness, but of course this is only one way to see it.

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Post by Bambang » Sun May 13, 2007 4:07 pm

Hi Valery.

I'd like to comment your opinion on happiness.
You said that we cant find it. I am not with you on this matter. Happiness is something that we can find. A small example is when we can make somebody happy, we'll usually be happy too. We can be happy by making somebody or others happy. And to do it, we've got to learn the way.

I know that happiness is subjective. But it is real. We can feel it. And to get that feeling, process is needed. Struggle is needed. To make it simpler. I'll give you one example. Here it is:

One day a daughter wanted to make her mom happy in her mom's b'day. Then she wrote a song for her mom. She sang the song beautifully on her mom's b'day. She did her best. Then she kissed her mom and gave a hug and said "Mom, thank you for everything you have done to me. I really appreciate it. I am proud to be your daughter. You are the best mom in this world". She said that sincerely. And she cried while kissing and hugging her mom. Her mom was impressed and cried too. The girl recalled her dad who had passed away. Her mom did it too. Even though they were crying, they were very happy on that day. And of course that happiness didn't come from nowhere. It happened because the daughter had fought to make her mom happy. He thought hard to write an impressing song just for her mom. She fought for that and then she got it.

So, Valery. My point is do not wait the happiness comes to you. instead, pls fight for it. Go for it.
Find it.

Thanks Valery. Keep in touch. :)

Sincerely,
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Post by fayehfy » Tue May 15, 2007 9:24 am

But the problem is what is your definition for " Happiness"? Someone is easily satisfied but others not.

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Post by fayehfy » Tue May 15, 2007 9:25 am

But the problem is what is your definition for " Happiness"? Someone is easily satisfied but others not.

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Post by Chet Baker » Wed May 16, 2007 4:36 am

This is a very difficult question to answer. In my experience, if you intend to find something trying to make you feel happy, you will fail.

Sometime, when your expectation is too positive, such expectation will only barricade your eyes, then you can't turely see what's happening, you will not be able to accept something below your expectation as the result. Then, you will feel unhappy.

So, where is true happiness:?:

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by awuyhoho » Tue Jun 05, 2007 2:18 pm

TalkingPoint wrote:Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.
Is it possible to find happiness if you look for it?
Is it an impossible dream? Is it selfishness that will end in failure? Or is it the right of every human being?
Is it possible to find happiness if you look for it?---yes
I'm trying very hard to find it
and I found if I really did find it
it was easily found
e.g: I was very tired back from working very night
my mother waited me till I was back
and a cup of coffee was for me :)
I felt very happy at that time
many times I listen my favorite music I feel happy
after a delicious meal I feel happy
If I finish the work I feel happy
If I pass the exam I feel happy
When I saw the pictures of TVXQ(my favorite pop star) I feel happy
...
lots of things to make our lives happy

p.s:aren't you happy ?

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Post by Heidi » Tue Jun 05, 2007 4:09 pm

Without pain,noone gains happiness.
As usual,a workaholic,getting up at the dawn , working just for $200 a week,neverthless, 1 minute late mistaken by his wristwatch,he was fired unwillingly.A schoolboy,reading more reference book, all day without goout,from morning until night, just for passing exam, but was doomed to failure.Or, a 17-year-old girl, depositing tons and tons of money, however, was cheated by her beloved boyfriend, as a result,all her wish such as accomplishment of her schooling or marriage with her "kind" boyfriend,desperately all gone with the wind.Unforturnetly?the answer maybe not necessarily. because nexttime the workaholic will not be blamed for lacking of punctuality,he has learned to adjust his timing;the schoolgirl also gained to arrange and categorize the materials which is helpful for the test and instead, avoiding roaming enormous time consuming at her study;Finally,the clever little women would say farewell to her ignorance and innocence,this means she has become
mature--a real woman with a cute insight facing the cruel and indifferent world.So,can we see that---- from the pain,you gain the happy?

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Post by Bambang » Sat Jun 30, 2007 4:51 pm

fayehfy wrote:But the problem is what is your definition for " Happiness"? Someone is easily satisfied but others not.
My friend, you don't need to think hard on the definition on "happiness". When we are happy we know what the happiness is. Just find it and feel it !!!

Certainly, happiness is subjective. Something can make somebody happy but not the others. Or even it may make somebody very unhappy.

awuyhoho wrote:lots of things to make our lives happy .
See !!!
You yourself said that we can find happiness. So just go find it, feel it and enjoy it buddy !!!
chet baker wrote:This is a very difficult question to answer. In my experience, if you intend to find something trying to make you feel happy, you will fail. .
Fail !!! Fail !!!!
No way my friend.
If you are really serious in finding the happiness then you'll get it. Believe me my friend. You'll get it. Just follow the example I have posted on May 13 ( two posts) after yours. You'll get it my dear friend.

kathfap wrote:The happiness exists in our minds...

I think that the happiness is subjective and changeable. Nowadays you can be happy with something or someone and tomorrow not more.
We are in line on this my friend. happines really exists. It's also subjective. Again, I agree with you. Happiness is changable ? Again, again, I am with you on this.

But my friend, just because it is changable, doesn't mean it will make us pesimistic to get it. Just go get it with all heart. Are you with me on this my dear friend?

I just wanna say something to all members that life is a cycle. Sometimes we are happy and sometimes sad. That's normal. That's the essence of life. Nobody in this world that is happy all the time. And similarly, nobody in this planet that is sad all the time. All we have to do is to increase the amount of our happiness and at the same time decrease our amount of sadness. :wink: :) :D

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Post by nightwish » Tue Jul 10, 2007 10:42 am

Find happiness!
The question is: where we could find it?

Happiness is everywhere. We choose when we want to be happy ,everytihng is in our hands, and all is up to us.
live everyday as if it is the last, live it with a smile and be happy because nothing last forever and we live just once.

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Post by Krisi » Sun Jul 22, 2007 4:36 am

:roll: :arrow: I think we cannot find it nor does it come to us. We make it! Difficult though. Because we often get disapponted if we try to look for it.

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Post by lady » Wed Aug 15, 2007 11:22 am

in my opinion happiness is everywhere if you want to be happy this your hands you will find this searchingly.

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Post by YayuRahayu » Sat Aug 18, 2007 10:14 am

Happiness sometime couldn't define if we cant run it by ourselves.

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Post by Alfabeto » Wed Nov 28, 2007 3:28 pm

You people!! Don't worry about happiness!! There are many more important things to do in life!! Happiness is an idea invented by Aristotle more than 2000 years ago, but really there's no objective measure of happiness. Anyway the worst kind of happiness is private, individual happiness, like having a luxurious home and expensive car. Only little people worry about that.

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by ahmedxzxz » Fri Jan 04, 2008 8:50 pm

hello to all memebers of englishclub.
in fact,happiness is not an easy subject for anyone to get it..but i think that happiness consists of many factors according to each one's life and circumstances.So,if you want to find happiness ,do good things .this may make you happy and be sure that if you follow your creator believes and religious behaviour you will be happy,too.

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by Annaa » Tue Jul 01, 2008 11:27 am

Maybe (s)he can be happy by trying to fing happiness,we don`t know .But I know only a think happiness goes and come.
If you don`t like me remember it's mind over matter..I don't mind and you don't matter..

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by FireLotus » Mon Jul 21, 2008 7:16 am

I always thought that we are not happy unless we see our happiness. For me,living is happiness,having friends,family,healthy body,etc. is happiness too. Maybe trying to find our happiness can bring it to us,too,BUT that depends on what we are looking for and HOW we do it. That is all.
Sometimes happiness is easier to reach than to imagine,because we are happy,but we don't know,how.
~While there's life,there's hope~

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by bruna » Sat Aug 23, 2008 7:31 pm

:-P :-P just people who feel sad and unhappy try to look for happines the others never understand those who make the effort to find it out. :-P :-P

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by lovsmalgir » Fri Sep 12, 2008 7:19 am

yes, nobody can be happy by only trying to find happiness without doing. if we think that we want to make our lives happy, it is a good step. then we must do some other steps. for example, we try to earn moneys by works, for more friends, act with people arround us politely, make some charity... then we will feel happy. Having a good idea, then make it true.
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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by lovsmalgir » Fri Sep 12, 2008 7:23 am

yes, nobody can be happy by only trying to find happiness without doing. if we think that we want to make our lives happy, it is a good step. then we must do some other steps. for example, we try to earn moneys by works, for more friends, act with people arround us politely, make some charity... then we will feel happy. Having a good idea, then make it true.
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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by studentss » Sun Oct 26, 2008 1:02 pm

I think if somebody is trying to find hapiness never will find. Be your best friend and try to do good things.

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by alkhader » Sat Dec 13, 2008 11:48 am

Most people can be happy by trying to find happiness :?:
Well .. What you have to do is [

The Law of Happiness
Understanding of this law can help you achieve a lot of happiness :-D [IF YOU WANT TO STAY HAPPY THEN YOU HAVE TO KEEP OTHERS HAPPY ] :-D

Explanation :

Every individual is surrounded by other individuals/people. All these individuals/people are categorized into 5 circles.

The first or the innermost circle : consists of people who you are coming in contact with the most i.e on a daily basis or very frequently. Examples are your wife/husband, co workers etc.

The second circle : which surrounds the first circle are the people who you meet let us say once or twice a week and are not as frequently in contact with you as the people in the first circle. Examples are some friends you see or visit or people in a class that you are taking once a week etc.

The third circle : surrounds the second circle and consists of individuals who you meet once or twice a year or even once in 5 or any number of years. You know all these people. Examples are distant relatives, old friends etc.

The fourth circle : consists of people you don't know but can meet at any time. Examples are attendant at a grocery store, someone you talk to in an elevator etc.

The fifth circle : Comprises of people you don't know or meet but these people know you. Examples are of fans of rock stars or famous people etc.

Your happiness depends directly, on how happy the individuals are with you, in all these 5 circles.

Sours : http://www.lawofhappiness.blogspot.com/

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Alkhader Ali

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by amor » Sat Jan 03, 2009 2:35 am

Learn to accept, respect and not to expect too much... then you'll find happiness.

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by herione » Thu Apr 09, 2009 8:55 pm



is so hard to find happyness when she is lost


in same time we should look for happyness and never be bored :-|

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by Krisi » Thu Nov 19, 2015 10:30 am

whenever we are sad it is best to change our mood by thinking of all the happy events in our lives or by doing something that would make us happy. (This is possible.) We cannot find happiness by putting other people down or placing other people in danger.
I think true happiness could only be realized when we least expect it.

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by anazafra » Fri Nov 20, 2015 2:45 pm

I totally agree. From my point of view happiness comes when you aren´t aware of it. What I want to say, is that sometimes, we are so obstinate in reaching happiness that we ignore it´s nearer than we think. People are 27-7 thinking in theirselves and it isn´t the way. Change that attitude and you will see improvements. Are you willing to take this advice? {-;

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Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by Keough » Thu Dec 10, 2015 3:20 am

TalkingPoint wrote:Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Is it possible to find happiness if you look for it? Is it an impossible dream? Is it selfishness that will end in failure? Or is it the right of every human being?
In my humble opinion, there is no problem in finding happiness. However, the main questions are how you define your happiness and methods to achieve that.

You can find your own happiness. It is your right to do so. But do not do wrong things to get right results.

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