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Postby naseh » Mon Apr 29, 2013 3:09 pm

Today, Our doctor was absent of his lecture. I was so nervous all night till I dreamed that I was doing my presentation in front of my doctor. It was hard for me since I saw myself nervous. I think that is a natural feeling every one have it if s/he is about to do something for the first time publicly, except some.

Now, I have lost that feeling. I am now comfortable. I have decided not to do it again. I hate doing things again. However, I love doing things again in one condition, that is if I fail doing it. So, since I didn't fail doing it, I am going to delay it or choose another topic while I hate alot being fail. I know failure is a friend of successful people but I hate it in my studying.

Of course, every one want to be the first one in everything. Every one want to achieve his goals in order to help his parents and his country. Sometimes I get some laziness. For one year or more, I have been addicting with Facebook. I spend more than 8 hours each day. Please pray for me to get rid of facebook. I spend most of time in politics. This is what made me leave this thread since I was active member in every thread that Behnam was trying to build. He was moving from one site to another untill he has stayed here. He was leaving those sites for some reasons. Anyway, I do love his obstinacy.


To conclude, everyone need to be stubborn in getting his rights and achieving his goals. I think it is the one and only tool that allow us to achieve what we want otherwise we may be eaten by others. We have a proverb in Arabic "كن ذئباً والا اكلتك الذئاب", its translation is:' Be a wolf, otherwise you will be eaten by other wolfs"

That's it!!!

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Elham » Mon Apr 29, 2013 5:36 pm

Dear Kami,

Happy to see you here these days. I check the posts everyday, I really want to write, a looooooot, but I don't know why I don't feel like writing. I've really missed writing long energetic posts.

I'm sorry for being late to reply to your post and questions you had asked me about poem! Honey I love to write about this topic, but I prefer to do this while I'm in a poetic mood!haha :-)

There are times when I get terribly poetic and feel deeply in love! In love with what? Emmmm, different things, different persons.... I love those times,.............

Oh Kami I do love to write about this topic aloooooooot, alooooooooooooot, I miss writing.... but I don't know what's wrong with me...... ~.....

You know, There are bothering thoughts preventing me...

Kami? What has been your biggest loss in life? What's the worst feeling you've ever experienced? If you could change one thing in your life, what would it be?
What do you think is the saddest thing you may experience?

Oh sorry Kami, I was supposed to answer your questions not to ask!

Emmm........ busy mind.... sorryyyyyyyyy

Hope to write to you in a better mood soon,
Kiss

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Maniya » Mon Apr 29, 2013 6:26 pm

dear Naseh
that is kind of you.thanks a lot. :-(
I,m female.
i am so glad to be one of your Iranian friend. ;-)
a flower is beautifull for a day
but love a beautifull flower for ever

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby mattyppz » Tue Apr 30, 2013 3:12 am

Always try to stress doing writing assignments!!! Best Advise I can give any educator.

"Best Advise..." should read: "Best advice..." - Admin

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Postby Mohsen » Tue Apr 30, 2013 1:53 pm

Hi Kamelia,

How can I provoke a smart girl like you , no one believe it , you write here like other girls , but I can't ignore that currently you are more active than Elham . It means that writing is like eating a piece of cake for you.
I confess that I use dictionary for my writings, it is not because of having no time to practise , I am not created for memorization of words , but my imaginations is not bad or muses stuff.
A I told you I have never been living in apartment , the house always has been a large villa house for me. I am having some pictures for your consideration from old parts of Isfahan.
Look at this picture

http://mjrd1.persiangig.com/image/amin%20house1.jpg

This is the house of Aminotojjar , It was destroyed about 45 years ago by municipality of Isfahan for establishing a new street which is called Abdulrazagh street . The remain of this mansion is still remain in one side of street .
The house of Aminotojar is famous , he was the father of Banoo Amin , a famous Islamic woman who was buried in old Isfahan cemetery which is called Takht e foolad .This the picture of her shrine.

http://www.iqna.ir/news_imgs/553084_5img243%20L.JPG

In some part of the city the mixture of old and new architecture is seen , look at the following picture

http://www.chn.ir/Images/News/Larg_Pic/ ... 834949.JPG

It is an old lane in which the old houses and monuments are being destroyed , The shrine in this picture is belong to Avicenna , a famous scientist who was buried in Isfahan.
Where was you born ? Did you have experience of living in old house?

B.W.
Mohsen

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Hi Naseh

Postby Kamelia » Fri May 03, 2013 11:28 am

How are you doing dear Translation student? How was your presentation by the way? Oh i wish that went really well.

I am no judge of people's English but I got some bones to pick up with you, first things first, right? Hope you don't get mad at me! :-D Dear friend, you got a lot on your mind and you want to bring them all on the writing page but there is one rule to that. It does not really matter how much you are good at English or not but you have to order them one by one so that the person who reads them gets time to think of them and then either agree or disagree with it, you might want to put some room for them, right? This way, if you keep pouring out the words and then jump from one sentence to another without a good connection, mind you, the reader would be frustrated, confused and then might even have difficulty grasping the real meaning of what you intended to write, do you see what I am trying to say? I really really hope that you do not mind. I am only telling you this as a friend, alright? By the way, I was a horrible writer too. I used to cram my sentences with words and never put a full-stop at the end till the reader gets me! :-D You see?

Anyway, your major is Translation, English to Arabic and vice versa, is it? Mine is English literature. Glad to meet you :-)

Oh problems with Facebook and recognizing names, pretty global these days :-D I got problem with recognizing people from names too, especially these days! They put every name that seems "beautiful" on their children, they don't think of the poor child's future! There was a list that was published recently, it gave you information about the weirdest names that people choose. One had chosen the "Crazy Frog" for her son, now I don't know if the frog has got a positive connotation in their culture but it is really gross, huh?

Facebook, yeah I wish you drive it away. It really is time consuming especially if you got friends with high photographing capabilities LOOOL

Enough talking too much with me :-D

Hope to read from you so soon,

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Hi Ellie joonam

Postby Kamelia » Fri May 03, 2013 11:58 am

How are youuuuu dear one? How is everything going on? I hope you are doing just fine.

Oh come on, excuses again? :-( Why do you always have to make me wait to read something from you? Have you forgotten how much I enjoy writing to you? Reading from you? Your posts are highly energetic funny ones which I have always read with utmost pleasure. Oh you cruel girl, so you have to be in a poetic mood now, huh? :-D Ok Ok I give up, you are smart in twisting the matter. Cami is defenseless now, write about it whenever you felt like it :-D

Oh Ellieeee, what has been preventing you from writing? What has upset my dear friend? I know, things happen. Even if the worst thing happened to you, God forbid, then you just have to take it easy. Grief is always there. There is no escape to that, but you have to be strong. The Kami that is writing here has suffered LOTS of terrible stuff, she has cried, grieved, writhed with the pain of some loss in her life, but what can she do? Kill herself? Nope, life goes on. Everyday is a new one. You cover for you loss, make up to your heart, pray that God gives you a new energy and happiness to start all over again. I mean is not life just a circle? It is you who gives meaning to this endless circle!

The biggest loss of my life, hmmm, huge question. It is too hard for me to answer this since it goes a bit to personal matters, but anyway, I will make a general thing out of it. Well actually the biggest loss of my life is the worst feeling that I have EVER experienced, so your two questions go unwrapped with one answer :-D Ummm...for almost a week I felt I was abandoned, alone, life did not mean anymore. I could not talk about it to my friends, my little sister, the loveliest little sister on the whole planet was the only person I could talk to. I was afraid that my mom would even be sad because of me, so the alternative of talking to a parent was a NO-NO one! Uh..but what could one do? Cry till you die? It relieves you for a while but then you see that even the tear drops would not console you. You know what? Here is a little secret, books relieve me like I am born again. I put myself under extensive reading, This loss or terrible experience or whatever your names it happen in a year ago and I remember there were these four-unit courses that I, quite unbelievably, got 20! LOOOL I changed the loss to something more powerful, glorious a bit! :-D

Oh...what would I change? I would turn my life to 5 years ago, erase all the stupid stuff I had done and take another chance. Everyone deserves a new chance, don't they? :-)

Naughty Ellie, you cannot keep me writing like this since you have to answer all these questions plus the poetry stuff. Oh and NO cheating! Your burden would not be unloaded except you start writing :-D

Hope to read from you so soon,

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Hi Mohsen

Postby Kamelia » Fri May 03, 2013 12:22 pm

How are you doing? LOL Ellie told me she is in no mood to write long posts so I guess that is why I am "postful" these days but otherwise she is a VERY faithful friend of this thread. I mean where was I when she used to write and make all the friends here happy with her posts? :-D Hope that she comes up soon :-D
There is something else too, due to the shortage of semester, our professors have decided to put the mid-terms away that is why the happy Cami that you see frequents the PC-room and library these days :-D

Oh and...no it is not that much a piece of cake. I have to use the dictionary too but the lazy kid that I am, I ignore it this easy LOOOOL

Oh Mohsen, you don't know how fun it was examining the pictures here. Actually some days ago I was checking the Tabatabayi ha House (in kashan I guess :?: ) , which was so amusing too.

Thank you so much for the pictures. I really liked them. I am going to ask you something about the last picture, but you have to promise that you would not laugh at me, alright? Is not the Avicenna shrine in Hamedan? :-?

Oh I was born in Gonbad-E-Kavus in Golestan. Do you know the Ghabus-Ebn-E-Voshmgir tower? It is believe to be the tallest brick tower in the world. It feels so good when you watch it so close, it gives you a strange feeling. Or maybe all ancient places do give me this feeling.
Uuuuh...living in an old house, well yes I do have such an experience. Well the house was not as big and as beautiful as yours, I am sure, but it felt so cozy and warm, warmer than these new houses with modern designs. Not that I hate modern or post modern architectural stuff but that I just love the air of those old houses, mansions, huts, whatever :-D

Hmmm...anyway I am no architecture neither an engineer. I don't know about structures at all. I just feel so good watching the old houses and even living in them, with all the hardships they might have. Do you know what made me write about this topic? I see huge cranes and building machines all around the cities everywhere in our country, and with this huge population growth, God knows what will happen in future! And when I see an old lovely house with the garden and fountain and etc. is being destructed, my heart wrenches! Hmm...do you see what I am saying? It simply is sad. Are we on the same track? Or you believe in "extending the city programming" and these stuff?

Mohsen it was so0o0o fun writing to you about it and if I just overwrote about this feeling of mine, you have to excuse me :-)

Hope to read from you so soon,




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A nice article, please read

Postby Elham » Fri May 03, 2013 5:59 pm

How To Make It A Great Day

Have a great day. I say it all the time. It sounds so simple, doesn’t it? My friend Kay always says, “Make it a great day.” This shows others they have power over their circumstances.

The following are 10 simple steps that will make every day a great day.

1. Give of yourself. Help others, go the extra mile and share your gifts and talents. Each day we have limitless opportunities to put others first. Out do yourself today. Commit to helping 5 people. Everyone needs an extra hand. Be the first to offer yours.

2. Tell others you love them. Is there a person in your life that is difficult to love? Yes, that’s the person. Tell them first. Then text your friends, children or parents, “I heart U.” Surprise someone with a handwritten note expressing your appreciation and love. When you think of someone silently whisper, “I love you.” We all need love and many don’t get enough.

3. Be thankful.Finish the sentence, “I want and need to thank __________ for ____________. Now do it. Thank the earth, the flowers, the trees and the air. Thank the trees, the server, the cab driver. Thank the cashier, the co-worker and web designer. Thank everyone who is making the world a better place. Especially thank the most difficult people in your life.

4. Welcome your lessons. Today you’ll face difficult and unpleasant situations, welcome them all. They give you the opportunity to learn and grow. You’ll also have plesant and easy situations. These will teach you joy and appreciation. Welcome them and they’ll increases tenfold.

5. Forgive and let go.Everyone hurts someone. Be the first to apologize. Be quick to forgive and the last to judge. Walk a mile in someone’s shoes. We feel better about ourselves when we go to bed without enemies and regrets.

7. Ask for quidance. Ask to see the truth. Ask for a different perspective. Ask for the wisdom to do the right thing. Ask to see the higher road. Listen to and take action on the guidance you receive.

8. Own your greatness. Know that you are a unique spiritual being born to do great things. Make a difference. Believe in yourself. Take action no matter how small the step. You have a reason for being. The world needs you to do your part.

9. Lighten up and laugh. Grab a happy attitude. Speak happy words, think happy thoughts and do happy things. Look for opportunities to laugh. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Instead choose to have fun.

10. Make a difference in someone’s life today. Give a hug, a hand, a wink or a smile. Small thinks don’t go unnoticed. Everyone is carrying their own set of problems. What we all really want is to love, be loved and know that we matter.

When you’re feeling stressed, grumbling over your finances or complaining life isn’t going as it should remember how easy it is to make each day great. Make each moment count!

What are your ingredients for a great day?
What are you willing to do to make yours great?


http://theboldlife.com/2009/10/great-day/

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Elham » Sat May 04, 2013 5:20 pm

Hi my dear Kami,

Oh honey, thanks for your very friendly reply. You are so lovely dear, I like the way you put your thoughts into words.You've got your own way and I enjoy it.

Wow, I was impressed by how you had turned your sad mood to hard-work and got those incredible results. Seems you are very good at transforming one type of energy to another in an effective way! You have learned your Physics lessons very well honey!Good job :lol: :lol: :lol:

Ok , sweet Kami, I promise to write more later. I'm just writing this to thank you for your nice and kind post.

Warmly,
Elham

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Tue May 07, 2013 8:32 am

Hi Kamelia,

We had heavy rain for three days in the afternoons, it was unforgettable days, it looks that we have a fruitful summer,also it sustain some damages, my phone line was disconnected ,because the water penetrated to the line boxes , I had also drops of water which was dripped from the ceiling ,but the ceiling is still firm and stable above my head.
I don't know why Ellie is in no mood , may be she is learning physic , physic is difficult but there is Behnam here to help . I never try the difficulties. I like to be free of compulsion.

Thank for your writing about your birthplace , I never been in Gonbad-E-Kavus ,give me the website address for visiting the tower.
Today I came home sooner , my wife is sick .. and I am in the kitchen, She don't like the outdoor food , so I am preparing a delicious food by ostrich meat.
Have you ever eaten ostrich ? it is very useful for people who have shortage Fe and also have fat and cholesterol in blood ,because ostrich has unsaturated fat.

Have a good day,
Mohsen

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Postby Mohsen » Thu Jun 06, 2013 5:43 am

Hi
What has happened!!?
My valuable data was stolen by hackers.
may be the hacker is grumpy cat.

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Postby Mohsen » Thu Jun 06, 2013 1:09 pm

The value for people is the appearance , clothes and money . When I enter a party i see how people are received, the rich people are welcome differently by host and they sit in the best place of the hall. but the ordinary people have no place ,no worth for the host.
In my opinion we should not respect people for their money,.... usually I never say hello to rich people ,because they are proud of themselves , and i like to screw them up.

Please read the following story

Once upon a time in the Iranian city of Shiraz, there lived the famous poet Sheikh Saadi. Like most other poets and philosophers, Sheikh Saadi was not a rich man. He led a very simple life. A rich merchant of Shiraz invited Sheikh
Saadi along with a lot of other big businessmen of the town on the occasion of his daughter's marriage which was to be a grand affair. Sheikh Saadi accepted the invitation and decided to attend.
On the day of the wedding, the host and his family were receiving the guests at the gate. They were ushering all the guests towards the dining hall. All the rich people of the town attended the wedding. They had come out in best of their
attires. Sheikh Saadi wore simple clothes which were neither grand nor expensive. He waited in a corner for someone to approach him but no one gave him as much as even a second glance. Even the host did not acknowledge him and
looked away. Seeing all this, Sheikh Saadi quietly left the party and went to a shop from where he could hire clothes. There he chose a richly brocaded dress which was embroidered in gold on the margins. He selected a fancy turban and a
waist-band to go with it. As he put on the hired dress and looked into the mirror, he found himself a changed person.

With this, Sheikh Saadi entered the dining hall and this time was welcomed with open arms. The host embraced him as he would do to an old friend and complimented him on the clothes he was wearing. On seeing Sheikh Saadi, host
said? And here comes our favorite poet. What took you so long, friend? We have been waiting for you for ages! How good of you to have come. The gathering surely would have been incomplete without your gracious presence! Sheikh Saadi
did not utter a word and allowed the host to lead him to the dining room where other guests had assembled. Tasty dishes had been laid out on grand carpets.
Sheikh Saadi was offered a seat with soft cushions. The food was served in fine crockery and cutlery made out of silver.

The host led Sheikh Saadi by hand and himself served out the chicken soup and the fragrant rice to him. After this, something strange happened. Sheikh Saadi dipped the corner of his waist-coat in the soup and sprinkled some rice on it.
Addressing the clothes, he said: This is a feast for you, you should enjoy it.

All the guests were now staring at him in surprise. The host said? Sir, what are doing? How can your clothes eat? And why should they? To this query, Sheikh Saadi very calmly replied: My dear friend, I am indeed surprised with the
question coming from you?

Aren't you the same person who did not even throw a look at me when I came dressed in simple clothes? I can guess that it is my clothes and appearance that matter with you, not my individual worth. Now that I have put on grand clothes,
I see a world of difference in reception here. All that I can now say is that this feast is meant for my clothes, not for me.

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Postby Mohsen » Thu Jun 06, 2013 1:27 pm

Dear Friends,

We should not have illuision about others and make an fake image from people. We are all falliable and we should not judge others by feeling. When we face to other and make a relation we get that our image about them is fault ,so it is better to make our world with facts .

Look at the story of a clerk who thinking of getting a reward made him blind.

In a ceremony a king gave his daughter a beautiful diamond necklace. The necklace was stolen and his people in the kingdom searched everywhere but could not find it. Some said a bird might have stolen it. The king then asked them all to search for it and put a reward for $50,000 for anyone who found it.

One day a clerk was walking home along a river next to an industrial area. This river was completely polluted, filthy and smelly. As he was walking, the clerk saw a shimmering in the river and when he looked, he saw the diamond necklace. He decided to try and catch it so that he could get the $50,000 reward. He put his hand in the filthy, dirty river and grabbed at the necklace, but some how missed it and didn't catch it. He took his hand out and looked again and the necklace was still there. He tried again, this time he walked in the river and dirtied his pants in the filthy river and put his whole arm in to catch the necklace. But strangely, he still missed the necklace! He came out and started walking away, feeling depressed.

Then again he saw the necklace, right there. This time he was determined to get it, no matter what. He decided to plunge into the river, although it was a disgusting thing to do as the river was polluted, and his whole body would become filthy. He plunged in, and searched everywhere for the necklace and yet he failed. This time he was really bewildered and came out feeling very depressed that he could not get the necklace that would get him $50,000.

Just then a saint who was walking by, saw him, and asked him what was the matter. The clerk didn't want to share the secret with the saint, thinking the saint might take the necklace for himself, so he refused to tell the saint anything. But the saint could see this man was troubled and being compassionate, again asked the clerk to tell him the problem and promised that he would not tell anyone about it. The clerk mustered some courage and decided to put some faith in the saint. He told the saint about the necklace and how he tried and tried to catch it, but kept failing. The saint then told him that perhaps he should try looking upward, toward the branches of the tree, instead of in the filthy river. The clerk looked up and true enough, the necklace was dangling on the branch of a tree. He had been trying to capture a mere reflection of the real necklace all this time.


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Postby Mohsen » Thu Jun 06, 2013 2:17 pm

Once again I had a debate with my boss during this week and it was led to a long discussion and finally shouting and anger.
Few days ago he opened the door ,came to my office and told me" I have booked three plane tickets for the next week , there is an exhibition in Dubai for car industries next week ,and I want to visit the exhibition with you and Mr. X. I stared at him surprisingly and told him" excuse me , I am a human ,not a slave .. you should asked me before you booked the ticket , you can go accompany with Mr. X. I don't want to go Dubai , I don't like travelling.
My boss tried to keep his calm ,but when he saw my resistance ,he suddenly roared " My God , look ,people have staff and I have staff , whenever I say something ,whenever I suggest something , he is negative.

And I answered angrilly "this is because you never consult with your staff about your decisions" Are you a king!!?
"An idiot may goes to Dubai in this warm season for visiting a place."I showed my rage by telling this sentence.
I have always discussion with my boss about everything , but today I told him I would go with him provided that he never repeat it and make a decision by himself. Although I know that he never listens to me and me too.
Generally, I am always happy and nimble , I don't need something to refresh me. Specially traveling to some places which are good for people who concern about feasting and drinking. May my boss reserve an Islamic Hotel for me :-o .

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Sun Jun 09, 2013 1:41 pm



Hi
I should be neutral against my brother 's child , because I like both of them , my brother and his child are dear for me , although sometimes I become very angry about their behavior .

There are moments which I can't intervene to a matter ,because both side has their own rights.

Look at the story of an old man who had two daughters. One of them was married to a farmer, while the other to a pottery maker.

Once old man decided to pay them a visit. He first visited the daughter who was the wife of the farmer and reaching her house, he inquired about her health.
The daughter said: "Dear father, my husband has cultivated a large area of land and if it were to rain, we would be the most prosperous of the entire tribe."

Then, proceeding towards the house of the other daughter, whose husband was a pottery maker, he inquired about her health.
The daughter said, "Dear father, my husband has moulded pots in great quantity and if God were to withhold the rains till his pots dry up, we would be better off than the entire tribe.

As he departed from the house of his second daughter, he prayed: "oh God! Act as you deem fit for, in this situation, I cannot pray for either of them."



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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Moroo » Mon Jun 10, 2013 12:27 pm

Dear Dr.Bhnam!!!

How are you my friend :-P It has been a long time we didn't talk with you and with my other beautiful friends ,I'm really sorry to you all , during this days I was working for a long time.

Any way now I'm here again !!

I read in the newspaper about your PhD GONGRATULATION!!!! :lol:

Your amazing perseverance as well as your dedication has at last paid off! I know that you can do it because ever since you have started studying I always believe in you.

You now got your PhD and that will be perfect for you as you shine.

You are helpful and great man and you deserve it.

All the best

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby [amal] » Sat Jun 15, 2013 11:18 pm

Hi friends,

How are you?

I have missed you a loooot. I know that I should be a better friend and write here or chat with you more but believe me, I couldn't, I couldn't find appropriate time to do that. You wont believe how ugly and sad my week was, I call it "Problems Week"!!! :-x

It is not because I have problems, no, not at all. My life was great, I was very happy and I had a peaceful mind until I knew that my three best friends are facing some problems in their own lives and this made me verrrrrrrry sad, I don't know why. But I dislike it when my friends have something bothering them and I can do nothing for them!!! :-( And maybe I was sad because I had experienced their feelings before and I know how much hard they are. :-( :-(

It's really hard to see your dears are suffering, I just tried to be with them as possible as I could and give them an emotionally support. believe it or not but sometimes I had to chat with three complaining friends at the same time! Oh sometimes I said the same sentence for all of them at the same time!!! For example : "Oh don't worry dear everything will going to be OK, inshallah". This is really funny, I laugh at myself! :lol: :roll:

other times, the chat go in a way which hurts me too. For example my friend told me " Oh Amal how did you forget?!" My reply was: " Who said that I had forgotten??! I just used to this.". :-( :/
Uh this is really disgusting and my sadness wasn't usual, it was as if I took all my three friends' sadness and put it all in my heart!!!

Thank god, today one of friend's problem had been solved and she finally could tell her family about the person who she loves and they are waiting her family improvement to get engaged, I am really happy for her.

Now I still have to convince my other friend to forget her boyfriend who left her without saying any reason, he doesn't deserve her at all, he doesn't deserve any minute of her thinking!!! And I have another matter which is bothering me but there is no need to mention it here since you already know it. :-D :-(

Emm, you may ask" Why did I wrote those things here?! And what can you do to me?" Well, you can do nothing but I feel this place as if it was my home and writing here makes me calm and relaxed.

Anyway, I love you a loooooooooooooot and be sure that you are in my mind always and I have never ever forgot you.

Best wishes,
Amal

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Kind and soft-hearted!!

Postby behnam » Sun Jun 16, 2013 1:28 am

Hi Amal,

It is so nice reading your post. Thank you very much for sharing your feelings with us. It is early morning, I dropped by to say hello to you. I have to go to work.

It is sad to hear that your friends are suffering emotionally. That's common among people, particularly, among ladies to have something to suffer from! Well, women are created to emotionally suffer from men's behaviour and actions. :lol: :lol: :lol:

I've decided not to advise anybody anymore, but it is unfair not to care about my close friend's sadness. Dear Amal, psychologists suggest avoiding negative people. Negative thinkers and people who have always something to nag or complain must be avoided. People, even someone from your relatives, close friends, etc. who have bad impression and are pessimistic must be avoided. If your friends affect your life negatively, you'd better leave them. However, if you feel or you think that you are emotionally strong enough to have empathy for them, that's a virtue.

Anyway, I love reading your post. I'd missed you terribly. Your heart hurts because it is so kind. Your heart hurts because it is on the right place. Your heart hurts because you are a real lady. I wish you all the best in the world.

All the best,
Behnam, 16 June, 2013

P.S. I'd like to say thank you to all friends who have written to me and their posts have remained unanswered. I will compensate your kindness soon.

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Moroo » Sun Jun 16, 2013 1:13 pm

Dear my friend Amal

How are you doing

I read your post about your three friends, a beautiful person who has kind heart like you is rare this days.

To be with your friends is a very good thing but don't live their felling, only share with them with your mind only during the chat. After you leave them leave the problems with them.

They always say be good with everybody even if they are not good with you, I don't know why they say that.

But be sure that they deserve your time and your feelings. Sometimes you keep giving someone but when you need him he didn't give you back, I think you have to test your friends.

I have a close friend I used to help him and I didn't ask him for help before, after many years I faced some problems and when I asked him for help they didn't help me at all .

Thank you very much for sharing your feelings with us, that's will encourage me to share with you my thoughts.

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Evaluate your capabilities, abilities and capacities!

Postby behnam » Sun Jun 16, 2013 3:20 pm

Hi Moroo,

How are things? I hope all is going well with you. The weather is unusually hot in Tehran. The sun is strong and the dust in the air doubles the problem. This is the only thing that I nag about. To be honest, I am even not complaining about the weather. I started this post by mentioning to the weather in order to break the ice.

I agree with you on the way of dealing with people who share their sadness with us. We should learn to share our happiness with others. When you share your sadness you divide it, but when you share your happiness you multiply it! It is morally unacceptable to share your sadness with people.

It was around 8th of October, 2007 I arrived at the Internet to practise English with people. From that time, I have chatted with thousands of people from different parts of the world and made friends with hundreds of them. I've rarely shared my sadness with people. As everybody, I had both sad and happy moments in my life, but I preferred not to give negative energy to others.

In our culture, owl is a symbol of unluckiness. Some people are like owls. Wherever they go, they take misery and unluckiness with themselves. I personally dislike people who keep speaking about their sickness(body problems), sadness and problems.

A colleague of mine used to complain about his difficulties in his life. He used to say; "Oh Behnam, life is difficult. Last night I couldn't sleep. My child kept crying. I had a nasty headache. The neighbor kept making noise....". I used to say, 'well, these things are common among almost all people. I never think of these things as difficulties in life. They are some ordinary things."

Sometimes, you are angry with someone. For example, you have fought with the manager at office. In such cases, speaking about the event isn't sharing sadness. It is just justifying your actions.

Dear Amal must evaluate her talents, capabilities and capacities. If listening to the friends' problems affects her life negatively, she must avoid doing that. However, if she is emotionally strong enough to listen to the friends, without getting affected by their negative energies, she should do it.

people are different. We cannot generalize about them. It is not possible to expect people to behave and think similarly. However, I personally prefer to be a nightingale rather than an owl!

It should be mentioned at the end that I took this subject as an opportunity to write something. To tell you the truth, I'd like to be as strong as mountains to shoulder all the problems and difficulties of people around me. Of course, this is a virtue. Great people are like mountains. They are patient and strong in a way that-for them- ordinary problems are like gentle winds which cannot remove mountains from their places. I am not sure, but I guess in the Arabic language, mountain is male. Females cannot be like mountains. Some of them just can be like hills. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

All the best,
Behnam, 16 June, 2013
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