Children should take both parents' surnames.

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Postby Bambang » Fri Jul 20, 2007 6:53 am

nightwish wrote:
Good excuse to cover your real name.


I'm not making any excuses here dear,
my mother is my father's cousin. :D




Oh I see. Married to a cousin.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby Annaa » Tue Jul 01, 2008 2:45 pm

I don`t agree with this,it`s very absurd to have two surnames.
If you don`t like me remember it's mind over matter..I don't mind and you don't matter..

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby ngaminh » Fri Jul 25, 2008 3:51 am

I think it depend on your country. it is not neccesary, your childrent can take only one father's surname or mother's surname. some case surname of mother and father is the same.

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Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby martasofia » Wed May 12, 2010 8:26 pm

I think children should take both parents' surnames. The order of them should be a choice too.
From my point of view, having both surnames is a reflection of two different family inheritances and of a complete equality between them.
Names are important, they go with us throughout our life remembering who we are and where we come from and, on the practical sense, it helps to avoid mistakes.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby andrew » Sun May 16, 2010 10:16 am

Annaa wrote:I don`t agree with this,it`s very absurd to have two surnames.

WHY? :shock:

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby andrew » Sun May 16, 2010 10:26 am

In my opinion, children should choose their own surnames in a logical age (13-14 years). Imagine a father who hits his son and then he dissapear from his life. Perhaps the kid only wants to have his mother´s surname (the reason is obvious). Or,for example, imagine your father´s surname is Hitler or Stalin and you live in Deutchland or Russia. It could be a problem if you have others political ideas.
Anyway, in Spain we take both parents´ surname and it isn´t a problem. It woul be a good idea can change it.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby martasofia » Sun May 16, 2010 12:29 pm

NURIA: In my opinion,it's better children take both parents' usernames because the username is a part of us,something that identify us and with two surnames it's easy to recognize someone I think

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Postby thesnakesolid » Wed May 19, 2010 8:34 pm

i think mother's surname is as important as father's , and children should have both of them, parents have to decide the order of them togheter.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby NuriaSb » Wed May 19, 2010 9:27 pm

In my opinion, children should take both parents’ surnames because you are part of your father and of your mother too.
Why is it in some countries there is only father’s surname?
As I see, having only your father’s name or when you are married, your husband’s name is a very sexist measure. We are in the 21st century and the equality is an ethical value but in this case, it isn’t applied.
I live in Spain and all the children have both surnames and also women keep their own surnames when they get married. Other countries ought to learn this intelligent measure to making more obvious the sex equality.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby NuriaSb » Wed May 19, 2010 9:30 pm

I agree with Andrew’s because you can have different political opinion with your parents and a name can mark your life. You should be free to change your name for an other that you like more or sounds better.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby martasofia » Thu May 20, 2010 11:42 am

Annaa wrote:I don`t agree with this,it`s very absurd to have two surnames.

NURIAB:I'm not agree with yo because Ithink two surnames are so important like one of them

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby willyp » Sun May 23, 2010 3:49 pm

From my point of view your mother´s surname is as important as your father´s so I can´t understand why ,for example in the United Kingdom or France, they only take the father´s one.Your name is your most important identification mark and it should show the inheritance of the two families where you come from.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby ligros » Mon May 24, 2010 10:30 am

In Spain we take the surnames of both the parents but I know that in other countries people only take the surname of the father and when a woman marries she takes the surname of her husband. I don´t think on it like a sexist measure, I think that it´s only a different tradition and an easier way of doing administrative paperwork.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby ligros » Mon May 24, 2010 11:05 am

noeliam wrote:I live in Spain, and here we have two surnames.Usually the first one belongs to our father and the second one comes from our mother. For me, both of these are an important part of our identity and in some cases they can mark our destination. The surnames are an important way of showing the family´s story, but it is only my point of view because I was born in a country where every one of us have two surnames.On the other hand I would like to say that to me to have two surnames isn´t so important as some of the other users is because to have one or two surnames isn´t an own decision and it depends of the country´s culture

noeliam: For me too it isn´t a problem to have one or two surnames, in our country we have two surnames but for me it wouldn´t be a problem to have only one

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby willyp » Mon May 24, 2010 3:05 pm

martasofia wrote:I think children should take both parents' surnames. The order of them should be a choice too.
From my point of view, having both surnames is a reflection of two different family inheritances and of a complete equality between them.
Names are important, they go with us throughout our life remembering who we are and where we come from and, on the practical sense, it helps to avoid mistakes.


I think it shouldn´t be an option, the order of your name has to do with tradition ,we can´t change it that easy.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby thesnakesolid » Mon May 24, 2010 3:51 pm

well its a tradition, its not so easy to cahge , but we are evolutioning, changing our traditions every day, so... why not?
i think having this option means equality and progress, and , if parents dont want to change the order of the surnames , they dont have to do it.
however, as i said, i think we need TWO surnames, cause you are better identified in the society

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby thesnakesolid » Mon May 24, 2010 4:00 pm

ligros wrote:In Spain we take the surnames of both the parents but I know that in other countries people only take the surname of the father and when a woman marries she takes the surname of her husband. I don´t think on it like a sexist measure, I think that it´s only a different tradition and an easier way of doing administrative paperwork.


mr ligros, i think it is a tradition, a different tradition and, in fact, a sexist one... on that way, mother's surname seems to be less important than father's.
you have to realise that this tradition is being followed in countries that most of the laws are sexist ( vote, legal punishment, etc )


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