Married people are happier than unmarried people

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Married people are happier than unmarried people

Postby ngphuongtu » Mon Oct 30, 2006 3:06 pm

Do you agree or disagree?
I think unmarried people are happier, because they don't need to sacrifice for their family. Moreover, they don't have more concern in life and can freely enjoy themselves.
However, they may be lonely when they are old. :?

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Postby babara » Tue Oct 31, 2006 4:08 am

Hmm.. I think that it has both good and bad in unmarried and married people. It 's up to you that will see which one. Sometimes unmarried people may be lonely while married people are happy but for someone may be sad coz broken up with lover.It 's hard to recive good thing all time but everything is up to you that want to choose which one in my opinion.

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Postby PINA » Tue Oct 31, 2006 12:52 pm

Hi, this is a very good question and for me it hasn't an answer......

My personal opinion is that if you find your twin spirit you can so happy than you don't believe; the sacrifice for your family isn't a sacrifice, the money that you spent for your family make you happy. You can have many problem but if love is a real love all can be resolved, and when you are old will be fantastic to have a person with which passing the rest of the life, but if you don't find this person then.........

Important is feel good with ourselves then you can feel good lonely or with an another person

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Postby istattack » Wed Nov 01, 2006 3:49 pm

This is your choice.If you want to have a specific life(wife,husband,children),you should choose to be married.But the most famous science people in the world were\are not married.Because they work for the world and they dont have enough time to concern something different.This means : 'This is your choice'

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Postby eman » Thu Dec 21, 2006 8:18 pm

married people are happier,because you will have home with love and care
and having children are most beautiful things in this life
and this is the life, :wink: ,,we born for that
to have family and increase human in the life

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Postby nhuly » Fri Dec 22, 2006 3:07 am

In my opinion, when you are single, you feel comfortable and free. However, how do you feel when you see a lot of couples hands in hands beside you? I believe that you will be appoitment becoz you don't have a gf or bf to go out with.
When I was a student, I always felt sad because I was single and single...I only concentrated on my examination and had nothing to pay much attention to. I went to class, discuss with friends about somethings, came back home without happiness. I have a lot of friends, but I want to have a bf to share everything( Cheerfulness, sadness...) I certainly would be happy when I have a guy for me.
Although you are young or old, you will be sad and lonely without gf/ bf.

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Postby babara » Fri Dec 22, 2006 7:17 pm

nhuly wrote:In my opinion, when you are single, you feel comfortable and free. However, how do you feel when you see a lot of couples hands in hands beside you? I believe that you will be appoitment becoz you don't have a gf or bf to go out with.
When I was a student, I always felt sad because I was single and single...I only concentrated on my examination and had nothing to pay much attention to. I went to class, discuss with friends about somethings, came back home without happiness. I have a lot of friends, but I want to have a bf to share everything( Cheerfulness, sadness...) I certainly would be happy when I have a guy for me.
Although you are young or old, you will be sad and lonely without gf/ bf.


hmm..I understand your feeling but for me I have never felt sad or lonely because of without bf. I can tell certainly I have some friends who can go out with me and I can share many things both happiness and sadness and when I come back home I have my parent and brother I can share also so this all is like compensation to feeling of without bf and I am still satisfied with single now. :wink:

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Postby nhuly » Sat Dec 23, 2006 2:12 am

babara wrote:
nhuly wrote:In my opinion, when you are single, you feel comfortable and free. However, how do you feel when you see a lot of couples hands in hands beside you? I believe that you will be appoitment becoz you don't have a gf or bf to go out with.
When I was a student, I always felt sad because I was single and single...I only concentrated on my examination and had nothing to pay much attention to. I went to class, discuss with friends about somethings, came back home without happiness. I have a lot of friends, but I want to have a bf to share everything( Cheerfulness, sadness...) I certainly would be happy when I have a guy for me.
Although you are young or old, you will be sad and lonely without gf/ bf.


hmm..I understand your feeling but for me I have never felt sad or lonely because of without bf. I can tell certainly I have some friends who can go out with me and I can share many things both happiness and sadness and when I come back home I have my parent and brother I can share also so this all is like compensation to feeling of without bf and I am still satisfied with single now. :wink:

I agree with you when you live with your parents. For people who live far from home, i believe that they will feel like me.

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Re: Married people are happier than unmarried people

Postby hninsi » Sat Dec 23, 2006 1:26 pm

ngphuongtu wrote:Do you agree or disagree?
I think unmarried people are happier, because they don't need to sacrifice for their family. Moreover, they don't have more concern in life and can freely enjoy themselves.
However, they may be lonely when they are old. :?


Yeah, I agree with you. Unmarried people are happier than married people. Sometimes it's good to think about your life with kids and a husband or a wife around you, but most of time you have to get along with anything you want to or you don't want to do with the family matters. That's why I prefer being alone. You're alone means you are independent and you can do anything you want to do and you can go anywhere you want to go. Everything is under your control. You don't bind yourself with anything or sacrifice for anything. I think that's great.

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Postby babara » Thu Dec 28, 2006 7:52 pm

I agree with you when you live with your parents. For people who live far from home, i believe that they will feel like me.


I understand cause loneliness can happen everywhere everytime. :)

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Postby Rui » Thu Dec 28, 2006 9:20 pm

well, the answer to your question its very simple, there's many good and bad things on both sides, and above everything its not really a thing of choose if you wanna be alone or not, because when fall in love by someone or you accept the feeling or you have struggle against and getting sad a lot of times, when you love someone you just cannot control if life without that person would be better because there's no space in your mind for things without that person in your life,

my god, i've been writing so many beautiful things lately that i must question myself, what the hell have i drunk :lol: since my life is everything unless that perfect :roll:

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Postby Danyet » Thu Dec 28, 2006 10:37 pm

The difference is that married people know that they are unhappy but single people don't.

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Postby nhuly » Fri Dec 29, 2006 3:47 am

babara wrote:
I agree with you when you live with your parents. For people who live far from home, i believe that they will feel like me.


I understand cause loneliness can happen everywhere everytime. :)

What do you do when you are lonely? It's significant to your life?

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Postby babara » Mon Jan 01, 2007 11:22 am

nhuly wrote:
babara wrote:
I agree with you when you live with your parents. For people who live far from home, i believe that they will feel like me.


I understand cause loneliness can happen everywhere everytime. :)

What do you do when you are lonely? It's significant to your life?


I will find a friend who I'm trusful for talking or going out or be with my family and do activities together but most I will do both talking with friend and be with family.

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Re: Married people are happier than unmarried people

Postby kcarun » Thu Jan 04, 2007 6:38 am

If you are a capable man/women then then married life is More Happier than the other. Otherwise it will be more worse than HELL!

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married people happier than unmarried people ?

Postby Lac » Fri Jan 05, 2007 10:15 am

Which one is happier than other ? Not sure about this.
First we should define the meaning of happiness. It could be understood like this: "Happiness is to do and achieve one's purpose in the proper way". Certainly we have more definitions than that, but i assume it's almost right in any circumstance.
So some of you are quite correct saying that happiness is entirely up one's choices. I dont make mention of the fact that most scientists assumed the singles' longevity would shorter than the married people. The matter is who happier: the married or unmarried people in terms of their feelings.
To my humble point happiness is the substance and marriage is the phenomenon. You already know how those who are singles still happier than married man. Ask the singles to see if they content with their personal choices, you would have objective answers. And so with the married man.
Marriage is the status in which one man and woman coordinate closely together (how about gay and lesbian ?- Talk later). That means their own wishes and will are fullfilled completely which correspond with happiness just defined above.Such combination is not definitely the entirely physical and mental links between two human but only indicated through conventional rites accepted by cutom, habit.
When married people live and undergo together hard trials as well as sufferings in life for long, some weakness and contradiction of both would begin to expose before obtaining the final steps: divorce.
Some man say divorce is the right, sometimes "happy" choice to remove the previous persistent "unhappiness" for the married coulples involved; others say it is the tragedy of the ending.
Anyway, singleness does not mean to deny the binding and duty. The single also has own obligatory responsibilties toward his or her life in relation to others. If their happiness is to carry out that, the happiness of the marriage is surely to be acquired in married couples' life.

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Re: married people happier than unmarried people ?

Postby frengo » Sun Jan 07, 2007 4:21 pm

Lac wrote:...
First we should define the meaning of happiness. It could be understood like this: "Happiness is to do and achieve one's purpose in the proper way"...


Lac, you've got the point!
In fact, i think that the question posed here ("are married people happier than unmarried people?") has no sense... Happiness is a feeling not dependent from the status of "married" or "single", it cannot be! Happiness (or sadness) is coming from a great number of aspects of your life, each one infleuncing the others. Being married is not the main aspect, but it can take you to happiness or sadness just if you are dramatically wrong when you choose your partner: an example? Me...
I have been married two times: the first time it was hell, the second was heaven... being married or single is not the key, then!

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Re: married people happier than unmarried people ?

Postby nhuly » Tue Jan 09, 2007 1:45 am

frengo wrote:
Lac wrote:...
First we should define the meaning of happiness. It could be understood like this: "Happiness is to do and achieve one's purpose in the proper way"...

I have been married two times: the first time it was hell, the second was heaven... being married or single is not the key, then!

How can you escap the hell to go to heaven? I'm sure that you had spent a long time in stragic situations. I admire you.

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happiness in marital status

Postby Lac » Thu Jan 11, 2007 5:03 am

You're right,Frengo,when saying happiness not totally dependent upon our marital status. After the broken marriage with the first wife, you surely have more experiences of understading what happiness in love is. I think what we call happiness is quite comparative,more exactly, so fragile. That's the reason why we've got to carefully preserve it. Happiness is by no means brought from the outside and then we become subsidiary to others. The right understanding perhaps lies in what we seek and maintain happiness by ourselves.
If I were you (first divorce, second marriage), I would draw more bitter lessons from the first failure for not choosing the former path. But at the same time, i would not get my hopes too high on the possible second marriage. The first lesson was too great to do again. You are so courageous to continue your second marriage, Frengo!
Yet how can predict what would happen in the now paradise in the long term ? Future is mysterious and all of us like tumblers or rop-dancers facing it. Probaly, the apprehension of "happiness not totally dependent upon marital status" help us much in assessing properly our life, doesnt it ?

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Re: Married people are happier than unmarried people

Postby sweethuman » Wed Jun 08, 2011 10:42 am

I strictly disagree. Single life is much better than married, as being married you are held responsible for too many things both internally at home and socially.


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