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Re: Dear Admiral...

Postby tikay » Sat Jan 14, 2006 4:18 am

[quote="tikay"]you understand so completely and now you are showing me even more...and you are just today...home depot and.....fixing up parts of the house.

hello......tikay what are you talking about???
I dont know something went wrong right there...
I was trying to say I have some errends to do and we are fixing the floor in one bathroom and need more lino-tiles so must go to home depot....but how that got in the middle of my complimenting you... well that is just wierd ...and where the rest of it went...???? (dunno)
I was distracted because a friend came over and stayed a while...we were talking about how I could use some help over in aisle seventeen .
..false pro-fits, parallel reality, and suicides....Admiral?
"clean up on asile seventeen! " ...how I could use a rescue over there....hahahah!

then I had to go on to the promised play-park and the Mac-donalds for a happy meal, and the Home Depot...when we got back we fell on the bed and slept away the rest of today.... its my night off from school.... and I hear it is friday the thrteenth!
well.... :? lets see if it gets :twisted: twisted.

well another great compliment from the happy supportive Golfygirl....(you are nice) Thanks.
I am going to go to that asile 17...and see if I am getting in more trouble over there :)
bye 4 now
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anylysis of real love

Postby Admiral » Sat Jan 14, 2006 2:01 pm

From the muslim poet Rumi:
Has the lightning of love struck this heart, so know that the other heart is full of love, too.

This is the result of the practise of real love.

However we have to ask at which time the lightning comes down.
The answer is dependent on the lovers brain, what type of girls he likes etc.
But to get the girl, he has to use some methods I have talked about before.

So we have two points:
1. It depents on the brains which specific type of girl one likes. So love is individual.
2. There is a general rule how to get the love.
So love is only a technique.

If someone follows or both follow 2.
That is what makes this topic so difficult. If someone acts or both act like 2, then he or they will end up in marrying and divorcing and marrying again and divorce again. Or at least both will never love the other one in their whole life, because the girl wants a guy who understands her. (see explanations of tikay)

If someone follows or both follow 1.
If someone acts like 1, then he will end up in being childish. (See "definition of real love", tue jan 10)
If both act like 1, then this will be a catastrophe. :lol: Because then both will have forgotten that they are living in a society, or they will build a barricade around them against the society.

As a consequence, love is only possible if both of the lovers move themself out of their own thinking, that means if both have a point between 1 and 2,
and if they try to connect their two thinkings in respect of the society's rules, no explanation needed, because we live in it.

So, everything and all summed up, the result is: If I really love someone, then I love all people, then I love the whole world, then I love the life.

Or specialized:

If I say "I love you" to somebody, then I also have to say "I love inside you everybody else, I love the whole world because of you, I also love myself inside you."

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so super cool

Postby tikay » Sat Jan 14, 2006 9:36 pm

all I can say is Bravo! (standing ovation) applause and...love!
you are quite the thinking man. LOVE it.

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P) Q) .....& R)

Postby tikay » Tue Jan 17, 2006 1:57 am

Watch your P's and Q's....that is a saying that i hear comes from old England...it stands for watch your pints and quarts.
which since we are on these letters I will be forced to connect to drinking.

P) Please dont drink in excess on your date or outing because you are feeling nervous about being around her. It is better to admit you are nervous, realise that it is natural, and move on...we dont like to see every man we go out with use the same excuse for getting smashed...really drunk. It is hard to enjoy time with people who have had too much booze, so lets just admit we are nervous and not drown ourselves in alcohol.

Q) Questions are the best way to get to know someone and if you have thought of a few things you would like to know before the date that will be a good thing to say if everything gets so quiet it becomes uncomfortable...time to use those...even if you write them down and keep them in your pocket....so you dont forget them. Just keep them simple and when she asks you some maybe you will be ready with some cute and clever answers that show us you really prepared to sweep us off our feet.

R) If the date is not going well, if it is sort of dull and you want to spice it up...rely on the traditional flowers. Maybe choose a movie place near a florist or a resturant where they sell flowers close by. Have them pre-ordered or collect some just for her...very romantic! Otherwise, you could have some in the back of your car, and pull them out before the night is over to cheer up the mood, depending on the weather. Of course you can always save them for your mom or? ...If for instance she was a total nightmare and obviously did not like you and spent the evening letting you know this. (In that case arrange to take her home early.)

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Postby ahmads » Tue Jan 17, 2006 9:57 am

waw ,there are many good tips
Tikey can you participate in another topics if you want .

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Postby Admiral » Tue Jan 17, 2006 3:49 pm

You CAN, but let my opinions alone!

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Postby illusion » Wed Jan 18, 2006 4:26 pm

yeh yeh really nice...but sadly when it comes to love no rules are actually at stake. It's just the matter of heart and instincts. I just have this one golden rule: Don't have any rules!!! and somehow I can always stick to that one. Though of course the tips may be found very useful...

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Re: tips for boys and men

Postby shokin » Wed Jan 18, 2006 5:19 pm

Break the silence law ! :

I hate all the "shut up", "no word or I will ...", etc. The mobbing kills, let us talk about ! :evil:

Respect before all ! :evil: :

The respect of dignity and identity of each being should be and is not enough. If you don't respect a person, you make this person lose confidence and self-confidence.

Don't become big brother ! :evil: :

Trying to control all, you lose all control. You are denying the freedom, the sovereignty, the life.



Responsibility :

Assume the what you did choose AND the what you did not choosse (you did not forsee by taking an engagement).

Communication :

Without communication, no mutual understanding, no group, only individuals (individualismus in the society then chaos of the society, of the group).

Action :

Without action, no effect. Find your goals and think about only them. Orientate your action according to your goals (not according the advertising). Be pro-active, take initiatives, create and believe. Crear = Creer. Acting is keeping contact with the your reality (your potential and your limits).

Humour :

Laugh, finding jokes, caricatures, laughing about yourself : I cannot dance but when I try they laught. You can dance very well. So, why are people laughing ? because I keep trying to dance... :lol: If I stop trying to dance, why do people keep laughing ? because I've fallen to the ground. :lol: :lol: :lol: Why do I smile ? becaue one beautiful girl helps me standing up back. :lol: :mrgreen: :lol:

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Postby tikay » Wed Jan 18, 2006 8:16 pm

Thanks to everybody for your added messages. The thread was under hey sexy lady so I guess some of you have just found it. Shokin I was not playing at big brother to anyone but Admiral who first asks in the thread for my advise with a woman he is into. I am not trying to say that my little ideas are for everybody anyway. Just if they can help anybody to enjoy them. I think they are pretty good ideas from a woman with experience with men....but not the law!
Please dont take it too seroiusly because like all of the things I share I try to keep it light and stay away from preaching sounding b.s. I am no-bodys big brother or sister....i was just having a good time trying to share what I know to be some good advise to a young man.
It funny to me that you follow your angry notes with some good advise. I like the part about you and dancing the most.
I did not really get the angry words...they did not fit in here for me....but that is just me.
I think we should change the name of the thread so we dont offend others ...so people dont think we are being pushy or something. The moderator named it this. Speak to Arale about that one.
Peace........Ahmads ...hello friend!
I do participate in the other forums and watch all the threads I have been in so that takes up all my extra time for now. If you want to talk to me you must go to the threads where I already am chatting okay? (there are many)
Love to all.

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Postby ahmads » Wed Jan 18, 2006 9:07 pm

tikay wrote:Peace........Ahmads ...hello friend!
I do participate in the other forums and watch all the threads I have been in so that takes up all my extra time for now. If you want to talk to me you must go to the threads where I already am chatting okay?

ok I will :D

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Postby illusion » Wed Jan 18, 2006 11:02 pm

oh you know I've also forgotten to add one tip that I always bear in mind which I stick to all of the time... Do whatever you want but make no harm to other people by your behaviour... I think it's a simple thing to remember and it does help a lot. I use that tip in everyday life, whatever I do I try to think of other people and the consequences of my actions...

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Postby tikay » Wed Jan 18, 2006 11:36 pm

Shokin...this is dedicated to you.

S) Stay openminded.
Never think that you have all the answers because no one does. the more open you are to the person your trying to gain the love and admiration of, the more they are going to be open to you and your ideas too. It is usually the best way to enjoy the time spent together.

for Illusion.

T) If all else fails throw all the rules right out the window and wing it. There is no rule for every single situation. For some things the rules are meant to be bend/ bent...so dont think there is only one or two ways do accomplish the goal...there are countless answers to every situation.
So be here now. Be yourself.

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W)

Postby tikay » Thu Jan 19, 2006 2:46 am

W) be willing to try new things. For instance I was watching some of the dating shows and I was suprised to see how many were very creative and how many were not. I was studying for one year, watching as many as I could find, those shows on the tele...now I wont watch them anymore, and I get it.

The creative ones held my attention while the others were really boring. Same with actual dating. Bar resturant are good for filling in but not the only things to do so....be creative and do various things...look in the telephone book and create a fun time including your interests. Like maybe go to a kickboxing class, a joke shop, and then to a dinner. This kind of thing.

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Re: S

Postby illusion » Thu Jan 19, 2006 10:12 am

tikay wrote:
for Illusion.

T) If all else fails throw all the rules right out the window and wing it. There is no rule for every single situation. For some things the rules are meant to be bend/ bent...so dont think there is only one or two ways do accomplish the goal...there are countless answers to every situation.
So be here now. Be yourself.


thank you Tikay :) In fact I am always myself because I stick to another interesting rule that I heard in a beautiful song and it goes like that ''Don't forget to be the way you are'' in other words be yourself...but thanks again :)

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Postby shokin » Thu Jan 19, 2006 2:25 pm

tikay wrote:Shokin I was not playing at big brother to anyone.


My advices were not addressed to you particularly but to everybody (even me).

Don't try to controll all the world.
Don't try to control the nature.
Don't try to control the others beings (that you love or don't love).

Try to control yourself.

To be admirated is not always a goal. :mrgreen:

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Re: tips for boys and men

Postby harvester » Thu Jan 19, 2006 5:32 pm

[quote="tikay"]My friends and I have decided that with the changes going on in the ways girls & guys hook up...the ways we meet and learn about one another...that we should make a guide for the new man....
some important factors would be:
A) To actually really try to be interested in our thoughts instead of just pretending, when you pretend! (we can see right through that!)
B)...and stop staring at (our) breasts when we are serious about something... trying to discuss it...and dont stop looking at our breasts/bodies when we are in that mood too!
C)tell us everything that might lead to a break-up if we are involved, (for crying out loud) and tell it sooner than later because we may want to have the chance to come up with a solution to the problem...we are smart you know, and deserve to fight for you , so...dont just leave one day saying "you never really tried!" (know what I am sayin'?)
D) Let us love you...if you cant accept what we are giving we wont be able to give it...so get in touch with yourself, and let us in.
that is a good start if you ask me!
laters for E,F,G...[/quote

I am sorry, Could you explain me the words "E,F,G". I have just read your post, maybe my English is still limited, so I can't understand all the ideas. But I try to read it slowly and more one times. Thank you,

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Postby shokin » Thu Jan 19, 2006 6:34 pm

E, F, G is a list of letters. He had announced A, B, C and D. A the first advice, B the second, etc.

EFG : English For Gentlemen ! :lol:

EFG : English, French, German ! the three languages that can speak easily.

EFG : End, Finish, Goal !

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Postby tikay » Fri Jan 20, 2006 3:45 pm

Hi Harvester, Illusion, & Shokin...and all
I was happy to see more responses in this interesting post begun by my pal Admiral...(where are you buddy?)
anyway I want to say to harvester the next three letter in the English alphabet were the e the f the g. Shokin is a little confusing for you maybe? (Be nice :lol: shokin) hahahah.
You are all so funny and nice. I like this forum very much. I think I will have to not throw the computer out the window anymore. Love everybody. I am doing a book review in amazon.com right now but :wink: i will be back.

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Postby harvester » Sat Jan 21, 2006 4:59 pm

shokin wrote:E, F, G is a list of letters. He had announced A, B, C and D. A the first advice, B the second, etc.

EFG : English For Gentlemen ! :lol:

EFG : English, French, German ! the three languages that can speak easily.

EFG : End, Finish, Goal !

Shokin
Hi Harvester, Illusion, & Shokin...and all
I was happy to see more responses in this interesting post begun by my pal Admiral...(where are you buddy?)
anyway I want to say to harvester the next three letter in the English alphabet were the e the f the g. Shokin is a little confusing for you maybe? (Be nice shokin) hahahah.
You are all so funny and nice. I like this forum very much. I think I will have to not throw the computer out the window anymore. Love everybody. I am doing a book review in amazon.com right now but i will be back.


Sorry, I'm not sure I understand,do you mean "step by step"?

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Postby illusion » Sat Jan 21, 2006 10:30 pm

tikay wrote:Hi Harvester, Illusion, & Shokin...and all
I was happy to see more responses in this interesting post begun by my pal Admiral...(where are you buddy?)
anyway I want to say to harvester the next three letter in the English alphabet were the e the f the g. Shokin is a little confusing for you maybe? (Be nice :lol: shokin) hahahah.
You are all so funny and nice. I like this forum very much. I think I will have to not throw the computer out the window anymore. Love everybody. I am doing a book review in amazon.com right now but :wink: i will be back.


it's nice that you joined the forum, Tikay. it really is nice :)

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Postby shokin » Mon Jan 23, 2006 10:10 pm

harvester wrote:
shokin wrote:E, F, G is a list of letters. He had announced A, B, C and D. A the first advice, B the second, etc.

EFG : English For Gentlemen ! :lol:

EFG : English, French, German ! the three languages that can speak easily.

EFG : End, Finish, Goal !

Shokin
Hi Harvester, Illusion, & Shokin...and all
I was happy to see more responses in this interesting post begun by my pal Admiral...(where are you buddy?)
anyway I want to say to harvester the next three letter in the English alphabet were the e the f the g. Shokin is a little confusing for you maybe? (Be nice shokin) hahahah.
You are all so funny and nice. I like this forum very much. I think I will have to not throw the computer out the window anymore. Love everybody. I am doing a book review in amazon.com right now but i will be back.


Sorry, I'm not sure I understand,do you mean "step by step"?


... mmm ... he had simply announced that he will announce the fifth (E), the sixth (F) and the seventh advice (G), because he had named A, B, C and D respectively the first, the second, the third and the fourth tips.

Anyway, this is not the most important thing in this discussion, just take advices, don't ask you too many questions.

Step by step ? maybe maybe not... I don't know what is happening in Tikay's head. :lol: but all these tips can be taken in any order, if they are taken.

Shokin


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