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Hi Mohsen!

Postby behnam » Thu Oct 24, 2013 6:25 pm

Hi Mohsen,

First of all, let me say 'Happy Eid-Al-Ghadir' to you and to all Shiite friends. I hope we will be the real followers of Imam Ali(PBUH). Following someone is acting and reacting like him/her.

I read your last post three times. I think this post is different from others. In other words, this Mohsen sounds different from the Mohsen who has written the previous posts!


Mohsen wrote:I am still searching for some routine tasks to make my wife busy with. As you know according to Islamic rules the woman is a treasure at home and the man should admired her too much , a man is not allowed to force her wife to cook at home or force her washing dishes and clothe , a man is not allowed to ask her wife to take care of child.
Because I have not enough money to employ a maid for my wife to help her for household chores , I have to do them myself most of the time.


I know what you mean. In Islam, mothers can demand money from fathers for the breast milk! As you have mentioned, women do not have to do household chores. They are also exempted from fighting battles. There is a big question: What is the use of women in an Islamic society? The answer of this question can be a big insult to women!

I totally disagree with inactivity of women in the society. I believe, women and men have to shoulder the responsibilities that life gives them! Certainly they have rational differences, abilities and capabilities, but those things cannot cause women to be passive in the society.


Mohsen wrote:My wife has being fascinated by my characters , and day by day she love me more and more. If I want to give a grade to her love when we got married , I give 100 , but know her love grade to me is 1000.


Oh, wonderful! So happy to read this paragraph. Her mark shows a dramatic increase in love and love-based things. How lucky you are! I wish you everlasting happiness and good lucks.

Mohsen wrote:Since her burning love to me , she omitted all of her friends and relatives from her life. She always says " you are the first and end of life for me." If I be late a little when coming back from office ,she calls me several times.see me off at morning and welcome to me at evening .Sometimes she has to go somewhere without me , she goes ,but with a wet eyes.


How romantic! I wish you happy moments. This sounds very nice.

Mohsen wrote:Once you recommended me for having a baby , My wife can't bear the baby voice for a minute ,...


Oh my God! This statement is against other paragraphs! Why Mohsen? In answering to my big question someone might say, "The main responsibility of women is giving birth, then keeping the generation going". However, frankly speaking, your wife apparently abdicates her responsibility in giving birth!

The love among couples is an excuse to attract them to each other and to persuade them into having children! Well, people are different and they have different attitudes towards life. However, I believe, the main philosophy of the attraction between two genders is keeping the generation going! What is the philosophy of gay-marriage(same-sex marriage)?

In the holy Koran, God HAVE said that putting kindness and friendliness among couples' hearts is one of his great signs, and it creates calmness! The question is this: Why have you created panic? If there were no panic, there were no need for calmness!

If we deeply think about these things we will realize that all the feelings, needs, emotions and desires are necessary for building such a complex system!

Why have you created such a system? God SAY in the holy Koran that HE HAVE created humankind to worship him! What is the need for this worship? Is God competing with other Gods?

It is said that the worship is an opportunity for people to get complete! The use of worship is just for the worshipers. I don't understand the need of such a complex game!

It seems that using 'I', without considering God and HIS role in the universe, is not possible! On the one hand, this thought satisfies my curiosity, on the other hand it opens the door of a room full of unanswered questions! {-: {-: {-:

I have digressed, so sorry!

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Tue Oct 29, 2013 6:30 pm


Hi Behnam,

Thanks for your post , thank for your congratulation message to your shiite friends for Eid-Ghadir , As you know ,in that day Prophet Mohammad(PBUH) chose Imam Ali(AS) as his successor, Prophet took the Imam Ali's hand up in front of people and said" Ali is the mawla of whom I am mawla" and in this place ( Ghadir) the verse revealed to Allah’s Messenger “This day I have perfected your religion for you, completed My favour upon you, and have chosen for you Islam as your religion.” [Surah Al Maidah, 5:3] , according to Shiite belief.

If you are interested to read more about Ghadir event there are many website ,but read it via following address.

http://abna.ir/data.asp?lang=3&id=474999

Dear Behnam , there many defects in people behaviour ,as we are not perfect. Man's not perfect.. Of course it should not be an excuse for people to do wrong things and say " man is fallible" but regretfully we do it ,even sometime keep insist on doing wrong things.

I don't know my wife is lazy or lacking in motivation. But she has got used to put every little jobs on my shoulder. These days she is suffering from pain in her spine, tomorrow I should take her to visit a doctor who I 've already made an appointment . I wish she could visit the doctor alone ,and don't waste my evening, she is able to drive car , but she like me to be her driver and to be with me all times. I have advised her not rely on me on every little things.Women are free to drive in Iran.

Today I was explaining for her that how miserable are the women in Saudi Arabia ,as they are not allowed to drive car. What I get from the policy of Saudi government is that they are trying to downgrade the feature of Islam in the world, Why Saudi government opposes the women driving ? Many news agencies and presses had many reports about the action of Saudi , BBC repeat this news many times , why ? what is behind of this policy? What is the relation of Saudi and Uk?
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symbols pronunciation

Postby faishalrani » Fri Nov 01, 2013 1:14 am

hy all senior ;-)

I'm new comer..

I still confused, when determine the symbols pronunciation from words or sentences

so my question, how to determine symbols pronunciation a words or sentences?

thank you before :)
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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Fri Nov 01, 2013 4:38 pm

Hi Behnam ,

Tonight my wife was speaking by phone , and I had the option to be with own job , I had time to open the website and look at the pages. About half an hour ago my wife decided to call her sister because she felt that she had missed her sister. I was very happy as I always asked her to call her family members and friends and speak as long as possible. But nowadays she is a little cautious; she read the news about USA surveillance of phone commutation throughout the world. NSA is an organization which spy for USA by controlling phones, eavesdropping on people communication . Now my wife is afraid of speaking by phone specially for long period.
I was laughing at her sentences when she said " my phone is controlled "
I told her my dear what is important in your speaking with your relatives and friends , don't be afraid , they control the phone of important people like Angela Merkel .
Now it is revealed that the USA embassies has been armed with espionage systems all over the world . God bless Edward Snowden who is revealing the real face of USA government for people of the world, this is the fact which was claimed by some students in Tehran when they captured the USA embassy 33 year ago ,but at that time nobody believed them , and their claim was condemned by many countries at that time .
"Today's friends maybe become future's enemies" this is the slogans of USA government for interfering and spying in other countries. How this claim is absurd and impudent.

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One of the best allegories I’ve ever heard

Postby Mohsen » Tue Nov 05, 2013 5:38 pm


In a mother’s womb were two babies.
One asked the other: “Do you believe in life after delivery?”
The other replies, “Why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later.”
“Nonsense,” says the other. “There is no life after delivery. What would that life be?”
“I don’t know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths.”
The other says, “This is absurd! Walking is impossible. And eat with our mouths? Ridiculous. The umbilical cord supplies nutrition. Life after delivery is to be excluded. The umbilical cord is too short.”
“I think there is something and maybe it’s different than it is here.”
The other replies, “No one has ever come back from there. Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery it is nothing but darkness and anxiety and it takes us nowhere.”
“Well, I don’t know,” says the other, “but certainly we will see mother and she will take care of us.”
“Mother?!” You believe in mother? Where is she now?”
“She is all around us. It is in her that we live. Without her there would not be this world.”
“I don’t see her, so it’s only logical that she doesn’t exist.”
To which the other replied, “sometimes when you’re silent you can hear her, you can sense her. I believe there is a reality after delivery and we’re here to prepare ourselves for that reality.”

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Thank you Mohsen!

Postby behnam » Wed Nov 06, 2013 1:53 pm

Hi Mohsen,

So many thanks for your posts. I loved reading the story. It was interesting.

Dear Mohsen, on Saturday, 9th of November, I will be in Shahin Shahr(Malek ashtar University of Technology). I am there to give PhD interview. 6 people are invited to have interview. I rank first among them. Please wish me luck in the interview.

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Welcome Faishalrani!

Postby behnam » Wed Nov 06, 2013 4:45 pm


Hi Faishalrani,

Welcome to this thread. Thank you for joining us and putting post here. I am afraid I didn't get what is meant by Symbols pronunciation. Would you please clarify your question?

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Wed Nov 13, 2013 7:43 am

Hi Behnam,
I hope you had a good interview for your PHD, wish you were successful .
I had no time during last days , because every evening I was in Imam Hussein ceremony for 9 days and tomorrow is the most sad and mournful day in human being history (the 10th of Moharam).
Imam Hussain was the grandson of the Holy Prophet Muhammad, through his daughter, Lady Fatima and son-in-law, Imam Ali, peace be upon them all.
In less than half a day on the 10th of Muharram ( Ashura) in the year 680 A.D. (61 A.H.), on the hot desert sands of Karbala in Iraq, Imam Hussain(as), and 72 of his family members, friends and followers, including his 6 month old infant son, were martyred under most gruesome circumstances. These included His brother Hazrat Abbas (as) the standard bearer, His young 18 yr old son Ali Akber & his 4 year old daughter Sakina who died while in prison in Damascus. The Oppressive ruler; Yazid son of Mu'awiya son of Abu Sufiyan & his very large army of over 30,000 men, committed these heinous crimes against the small group which included the household of the Prophet. Lady Zainub (sister of Imam Hussain) also played a key role especially subsequent to the battle to inform people of the truth.

The group, including the six-month infant Ali Asgar, was without food and water for 3 days before their martyrdom. Ali Asgar was martyred thirsty in his father's arms when his tender throat was pierced by a three-pointed poisoned arrow, while his father implored the tyrants to allow water to the infant, after all his other companions were martyred at their hands.

Imam Hussain resolved to defend his thirsty entourage from the killer army’s onslaught, rather than submit to their forcible extraction of allegiance to a criminal despotic regime which used the name of Islam. He was going to stand to his principle to defend True Islam, even though he might be the last man standing with no support, no help.

The martyrs were beheaded & their heads were put on spears, while their corpses were trampled upon and left unburied. The ordeal did not stop at this as the women and children in the Imam's entourage were held captives and tortured while being led on an arduous journey to Damascus to be paraded and later imprisoned . The only male survivor was Imam Zainul Abideen (as) son of Imam Hussain (as) who was ill at that time, yet chained & repeatedly beaten. He subsequently wrote a 'Treatise on Rights' & a monumental prayer book called Sahifa Kamila.
In the history of Islam, al‑Husayn ibn 'Ali, the martyr of Karbala, wrote one of the most brilliant chapters; a chapter which still and after more than fourteen centuries, echoes in the minds and hearts of Muslims everywhere. It is remarked by a modern Muslim writer that 'With every Karbala Islam is renewed'.

Edward Gibbon (1737-1794) considered the greatest British historian of his time. Wrote “In a distant age and climate the tragic scene of the death of Hussein will awaken the sympathy of the coldest reader." [The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire, London, 1911, volume 5, pp. 391-2]

Wish you the best,
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Working Hard is Good Enough!

Postby behnam » Wed Nov 13, 2013 7:59 am



To be honest and straight forward with you, only hard work will NOT promote you in your professional life. There are several other aspects of your overall personality which are accounted for your growth. When I say overall personality, I mean your outer and inner personality. And when I say Outer personality, I mean your verbal (when you speak) and non-verbal (when you are not speaking) features of your personality. Together I call it "Corporate Image". In this article I shall cover sure fire techniques to improve your Corporate Image. But please bear in mind that the hardware will always be the prime and foremost aspect of your growth.

Well, let us understand first why you should give importance to your official image?


Why Personal branding is important?

In your routine official life, you are being observed by your team lead, managers and/or senior managers on how you work, behave, speak, act, react, meet, greet, resolve and so on. All these observations are contributing towards your overall image. This image analysis is being done by the management for everyone. So when it comes to new opportunity or project in the department, it will be awarded to the one having good professional or corporate image.

Here are the things which you need to work on to promote your corporate image:


1-THINK BIG:

It all starts from your brain. Good Mind Good Find. It is as simple as that. Focusing on your thoughts will give maturity to your speech and actions which consequently would result in great personality. If you think you should only work on the physical appearance factor of your personality by looking nice through branded coats, pants and other accessories; it is going to result in a disaster since it will be equivalent to a bitter toffee in a nice wrap. Once the wrap is removed, the toffee is going to give a bad taste anyway.

2-WORK BIG:

Try to get engaged in more and more projects. If you really want to do task you will find a way to do it, if you don't, you will find an excuse so grab more tasks; off course not at the cost of your family life. Try to meet expectation as much as possible. Done go to your boss with a problem without solution. Develop skills such as problem solving, analytical Skills and creativity. Be efficient, confident, sharp, dynamic in your day to day life.

3-TALK BIG:

Be socially active, do not skip meetings. Try to give your positive and optimistic opinion as much as you can. Say hello to everyone. Be enthusiastic, humorous and friendly. Do not miss any telephone calls. Avoid reacting. Treating everyone with equal respect, Avoid irritating & negative comments. Build a vocabulary of positive words. Use and practice these again and again. Develop effective communications skills.

4-LOOK BIG:

Physical appearance matters a lot. Whether you are sitting in a meeting or walking in office or just working from your chair, you need to look confident. Your posture should portray your confident personality. When you are meeting with someone, try to work on your First Impression. Ask yourself whether the person is going to call you a Decent chap? Rough? Polite? Nice or what?. Your way of handshaking, standing/sitting, smiling, eye contact, shoes, dressing, voice, physical fitness, remembering names matter a lot. Do you have old suits in your wardrobe? Get rid of them. Do you have old hair style for some time? Change it. Do you use same colors of clothes? Buy new. Do you talk too quietly or too loudly? Change your tone. . Remember, you don't need to be in high end tuxedo for great impression, you can achieve the same by having a simple life style.

5-BEHAVE BIG:

Live an ethical life . Your personality should reminder others as a confident, honest, friendly, organized, creative, trustworthy and decent but mature person. Help others whenever it is required. Seek first to understand then to be understood. Don't impose your decisions on someone. Listen emphatically. Listen more and speak less.

Conclusion:

Hard work is definitely the key to success however you need to work on several aspects of your personality to move on your professional ladder. Always remember that consistency in your actions is critically important. Your inconsistent behavior is an indication of your non-predictive personality due to which people won't trust you.

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السلام علی الحسین

Postby behnam » Wed Nov 13, 2013 9:54 am

Hi Mohsen,

Thank you very much for writing about the great revolution of Imam Hussein against Yazid Ebn-E-Mavie! What he has done is a big lesson for not only Muslims, but also for all people in all over the world. What is that big lesson? Actually, What Imam Hussein and his followers or supporters did in Karbala teach everyone about all aspects of life. For example, believers must water the tree of faith with their blood when it is necessary. Karbala clearly clarifies the duty of sister, brother, child, wife, husband, daughter, son, aunt, uncle, etc.

The majority of people do not pay close attention to the colourful painting that Imam Hussein has painted in Karbala. They only look through a narrow angle, may put themselves in his position and then become sad and cry. It is very good to cry for Imam Hussein and his great supporters, but the cry must be done wisely. Some people imagine themselves to be in similar situations. They say, "What would I do if I were in their situation in Karbala? What would I do if I lost my son?" These thoughts make them cry, but it is useless. We should know that the poets we write or the stories we tell about Karbala are our own reactions to a similar situation. In almost all cases, we insult Imam Hussein and his great supporters and family by our silly words. Why? Money is involved!

In my opinion, we must be proud of having such a great Imam who has lived honourably and has given his blood, his family, his brothers, his sons, his followers and relatives, etc. to his faith; Islam! What is Islam? How to live freely and honourably under the umbrella of God! This is Islam.

It should be kept in mind that every era has got its Yazid and Karbala. Therefore, it is our duty to know the Yazid of our own era and the Karbala(the battle) AND most importantly, to play our role! Karbala wasn't an only opportunity for a limited number of people to enter Heaven directly. We should have faith in repeating this process- happening this event- in all eras in our everyday lives. In other words, it is the philosophy of history of humanity-the battle between fact and fake-happening continuously like days and nights. Why? To give people the chance to choose. To choose what? To choose which side they are going to be on!

I am proud of Imam Hussein. I never cry for those great men who lived and died bravely, but I cry for myself; for my smallness and littleness. I cry for being the slave of my stomach! I cry for being the slave of my desires and needs. I cry for being the salve of my passion. I cry for being the slave of my body. How shameful it is to cry for some heroes who lived and died honourably.

Finally, I cry for those stupid brainless people who killed the grandson of their Prophet Muhammad. Who was Muhammad(PBUH)? Muhammad was sent by God; who started Islam in Mecca and made a great empire from some wild groups of Arab people. Yes, that's an undeniable fact that before Muhammad Arab groups were not civilized. They were killing their daughters. They were fighting with each other over silly things.

My question is this: How could they kill Hussein when they knew who he was? It is written in the history that when Shemr( لعنة الله علیه ) was cutting Imam Husein's neck said, "People witness that I am not cutting his throat because Muhammad has kissed this place. I am cutting his neck from back side instead!" How devilish! How shameful!

السلام علی الحسین و علی اولاد الحسین و علی الصحاب الحسین و لعن الله امّة قتلتکم


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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Elham » Wed Nov 13, 2013 12:46 pm

Dear Behnam,

Your post about Emam Hosein (سلام الله علیه) is great and touching. Like always...Behnamish...
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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby shahrubanu » Wed Nov 13, 2013 4:34 pm

thanks a lot brother Behnam you made me aware of the fact,The fact is that we are greedy and we have to cry for ourselves you are totaly right I got what you mean.It touches my heart,thanks dear....

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Fri Nov 15, 2013 5:53 pm


Hi Behnam,
I must gratitude to your nice article.

It just took 50 years from when the prophet Mohammad (PBUH) raised the Imam Ali’s hand and nominated him as his succession in Ghdir to when the Shemr raised the Iman Hussien’ head on spear , From when they burned the door of Hazrat Zahra (SW) to when they drag ged her daughter (Hazarat Zainab) in plain of Karbala to show her the death bodies of her kin, it just took 50 years.

Did you see the movies of rebel in Syria , how he cut the chest of a death and took out his liver ,when I saw this scene I remembered the Muawiya’s mother when she cut the chest of Hazarat Hamzeh ( SW) and took his liver out, chewed it and spat it out.

You had a question (My question is this: How could they kill Hussein when they knew who he was?)
The basic of the cruelties come back to Madina , when the Islam was deviated from right path after the death of prophet , and it is continued to present time , you see how Suadi Arabi ,Ghatar, Bahrain , Emerate …so on support the rebels in Syria , and when the rebels fired their weapons they say Allah Akaber, The same as the Yazid troop when they were killing the Imam Hussein and his forces , the cried Allah Akaber , and after they killed all of them ,they did their prayer to thank God.

If the Force of Hezbullah from Lebanon didn’t come to help Syrian army , it doesn’t clear what has happened in Syria .
About 35 years ago the force of Hezbullah organized by Dr Chamran ( God bless him) in South of Lebanan and the y are real followers of Imam Hussien ,also we are happy that we can help them by all efforts.

Dear Behnam ,I don’t agree with you about crying for Imam Hussien is useless. In fact I don’t want to open the discussion about it ,but sometimes the order which placed by God , we can not analyse them correctly by our small brain.
As Imam Sadegh (God bless him) said “all creatures of skies and earth, birds, animals, jinn, mankind and angels have participate and participating in this crying.”


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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Sat Nov 16, 2013 12:10 pm

Sorry dear Behnam,
I had two mistakes in my last email ,revise it as follow
When they burnt the door of Hazrat Zahre ' house(SW)

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Intention Counts!

Postby behnam » Sat Nov 16, 2013 3:49 pm

Hi Mohsen,

Finally the mourning finished and we mourners killed Imam Hussein and became quiet! On 'Ashura' I took my wife to her parents' quarter. At noon, they finished the mourning and people ran towards the mosque to be served by 'Gheyme'(a cooked food containing rice, small pieces of meat, shelled peas and fried potato). I was talking to someone. Suddenly, he broke the conversation and ran towards the mosque, saying, "we will talk later, now it is time to eat 'Gheyme-e-Imam Hussein'! "Hurry up! Hurry up!", he was advising me! You know what I am saying. I won't explain further! :lol:

To tell you the truth, when I was writing that paragraph, I knew that would make you show your sensitivity! However, I want you to pay close attention to what I've written; to read it as carefully as possible. Let's once again look at what I've written:

behnam wrote:It is very good to cry for Imam Hussein and his great supporters, but the cry must be done wisely. Some people imagine themselves to be in similar situations. They say, "What would I do if I were in their situation in Karbala? What would I do if I lost my son?" These thoughts make them cry, but it is useless.


I'm not saying that crying for Imam Hussein is useless. What I mean is crying for our own problems; for example, crying for our lost goats or sheep, instead of wisely thinking about the philosophy of Imam Hussein's great revolution and taking lessons from it. In a nutshell, as I have put it, crying must be done wisely, not blindly!

Some people say, "من بکی او ابکی او تباکی وجب له الجنة ", but it can't be true. Crying must be done for some special purposes such as making people aware of the great revolution, showing how cruel the enemies have been, teaching people how to live, how to keep the faith, etc. Remembering our own misery and difficulties such as losing our goats, having bed-related problems with our wives and husbands, having car accident, being bald, getting old, etc.and crying for them when mourning is USELESS! :lol:

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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Mon Nov 18, 2013 4:28 pm

Hi Behnam,

Thanks, I got it. You are right, the ritual ceremony should be done wisely , I believe that words and thoughts should be appeared in acts, it should be placed in the nature of people .Their deeds ,interactions,moods and totally their life should be according what they say in words
You see that people say their prayer 5 times in a day and ten times say "We just worship you and we ask for your help" but I can say that nobody is able to act this sentence 100%, maybe 90% of people say this sentence ,but never think about it wisely and never perform their life according to it.

Hypocrisy is to say something that you really don't act.

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The Questions You Ask May Tell Who You Are!

Postby behnam » Fri Nov 22, 2013 12:29 pm

Hi Mohsen,

How are you? I hope you are fine. I am happy I could make my point clear to you. I do agree with you. The vast majority of Muslims (me included) pray five times a day. As you have pointed it out correctly and wisely, they say "ایّاک نعبد و ایّاک نستعین " ten times in 24 hours. However, they (me included) are lying. This is one of the biggest lies that a human can tell! A very long time ago, I was discussing with a friend of mine about praying. I said "ان الصلاة تنهی عن الفحشا و المنکر ". My friend laughed at me and said, "Come on! Many thieves and criminals pray five times a day like other Muslims". I laughed and replied, "They are not praying. Actually, they are acting habitually". Yes, that is true. We can do something from habit, but it is USELESS!

When evaluating and judging on people (well, sometimes it is necessary to evaluate someone's actions. For instance, when a girl or her family is making decision on either accepting a boy's proposal or not, they have to evaluate his personality), they should pay close attention to see if he is an honest person or not. Is he a loyal person? Is he a compassionate person? Some qualities cannot become habits. Nobody can say, "I always tell the truth from habit"! However, praying can become a habit, although it is not a bad one.

As you know, I had two interviews two weeks ago. One of them was in Isfahan (Shahin Shahr). The other one was in Bonab(near Tabriz). From the questions they asked me, I could easily evaluate the quality of the universities. I don't want to write the details here. However, I'd like to say that great people ask great questions!

Before marriage, I visited some girls at their houses, in order to get familiar with each other. As you know, since you are an experienced man (LOL), in such cases, the families sit in the living room and let the boy and the girl talk in an open-door room (LOL). The door must be open, you know the reason! :lol: Anyway, in one of the meetings, I talked with a physician(doctor). She asked me some silly questions such as what my favourite colour or food or hobby, etc. was! What was my birth month (to check my horoscope!). For the first meeting, these questions sounded ridiculous! I won't tell you what I said to the girl in answering to her stupid questions! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Before writing this paragraph, my wife called me for lunch. There was pickle on the table. Apparently, a friend of my wife had given it as a gift. The vegetables weren't balanced and they weren't chopped rightly. I said to myself, "Behnam, write it that even from chopping an onion, it is possible to judge on her skills"!

I have digressed! Why am I writing these things? I don't know. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Whatever I write cannot be stronger than that famous saying 'actions speak louder than words'!

All the best,
Behnam, 22 November, 2013
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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby Mohsen » Mon Nov 25, 2013 3:45 pm


Hi Behnam,
I hope you enjoy and taking pleasure in your favourite autumn.

My goal for pointing out the problem of what we say in our prayer as the words and sentences ,and our actions which don't comply with that words and sentence is that we are not allowed to say that we don't say the prayer anymore because we don't think wisely and don't act what we say. The same view for ritual ceremony for Imam Hussein, although what mattered is our deed which has a big distance with the words we say.

Some people apparently living in joy by making themselves amusement. One of the critics of the ritual ceremony in my family is a close relative of my wife. She seriously critics people and what they do in the first ten days of Moharam in the mosques and streets .She states that the ceremony spoils her joy. Include herself as a rational people which never take part in such a ceremonies and base on her Islamic belief she bring me her reasons.

I try not to laugh at her when we have discussion because I know to whom I am discussing . Of course I never start discussing with her ,she always like to say her idea about everything.

Her job is to decorate the wedding ceremony table( سفره عقد) . She use a lot of time to decorate some objects in the table for some crazy people who give her a lot of money. Also she is a special cook . she spends a lot of time to prepare a kind of delicious food for some lazy people for special ceremony and get a lot of money. Her favourite TV channel is Manoto . ( a satellite channel which work on the mind of such a people) .In summery what she does is related to the some parts of body just under the neck. Of course she says her prayer and also read Quran. I say nothing to her about the words and sentences she says and her actions «یَعْلَمُونَ ظاهِرا مِنَ الحَیاةِ الدُّنْیا وَ هُمْ عَنِ الآخِرَةِ هُمْ غافِلُونَ», because these people are blind and deaf. She is very kind to me and sometime she forget that I am a man, belong to another woman.

I write about her because she is in my house now and she is speaking with my wife loudly in the living room. Sometime I go to the other room and interfere in her discussion, because I afraid that she deceive my wife.

She is an skilful lady ,she know about preparing all kind of pickles , food, and confectioneries. She is also a tailor for women. She knows how to make handicrafts ,even a carpet weaver. A good driver, swimmer and knows about all kind of music style and plays drum (تنبک).
Once she told me that she had gathered an orchestra at her home ( 40 people) and they play and singing until the morning.

What a wonderful lizard she is!!!

Let me stop her ,I am hearing her ,she is going to red lines.

Have a nice Autumn
Mohsen

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Girls' Old Friends!

Postby behnam » Fri Nov 29, 2013 6:14 am

Hi Mohsen,

Thank you for your wonderful posts. Apparently, great ladies come to your home to visit your wife! However, I have asked my wife to finish having any sort of friendship with single girls. I believe a married lady should form friendships with married ones. Keeping contact with single girls(by a married lady) can be poisonous to a couples' happy marriage. Haven't you ever heard that birds of a feather flock together? :lol:

For making these shocking words clear, some explanation is necessary. Suppose a single girl is visiting a married one. The married one asks the single one some things like these, "What about marriage? Are you dating with someone? Have you got someone under your pillow? Have you set traps for catching your Mr. Right? Etc." How would she answer to these questions? It depends on many factors such as her mood at that time, her personality, her emotions, ...! What she says as a reply may affect the mood of the married lady positively or negatively. For example, suppose she says, "I prefer to have my freedom. I hate to cook and wash up everyday. I am not stupid to tolerate someone's nags all the time. I am my own boss...." These insincere replies may affect the married lady's life negatively. In some cases, such things are destructive.

She may say, "Oh my friend. You were lucky. You met a wonderful man. Girls envy your wonderful life. They wish they could met their Mr. Right as you did. Oh, you should pray to God for such a great success. .."! However, girls are naturally jealous. Their jealousy does not let them be wise and reply wisely. Therefore, such replies are rare! :lol:

To be honest, I have had both of them, both cases in my life. No matter a lady is highly educated or illiterate, they have the same emotions and feelings. As a matter of fact, all human beings have got both destructive and constructive emotions. Education cannot change our nature. Some men fool themselves and say, "My wife is a professor, or a doctor, she is different! she is not an easy prey." Unfortunately, statistics show that highly educated ladies are not skillful enough to manage such difficulties in life. Education(memorizing some facts without being able to analyze and digest them) is different from wisdom.

Dear Mohsen, don't let that lady come to your home, but I suggest you going to her home and enjoying your life. She can be ....! Pardon my French! Hahahahahahahahaha.... :lol: :lol: :lol:

All the best,
Behnam, 29 November, 2013
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Rephrasing!

Postby behnam » Sun Dec 01, 2013 1:52 pm

Hi friends,
I am tired of texting. Today, from the beginning of the day until a few seconds ago, I was texting to a friend. My fingers are numb now and I feel I am not OK! I came here to spend some time on writing. It relieves me!

A person was making herself/himself ready for IELTS exam. S/he intends to leave Iran and to study PhD in another country. That person asked me for some help with their English skills. One of the questions which is convenient to share with you was about 'rephrasing'. As you know, in writing module, the candidates have to write an essay. They give them a topic and want them to write an essay about it. The candidates should repeat the topic with a different structure in the introductory paragraph; however, the meaning must be kept. This is called 'rephrasing'!

Suppose the topic is about something like this: Children watch too much television these days. It causes them to lose their creativity. Do you agree or disagree?

How can we rephrase it? As you know, a word can preform a variety functions. It can be a noun phrase, an adjective phrase, etc.We should use different structures that mean the same. Read the following sentences:


1- Children watch too much television; as a result, they lose creativity.
2- Children watch too much television; consequently, they lose creativity.
3- Children watch too much television; therefore, they lose creativity.
4- Children watch too much television; hence, they lose creativity.
5- Children watch too much television; because of this, they lose creativity.
6- Children are so interested in television that they lose creativity.
7- Children watch so much television that they lose creativity.
8- Children watch so many TV programs that they lose creativity.
9- Children lose creative ability since they watch so much TV.
10- Children lose creative ability because they watch so much TV.
11- Children lose creative ability because of the fact that they watch so much TV.
12- Watching too much television is the reason for loss of creative ability.
13- Watching too much television is responsible for loss of creative ability.
14- Watching too much television leads to loss of creative ability.
15- Watching too much television contributes to loss of creative ability.
16- Watching too much television results loss of creative ability.
17- Watching too much television causes loss of creative ability.
18- Loss of creativity results from watching too much television.
19- Loss of creativity follows from watching too much television.
20- Loss of creativity is due to watching too much television.
21- Loss of creativity is a result of watching too much television.
22- Loss of creativity is a consequence of watching too much television.
23- Watching too much television kills creativity.
24- Watching too much television takes away creativity.
25- Watching too much television stifles creativity.
26- Watching too much television discourages creativity.
..............

You can add many similar structures. I am sure about it.

I just wanted to change my mood by writing this post. I hope that is useful.

All the best,
Behnam, 1 December, 2013
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Re: Let's learn together!

Postby shahrubanu » Sun Dec 01, 2013 5:07 pm

ooh! dear brother Behnam thank you so much, you increase our knowledge.. you are a great teacher HEAD TEACHER!.Thank you for teaching us.By the way,I m so curious , could you please kindly let me know who you were texting to today?

with great respects..love my friends


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