Chivalry wrote:Well if we are not living for ourselves then who are we living for. Life is a gift to us, ourselves as individuals. There is a balance I believe you must find to truly live the way you are supposed to.
To be overly selfish and not care about others is wrong. But then again to be selfless is also wrong. Being totally selfless will only result in you being bound to the will of others. A slave if you will, in some ways at least.
For example: It is a known fact among people who know me that I will go out of my way for anyone if they ask. My car is the best example. I will give anyone (of my friends) at say a social event who needs a lift home just that. On the first offer it was received with much thanks. Similarly the second time. After that people began to see my kindness as their right not merely something I have done for them. They even go so far as offering other people lifts in my car without asking me for a lift themselves, just assuming I will. They turn up to parties just assuming the I'll give them a lift. Invite me someplace, and later mention I am driving. When I can't they get offended, after all how dare I. I owe them the kindness.
So you see selflessness is also bad. Balance is what you need. Selfless and selfish acts are a part of nature. To be truly happy you go somewhere in between.
Ok. I understand the opinion of Chivalry. I should say that she is quite kind person, but other people just abuse her kindness. Of course, it hurts. People should keep to the middle, do not be too radical. You must not be selish in relation to your closest people.Nobody, but them, will help you in difficult situations and nobody, but them, will take care of you.MIND THIS(of course, there are some exceptions). So everybody should decide himself whether he wants to be selfish or not.