Children should take both parents' surnames.

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Re: "Children should take both parents surnames."

Postby Bambang » Sat Jun 30, 2007 5:36 pm

pocahontex wrote:...it will make a long name. Sometimes you'll face a difficulty to write your name onto a test paper because there is not enough room to write such a long name.


mamuta wrote:I haven't thought about it but you're absolutely right!


That's not a big deal my friend. Just write your short name instead of the full one. Take a look at this :
Hi, my name is pocahontex blablabla blablabla blablabla...

Hallo, my name is mamuta blablabla blablabla blablabla...

Cool huh !!!
Sorry just kidding my friends. :wink:


My dear friends, to me, it's not a big deal whether you take your father's name or your mom's name or even both.

But to me, the best one is when you take none of them. Just your name without anything behind or in the front.

Nowadays, lots of people are using their family name to get advantage of the situation. For instance, if his/her father/mother is a public figure or popular artist, they use that name for their interest. Some people are hiding behind their big family name. To me, it's not a proper strategy to use family name to get something. :cry:

I wish we didn't have any family name or surneme so that everybody would be equal in any sectors.

Sometimes I'm confused when calling some people who take their parent's name . This is one example.

A grand father has two sons.
Suppose the first one is Marco Ginting and the second one is Marlon Ginting. "Ginting" is the family name.
Both sons are called "Ginting".
When they are in a family gathering, then we call "Ginting". You already know the result right!
The three men would look at you because their names are "Ginting". Can you imagine if there are ten "Gintings" there. What would happen? What a confusing thing huh !!! What a mess!!! :P :lol:

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Postby Sphinx » Sat Jul 07, 2007 11:53 am

I, myself use both my parents' surname. i even use it in my resume. I don't think it matters whether which surnames you use.

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Postby stinks » Sat Jul 07, 2007 6:26 pm

I think it is not important for the children to have their parents' surnames or their fathers' surnames. Because parents are still parents no matter what happens, and the chilren will bring their parents' blood in their body, right?

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Take neither of them

Postby Bambang » Sun Jul 08, 2007 2:19 am

You got it dear Stinks.

Take neither of them.

Don't use any surnames.

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Postby nightwish » Mon Jul 16, 2007 8:52 am

in our country we usually use our father's surname, 'cause we belong to this family now, but for me, it doesn't matter 'cause I have my father's and my mother's surname.

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Postby Bambang » Mon Jul 16, 2007 3:02 pm

nightwish wrote:in our country we usually use our father's surname, 'cause we belong to this family now, but for me, it doesn't matter 'cause I have my father's and my mother's surname.



Wow, you've got both.

Then, what's your full name?

I bet, it must be long or at least three words.

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Postby nightwish » Mon Jul 16, 2007 4:08 pm

ha-ha....actually it's not thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat long.....
I'm a lucky girl, 'cause my father and my mother surname's is the same because of that I said that I use both of them :D....

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Postby Bambang » Tue Jul 17, 2007 11:40 am

nightwish wrote:ha-ha....actually it's not thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat long.....
I'm a lucky girl, 'cause my father and my mother surname's is the same because of that I said that I use both of them :D....



Good excuse to cover your real name.

Psychologically speaking, you are not an open person.

Anyway, I still appreciate your closeness.

We need it sometimes.

But not always, especially to uncle Bambang.

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Postby nightwish » Thu Jul 19, 2007 5:51 pm

Good excuse to cover your real name.


I'm not making any excuses here dear,
my mother is my father's cousin. :D

Psychologically speaking, you are not an open person


you don't even know me to analyze my personality :wink: .

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Postby Bambang » Fri Jul 20, 2007 6:53 am

nightwish wrote:
Good excuse to cover your real name.


I'm not making any excuses here dear,
my mother is my father's cousin. :D




Oh I see. Married to a cousin.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby Annaa » Tue Jul 01, 2008 2:45 pm

I don`t agree with this,it`s very absurd to have two surnames.
If you don`t like me remember it's mind over matter..I don't mind and you don't matter..

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby ngaminh » Fri Jul 25, 2008 3:51 am

I think it depend on your country. it is not neccesary, your childrent can take only one father's surname or mother's surname. some case surname of mother and father is the same.

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Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby martasofia » Wed May 12, 2010 8:26 pm

I think children should take both parents' surnames. The order of them should be a choice too.
From my point of view, having both surnames is a reflection of two different family inheritances and of a complete equality between them.
Names are important, they go with us throughout our life remembering who we are and where we come from and, on the practical sense, it helps to avoid mistakes.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby andrew » Sun May 16, 2010 10:16 am

Annaa wrote:I don`t agree with this,it`s very absurd to have two surnames.

WHY? :shock:

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby andrew » Sun May 16, 2010 10:26 am

In my opinion, children should choose their own surnames in a logical age (13-14 years). Imagine a father who hits his son and then he dissapear from his life. Perhaps the kid only wants to have his mother´s surname (the reason is obvious). Or,for example, imagine your father´s surname is Hitler or Stalin and you live in Deutchland or Russia. It could be a problem if you have others political ideas.
Anyway, in Spain we take both parents´ surname and it isn´t a problem. It woul be a good idea can change it.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby martasofia » Sun May 16, 2010 12:29 pm

NURIA: In my opinion,it's better children take both parents' usernames because the username is a part of us,something that identify us and with two surnames it's easy to recognize someone I think

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby thesnakesolid » Wed May 19, 2010 8:34 pm

i think mother's surname is as important as father's , and children should have both of them, parents have to decide the order of them togheter.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby NuriaSb » Wed May 19, 2010 9:27 pm

In my opinion, children should take both parents’ surnames because you are part of your father and of your mother too.
Why is it in some countries there is only father’s surname?
As I see, having only your father’s name or when you are married, your husband’s name is a very sexist measure. We are in the 21st century and the equality is an ethical value but in this case, it isn’t applied.
I live in Spain and all the children have both surnames and also women keep their own surnames when they get married. Other countries ought to learn this intelligent measure to making more obvious the sex equality.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby NuriaSb » Wed May 19, 2010 9:30 pm

I agree with Andrew’s because you can have different political opinion with your parents and a name can mark your life. You should be free to change your name for an other that you like more or sounds better.

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby martasofia » Thu May 20, 2010 11:42 am

Annaa wrote:I don`t agree with this,it`s very absurd to have two surnames.

NURIAB:I'm not agree with yo because Ithink two surnames are so important like one of them

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Re: Children should take both parents' surnames.

Postby willyp » Sun May 23, 2010 3:49 pm

From my point of view your mother´s surname is as important as your father´s so I can´t understand why ,for example in the United Kingdom or France, they only take the father´s one.Your name is your most important identification mark and it should show the inheritance of the two families where you come from.


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