Grown-up children should look after their elderly parents.

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Postby ailamvn » Fri Dec 22, 2006 9:16 am

In my opinion, they have to do that coz' they have been given many from their parents...

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Postby sharklish » Fri Dec 22, 2006 5:02 pm

meylenlau wrote:As humans we need to be thankful and filial.The basic morality we need to fulfill is to take care of our parents , not only that, we also need to forgive and condone whatever they couldn't provide.....or mistakes they had done.... or else these old people will suffer at their old-age with nobody cares for them.
We will be getting old too, we must set good examples for our children to see, learn and inculcate the good value in them. Hopefullly this example will be inculcated in their mind and they'll look after us when we are old.
Of course we can't predict what'll happen when we are old,as life is really uncertain, but at least we set the good example to educate them that taking care of old parents is the right /good way to practise, as children we should take care of old parents .
Alike a business investment, this is a humans' morality invesment, win or loss nobody can assure, but is a good investment!!!




I am glad to see your answer.I really touched by your answer.I don't like my father,because he is very selfish.After watching your answer ,i review what my father have done past is for our good,my little brother and me.He became easy to lose temper after fail in the businee .In fact ,he suffered a lot from the life ,and the life treated him unfairly .My father 's job is very tough ,most of his job is underwater.Even in the cold winter night ,he have to go to make the living in the sea .When ever think of this ,my eyes always feel tearing .Yeah ,we should hold a thankful and condoned heart in return to our parents 'trouble in fostering us.It is your parents bring you to this world .

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Postby Vega » Fri Dec 22, 2006 6:19 pm

I'm completely agree with the most of opinions here,
I think we must take care of and respect them...

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filial duty with elderparents

Postby Lac » Tue Jan 02, 2007 11:13 am

Sure! We all must not only obey and respect our elderly parents but also do anything to satisfy their minds. Of course not all of their thoughts are quite right in every circumtances. And we have lots of chances of exchanges view with them for best solutions based on our respect and obedience.
However, our respectful attitudes towards them sometimes make them feel self-pity. For example the way you support them could cause them to think that as if they were useless. I saw many similar cases occuring in Saigon where most of elderly people sent to old-age institutions and their decendants visit them weekly or monthly.
Eldery parents dont need sufficient and comfortable condition. All in all, the elders often feel to be lonely and the less peolpe talk to them, the more the elders feel loneliness overwhelmingly.
Living in the noisy and hustling society,we seem to have less choices in taking care of our elder parents in the very right way. Perhaps it's still entirely up to our own situations in each concrete ones.
I also want to get more small points. Man obedient to the elders (or Superior) would know what the leader and hero is. The order in the society always claims a proper obedience. In other words, if you disrespect or abandon your elderly parents it would be a very terrible catastrophe for yourself and the greatest crime in human consciousness that is committed. It would also be the road leading to the chaos and upset in society.

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Postby fefanng » Sun Feb 04, 2007 2:55 am

We all have kind wishes. We want our parents to live a heath, well-off and happy life. No children want their parents to suffer. But for the young, it's even hard to feed themselves nowadays! To make a living, most young people works over 10 hours a day. Yet they are looking for part-time jobs because the salary is not enough to pay the rent. Their hometown is far away from the city where jobs can be found. Going home to see their parents will cost a large deal of money. They miss their parents, but all they can do is phone home or write letters.

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davidtinglon wrote:It will be accused by the people and punished by law if one does't take good care of there parents.

Just out of curiosity, what kind of punishment is there in China for not caring about your own parents? Is it possible to be sentensed to prison? Or is it just a fine? Could you tell me, please.


Feeding old parents is child's duty. But children do not have to take care of their parents themselves, just financial support is enough.

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Postby aldorado » Tue Feb 06, 2007 11:16 pm

i completely agree that we have to take care our parent . but should we take care them by ourself ?, that mean we live with them , meet them everyday , or can we send them to a center of old people , and we visit them every week ?

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Postby EmSi » Wed Feb 07, 2007 6:03 am

aldorado wrote:i completely agree that we have to take care our parent . but should we take care them by ourself ?, that mean we live with them , meet them everyday , or can we send them to a center of old people , and we visit them every week ?


Yes, this is a very important question, to my mind. My family and I are living with my parents-in-law now. This is because it's rather difficult to buy or rent a flat (nor a house) in our city. We do not quarrel, actually, but it's too little space and too many people living together, to be happy with this. And they are not even my parents, but my husband's. Anyway, I don't think we will sometimes be able to send them to a center for old people or so, just be cause I wouldn't happily married with my husband if they had not born him 36 years ago. I feel gratitude to them for him and for my children (since my mother-in-law is my babysitter who allows me working without worries about them).

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Postby zyn » Wed Mar 14, 2007 6:57 am

My parents mean very much to me,especially my grandma.I love them very much.I'll take good care of them.

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Postby ghadeer » Wed Mar 21, 2007 6:37 pm

sure they have to do.parents look after their children till they become men and women so they have to do this for them,and even if the some parents dont take care about their chilldren but they have to be good people and do the right thing or the natural thing

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Re: Grown-up children should look after their elderly parent

Postby thomasly » Fri Apr 06, 2007 6:09 am

[quote="TalkingPoint"][b]Grown-up children should look after their elderly parents.[/b]

What do YOU think?[/quote]
of course,We must take care of them.It is our responsible,have no other choice.we should share our time with thme.

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Postby crystalfrogw » Fri Apr 13, 2007 6:50 am

surely...
only animals will leave when they grow up instead of take care of their parents.
but we are human beings knowing that we should repay our parents' love.......

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Postby Bambang » Sun Jul 01, 2007 6:02 am

crystalfrogw wrote:surely...
only animals will leave when they grow up instead of take care of their parents.
but we are human beings knowing that we should repay our parents' love.......



My dear friends.
How about a father who didn't want to admit his child because he was not sure if the child was his biological child. He thought that the child was a reasult of affair between his wife and her boybriend???

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Postby Konstantin » Fri Sep 21, 2007 7:41 am

BOGINYA wrote:I consider, that children have to take care of their old parents.

Of course, we must to care about our parents, but many countries have a special institutions for care about them. In Russua, for example, every man must to care about own parents. Besides it, the government care about the elderly people. But a level of their life is very low.
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Postby Tora » Fri Sep 21, 2007 11:31 am

did you guys all come from the same playground? nice to meet you here anyway :lol:

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Postby Bambang » Fri Sep 21, 2007 2:30 pm

Welcome, Russians.

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Postby hedwig14 » Fri Oct 05, 2007 5:32 am

ofcourse, and it's not enough. the only way where we can rapay our parents is when we have children of our own. we should have that sense of gratitude to them.

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Postby Konstantin » Fri Oct 05, 2007 6:29 am

So, but what about an elderly people, who can't cares about themselves and what relatives don't want to care about them? Does the government have to care about them and would it really do it? :?:

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Postby Konstantin » Fri Oct 05, 2007 7:01 am

bambang wrote:Welcome, Russians.

Thanks, nice to be here! :)
I always want to speak english with other people (not with russians!) :)
So, it's a people law - fistly parents care about you, then - you have to care about them. But not always parents are friends to their children...

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Postby Tora » Fri Oct 05, 2007 8:18 am

Konstantin wrote:
bambang wrote:Welcome, Russians.

Thanks, nice to be here! :)
I always want to speak english with other people (not with russians!) :)
So, it's a people law - fistly parents care about you, then - you have to care about them. But not always parents are friends to their children...


Oh you snob! :lol: Don't want to bother you with my poor and humble knowledge of English, but tell, please, where have you all come from? Seems like your teacher has discovered this web-site and you joined successfully :wink:

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Postby Konstantin » Mon Oct 08, 2007 6:22 am

Tora, this things usually discusses in a private messages! :D :D :D
But special for you: I'm from Voljsky, it's under Volgograd. :) I always want to speak English with real people, who live in englishword counties. But I speak very bad... :cry:
So! If people have only one parent, what do they must to do? If one of parents left family many times ago? Not dead, but left! :?: :?: :?:

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Postby Konstantin » Mon Oct 15, 2007 6:39 am

Ded wrote:There are many children in our country whom have one parent. How do you think, must they care about his or her one parent(mother or father), who has grown his child all his life better or not?

I think - yes. If you really love your one parent, you have to care about him, if he needs for it.


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