Krisi wrote:may appear confusing but one thing sure there are 3 characters in this story.Krisi wrote:Have you seen an adopted daughter downgraded the real daughter in a family... (well, I think it's only here in my country)... I think, this is because some people wanted to appear good and helpful even to the point of discrediting, criticizing or trivializing (it's abused) their own (only) biological daughter with the hopes that other people would help them because of the help the family had extended to others before.
Sometimes, it is just frustrating and depressing to expect for something to come/happen.
the truth is the biological father of the adopted child is a rehabilitated (they said) drug addict, who left her biological mother when she was still 7 months old in her mother's womb. Then before she turned 1 year old her biological father found a new wife and re-married even before the first marriage was annulled. So at the time the marriage from her parents was annulled, her biological father had a child already from the other woman. So it was really good for the biological father to just keep quiet when the case was going on so that the woman and the biological father won't have a more grievous case against them.
the misunderstandings between her biological father and real mother started when the daughter was only 3 months in her mother's womb. Her mother was pushed by the biological father from the bed at that time because the mother didn't argue anymore with her biological father on his coming home late and so drunk again because this had became a routine every night though he had no work at that time. Then a lot more serious incidents followed that led to their separation. Those were the time when she was 7 months old in her mother's womb.
Her real mother and foster parents were willing to support her on her studies but she was a college drop out and wouldn't go to school if things didn't go the way she wanted. This is why she didn't get a proper degree. She was also incapable of being a working student because once when she was asked to help in a business in exchange for the support she needs for her studies, she wouldn't go to school too and blame the business for her absence in school but the truth was she prefered to stay with her friends who at that time met up with other friends aside from her not going to school because of her mood swings.
Up to this time she cannot understand why she is in a pedestal where she is now. It's not because of her foster parents but because of her real mother who tried to save her from her ill-mannered father. And so the real mother had been continuously helping that adopted child whenever she asked for help until the time the adopted child got married. Then later when it was the real mother who was in need the adopted child knows that she cannot get what she wanted anymore so she talked bad about her real mother and other people around them. I just think, circumstances set her mother free from all of this burden the adopted child was giving even to her real mother. To think that the biological father of that adopted child didn't support her while she was growing up the adopted child cannot in anyway talk bad of her real mother because that's her real mother even if the real mother is incapable of supporting the adopted child. But this adopted child’s case is different because the real mother had supported her needs while she was growing up until the time when her real mother cannot afford anymore to support her. But, that time just came right when the adopted child got married and so it was that incident that broke that bond that linked the mother and child. This is to her liking because she chose to talk bad about her real biological mother who took care of her from the time she was small; it was the real mother's work to bring her for doctor's check ups, taking care of her from the time she was an infant until the time the child could eat and take bath by herself.. then when she grew up, the foster mother took turn with the real mother in bringing the adopted child to her elementary school while the real mother was also trying to finish her college degree, and when the real biological mother graduated and finished school, she worked for a small company at there place and was also working like the nanny to her own child. Life became lighter for both (the biological) mother and child because the real mother has work already. The real mother started to be able to support her child's needs and even buy some beautiful clothes for her... At that time things were going smoothly but when the adoption situation had gotten in... their life changed and so people around her couldn't seem to know how to handle her.
She became a badly behaved, rebellious child who blame everything around her without seeing herself as the main doer and writer of her own life...
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Until the time that adopted child would not understand her own mistakes and learn how to stay low she will forever be lost in this world.
All what I can say is wishing her luck in her chosen field. This is what she wanted and God is watching all of us.