danyet wrote:LennyeTran wrote: Generally, men don't dump their women for not being good in bed
That's because from a mans point of view for a woman to be good in bed all she has to do is show up for the occasion!
LennyeTran wrote:Anahita wrote:LennyeTran wrote:Anahita wrote:
No, having a good sex relationship is part of a good marriage. If your woman can't satisfying you in bedroom you will ditch her after a while and will look for other woman who can make you HAPPY!
Is this a statement or a question, Anahita?
Well, its a statement about the nature of men and how they are dealing with sex. Although I think same thing could be told about women as well. Behind every good marriage is a good sex relationship and personally I think sex is more meaningful than just doing a physical thing. it’s a communicating way for understanding your partner better and that’s why its as important as other aspects of love.
Well, to me whoever dumps another person because that person is not good in bed is an uncompassionate person. Generally, men don't dump their women for not being good in bed if they really love them. Same goes for women, to me.
Anahita wrote:Well, I said it in general and according to what I had seen and read around. It really depends on the personality and conditions of couples. Personally, since I am an emotional person and kind of romantic, I wont ditch my man if he cant be good in bed cause i want his heart at the first place not his body.
Anahita wrote:unlike some men who are choosing their partner because of the sexual elements like virginity, being hot and such,
Anahita wrote: But unfortunatly its some thing that happens out there and many people are getting hurt because of it...
LennyeTran wrote:I knew you would think this way.
LennyeTran wrote:Anahita wrote:unlike some men who are choosing their partner because of the sexual elements like virginity, being hot and such,
But to me this has nothing to do with dumping one person because that person is not good in bed. In my perspective, there's no such thing as being bad in bed. I mean, there's something as don't know what to do in bed. Yeah, I agree to that because I think don't know what to do in bed has no association with being bad in bed. However, totally being bad in bed? What's that?
LennyeTran wrote:Anahita wrote: But unfortunatly its some thing that happens out there and many people are getting hurt because of it...
Who are those people? From where I live, people don't get dumped for being bad in bed. They get dumped for being a bitch, ~, skank, obsessive, control freak, insensitive, dumb, etc. but no being bad in bed.
Yes it is good! Women are supposed to find a guy that can actually take care of the family and not just and not just laze about in a lawn chair in the backyard or go out drinking with his stupid friends all the time. Chicks need a go-getter or someone who shows promise.Admiral wrote:Women also classify men go out with his stupoid friends drinking schnapps all the timein "having money"/"not having money"
I think this is not good, too
Its true.If you love some one really and your emotions are so powerful, your passion will be led by your instincts and then its quite possible even a naive couple turn into a sex bomb without any pervious experiments! But it only happens when both sex and love work together.
Anahita wrote:When a man (or woman) limits and dedicates her/his attention and will only to one of these factors, basically he/she loses the chances for coordinating with her/his partner's other's aspects as well. I think depend on conditions and situation, being bad in bed has its own definitions and samples but the conclusion is always the same. Both woman and man feel some thing is not RIGHT, or missed and forgotten.
Yes it is good! Women are supposed to find a guy that can actually take care of the family and not just and not just laze about in a lawn chair in the backyard or go out drinking with his stupid friends all the time. Chicks need a go-getter or someone who shows promise.
LennyeTran wrote:When love is present, sex is intimacy. When lust is present, sex is sex. And I can understand if someone stopped calling someone else because the booty call didn't turn out like s/he expected. After all, it was just a lust.
LennyeTran wrote:If Both woman and man feel some thing is not RIGHT, or missed and forgotten, then I don't think the love is still around. It's gone, so it doesn't count, right? The couple now has only one reason to stay together, the sex. And if they can't even get that last thing right, what's the use of wasting each other's time, right?
LennyeTran wrote:I, personally, wound dump a booty caller if he couldn't give me what I expected in bed, but I wouldn't dump my loved one because he didn't give me it as long as there are ways to work out the sex problems with him.
LennyeTran wrote:There are sooooooo many ways to enrich your bed life. Copulation is not the must and only way to do it. Foreplay, toys, erotic talk, oral, etc. to get it going good. That's why even an incompetent man can give his loved one the best time ever.
Anahita wrote:Wow, Len, thanks for the link. It was very interesting and I can say I learned many things from it, really wonderful.
Anahita wrote:Now after reading these details I prefer to not enter into a very deep state of discussion about sex and how it works (due to lack of personal experience ).
Anahita wrote:Agreed but I would like to go further than this. I mean even when you are doing it just for lust, the image you have in your mind during doing it is some how related to love. Like when you closing your eyes and imagining making love with some one that you love while in real you are busy with doing it a stranger person.
Anahita wrote:Sex and love should work together so we can have the enough desire/fuel for going on through this. if one of these elements couldn’t be found around, our instincts will help us by imagining/ simulating it so we can go on any way and under any condition. that's the power of flexibility of our nature which lets us to fill the empty place of a factor with the illusion of it. And still the pleasure will be the same at the end.
Anahita wrote: But when do you know one of these elements have been gone for ever? When you don’t even try for making it better, when you just stop thinking about improving your relationship since you don’t feel any desire and passion inside yourself for going on any more. that’s the time it is finished, but again its just my idea.
Anahita wrote:Cara, you just read my mind, same here. If I love a man its first for his personality and how much he loves me. I wont be so worry about sex cause I have a powerful imagination and always can see him through my Love's eye. My beloved man is the most sexiest man in the whole world to me and I will do any thing to please him and myself.
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