At what age should children be told about sex?

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At what age should children be told about sex?

Postby ginny » Wed Oct 04, 2006 1:40 pm

I don't know really. I even don't know when I knew about it. Perhaps I'm still a child at my age. How about you? :roll:

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Postby Admiral » Wed Oct 04, 2006 2:00 pm

I think you shouldn't tell them, they will know it anyway. I knew it when I was 13.

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Postby ginny » Wed Oct 04, 2006 2:06 pm

Admiral wrote:I think you shouldn't tell them, they will know it anyway. I knew it when I was 13.


How do they know if adults don't tell them? If you let them know themselves, they don't understand fully or misunderstand. It would be dangerous. Children will want to try it when small. :roll: My parents don't tell me. I read books to know it. :oops:

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Postby Admiral » Wed Oct 04, 2006 3:15 pm

It would be dangerous. Children will want to try it when small.

As long as your child has good education he won't try it when he is small. I also didn't, see, my parents never told me anything about it.

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Postby CityYoung » Wed Oct 04, 2006 6:37 pm

I think no parents tell them child how to do sex ?
you should learn it by yourself .

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Postby Hardi » Wed Oct 04, 2006 7:05 pm

well don't know.. me hear about it when i was something 5 or 6 years old, but things I was hear, was all totaly wrong, of course. I tryed those things also out my self :lol: it was harmless, nothing like real sex. Don't know, if my parents, or some, told that time to me the truth about it after.. but I surely was not able to hold my big mouth closed and talked to everyone how I did it.. to aunts and uncles, parents and soo on. :lol:

But in school there they was teached some.. when I was maybe 16. they did not had even right textbooks about it yet.. I supose that was new thing to them to teach it.. so the teacher had to use a porn magazine help to teach...

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Postby Admiral » Wed Oct 04, 2006 8:58 pm

But in school there they was teached some.. when I was maybe 16. they did not had even right textbooks about it yet.. I supose that was new thing to them to teach it.. so the teacher had to use a porn magazine help to teach...

It must have been a very interesting lesson

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Postby Arale » Thu Oct 05, 2006 3:49 am

CityYoung wrote:I think no parents tell them child how to do sex ?
you should learn it by yourself .


I think parents should tell their children about sex. It doesn't mean you tell them to do it. It can happen that your kids will ask you about it. So you should teach them the differences between two genders. In my country, secondary and high school students are taught about sex in out-class activities. They will be answered everything they wonder about sex by biology teachers, doctors and psychologists. I think it's very good for them to have sufficient knowledge about sex. Children who discover sex themselves are often shy to talk about it. They'll think it's a dark secret if adults also feel shy to tell them. As for the question 'at what age should children be told about sex', I think they should know about it since 12 years old.

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AT THE AGE OF 9

Postby hoanggia » Thu Oct 05, 2006 5:48 am

IT'S BETTER TO DO THIS AT THAT AGE WHEN YOUR KIDS START THEIR JOURNEY OF LIFE .THIS TIME KIDS ARE SO CURIOUS ABOUT THINGS AND ..SEX.SO, A PROPER GUIDE AT THIS PHASE IS SO GOOD.

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Postby Dixie » Thu Oct 05, 2006 7:41 am

If the kids turn into teens and don't ask their parents about sex, maybe it's the parents turn to step in and explain some things to their children. I think it's very important that parents and kids talk about EVERYTHING, and not leaving some topics aside. Kids should know that they can trust their parents and ask them anything.

My parents never talked to us about sex. It was like a taboo thing. I remember when I was small and we were all watching a movie and there came a kissing scene, my dad would take the remote and change the channel. Nobody would say anything, which was even worse.

I would like them to be more open and try to talk to their kids about any subject. There should be no taboos in a family or a society.

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Postby Admiral » Thu Oct 05, 2006 8:29 am

if there are no taboos then everyone will run around naked, that's not good either.

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Postby Dixie » Thu Oct 05, 2006 8:52 am

Admiral wrote:if there are no taboos then everyone will run around naked, that's not good either.


I think you understood perfectly what I meant.

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Postby Shazzam » Thu Oct 05, 2006 9:03 am

I think children should be given information about sex when they start to question. If you have a good relationship with your children they will come to you with their questions. Which mine did! Then you can release the information gradually as required without overwhelming them with it all at once. It is all about being a on hand parent.

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Postby Hardi » Thu Oct 05, 2006 10:02 am

Well my mom had no problems to explain it, when I was keep ask.

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Postby hoanggia » Thu Oct 05, 2006 5:09 pm

Obviously you got a terrific mom! my parents havent told me anything .I learnt this from books .here asking about sex is considered as a taboo because ..after all, we are Asian.In our culture, it 's like a prohibition or bad thing to talk about . :?:

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Postby Hardi » Thu Oct 05, 2006 5:12 pm

In all asian countryea?! Can't believe, some asian country must be difrent too.

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Postby Arale » Fri Oct 06, 2006 3:21 am

hoanggia wrote:Obviously you got a terrific mom! my parents havent told me anything .I learnt this from books .here asking about sex is considered as a taboo because ..after all, we are Asian.In our culture, it 's like a prohibition or bad thing to talk about . :?:


Really? :roll: Perhaps it's your generation. The young now are taught about genders and sex at school. The importance is how to teach it. It's not a taboo. Parents don't often talk about it because it's sensitive but at school, teachers know how to deal with it. As I said in my previous post, students in Vietnam (in cities) are taught about genders and sex by biology teachers, doctors, and psychologists.

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Postby andes » Fri Oct 06, 2006 5:35 am

my parents also never tell me about sex. I know it from book, and other stuff that can 'help' you to explore information about sex.
It is important for parents to tell their children about sex earlier (maybe at 10). I think that it is too risky for the children to learn about sex without any guidance from the adults. you know what I mean..

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Postby sunlove » Mon Oct 09, 2006 11:07 am

As I was 5 years old, I always asked my Mom the same silly question :" Where did I come from". At first, my Mom didn't answer me because she said I was too young to know.You know, it's really embraasing thing to talk about, especially 5-year-old girl like me. When I become older, my Mom began talking about sex. Now I know more about sex and relationships. I'm proud of my mother. Mom, I love you!!!

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Postby Romantic » Sun Oct 22, 2006 6:09 pm

have sex when ur di** stand up :twisted:

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Postby MissLT » Mon Oct 23, 2006 8:45 am

Dixie wrote:If the kids turn into teens and don't ask their parents about sex, maybe it's the parents turn to step in and explain some things to their children. I think it's very important that parents and kids talk about EVERYTHING, and not leaving some topics aside. Kids should know that they can trust their parents and ask them anything.

I never asked my mom about this kinda stuff. For some weird reason I just never bought the "you were inside a flower, and your brother/sister was inside a clam when we took you home" story. I started to know the truth on my own through books and teen magazines. Strange that people I know have gone through the same track.

Last time, one of my friends told me she and her husband secretly "hid" pamphlets about sex and diseases in some places in the house that would get their daughter's attention. That was how they dealt with this kinda issue with their daughter. I think I'm gonna try this way on my kids in the future.

Dixie wrote:My parents never talked to us about sex. It was like a taboo thing. I remember when I was small and we were all watching a movie and there came a kissing scene, my dad would take the remote and change the channel. Nobody would say anything, which was even worse.

When Vanilla Sky was out in DVD, we rented the movie home to watch. The adults in our family were wondering what "kinda" movie we were watching when they saw the part Penelope was naked in bed with Tom Cruise. :lol: :lol: We had to remind them we were all over 18.

Dixie wrote:I would like them to be more open and try to talk to their kids about any subject. There should be no taboos in a family or a society.

I just hope my kids would not come to me and ask, "Mom, how did you make me?"


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