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tips for boys and men

Postby tikay » Sat Jan 07, 2006 8:06 pm

My friends and I have decided that with the changes going on in the ways girls & guys hook up...the ways we meet and learn about one another...that we should make a guide for the new man....
some important factors would be:
A) To actually really try to be interested in our thoughts instead of just pretending, when you pretend! (we can see right through that!)
B)...and stop staring at (our) breasts when we are serious about something... trying to discuss it...and dont stop looking at our breasts/bodies when we are in that mood too!
C)tell us everything that might lead to a break-up if we are involved, (for crying out loud) and tell it sooner than later because we may want to have the chance to come up with a solution to the problem...we are smart you know, and deserve to fight for you , so...dont just leave one day saying "you never really tried!" (know what I am sayin'?)
D) Let us love you...if you cant accept what we are giving we wont be able to give it...so get in touch with yourself, and let us in.
that is a good start if you ask me!
laters for E,F,G...

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Postby Admiral » Sat Jan 07, 2006 9:08 pm

:lol: thanks very much, I'm very interested in E) F) G)

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E F & G for you guys, esp Admiral...for asking!

Postby tikay » Sun Jan 08, 2006 11:50 pm

E) Everyone deserves to be treated with a decent measure of respect...this goes double if you want to get a girl into your life...bed, apartment...or marriage! So don't think it is okay to ignore them, be abusive or not be helpful when we need some help...even if it means we need muscle, like even when we are moving across town. (dont be too busy when it counts)

F) For crying out loud make sure you want us when you start the court and spark...make sure you are sure you are not still floundering in indecision...then tell us you are there for us, and do little things that prove this!

G) Get interested. If you dont like poetry but it is her favorite hobby...best to decide to want to read it and decide to try to like it....same with any other thing she is really into...unless it is girls night out and...stop worrying about girls night out if you are doing all the other a's b's and c's...she is not going to be leaving....while you are trying so hard. (We are caring that way)

one more for the road?

H) hello! some relationships are meant to be and some take a lot of effort....energy is higher for her if you keep yourself in fairly good shape and that means mellow on the indulging in things leading to your ill health.... for instance if you are meeting on the beach early Saturday mornings for the volley-ball game maybe you should drink Saturday night instead of Friday...you did want to see her new bikini did you not?
(you say....but I always drink on Fridays... oh! stop complaining, most girls don't like whiners!)

love to all... :twisted: :lol:

Admiral

Postby Admiral » Mon Jan 09, 2006 1:40 pm

thank you very very much!

So, I try to say it again in simple words, to let more people having a profit from this thread. I think this is really very important.

A) be interested in her thoughts
B) be serious when she is serious, look at her breasts if not
C) give her the solution to stop a break up before one stops
D) let her love oneself
E) respect her. don't ignore her, don't be abusive or not helpful
F) do little things to prove that one is there for her
G) be interested in her hobby
H) displace the time of the own hobby to meet with her

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to Admiral....

Postby tikay » Mon Jan 09, 2006 8:24 pm

I am going to write this down as i write it to you and hope that this is as good as the stuff I submitted before.

I was saying that I wake up in the morning and the whole process of getting out of bed takes about twenty minutes...i listen to the pidgins in my window...they purr to me and we sometimes have a little banter...(smile)
i begin to think about things....this morning I thought of things that i could write in here like ....
our favorite pet names for the people we love and care about...that would be a fun post right? (like I call my daughter sarah-berrys among others, while a friend (once) calls her little girl juice-box..
then I was thinking that I might post another thread about words we make up,
excuse me for a minute.......

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then...

Postby tikay » Mon Jan 09, 2006 8:30 pm

then i was just lolling for a bit...streching/yawning/smiling...
and then hugging sarah my little girl who got sick in the night...at some point i touched her and she was feverish, so i knew she was getting what-ever my son is sick with...I hugged her and asked the gods to be easy on her, to let the illness last for just a short visit....and then i decided which book to read...Pema...Chodron, i read where I had left off, after a random opening...i use random openings like a horoscope.
Then i was thinking about including some of her wisdom in my advice to you...with my own words of course...which I did.

Then i was in the shower thinking about how I could add some good ideas for these posts again and i was wondering what i could say next to you and to anyone who should happen in here to read this...

then I was out and down the stairs to collect the cup of strong coffee we drink around here...and over to this box to write while some things were still fresh in my mind...(thinking that they would not be erased)LOL :lol: :D :) :shock: :evil: :evil: :shock: :? :) :) :P :
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so on to the advise....now

Postby tikay » Mon Jan 09, 2006 8:51 pm

J)Just be yourself...good things should follow. There is way too much pretentious-ness in the world...people pretending to be this, pretending to be that....and not enough of just being the you that you really truly are. The person you know yourself to be...hard and soft side...the weak and the strong combine to make the man....that is sexy, that is nice.
Even if this means you choke up when you see children starving or something eqaually heart-rending on the tele...just go ahead and choke up...we all do when no one is watching.
Some of us do when they are and no one laughs at us...at least not without thinking about it later...and allowing themselves to be more honest too.
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now I will be ever more clever about posting...(smile)

Postby tikay » Mon Jan 09, 2006 8:58 pm

K) Kill your evil side. Because we all have one but we don't have to let it out of the cage so often, do we really? I mean it is okay to be irreverant at times...to be obnoxious and all that, at the appropriate times, in the right company. Your first date with someone may not be the best time to bully that homeless fellow...that is totally wrong anytime... but c'mon if your going to be a jerk save it for the few who know you are also kind....or save it til she knows you are a good guy too. And if your smart you wont be a bully to her ever because a smart woman will leave you so fast your head will still be spinning on the morning of the next day....hehehey i am not kidding...

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This may be as good as the last post lost...I try.

Postby tikay » Mon Jan 09, 2006 9:06 pm

L) Love people...love animals and love things....there is something that people tend to do called personification, ladies and girls seem to do it best...we notice the life in things....and we give them or notice them with their personality, such as a plant a stuffed animal, a favorite piece of furniture...like you do with your car...giving your car a name is not silly it is sweet...so we do that with our things and they are actually a part of life's flow so...they are living....see quantum physics.
Anyway...simply put the more you give the more you get love...so love every little thing.
Q:But should I love the things that are bad, such as the evil in peole at times????
A:yes love the broken heart of the person, honey because they are broken...they need much love
Q:should I love the one who abuses me then?
A: they are your greatest teachers are they not? you decide...

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M...mmmmhhhhuuuunnnnnyyyyyy

Postby tikay » Mon Jan 09, 2006 9:16 pm

M) Money? Money is really a quandry. Do you have too little? Do you have too much? Is it just right for you?
Do you live a life of chosen poverty.... are you rolling in the stuff?
Just think a little more about money and what it may gain for you. Decide how much for love...and how much on booze?
also
do you spend too much on the things you think you are supposed to?
Do you spend enough on the things that make you happy?
Do you waste too much on needless things that make you unhappy? (for instance on drugs alcohol or over eating?) Money should be seen as the gift we are given when we work....use it wisely. If you love a girl put her in your budget. Will you buy her things she likes and take her all over with ease? Will you hold a grudge about every penny spent on her...or try to be cheap when you are with her? (Is what you are keeping it for, better than the love you share?)
Again you get what you give.
Weigh things out a bit.
I am not cheap when it comes to men... so I don't deserve to have them being cheap when they are with me. Period.
(we spend a bit to look good for you guys too believe me)
Question your previous ideas about money. Re-examine...now spend it well.
oh it has so much....so much to do with the ladies....
do you have nothing in your place but a coffee table full of beer cans and ashtrays? A dirty sofa you brought in from the street? Is it about time to fix up that den of bachelorhood?
Value yourself and others& use money wisely.

change your thinking about the cost of living....with a girlfriend.

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Re: to Admiral....

Postby Golfygirl » Tue Jan 10, 2006 1:18 am

tikay wrote:I am going to write this down as i write it to you and hope that this is as good as the stuff I submitted before.

I was saying that I wake up in the morning and the whole process of getting out of bed takes about twenty minutes...i listen to the pidgins in my window...they purr to me and we sometimes have a little banter...(smile)
i begin to think about things....this morning I thought of things that i could write in here like ....
our favorite pet names for the people we love and care about...that would be a fun post right? (like I call my daughter sarah-berrys among others, while a friend (once) calls her little girl juice-box..
then I was thinking that I might post another thread about words we make up,
excuse me for a minute.......


quote to: Tikay and Admiral
Just marvelous! Ya'll are very good writers. I am new to the english club. I can see I am going to have alot of interesting examples to follow. Sorry, but my english is elementary, but am hoping to get better. Ok? :D Thanks for giving me good reading.

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Thanks...

Postby tikay » Tue Jan 10, 2006 2:13 am

Hello there! You are welcome to add your ideas on love too!
I am just here practicing my writing and making a few friends.
Nice of you to give us a compliment.Dont worry about the spelling or any bad english that is why you just come here and practice! I was born in Tennessee.

Admiral

definition of real love

Postby Admiral » Tue Jan 10, 2006 4:18 pm

From Paracelsus (not from me):
Who doesn't know, he doesn't love.
Who can't do anything, doesn't know anything.
But who knows,
he loves, notices and also sees.
The more knowledge one has,
the greater is the love.
Who thinks that all fruits will be ripe at the same time with the strawberries,
he doesn't understand anything of the grapes.



Human being is very depressed. They have to work hard to earn their living, to care for their chidren, their wife. They don't only have to earn money, they have to work fastly, buy a house, buy a car, like if there is an invisible hand controlling them.
In such a society, people will feel that all love is taken away from them, so he feels lonely. And whenever he feels lonely, he dreams of a girl who will stand beside him, encouraging him for going on.
So, the need of human being is not to be lonely. He will search "the other part of him", to feel complete.
And that is love.

But love is not the showing of childishness.
It is not that one makes himself to an individable part of another one, like: He is everything, I am nothing, nothing else than a part of him. With this attitude, he gives up his own individuality, he makes himself to an instrument of the other, to a thing beyond himself.
It is not that one makes another one to an individable part of himself. He wants to get rid of his loneliness by doing it, but as a consequence he will be dependant from the one he controls, the same as the one he controls will be dependent on him.

Real love is a coalition, where the own person is kept.
Love will let him feel complete, and to be himself at the same time.
That is real love, whether you love a girl, or you love football, your job, or anything else.
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Postby Admiral » Tue Jan 10, 2006 4:29 pm

(same with me, I was born in China)

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Admiral!

Postby tikay » Tue Jan 10, 2006 7:09 pm

Funny ...i had no idea where you were from!
China.wow...One of my very,very favorite people in the world is (in Hawaii) Hawaiian-Chinese-Caucasion....his name is Godfrey.
I was sort of wondering where you were from...but did not think to ask you. I told Golfygirl..where I was born... because I am from the same sort of place as she is, Tennessee is the next state up from Georgia, in the south-east United States.
If she is from there, well, we will have a whole lot in common. If she is living there from somewhere else well...maybe not, but maybe we do.
The great thing is that you are becoming my buddy and I am enjoying myself getting to know everyone in here.

Today I wanted to add something to the list but i have to go out and see what letter I am at I believe it is O. Oh boy!
be right back!

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The letter O...

Postby tikay » Tue Jan 10, 2006 7:25 pm

Admiral thanks for your post! That is good. I really like this thread.i think maybe it would be great if others were adding to it but this is good. They may add to it later. I am a little impatient especially for someone who is really laid back in so many other ways...my house is full of nice things but it is usually messy, not dirty but messy...everything clean but all over the place -especially books! Need a friend who likes to clean up my place ( I used to clean up all my friends houses.)

UH OH! It is O...
Are they going to consider it smut if I get racy???
How about this.
O) Just go to the site known as amazon dot com and put orgasm in the search engine box. Get one or two of these informative and fascinating books. ( 'nuf said )

Thats where I get most of my books anyway... because their books are very easy to afford when you are on a tight budget...but not the new titles...just the ones where there is great competion for barely used books, that are often just like new,these can be just a dollar or two and are still like new. I used to get many at thrift shops but that had so many less choices and they are more damaged usually.
love to everyone...your friend, -Tracey

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practice of real love

Postby Admiral » Fri Jan 13, 2006 2:32 pm

From Paracelsus (not from me):
Who doesn't know, he doesn't love.
Who can't do anything, doesn't know anything.
But who knows,
he loves, notices and also sees.
The more knowledge one has,
the greater is the love.
Who thinks that all fruits will be ripe at the same time with the strawberries,
he doesn't understand anything of the grapes.
(Why I quote this is because everything I say could be related to this poem)


As I talked about theory, now I talk about practise.

So, to be more precise: Only to think of oneself is also stupid.
There is a girl you like very much, then, according to the definition (see last post), you should
1. not deactivate your brain and
2. not deactivate her brain.

So, if you really want her, you should act rationally and you should also give her the chance to act rationally. There are 4 rules I repeat because I think it's stupid to say where you have to look at in tikay's post.

1. care for her
Why does somebody care for his car? -Because he owned hard-working money for it.
Why does somebody care for a plant? -Because he watered it every day and watched it growing big.
Somebody loves things for which he made an effort, and he makes effort for things he love. ( :mrgreen: So I don't often say that I love anyone)

2. feel responsible for her
I think I don't have to explain this. This is not a duty, but something voluntary. That means you have to know what she likes or what she wants, otherwise you don't have to wonder that she looks for somebody else.

3. respect her
That has nothing to do with fear of a monster, that is the ability to see the girl who she really is. That means that you really want to know about her, what she likes, what lacks she has, whether you are sure about her and so on.
However concerning a girl you mostly have to know about her emotional needs.
That also means that one himself has to be able to live independently, otherwise it will end in someone controlling someone else, or two blind persons running around somewhere. That's mostly why I'm against having sex at 14 or 15.

4. brake the imaginary picture
You know, some guys see a girl who is very very pretty, and they chase for her. Some girls see a boy who doesn't look good and have ugly stuff on, so they think he is reliable.
That's a very wrong attitude.
We have to brake this image, and to want her although this image is broken.
But I think we will be really stupid if we do 1.-3. to a person who we don't know that much, before whom there is still a prejudice of us.
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Postby Admiral » Fri Jan 13, 2006 2:44 pm

tikay, you never know whose house is more messed up.
For example me. I normally have to search 2 until 3 hours to find my exercise books.
So if you come here to tidy up my flat, I will tidy up your house. Good offer?

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Dear Admiral...

Postby tikay » Fri Jan 13, 2006 4:16 pm

That is just the best offer. It is my kind of thinking.
And the post before that is really great. Better than expected...no joke.
I think that we two may be able to say we started a good thread with this subject.
I am going to have to be honest I didn't expect so much understanding from you. i thought maybe yes, maybe no. It seems you understand so completely and now you are showing me even more...and you are just today...home depot and.....fixing up parts of the house. Keep up the writing you are good. I definately appreciate things like that. So please continue!
I am up very early because I have a whole lot to do and my tiny woke me... Sarah saying she needs to blow her nose...so she is a little bit sick again. I am going to have to go make her some tea now, she is all snuggely in the blanket and her Peter Pan (& Tinkerbell) movie is on and she is smiling at me.
I will be back with coffee and my P,Q,R's....or some.
bye 4 now

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Re: practice of real love

Postby Golfygirl » Fri Jan 13, 2006 8:14 pm

Admiral wrote:
From Paracelsus (not from me):
Who doesn't know, he doesn't love.
Who can't do anything, doesn't know anything.
But who knows,
he loves, notices and also sees.
The more knowledge one has,
the greater is the love.
Who thinks that all fruits will be ripe at the same time with the strawberries,
he doesn't understand anything of the grapes.
(Why I quote this is because everything I say could be related to this poem)


As I talked about theory, now I talk about practise.

So, to be more precise: Only to think of oneself is also stupid.
There is a girl you like very much, then, according to the definition (see last post), you should
1. not deactivate your brain and
2. not deactivate her brain.

So, if you really want her, you should act rationally and you should also give her the chance to act rationally. There are 4 rules I repeat because I think it's stupid to say where you have to look at in tikay's post.

1. care for her
Why does somebody care for his car? -Because he owned hard-working money for it.
Why does somebody care for a plant? -Because he watered it every day and watched it growing big.
Somebody loves things for which he made an effort, and he makes effort for things he love. ( :mrgreen: So I don't often say that I love anyone)

2. feel responsible for her
I think I don't have to explain this. This is not a duty, but something voluntary. That means you have to know what she likes or what she wants, otherwise you don't have to wonder that she looks for somebody else.

3. respect her
That has nothing to do with fear of a monster, that is the ability to see the girl who she really is. That means that you really want to know about her, what she likes, what lacks she has, whether you are sure about her and so on.
However concerning a girl you mostly have to know about her emotional needs.
That also means that one himself has to be able to live independently, otherwise it will end in someone controlling someone else, or two blind persons running around somewhere. That's mostly why I'm against having sex at 14 or 15.

4. brake the imaginary picture
You know, some guys see a girl who is very very pretty, and they chase for her. Some girls see a boy who doesn't look good and have ugly stuff on, so they think he is reliable.
That's a very wrong attitude.
We have to brake this image, and to want her although this image is broken.
But I think we will be really stupid if we do 1.-3. to a person who we don't know that much, before whom there is still a prejudice of us.


Much thoughts here!!!!Talk about analyzing!!!It seems to me a very accurate picture!!!

I wish I had know all that before now in my life. Admiral and Tikay, ya'll are amazing.

What Admiral & Tikay has written is proof that a college education is needed in this life.

Remember my advice here!!!!If you want a short cut in life----GO TO COLLEGE!!

College will prepare you for the basic understandings of life and how to get along very well in this world we live in.

College will prepare you for things that will take you an entire lifetime to learn if you don't go to college.

Do you hear me? Do you comprehend? AN ENTIRE LIFETIME!!

Admiral---you are admirable :)

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Re: Dear Admiral...

Postby tikay » Sat Jan 14, 2006 4:18 am

[quote="tikay"]you understand so completely and now you are showing me even more...and you are just today...home depot and.....fixing up parts of the house.

hello......tikay what are you talking about???
I dont know something went wrong right there...
I was trying to say I have some errends to do and we are fixing the floor in one bathroom and need more lino-tiles so must go to home depot....but how that got in the middle of my complimenting you... well that is just wierd ...and where the rest of it went...???? (dunno)
I was distracted because a friend came over and stayed a while...we were talking about how I could use some help over in aisle seventeen .
..false pro-fits, parallel reality, and suicides....Admiral?
"clean up on asile seventeen! " ...how I could use a rescue over there....hahahah!

then I had to go on to the promised play-park and the Mac-donalds for a happy meal, and the Home Depot...when we got back we fell on the bed and slept away the rest of today.... its my night off from school.... and I hear it is friday the thrteenth!
well.... :? lets see if it gets :twisted: twisted.

well another great compliment from the happy supportive Golfygirl....(you are nice) Thanks.
I am going to go to that asile 17...and see if I am getting in more trouble over there :)
bye 4 now
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