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THE HAPPY IN MY HEART

Post by HELENYANG » Mon Oct 20, 2003 3:57 am

HI ALL THE HERE! HAPPY IS NOT LIVE EVERY'S HAERT. IF SO, THE WORLD WILL BE ANOTHER AND THE MANKIND WILL BE CHANGED .
INFACT, HAPPY LIVES IN EVERYONE'S HEART, IT IS NOT BE PRESSED ON FACES.

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Post by pham thi phuong thao » Mon Oct 20, 2003 7:21 am

In my opinion, that concept has something wrong.
in our life if we want to get something, we just need to try our best.In daily life, happiness is not very difficult to reach if we know and understand what we need.For example, you want to have a happy family, you try to make every body happy.at that time you yourself also feel happy.How can we have happiness by sitting one place and do nothing.You can get it.The most important thing is that you know what you want and do as your mind wants, you will have happiness.
do you agree with me?

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Post by milly » Tue Oct 21, 2003 7:10 am

:lol:
As matter of fact, you don't need look for happiness. because when you feel happiness, it is full around you. A long time ago, i do not think i am a happy girl. But later i adjust my mind, i have my beloved mother and father, and a elder sister. she give me good suggestion,when i came across difficulties. I am so luky. since then, i feel love from others. I think i am a lucky and happy girl exactly.

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Post by ANU » Wed Oct 22, 2003 4:28 am

HAPPINESS IS NOTHING BUT FEELING. WHEN SOMEONE FEEL GOOD , HE\SHE SAID TO BE HAPPY. IF SOMEONE IS LOOKING FOR SOMETHING, & HE\SHE FIND IT. THEN HE\SHE BECOMES HAPPY.
ACTUALLY WE CANT DEFINE HAPPINESS . EVERYONE WILL GIVE DIFFERENT OPINION ABOUT IT. BUT I KNOW ONLY THAT TO FEEL HAPPY SOMEONE HAVE TO EXPERIENCE SADNESS.

BE HAPPY
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what is happiness?

Post by sonia » Wed Oct 22, 2003 4:37 am

HELLO,
HAPPINESS is to get satisfaction with work. u can be happy by doing somthing for others. so, do something for others & be happy.
bye

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Post by Guest » Sat Oct 25, 2003 8:14 am

Thx a lot for what u posted hereunder.

I've seen the song which used to be very similar to me a year ago. A friendship I had been lost," part of me cries, part of me laughs, part of me wanna question why", I wonder is it true that in the happiness exsisting a pain??
:cry: :cry:




seewhome wrote:Yes,Happiness comes through doors you did not think open.
Yes, Happiness is deeply felt when one takes a look around and thinks life couldn't be better.
Just like a trick in the aiming exercise, don't aim too hard at the bull eye. hey you, Relax, take it easy.

But Life isn't that easy. One cannot just hang around and stick to his favourite cheese, for one day the cheese would simply turn spoilt.
Yes, Life is a sea of trouble, someone has said, and don't you tell me you can survive in it without any struggle; that You are drowning, and you are happy?

Contentment is absolutely needed to enjoy the life. And so is hope, dream, and belief in a better still life.

Don't aim too high or too far. Yet more importantly, don't stop aiming at all.

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What makes this world go round,
will the answer let her down?

she is so sweet and young,
and her life has just begun.
What does her future hold,
will the story left unknown?
Will she make it through her day,
Or just let love find the way...


Part of me cries, part of me laughs
Part of me wants to question why...

Why is there joy, why is there pain?
Why is there laughter and tear?
Why is there sunshine and the rain? :wink: :wink: :wink:

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happiness can be found

Post by daniel6ding » Fri Oct 31, 2003 9:04 am

i think happiness can be found during our daily life or be found when we do sth we like.what is happiness?I think happiness is a felling -satisfication-maybe sometimes something will be disturb us ,if we discard it ,we will happy still.if we try best to discard unhappiness,then we find happiness:if we do our best to fullfill our dream,we are happy.

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happiness

Post by Natalie » Fri Oct 31, 2003 1:32 pm

I completely disagree with you.I think that you could find happiness only if you search for it.You are never going to find it if you don't look for it,because you are not going to recognize it.Happpiness is in every little thing.the only thing you should do is try to find it.And never fall in despair.

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Post by eclub777 » Wed Nov 05, 2003 7:44 am

Happiness is the capacity for enjoyment. The more we can enjoy what we have, he happier we are. It's easy to overlook the pleasure we got from loving and being loved, the company of friends, the freedom to live where we please, even good health.

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what's happiness?

Post by Maria » Thu Nov 06, 2003 11:01 am


:) hello,everyone.
i think it's simple to define happiness, and it need your own experience and taste. it varies with different persons. yes, we can think of it as a cup of coffee, mild or black, instant or longlasting. different taste,different definition, so simple.
as for me, i enjoy each peaceful day. i seek something to do all the time. i get the happiness as long as without blank.

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about happiness

Post by bivalvia » Sat Nov 08, 2003 8:31 am

I am new here, but I am trying to tell something about that topic. Happiness is something which is very difficult to find and to understand it. For somebody, it is widelly linked to money.for others, it is the result of sucess in both professinal life and individual one, but the most of people, forgot the feel of being in good health,

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Post by littlegirl » Wed Nov 12, 2003 7:04 am

:roll:
From my view point, I think that happiness is all what we have in our daily life. But most of us are trying it find it all the time, is it true?
'Cause evevyone is never satisfied with what we get at present,they do not enjoy the best feeling.
Me, i think happiness can even be just a very simple thing such as a smile of a friend , a candy from my sister, ect...
Do you agree with me????

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happiness

Post by power of mind » Thu Nov 13, 2003 1:45 am

My thinking point is in another way.i think the happpiness is in your heart
it dependent on nature. Mostly people have boast brag and feeling that there is no more who check his personal life my meaning is that type of person never feel happiness because his heart is black and never see right think alwasy negotively thinking.

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dont waste of your time

Post by uygar » Fri Nov 14, 2003 4:22 pm

they are all ridicilious you talk about

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nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

Post by Rishu Sharma » Fri Nov 21, 2003 12:44 pm

Hallo
i was really surprised to read what u have asked???
i m not agree with u .
sorry to say,but happy is he,who finds happiness in the happiness of others.
:D like this
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happiness

Post by fashion » Fri Nov 28, 2003 8:01 am

I am not happy now. I have told myself that why you do not live in a happy way, becase every day is going whether which kind feeling you have. However, I can not do that.
Do you have the same thought with me?

Maryam

Post by Maryam » Fri Nov 28, 2003 8:58 am

happiness has many differrent meanings.
for the sick person,he thinks that his happiness is 2 recover.
for the poor person,the happiness means 2 him money.
for some girls,happiness means beauty.
& for some people,it means sex.

for me the way of happiness is 2 believe in God & do his orders, satisfication about what he gave us,not 2 hurt anybody but 2 help them.

I will be happy if my husband happy with me & loves me.
so happieness it can be also innocent love.

if u r life is beautifull too much,ur hereafter will be bad and if it was bad ,ur hereafter will be beautifull.

Thanks 4 the topic.

Maryam

Post by Maryam » Fri Nov 28, 2003 9:27 am

have u heard this:
"Life is alike apiano,it depends on how u play it."

Sakura

Post by Sakura » Thu Dec 04, 2003 10:59 am

It's very easy when you want Happiness. First, if you have a happy family with your parents (and other members). If you are learnt, played and grown. I always be satisfied with my life. I fell be happy when I can live in this world.

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Post by Julia Guest » Thu Dec 18, 2003 8:04 am

mdt wrote:just another opinion :)
Sometime, you will feel happy if you don't expect to much from life. Personally, sometime simple things can make me very happy:)

I think that when people do not expect something special from life they can be happy easier than people who find his or her happines

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Post by sanhong3 » Wed Dec 24, 2003 7:30 am

I don't think you can obtain real happiness if you try your best to look for.
I believe that we can do nothing about it.what's more important is that we should keep a good mood

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Post by Ayda » Thu Jan 29, 2004 10:16 pm

Hi all,
Actually I strongly agree with what Maryam said that happiness has different meanings. It’s a recover for sick people, it’s passing for students, it’s the wealth for poor people, its love between lovers and any couples and it’s a success for business men/women or any person on the earth.

I believe that happiness is a feeling that we feel inside us, when we achieve our dreams and get our desires. As we get what we want the feeling of satisfactions and happiness come to us at that moment. Sometimes we become happy from just a small and a tiny thing happen to us, it could bring us the happiness even though we haven’t ever thought of it.

However, there are some people who think that they don’t have the happiness, but they got it and they don’t know that or they cant see and feel it. The problem as I think is because those people put in front of them all the problems that they got and totally forgot about the good things that happen to them at the same time. For example if something good happened to them and brings them the happiness they can’t feel it. Because all what they think of is their problems and how can they solve it or get rid of those problems.

To give an example, let’s say that I have economy problems in my life. For instance I got to pay for the car insurance, the electricity bill, the apartment bill, the school fees for kids and for some countries the taxies. Let say one of those problem have solved to me and I don’t have to worry any more about it. In this case I have to be happy, but I wont because all what I care at that moment are the others problems and I could even not feel that I have got rid of one problem. I think if any person will go on with his/her life just like that there is no way that he/ she could feel happy. Just in one case, unless his/her all problems have been solved.

Moreover I believe that to feel happy we have to feel sad as well. Because as I think if you didn’t know what is sadness how came you will know what is happiness. Its all linked together Happiness and Sadness, Sweet and Bitter, Love and hate that is life it have to be like that we have to experience both of thing to know it.

For me happiness has lots of meaning as well. When I pass my exams that means happiness for me, when I got good marks in my projects that’s means happiness for me, when I know that my parents are satisfied with what I do that means a happiness for me, When I help any one and I feel that really I have helped that person its mean a happiness for me and when I can draw a smile on people faces its means a happiness for me. It is something almost I always say it, I don’t really mean to say it but it happens naturally. For example as I know that tomorrow could be a holiday its mean a happiness for me and automatically I will cry out, tomorrow is a holiday I am very happy, and for example when I go for shopping and I buy everything I want I go on and say to my family that I am happy because I bought this and that, and that make me really feel happy.

Finally I wish all the happiness for every one but remember you can make you life either a happy or not.

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Post by sunflower » Sun Feb 15, 2004 9:49 am

We can't find happiness if we try to look for it . I quite subscribe to this point of view. A person who always want to search for happiness can hardly feel happy . Sometimes happiness is only from the smallest thing you have : like U have two eyes , two ears, good books to read , food to eat , to the great things you have : your family , your relatives , your friends . People often don't know how to appreciate happiness until they lose it . But I want to tell all of you a thing that : RESPECT EVERYTHING U HAVE . DON'T LET HAPPINESS BE OUT OF YOUR HAND . EVERYTHING U HAVE IN YOUR LIFE IS SO PRECIOUS . Bi bi all of U ! :) [/b]
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NO BODY CAN BE HAPPY BY TRYING TO FIND HAPPINESS

Post by mona » Thu Mar 04, 2004 1:32 pm

i GUESS that the keys of happiness and the self reconsiliations with one self . If we know over selves very much and understand humans nature with all positiveness and negativness , when we understand that no humans is demon as well as no human is completely eveil . If got that and dealt with each other on this base we will have self happiness .
if we learnt from life and understand that it cannot give us all happiness when we r standing on our positions . if we learnt that what we do in this life, we grow it also in life in long terms .
Above all if we understand that life gives us happiness as well as sadness and that we all have our share from life because there is no complete happiness as well as no complete sadness and sorrow coz thats life ..its mix of all ..and we have to look to it in beautiful hearts to live happy and to have peace in it
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Post by kino » Sat Mar 06, 2004 5:55 am

I do agree with this opinion, happiness lies in everything that we have and that we are going to have. The only important thing is to find this happiness in our life, from the bottom of our heart. As we may agreed: happiness may mean 1000 or more kind of things to 1000 persons. So, cherish what we have that we regarded as happiness. May all of us a very happy life.
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Re: It's difficult to be sure about something

Post by Guest » Mon Apr 19, 2004 10:00 pm

[quote="hiddenone] For myself, I'm finding a lover but it seem not easy because maybe there's no love in the world of gays.[/quote]

This is so wrong. You just can't say everyone is gay or gay people don't love each other. We need to open our arms and accept their differences. If you say, "God created us to become like this or God created man and woman for a reason" If he did, why there is love in gay people? Why do they feel different? Why do they feel there's no attraction for a person of different gender? We can't just bring God to explain whatever we disagree with or we fear of. We're all humans and we're all equal.
Anyways, we can be happy to find happiness and it's possible to find if you do look for it. The point is whom do we find happiness for? If you find happiness for yourself then good for you because you knows what you're aiming for in life. If you find happiness for others, it's also good for you because you're an unselfish person. You'll do nice things when you're trying to seek for happiness because only nice things make people happy. Examples are you'll feel sorry for a loss of a stranger, pity for an orphan who has no home to go to, happy when someone gets well, and so on. You will try to make this world better; a world's full of flowers--a world's like heaven.

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Post by coolguy » Sun Apr 25, 2004 11:48 am

i believe that people can not find happiness while they are busily looking for it . Maybe the only way to obtain happiness is to learn to appreciate what you have got.less compaining will help you to feel happy.

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Post by Arale » Sat Sep 04, 2004 12:51 pm

I completely agree .Yeah happiness is not out of reach but we need take a look around .Sometime it is near by our side but we cannot see it .Happiness is a struggle and a happy one is one who fight and strive for it !

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Post by Waqar » Mon Oct 04, 2004 1:33 am

Happiness is a state of mind. The reason to feel happy varies from time to time. In my opinion, it depends on a person that what sort of happiness, he is looking for and what makes him happy? Some feel happiness to have money and luxurious life. For others, it is good health, love or success. We have the choice to be one of two types of people, one who brings happiness whenever he comes or one who brings happiness whenever he goes….
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    Post by Arale » Mon Oct 04, 2004 2:57 pm

    Waqar wrote:
    I feel happy when I draw a smile on someone’s face.
    Hello, I like your sentence.That you feel happy when you bring happiness to others is really wonderful !I call it purity happiness.

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    Post by vitofriend » Fri Oct 08, 2004 5:22 pm

    We find something when we are ready for that...the happyness it's found for they that are reading for to find something so natural and so inside of everyone...
    I want learn english and to know people. I 'm cuban.

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    endless for hapiness..

    Post by moonie » Sun Oct 10, 2004 11:04 am

    well...human's persuit to find happiness... seems to be endless..
    whateaver they posses fineally ..we can't find it forever untill it has passed by us...eventually we found it was our happiness..at that time...

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    Post by Arale » Mon Oct 11, 2004 5:39 am

    I will tell you a story about Happiness.

    Long time ago , evils wanted to take the revenge with human .Then they tried to find the most paintful way .One evil said "Let's hide their happiness because only losing happiness people hurt the most ."All other evils agreed with this way but where could they hide human's happiness ?
    An evil said "Hide it in the sky " ,other said " No ,hide it on deep ocean " ,others added " No ,hide it in deep land " ...
    The oldest evil said " No ,people are very intelligent they will find it though we hide in the sky ,ocean or deep land .I advice that we should hide it in theirselves . That is the only place people never find !"
    All evils agreed with this idea .Then they hide human's happiness in theirselves . That is the reason why people always go to find their happiness though it is only inside therselves !
    My friends , happiness is not far ,not out of reach .It is near our side ,right on ourselves .Don't waste time to find it .
    If you think u are happy , you will be happy !!!

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    Post by yuniu » Tue Nov 16, 2004 5:06 am

    Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

    Obvious the above judgment is wrong. Happiness should be sense with our heart. One object might lead to various effects of human feeling because of subjective perspective.

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    Post by Cheryl » Tue Dec 28, 2004 10:37 am

    Then what is happiness in your definition, teacher :D ? Have a nice day.
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    Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

    Post by lupe » Sat Mar 05, 2005 4:12 pm

    Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness?

    Is it possible to find happiness if you look for it? Is it an impossible dream? Is it selfishness that will end in failure? Or is it the right of every human being?
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    I think you should enjoy each happy moment, because that is the secret for a happy live. If you wait by a great moment for by happy is posible that this moment never arrive. On other hand if you enjoy each little happy moment you don`t have to wait by a great momen, but if the great moment arrive enjoy it and share with someone that you love. :wink:

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    Post by Akire_san » Sat Mar 05, 2005 4:18 pm

    Well, there's one phrase that I herad in spanish that said: "the humans live of dreams and hopes" so is part of the human happines to go for that dreams and reach them and if you can't reach them you have the good feeling that you at least try to reach them when there are a lot of people that give up without giving their best
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    Post by trantrungav » Thu Mar 10, 2005 2:31 am

    Is it possible to find happiness if you look for it?
    Sometimes people can find happiness if they try to find. I don't think you have happiness without looking for or building it. We have to keep it and protect it evryday.
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    i think...

    Post by Rodrigo Klassen » Tue Mar 22, 2005 12:17 am

    i think that nobody can be happy or sad all time. hapiness can be found in the most simple things of our days. the problem is: people are never pleased. it's necessary to see the life in a simple way, allways remember good happenings in it
    there's no space here to write everything i wanted

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    Post by Guest » Tue Mar 22, 2005 12:58 am

    Rodrigo Klassen wrote:i think that nobody can be happy or sad all time. hapiness can be found in the most simple things of our days. the problem is: people are never pleased. it's necessary to see the life in a simple way, allways remember good happenings in it
    EXACTLY! ;)

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    Post by authorityquery » Sun Apr 17, 2005 5:08 pm

    Yeah, I agree this qoute
    Do good things, help poorer, satisfy yourself, try your best, make anothers smile.
    You'll get happiness.
    And it's the right of human being, but somone can't find happiness because their desires are endless and they never want to stop, they want to do everything, they want to reach the perfect things. no one is really perfect, that's human. If not you are god, or angel.
    Believe that.
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    do u?

    Post by e.eagle » Sun May 01, 2005 3:27 pm

    i'll not agree with this point of view entirly.
    as we know that life is always full of happiness and unhappiness things, would it be possible if we lost something our lovable somewhere, how could u get the feeling? perhaps the best way at this time is try to find something happiness while let the unhappy alone. :mrgreen:
    would u agree with this point? :lol:

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    Post by leen@rasel » Sun May 08, 2005 7:15 am

    ithink that all people can find happiness if they understood life and the that it goes it is not a matter of having money itis amatter of beeing satisfied with your self your life and your GOD idont think that happiness means that you are selfish it is your right and your choice and no one will charge you :roll:

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    Post by leen@rasel » Sun May 08, 2005 7:17 am

    ithink that all people can find happiness if they understood life and the way that it goes it is not a matter of having money itis amatter of beeing satisfied with your self your life and your GOD idont think that happiness means that you are selfish it is your right and your choice and no one will charge you :roll:

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    Post by someone_cute » Mon Aug 01, 2005 4:42 pm

    Everybody wishes to have the happiness but it is not in our hands .. but it is coming from Our God ( Allah ) .. We can search about the happiness causes but we can't find the happiness ..
    There are somethings bring happiness but not all of the happiness like money but not all times also .. by money we can buy a part of happiness .. and happiness come from the good health and by living with a family that its members can understand and love u .. and it is also not the wholly happiness ,,
    In shortness .. There is no one that has the all happiness as the word means .. because if he has it in his house and between family .. He couldn't has it everywhere in society and work and such as .
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    Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

    Post by H » Thu Aug 04, 2005 4:15 am




    I had better say " Happiness is like a butterfly, you run after it, it keeps flying, but if you stand still, it comes and sits on you.

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    Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

    Post by someone_cute » Thu Aug 04, 2005 1:55 pm

    H wrote:

    I had better say " Happiness is like a butterfly, you run after it, it keeps flying, but if you stand still, it comes and sits on you.
    A beautiful speech ..
    But I think it's not correct all times ,, sometimes we have to run after the happiness to catch it :wink:
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    Post by phucauto3 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 3:59 pm

    ABC wrote:I am agreed to this point.
    Nobody will bring any happiness to you if you don't feel happy with them.
    You always think that it's not worthy of doing. Maybe you have lost many chances and time to get happy things. But when you are trying to look for happiness for yourself, it will be far from you.
    yes,I like your idea, we must do our best in job, love... so that we 'll feel really happy, and noone can help us to get our happy.

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    Post by phucauto3 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 4:11 pm

    yuniu wrote:Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

    Obvious the above judgment is wrong. Happiness should be sense with our heart. One object might lead to various effects of human feeling because of subjective perspective.
    I think this topic is true in some aspect. A person try to find happiness, but I think such a person 'll never know that there's limit to everything and he 'll find more, find forever and it's possible that he never feel happy!!

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    Re: i think...

    Post by phucauto3 » Mon Aug 08, 2005 4:19 pm

    Rodrigo Klassen wrote:i think that nobody can be happy or sad all time. hapiness can be found in the most simple things of our days. the problem is: people are never pleased. it's necessary to see the life in a simple way, allways remember good happenings in it
    the best idea!!

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    Post by serenella » Tue Aug 09, 2005 1:28 pm

    'The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don't have' (Woody Allen)

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    Post by anhly » Wed Sep 07, 2005 4:26 am

    I think that it is difficult to say black and white.
    every one just live in different situation and it is unfair to force others to fall into one's line.
    I am now learning to be sastisfied with myself because I realise that it brings me happiness when something in this life lets me down and I can t do any thing else but to accept it.
    However you are right. To live is to fight. You cant expect something to come true without any efforts. I now come to get things for myself not to wait for a magic or simply luck. And it makes my life more meaningful and active.
    I think you may end in failure but even failure is a precious experience for future success. If you dont try, you are neither failing nor successful.
    I just dont want to be such a passive one.

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    Post by martazzz » Fri Sep 16, 2005 9:07 am

    I think that a person gotta find his happines in God! :D

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    Post by TearHere » Mon Sep 19, 2005 3:08 am

    i believe in this saying by Albert Camus:

    You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.

    it comes in between, side by side, both ways or not at all..
    if we never got to notice our happiness.. then..it's all useless..
    if we're too busy looking or searching for happiness, we may never notice that we have it after all.. :wink:

    it's a matter of sitting down, or pausing to see the beauty of things.. :wink:

    i also like this quote:
    If only we'd stop trying to be happy we'd have a pretty good time.by Edith Wharton

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    Post by martazzz » Wed Sep 21, 2005 11:32 am

    Yes :) you're right. But in my opinion, we could find our happines in God. :P There's some people who doesn't trust in God but they're happy too. Boh I think I'm happy thanks to God.

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    Post by sunnyni » Thu Sep 22, 2005 7:55 am

    Everyone has his own character, so every one has a difference understand of the happyness. The most regret is many people don't know what is his happyness. So he will pursue his happyness all the time, though happyness is round him, but he can't recognize it .

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    Post by martazzz » Thu Sep 22, 2005 9:07 am

    You're right too..if a person searches his happines he could not see it..so be calm and live your life!!!! :wink:

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    Post by Trantrung » Sun Oct 02, 2005 2:10 am

    I think we should try to find the happiness if we want. But the way of looking for happiness is very important.
    Franky, when you find it but you can't enjoy because it doesnot belong to you , it it terribe!
    I wander'd lonely as a cloud

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    Post by Mero » Tue Oct 18, 2005 9:19 am

    I think that the word "Happenies" is something can't be considered in one or two words. In my openion, if you look around you, and feel satistified of what you have, this bring you the happenies. Even the things around you are little or something normal now. This look will be changed by you, if you miss one of them in a time....
    I hope I give a good comment

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    Post by CityYoung » Thu Dec 22, 2005 8:37 pm

    For me , I can find happiness if I try to find it . In my religion if I apply all rules and pray on the time the happiness comes from the God direct without I search about it

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    Post by Pearla » Thu Dec 29, 2005 9:05 pm

    happiness is something possible and one can be happy if he felt satisfayed with what he have and accepting and loving himself as it is.

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    Post by meylenlau » Wed Mar 15, 2006 9:40 am

    We as humans have never satisfied with what we have had,may be now i want something, haven't got it ,i feel unhappy. i think that i'll be happy if i got it. But after having it ,the happiness may just last for a period of time and vanish.
    So , i would conclude that the human's desire that make humans always chasing for happiness.
    Humans chase for basic needs, after having that,chase for more luxurious needs,then after having the wealthy life ; ones still would feel unhappy, they'll go for names and fames, the chasing would last until the end of ones lives. The Moslow theory had explained humans' needs thoroughly.
    Best regards!

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    Post by chenggiant » Mon Mar 27, 2006 3:10 am

    Whatever you are talking about, i just keep quite.

    I donnot want to think too much about life.

    Am i right?

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    Post by Laxuan » Tue Mar 28, 2006 5:38 am

    To me, nobody can be happy when they try to find happiness.I have read a very interesting story about this issue.
    A group of devils hold an appointment in order to do something to make people miserable and after a few hours they decide to hide human happiness but they don't know where to hide it.A member say 'we should hide it on the peak of Everest mountain' but the others dont approve because people could climb up and get it, another one want to hide it at the deepest place of ocean but it isn't available too as people have many sophisticated tool such as sub-marine so they can find it easily. An elder one suggest putting it in people's heart because they often try to go to very far place to find happiness but they don't know their most precious are around them.
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    Post by Laxuan » Tue Mar 28, 2006 5:39 am

    To me, nobody can be happy when they try to find happiness.I have read a very interesting story about this issue.
    A group of devils hold an appointment in order to do something to make people miserable and after a few hours they decide to hide human happiness but they don't know where to hide it.A member say 'we should hide it on the peak of Everest mountain' but the others dont approve because people could climb up and get it, another one want to hide it at the deepest place of ocean but it isn't available too as people have many sophisticated tool such as sub-marine so they can find it easily. An elder one suggest putting it in people's heart because they often try to go to very far place to find happiness but they don't know their most precious are around them
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    Post by julka » Tue Mar 28, 2006 7:31 am

    I liked the story narrated by Laxuan, and to my mind it really characterizes the real life. And that is the question to this discussion. There's no need to waste time on looking for happiness, it will come itself. And besides, a question arises: where one can look for happiness? That's ridiculous. And what does happiness mean in general? When you have close people by your side, friends, a good job, when you can pass ur free time like u want (going there and there, travelling, and doing what u want), when you're in love, or just have a bf or a gf. For me all these components form happiness, and even my not very good health does not mean that much, cuz I have all above stated "components of happiness" in my life. Happiness is all around us, we only have to realize that is happiness, and not to look for it. that's :). Have a nice day everybody, don't worry, BE HAPPY. Life is too short, so enjoy every moment of it. :P

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    Post by meylenlau » Fri Mar 31, 2006 10:18 am

    chenggiant wrote:Whatever you are talking about, i just keep quite.

    I donnot want to think too much about life.

    Am i right?
    Interesting, well, in a forum you can't just keep quiet. You can't
    control your mind from thinking about life ,right? Chasing and fulfilling your need/desire could be happened unconsciously in your life..... in silent!!
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    Post by awalee » Sun May 14, 2006 12:45 pm

    I think we become happy when we want to be happy.

    But some times we find some kind of happiness whwen we becom sad ( if we not feel sadness :cry: we can not feel happiness :D )

    Are you agree with me ? :roll:

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    Post by xiangjing » Tue Jun 06, 2006 7:47 am

    i think so!happy life is very natural!

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    Post by zahish » Mon Jul 03, 2006 3:29 pm

    ı completely agree with you.happiness is a kind of toll and we must know how to play with it.

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    Post by hanguyen » Thu Aug 03, 2006 4:04 pm

    What is happiness? Everybody has his own happiness. With someone, happiness is very simple. Example, with the poor, happiness is to have delicious meals, beautiful clothes and have enough money to pay school fees for their children. But with the rich, happiness is far different. They have much money, so maybe their happiness is power and fluence,... I am not sure. Now, my happiness is to find a good job, earn much money to learn everything I love, such as learn to play piano, learn to draw picture,... Can I find my happiness. I think the answer is yes. What is your happiness? And what will you do to have your happiness?

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    Post by jakeson » Sat Aug 05, 2006 8:55 am

    Pardon me if I disagree. We can find happiness. What is the essense of happiness if nobody can find it? That's the logic behind why happiness exists. It depends, however, how one defines happiness. What is happiness for me may not be happiness for others. Remember the relativity of things. But to be happy is not to the detriment of others.

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    Post by srmlove » Mon Oct 02, 2006 4:44 pm

    i liked the lines you wrote.
    it's true, if someone walks away in search of getting Happiness s/she won't get it, but if a person let it go....stop thinking and stressing...it's possible to be HAPPY then...
    Im impressed with your lines sounds like an inteligent and experiences person there...

    Will be glad to see you here srm_786@hotmail.com

    Ally.

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    Post by hoanggia » Wed Oct 04, 2006 3:35 pm

    ONE EXPERT SAID IN HIS SPEECH;
    "TRUE HAPPINESS IS WHAT DEPEND ON OURSELVES ,OUR THOUGHT,IT'S THE FEELING COMING FROM INSIDE" DEEP DOWN , EACH OF US KNOW WHAT'S TRUE HAPPINESS TO US.
    BE PLEASED WITH THE PRESENCE AND LOOKING FORWARD IS ALSO A KIND OF HAPPINESS.

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    Post by CityYoung » Wed Oct 04, 2006 5:50 pm

    Of course you can try to find the happiness .first , you should try to find friend who you feel well with them and you can do everything with them without they be sad of you .second , you have to try to find a good wife to feel happiness with her , third you try to find good neighbors to live with them in happiness .

    So you should to try for happiness :wink:

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    Post by ilargia » Sat Oct 28, 2006 5:19 pm

    I think that happiness consists in having a good health and a bad memory. I´m not a happy person but I have a lot of happy moments so I don´t try to find happiness because I´m afraid of feeling frustrated if I don´t get it.
    If you want to be happy I recommend you a tabloid whose name is WILL. A person without will is a disaster.
    There are three positive feelings: pleasure, gladness and happiness. Don Quijote de la Mancha said that "happiness there isn´t in the inn, only in the middle of the way". It´s a way of life. But to get it you must be in a good balance and have a project of life.
    In front of the sea there is a sailing ship. The life. A pessimist person blames the wind, the optimist waits a change and the realist adjusts the sails.

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    nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness

    Post by etan » Sun Oct 29, 2006 4:26 pm

    Happiness is a way to be...it does not exist if we are pessimistic and a selfish person ! as Jean-Claude VanDamme said : "be aware !!!" that's the real way of life... :lol:

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    Post by nessma » Sun Jan 21, 2007 5:20 am

    i thinke that happiness not imposiple thing becuse evryone much search for it in this life & not to wait it to come lonelly :)
    but i want to ask what dose happiness mean ?

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    Post by Lac » Sun Jan 21, 2007 2:07 pm

    Looking for happiness means your mind has no happiness. Don't seek it ! The more you seek happiness, the more it evades you. If we have happiness, we dont need to go out for searching it.
    Happiness lies nowhere but inside yourself. Yes, when you smile to someone, they would do the same in return. That also means if you close your heart, everythings would be out of your reach.
    No one brings you a real happiness unless you bring what you think cheerfulness to them. That's the practical experience in our life.

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    Post by nessma » Mon Jan 22, 2007 6:09 am

    i thinke happiness not mean the outer expressions as big smiles or laughing but this thing come from inside our self & this give us the feeling of comfortable & safe so how we try to disappear these things it will note through our behavior & eyes glances so we should have strong resolution .

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    Post by geminibuon » Mon Jan 22, 2007 10:50 am

    I don't think trying to find happiness is bad. We thirst for happiness, we try to find it in stead of sit down and wait for it. Finding happiness is just give your love to everyone, then you can receive it, and happiness will come easily. If everyone on the whole world do that the world will be beautiful, and full of happiness.

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    Post by Lac » Tue Jan 23, 2007 1:29 pm

    I don't think trying to find happiness is bad. We thirst for happiness, we try to find it in stead of sit down and wait for it. Finding happiness is just give your love to everyone, then you can receive it, and happiness will come easily. If everyone on the whole world do that the world will be beautiful, and full of happiness.
    Absolutely. That means you must have your love first. The love is inside your mind and heart. We dont need to find love anywhere else. With love available within yourself, you would find it easy giving others what they really need : assistance, talk, even a lovely smile.etc..

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    Post by keeper » Thu Jan 25, 2007 2:36 am

    you feel happy,you are happy.the ture sence.

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    Post by letsjam » Thu Jan 25, 2007 3:04 pm

    There is no key to happiness - the door is always opened.

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    Post by Lac » Fri Jan 26, 2007 10:17 am

    There is no key to happiness - the door is always opened.
    Right!. It's as simple as the spreading horizon. Open one's heart, happiness would go in,otherwise,it would flee away.

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    Post by crystalfrogw » Fri Apr 13, 2007 7:04 am

    happyiness is just a kind of feeling ....it depends on the view you hold to life.

    If you believe a grim, rainy day beautiful, it is beautiful because you enjoy it..............If you think a sunny spring morning is ugly it is ugly....

    Attitute decides everything.

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    Post by Kathfap » Wed Apr 25, 2007 2:32 am

    The happiness exists in our minds. Each one create your our happiness because is not the same for all. There are people that don’t need much to be happy. I think that the happiness is subjective and changeable. Nowadays you can be happy with something or someone and tomorrow not more. In some times I feel nostalgia about this topic because I wish I could to find the real happiness in myself and the rest. :?:

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    Post by Valery » Sun Apr 29, 2007 7:46 am

    In fact,Happiness is a journey.U couldn't find it out.but you can feel it.

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    Post by kpchoo » Wed May 02, 2007 9:25 am

    What is the point to seek for happiness when sadness is bound to come? Everyone's life is repeating the same thing, cant ppl see that this kind of repeating life is meaningless?

    I wonder how long will it take for human being to grow beyond happiness and sadness. Maybe human are just too afraid to step into unknown, hence history keep repeating itself.

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    Post by Ees » Sat May 12, 2007 12:09 pm

    I agree with that the happiness exists in our minds. I believe so too and that is why I believe also that it is possible to be happy at anytime, anywhere or in any situation. Of course it is not easy or often, but I think it is possible. It just needs some work.

    I see there is two kind of happiness. The first one is passionate happiness, that is found by outside. If something really good happens then the happiness we feel is passionate happiness. But that is not everlasting happiness. If the good thing that made someone happy is suddenly gone, then the happiness is gone also. In the passionate happiness, if something good happens, we feel enormous happiness, but if something bad happens, we feel enormous sadness. It is like the wind. First it asks something good and after that it loves the world outside.

    The second kind of happiness is an attitude, calm happiness. That comes from inside of us, from our mind. That comes if somebody loves that he has, loves the chance to love etc. If somebody feels that kind of happiness, there is no need to something fantastic to happen. In calm happiness we are glad of the good things that happens, but if something bad happens, we do not lose the happiness. It is that what gives the strenght to us to face the bad things and it is our attitude that reminds us that there is always something to be glad of. Then we are happy for the hardship, because we have an opportunity to learn something from that. In calm happiness there is first the love from inside of us and then comes other things.

    Passionate happiness: "I love just because I am happy."
    Calm happiness: "I am happy just because I love."

    Passionate happiness: "I am everything. If you have me, you can see only me and you are in heaven. But if you don't have me, you see only the loss of me and you suffer."
    Calm happiness: "You don't have to look at me. You look with me, I am your attitude. You can watch the outside world in peace with me."

    If you seek passionate happiness, you maybe want to be always richer, more beautiful or you wannt to have more lovers, fame or honour. Then you ask for things.
    If you seek calm happiness, all you need is your love. You don't have to be anything more. Then you can give.

    Finding happiness depends wholly on that what you ask to be happy.

    This is how I see happiness, but of course this is only one way to see it.

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    Post by Bambang » Sun May 13, 2007 4:07 pm

    Hi Valery.

    I'd like to comment your opinion on happiness.
    You said that we cant find it. I am not with you on this matter. Happiness is something that we can find. A small example is when we can make somebody happy, we'll usually be happy too. We can be happy by making somebody or others happy. And to do it, we've got to learn the way.

    I know that happiness is subjective. But it is real. We can feel it. And to get that feeling, process is needed. Struggle is needed. To make it simpler. I'll give you one example. Here it is:

    One day a daughter wanted to make her mom happy in her mom's b'day. Then she wrote a song for her mom. She sang the song beautifully on her mom's b'day. She did her best. Then she kissed her mom and gave a hug and said "Mom, thank you for everything you have done to me. I really appreciate it. I am proud to be your daughter. You are the best mom in this world". She said that sincerely. And she cried while kissing and hugging her mom. Her mom was impressed and cried too. The girl recalled her dad who had passed away. Her mom did it too. Even though they were crying, they were very happy on that day. And of course that happiness didn't come from nowhere. It happened because the daughter had fought to make her mom happy. He thought hard to write an impressing song just for her mom. She fought for that and then she got it.

    So, Valery. My point is do not wait the happiness comes to you. instead, pls fight for it. Go for it.
    Find it.

    Thanks Valery. Keep in touch. :)

    Sincerely,
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    Post by fayehfy » Tue May 15, 2007 9:24 am

    But the problem is what is your definition for " Happiness"? Someone is easily satisfied but others not.

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    Post by fayehfy » Tue May 15, 2007 9:25 am

    But the problem is what is your definition for " Happiness"? Someone is easily satisfied but others not.

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    Post by Chet Baker » Wed May 16, 2007 4:36 am

    This is a very difficult question to answer. In my experience, if you intend to find something trying to make you feel happy, you will fail.

    Sometime, when your expectation is too positive, such expectation will only barricade your eyes, then you can't turely see what's happening, you will not be able to accept something below your expectation as the result. Then, you will feel unhappy.

    So, where is true happiness:?:

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    Re: Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.

    Post by awuyhoho » Tue Jun 05, 2007 2:18 pm

    TalkingPoint wrote:Nobody can be happy by trying to find happiness.
    Is it possible to find happiness if you look for it?
    Is it an impossible dream? Is it selfishness that will end in failure? Or is it the right of every human being?
    Is it possible to find happiness if you look for it?---yes
    I'm trying very hard to find it
    and I found if I really did find it
    it was easily found
    e.g: I was very tired back from working very night
    my mother waited me till I was back
    and a cup of coffee was for me :)
    I felt very happy at that time
    many times I listen my favorite music I feel happy
    after a delicious meal I feel happy
    If I finish the work I feel happy
    If I pass the exam I feel happy
    When I saw the pictures of TVXQ(my favorite pop star) I feel happy
    ...
    lots of things to make our lives happy

    p.s:aren't you happy ?

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    Post by Heidi » Tue Jun 05, 2007 4:09 pm

    Without pain,noone gains happiness.
    As usual,a workaholic,getting up at the dawn , working just for $200 a week,neverthless, 1 minute late mistaken by his wristwatch,he was fired unwillingly.A schoolboy,reading more reference book, all day without goout,from morning until night, just for passing exam, but was doomed to failure.Or, a 17-year-old girl, depositing tons and tons of money, however, was cheated by her beloved boyfriend, as a result,all her wish such as accomplishment of her schooling or marriage with her "kind" boyfriend,desperately all gone with the wind.Unforturnetly?the answer maybe not necessarily. because nexttime the workaholic will not be blamed for lacking of punctuality,he has learned to adjust his timing;the schoolgirl also gained to arrange and categorize the materials which is helpful for the test and instead, avoiding roaming enormous time consuming at her study;Finally,the clever little women would say farewell to her ignorance and innocence,this means she has become
    mature--a real woman with a cute insight facing the cruel and indifferent world.So,can we see that---- from the pain,you gain the happy?

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    Post by Bambang » Sat Jun 30, 2007 4:51 pm

    fayehfy wrote:But the problem is what is your definition for " Happiness"? Someone is easily satisfied but others not.
    My friend, you don't need to think hard on the definition on "happiness". When we are happy we know what the happiness is. Just find it and feel it !!!

    Certainly, happiness is subjective. Something can make somebody happy but not the others. Or even it may make somebody very unhappy.

    awuyhoho wrote:lots of things to make our lives happy .
    See !!!
    You yourself said that we can find happiness. So just go find it, feel it and enjoy it buddy !!!
    chet baker wrote:This is a very difficult question to answer. In my experience, if you intend to find something trying to make you feel happy, you will fail. .
    Fail !!! Fail !!!!
    No way my friend.
    If you are really serious in finding the happiness then you'll get it. Believe me my friend. You'll get it. Just follow the example I have posted on May 13 ( two posts) after yours. You'll get it my dear friend.

    kathfap wrote:The happiness exists in our minds...

    I think that the happiness is subjective and changeable. Nowadays you can be happy with something or someone and tomorrow not more.
    We are in line on this my friend. happines really exists. It's also subjective. Again, I agree with you. Happiness is changable ? Again, again, I am with you on this.

    But my friend, just because it is changable, doesn't mean it will make us pesimistic to get it. Just go get it with all heart. Are you with me on this my dear friend?

    I just wanna say something to all members that life is a cycle. Sometimes we are happy and sometimes sad. That's normal. That's the essence of life. Nobody in this world that is happy all the time. And similarly, nobody in this planet that is sad all the time. All we have to do is to increase the amount of our happiness and at the same time decrease our amount of sadness. :wink: :) :D

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