Does it really matter how we treat babies?

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Postby MissLT » Fri Jun 24, 2005 12:39 am

shokin wrote:Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

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:roll: Tell us your first two years of your childhood then.....

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Postby Shazzam » Fri Jun 24, 2005 8:58 am

My goodness what a terrible heading "Does it matter how we treat babies". I'm not going to take this the wrong way; but it would be easy to.

Even lions look after their young! Of course it matters. The first few years of a childs life creates trust. If you treat a child badly in the first few years of their life; they won't trust you. If you treat a child with love and kisses, cuddles etc, they will respond that way with you long after infancy. Trust me I know. I have seen both sides of the scale.

There are also studies that have proven that children that are read bed-time stories prior to school entry do better at reading and writing. There is something to be said about a young mind. They are sponges; absorbing everything around them and storing it away.

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Postby shokin » Sat Jun 25, 2005 6:09 am

LennyeTran wrote:
shokin wrote:Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

:roll: Tell us your first two years of your childhood then.....


I don-t remember.

Can you give us a demonstration that no human being can remember its 1-2 first years.

What is the goal of the question ? :mrgreen:

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Postby MissLT » Sat Jun 25, 2005 9:34 pm

shokin wrote:
LennyeTran wrote:
shokin wrote:Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

:roll: Tell us your first two years of your childhood then.....


I don-t remember.
Can you give us a demonstration that no human being can remember its 1-2 first years.
What is the goal of the question ? :mrgreen:

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I dare to say 99% of the children do not remember their first two years of life. And if yes, we only remember the most significant ones; therefore, treating babies badly will create a bad memory for them. And also making them lose their trust to other human beings. On the other hand, the bottom line of this topic is not whether babies remember their memories of their first two years, it's about parents' responsibilities. Just think and assume for once, if you could not love your baby enough to treat him/her nicely, would you love him/her when your child grow up to understand your reactions towards him/her?

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Postby MissLT » Sat Jun 25, 2005 9:58 pm

http://www.talkingpage.org/artic012.html#MEM
According to this website, "Although memory improves throughout childhood, important developmental changes take place during the preschool years. Just as with perspective taking, a major advance in memory abilities seems to begin at about 4 or 5 years when children start to recall items of some complexity and when they begin to monitor and manipulate them own memories." This is for my assumption that majority of children do not remember their first two years.
On the other hand, there is a small minority of children do remember their first two years; however, only the the significant ones. My cousin is an example. She once said she still remembered the time when my aunt's daughter kicked her face. My aunt was so surprised because my cousin was only two at time, and she never talked about it until the day my cousin mentioned it. The story is about whe they were taking a shower together, and my cousin wanted to touch her stomach to see how the baby was doing inside. She got a kick in the face instead :lol: . She said she hated babies from that day on until the day my other cousin was born. She told us she loved babies again because the other cousin was so cute. This is all she could remember what happened when she was two.

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Postby shokin » Sat Jun 25, 2005 10:37 pm

Is it really a necessity to know our 1-2 first years ?

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Postby MissLT » Sat Jun 25, 2005 10:42 pm

shokin wrote:Is it really a necessity to know our 1-2 first years ?

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Is it a necessity to ask un-necessity questions?

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How should we treat babies?

Postby JeanneM » Sun Jun 26, 2005 12:29 am

Babies may not have memory of the first two years of their lives in the way that we usually define memory, but they develop emotions and attitudes that remain with them for the rest of their lives - a sense of love, safety, belonging, and worthiness, or they develop the opposite. Babies see themselves mirrored in the faces, voices, and body language of the people around them - main caregivers, in particular.

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Postby shokin » Sun Jun 26, 2005 1:21 am

And for our collectivity, for the nature ? and not for our personal comfort !

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Re: How should we treat babies?

Postby MissLT » Sun Jun 26, 2005 3:32 am

JeanneM wrote:Babies may not have memory of the first two years of their lives in the way that we usually define memory, but they develop emotions and attitudes that remain with them for the rest of their lives - a sense of love, safety, belonging, and worthiness, or they develop the opposite. Babies see themselves mirrored in the faces, voices, and body language of the people around them - main caregivers, in particular.

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Postby Diamondlove » Sun Jun 26, 2005 12:22 pm

TP wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do you think?

I think it is very importance for the way we treat babies and toddlers.
We think that we cannot remember anything from the first one or two years of our lievs because we try to remember or list all the events that happened when we were child. Actually, we still keep some feeling that can't explain clearly. I can see if the baby is treated with full of love everyday, when grownth up he will be a good people and must be a kindness.
Do you agree with me? :roll: :?:

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Postby Etore » Wed Jun 29, 2005 2:12 pm

In my opinion it´s important to treat babies very well cause the behavior´s babies will reflect according the treatment.
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Postby shokin » Wed Jun 29, 2005 3:06 pm

We have to treat everyone very well.

Are we becoming nasty ? we all are friends.

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Postby RedRose » Wed Jun 29, 2005 3:59 pm

Sorry, IMHO, this topic is very laughable and meaningless.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Very true, we all can't remember our 1-2 first years, so are our babies. but remember! NO parents would NOT treat their babies kindly and with all their lives and love!

It isn't about whether-we-should-do-so, but about we-naturally-do-so!

When my daughter was about 1-2 years old, she was a true trouble-maker! she peed on my clean clothes, and sometimes when I was so tired and fell asleep, she wakened me with her nails scratching on my cheeks; I couldn't get a full-night sleep during her first 1-2 years. and yes, it didn't matter whether I treated her well, because she wouldn't remember anything if I treated her in a terrible way. however, It would be IMPOSSIBLE for me NOT to treat her well! that is what we call parents! absolute love for kids, no reason! just nature!

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Postby MissLT » Sun Jul 03, 2005 4:56 pm

shazzam1452 wrote:My goodness what a terrible heading "Does it matter how we treat babies". I'm not going to take this the wrong way; but it would be easy to.

Even lions look after their young!

That's a saying to expect a woman to be a good mother, but you know for sure there are mothers out there who are worst than monsters. They either emotionally or physically abuse their kids since the day they were born because those kids were not wanted at all. It's so sad.

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Postby H » Fri Jul 15, 2005 5:29 pm

TP wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do you think?


Of course, It really matters. When child is born, he is unaware of the sorroundings. The mother's lap is like a school for him where he can learn the ABC of life. He needs guidence from everyone. He/she can go about anything merely by holding your finger. In a cosequence, he can remember what he is taught. We had better treat the child with love and kindness and in this way he can grow up with required environement.

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Postby bolina1984 » Fri Jul 22, 2005 8:27 am

TP wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do you think?



We should respect everyone 'coz we are equal. How can ignore the natural right of babies and toddlers?
Another point is that babies have curiosity of everything. And that's a good time for young parents to establish a good relationship with their children.
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Postby authorityquery » Sat Jul 23, 2005 5:06 pm

I think treatments with babes is important, because babes can learn everything fastly, and may be your treatment will influent on them. babes don't know how wrong is or true, so they just learn and imitate everything people treat them.
Be careful! I'm not sure, but that's my idea.
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Postby hanamichi » Thu Jun 15, 2006 1:24 am

I think that's important how we treat a baby and what we did in front of him/her. When a baby is older, it can't remember what happened when it was a baby. But, the first impression we made for it surely affect to its conception. Example, when we always let a baby see the money we have, when he's old, and he know about the value of money, he'll always think: my parents always have much money, and he'll depend on his parents

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Postby samento » Thu Jun 15, 2006 6:37 am

I think that all parents and babysisters should treat babies and toddlers the best they can do.
All babies need these; food, warm, and love. And I think almost people know about psychology. Our subconciousness has developed from this period, first 1-2 year of life.
Even though we can't remember what really happened during that time, but this doesn't mean we can ignore our children. It's not related!
Who is the first babies run to when they cry? Who is the first babies hug when they fear? Who is the first babies smile when they see? And Who is the first can stop they crying?
This is why we need to treat them well.
In fact, I don't have my own baby yet. But I know that a family is a basic element. And this element is very important. If we don't have families, we can't survive until today. We may die as soon as we born. And we might not be like this, if we didn't be treated well when we were young.
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Postby Dixie » Thu Jun 15, 2006 12:01 pm

I once heard a story about an orphanage where something very weird was going on in the babies' room. It was a room filled with cribs, one next to another. For months, the orphanage staff observed that the babies that slept in the last crib of the row grew up healthier and happier. Why did that happen? What was wrong with that crib?

Well the answer was simple: every night, after the maid had finished her task, she would rest by the last crib, and talk and caress the baby in it.


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