Let's learn together!

[Mohsen]

Hi Amal

I hope you seize the moments , If you find a person who is deserve for his sincerity, decentness and faith don't miss him ,the financial problem will be solved ,he takes you to Mecca in future .
Sorry to reply late , I was busy with my job this week , I went to Tehran as my boss order ,he assigned me doing a mission , I was tired to be in Tehran for two days , I went by bus , of course the bus was VIP and had large seats ,the seat changed to bed ,but I couldn't sleep well in the bus , but I have good memories from Tehran ,because people of Tehran were polite and respected highly their customer .
Today is Friday and holiday in Iran I went to the park at noun and walked for one hour with my wife ,then we went to her parent's house for eating lunch, I couldn't do anything today ,just resting

Dear, I didn't understand this part: "6- The ownership of a house or a part of a house should be officially given to girl."
But why he would give her a house??! And isn't it too expensive? What if the boy himself didn't have a house? Or in other words, he can't afford it?!

About your question for part 6 , The house has an ownership document ,so a part of the house ( two-sixth of the house ownership) should be transferred in the name of girl in notary public. , if the boy doesn't have a house ,his father house , or a part of garden , a part of a land given to girl.
The items in wedding document are conventional , in Iran people are the ownership of their house , and if someone hasn't an ownership of a house, his father helps him , for example if Behnam is not the owner of a house , his father has a big garden in Azarbyjan ,so his father gives a part of his garden to Behnam's wife.

About 'عندالاستطاعه' or 'عندالمطالبه',I have not heard about 'عندالاستطاعه' , we have only 'عندالمطالبه' ,it means that whenever the girl asked for items which has been stipulated in wedding contract, her husband should gives them to her , or the equalling value of items by money payment . Some items are normally given to her ,like the set of Gold , travelling to Mecca , a part of house , but some items are given to her if she would be divorced .

One of my friend married 10 years ago , but his wife couldn't tolerate him , because my friend was interested in English ,he was master in English and taught in university , his world was only English language, ever day when he came back to house ,he sat on the sofa and read English book , he watched only English movies or Satellite English Channel, he had not time to speak with his wife at home ,after a year they started quarrelling. I interfered in their life and said to my friend " you are crazy, poor your wife who is living with you under a roof" , let make the long story short ,finally he divorced his wife , he had to sell his house and gave his wife 's Mehr . Now his wife is living with her parents ,but she is rich , she bought an expensive car and a shop, selling natural flowers.
My crazy friend went abroad and living there now. I believe that people in Esfahan who are very interested in English language are crazy, because I saw some of them, like my friend, who burned their life.

All the best
Mohsen

[Mohsen]

Hi Behnam,

I read your last post and enjoyed it , I was coming back from Tehran by a bus yesterday. There was a girl in the bus sitting in front seat ,she use a thick layer make up ,wearing a tight red dress , she didn't wear her scarf in bus ,because she used special hair model and she wanted to show it. I wanted to mentioned her to wear her scarf ,but my colleague who was sitting beside me didn't let me . He told me " Mohsen please sit on your seat and enjoy watching her".

These days some girls use a gauge to measure the reaction of boys .
What is your idea? Should we mentioned a points to some girls who didn't use Hejab or not? As you know Hejab is obligatory in Islam as well as Amr be maroof (امر به معروف).

All the best,
Mohsen

[[amal]]

Women must wear Hejab as it's written in Koran but it's also written :
قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ
I don't know why men forget this!!!

[Mohsen]

Hi Amal ,

It is clear that why men forget this, in this part of Koran God addresses to the believing men to cast down their look ,but majority of men are not believing men ,they only believe God by words ,not by heart. This is also for women (وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ ) ,in this part God addresses to the believing women to cast down their look , but why women forget it , the answer is the same as answer for men.

There always two internal forces which are quarreling in our mind, a force which is arising from believing in God ..the faith and the force which is resulting of devilish thoughts. When the women make themselves attractive by using make up and showing some parts their body , the devilish thoughts prevail over the pure faith .

Have a good time
Mohsen

[Mohsen]

Dear Friends ,

How are you , hope you enjoy from snow and watching beautiful winter.

MY wish for one day is that to write down on my white board " Today there is nothing to do " and finally today morning I wrote it after I changed my mind not to go to work and stay home ,all day to rest , it was very cold today ,we say that it was such a cold that my bones was frozen or my bones was burst.
At morning I made a decision to go to bed, so I went under the quilt and wrapped the quilt around my body in a way that only my two eyes are seen. I needed my eyes to watch TV , I changed many English news channels and checked the last news in the world , listening to many lies which this English channels said to people of the world until I went to sleep.
It was only passed half an hour which I started out of sleep by phone ringing. The other side of phone was my sister who was crying and asked me to dropped by there in a wind speed . The story was that her boy took his father's car and crashed to the wall in a place near to their house. When I arrived there the car was pressed on the wall ,and there was a lot of class bits everywhere on the ground . Fortunately Ali (the boy) was in health ,only there were some skin abrasions which were bleeding. It was a bit of odd and weird that he was in health ,because he didn't fasten the seat belt and crushed the car front glass by his head. I took him to the hospital to scan his head , God gave him a new life ,the C T scan didn't show any kind of defects.
My sister asked me to advise her boy, because he is not in age to get driving license. We talked together, and I asked Ali not to drive his father 'car any more. I told him " Ali, you are a 17 year high school student ,you have time for driving car ,it is better to focus on your school lessens now and be ready for university entrance exam , but he was busy with his mobile phone ,when I advising him…
I ate my lunch in my sister's house , In the evening I was coming back home , on the way I picked up my wife from her mother's house . It was heavy snowing on the street and the snow on the windshield was frozen. I wiped it by a piece of clothes ,because the wipers could clean it . It was difficult to drive on the frozen street , and I was very slow and cautious.

When I got the house , I rubbed the white board and wrote " never there is no problem"
I surly go to work tomorrow although the last news from TV announced that schools will be closed tomorrow.

All the best
Mohsen

[Mohsen]

Dear Friends,

Nothing happen if we change our habits ,just a new life perspective, first step can be scary to make a change, to change what we every day do ,but when we do it we feel light and satification.
Today I wore my sport shoes at morning ,wore a woolen hat and a woolen shawl around my neck ,I decided to go to work by bus (BRT line) . This was my first time I decided to go to work by bus ,I went to the bus kiosk to buy a BRT card ,then I follow the people to learn how they put their card on checking unit and inter the bus station.
That was difficult job to move out from confortable way of life (going by my own car). It was uncomfortable ,but if we want to grow we should feel uncomfortable . I had made decision to use public bus for many times,but it was my laziness which often leads me to procrastination .
Today I was very happy and satisfied with myself ,finally I succeeded to change one of my habits.
I felt that I shared myself to remove one of the social problems, also walking from home to bus station and from bus station in destination to my work place helps me lifting weight.
Sometime my boss says something which is not expected from him "A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for"
Do you think about changing in your life habits , please share it for me,if you have any expreince .may it is useful for me.

All the best,
Mohsen

[setayesh]

Hi my dear friends

I've missed you so much.This is just to let you know you are always in my heart.

regards

seti

[mortaza]

Dear Setayesh,

We miss you too! How are you? You must be graduated from university by now! Am I right? Would you please remind me of your major? I've forgotten!

Bets regards,

Moratza

[mortaza]

Dear Mohsen,

Thank you very much for keeping this thread active, thank you for your beautiful writings.

Breaking habits! It seems very exciting! It seems also a bit frightening at the same time!

It is now more than 6 years since we moved to this city, Damghan. It is because of my job. Everyday looks like the day before. The life is no longer fun or exciting (at least to me). I don't know how many more years we should stay here. If I am lucky, I would get a position in a university near my hometown and, then, we would move there.

Some of my colleagues never moved to this city. They still live in their hometown with their families. Every week, they take a train and get here, stay here for a few days (and nights!) and, after that, they take a train to return to their home to stay with their family during the weekend.

Sometimes, I am tempted to do just like my colleagues do (as mentioned above). However, as sometimes my colleagues confess, traveling every week is frustrating. It takes a lot of time and energy. (Compare this to your story: going to work by bus instead of your personal car.) When I make some calculations, again I decide not to move and stay here for a few more years!!

There are lots of things in everyone's life, I believe, that should be changed or broken for a better life. For example, instead of working a lot, one may spend more time on his hubbies. Moving from one place (house) to another is also a solution to make some fun in life; if this is not possible, at least we can change the decoration of our house. Planting also seems a good activity.

Let finish it here. I am looking forward to hear from you (everyone) soon.

Best regards,

Mortaza

[[amal]]

Hi Mohsen,

How are you?

Thanks for this topic. In fact maybe I am the most one who need it and need motivation!

These days, I am in no mood to do ANYTHING! I just like to SLEEEEP. I don't know why.. Although there is something inside me which badly wants me to change or break this Habit above that there are a lot of things on my to do list.

Everyday I wake up and say to myself that this day must be special and different. However, at the end of the day, I find myself doing nothing!

Above that, there are a lot of things which I used to do and love but now I stop doing it.. Like chatting with friends and crochet! I am bored of myself, in fact, I am bored of everything in this life.

Emm, to say the truth, emm, I think that I broke the routine a little when I read an Arabic book which called " قواعد العشق الاربعون" which was sth new for me since I'd always preferred reading English books... I'd enjoyed reading this one a lot and enjoyed reading Arabic stories! "I didn't expect that"

Today too, I did a little bit of change since I went to the kitchen and made "Cheesecake", I am very happy with it since I'd never made sth like that before. Above that, I rarely go to the kitchen to cook or do anything so I found it sth new!

Dear, here in Syria, during the last three years, our life as well as our habits have changed a lot..

For example: our life and food style became different and we had to "acclimate?" with the situation...
In the past also, we used to go by cars or buses to our jobs and schools, however now, the traffic crisis made it too hard since no matter how much the way was short, it would take us hours to get there! :(
So now people started to walk instead of using the transportation. And all places which we used to see it far became to short!
Moreover, the country situation, let us do everything by our hands and handmade things become very popular..
Emm, I find it a good change and we had to do it long time ago. Sometimes the crisis do a great changing with people and has its good effect.

I think we have to change ourselves before someone or something forced us to do it and that would be more effective!

In the end, I always remember this Aya: إن الله لا يغير ما بقوم حتى يغيروا ما بأنفسهم
and hope that we change in the way that god loves according to get his acceptance and change our country situation.

Wish you the best.
Amal

[behnam]

Hi friends,

This is just to let you know that I have missed you terribly. These days, I am very busy with studying, downloading, watching video courses, making myself ready (as a teacher) for the classes, etc. On Tuesdays I am teaching 'Electromagnetism'. On Wednesdays, besides having classes in the mornings, I am teaching 'Advanced Quantum Mechanics' in the afternoons. In this semester, I have got two important courses to study; 'Modern Quantum Optics' and 'Nanophysics'. I love both. These subjects are going to throw me to the edge of science and technology! I am extremely excited.

However, it doesn't mean that I have forgotten the thread and my friends, no never! I never forget nice people and good things! LOL! I visit the thread everyday, but honestly speaking, I cannot concentrate on writing. I hope you will understand me and the situation I am in now! I go to Azerbaijan province and come back every week. I go by train. It takes me about 12 hours to go and 12 hours to come back. Besides tiredness, I have to spend a lot of money. However, love makes things become easy. I love this tiredness!

I am the same Behnam in terms of friendship factorsو sure. You are always in my thoughts.

You cannot imagine how happy I am these days. God gave me the things I used to wish and love! Thank You God! I don't know how to thank God!

Please pray for me and wish me success!

All the best,
Behnam, 11 February, 2014

[behnam]

Hi Friends,

I am about to leave home. Today, as you may know, was the 35th anniversary of Islamic Revolution of Iran. It was a national holiday, so I was at home. From the beginning of the day, I was at my computer; downloading some books and reading some chapters of them. At the same time, I was checking Yahoo Messenger and Skype regularly to see if my old nagging friend is online or not! Unfortunately, I couldn't chat with my friend, although I was waiting all day.

I have packed, ready to leave. Tomorrow this time, I will have been coming back, since this Thursday, I haven't got any classes. Once in two weeks I am having classes on Thursdays. However, on Wednesdays I have got classes; both teaching and being taught. It means, next week, I will be at university from Tuesday morning until Thursday afternoon. Therefore, next week I will leave home at Monday night!

Wish me good luck.

Dear Amal, don't sleep a lot! Sleeping makes your eyes become puffy! Hahahaha..LOL! I just mentioned to your eyes, you can expand it to other areas! LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL

All the best,
Behnam, 11 February, 2014

[Mohsen]

Dear Mortaza,

How are you ,I hope you are fine and enjoying your life.

The life is going ahead and no one can foresee his/her future. For a man marriage and job are the most important factors which seriously change his life. Your idea for staying in Damghan and not moving to your hometown is good.In this way you have time to be beside your wife and children. Spiritually they need you to be there.
A friend of mine like you moved to Zanjan , because he couldn't bear weekly travelling from hometown to Zanjan .
There are both good and bad in all situations, all people and all things. But we have to choose one of them which is more beneficial to our life ,which is more suitable for improvement. A man who is responsible for improving of his family ,dedicate his life to his wife and children ,so he has an open look and choose his plan for living according to general growth of his family.

Spiritually I like living in the downtown. I can't stand living in the country ,in a small cities or in the mountain slope , I prefer to be squeezed in the bus door in the centre of city or to be pressed by the people who are around me.

This was happen when I went to celebration of 22th Bahman , ( celebrating of the 35th anniversary of Islamic revolution ).Hundred thousands of people were gathered in the Imam Square, I was close to the pavilion where Mr Zarghami ( The TV and Radio administrator ) delivered his speech then a singer ( Hamed Zamani ) song his famous singing ( Mark Bar Amrica ,it means Down with USA government policy). People who were exciting shook their flogs and song the singing together with the singer and the crowd waved from right to left ,at the same time two gliders men with parachute were diving in the sky, they tried to come down and fly over the crowd and then go up. The People were singing and whistling. I enjoyed being in this ceremony as well as visiting many old friends there.

All the best,
Mohsen

[Elham]

Hi Behnam,

Reading your posts,I feel very happy for you. I'm very happy to see my old nice friend is satisfied and enjoys his time with his love (Physics). Thank god.

Wish you the best, with you success,wish you happiness,

Eli

[mortaza]

Dear Amal,

I am quoting the following paragraph from your writing to say that I do agree one hundreds per cent with you on that.

In the end, I always remember this Aya: إن الله لا يغير ما بقوم حتى يغيروا ما بأنفسهم
and hope that we change in the way that god loves according to get his acceptance and change our country situation.

Before, we blame foreign enemies and go for a war, we should kill our inside enemy!

By the way, do not forget that

tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life

Bets wishes,

Mortaza

[[amal]]

Hi friends,

How are you all? I hope you are enjoying your time with your families..

First of all, I want to thank Behnam and Mortaza for there nice and kind words.

Dear friends, there is a contest on Facebook and I need your help to win, please just go to this link and put like for the photo:

https://www.facebook.com/ChocoSwamp/pho ... =1&theater

*By the way, I didn't make this cake, I just took a photo of it!

Thankss in advance.
Wish you the best,
Amal

[Mohsen]

Hi Amal.

I hope you deal with an impressive change soon , when you read forty rules of love you enjoy it a lot , that is good ,but not enough , you should change your world of fantasy to real world ,taking action and find someone to establish your loving relation in real world , stopping in fantasy is destructive , because love tale fantasy says that life should always work out in an ideal way in every detail like in movies, songs or books. In real life four rules of love doesn't work out, let alone forty rules .

Life is not a dream ,dream make us to be afraid of taking action ,because in world of fantasy everything is perfect and things do not work out that way in real life.

When we ride a bike for the first time, we may fall down , we don't think the failure is something bad ,we see it as something temporary and just keep moving after we fall down. Life is full of mistakes and stumbles, but a bump or an obstacle in the road is not the end of the world. They are simply a part of the life.

I hope to give you a good motivation for making a big change in your life.

I think we have to change ourselves before someone or something forced us to do it and that would be more effective!

In the end, I always remember this Aya: إن الله لا يغير ما بقوم حتى يغيروا ما بأنفسهم
and hope that we change in the way that god loves according to get his acceptance and change our country situation.

The interpretation of this Aya is that God never change the comfort and blessing of a society to misfortune unless they themselves change

Ibn Abbas," he says: whenever God showed favor to the community a favor and they thank them indeed ,he increase his blessing, but when the unappreciative adopted, he would deny them his blessings.

Imam Ali (AS) said
اذا اقبلت عليكم اطراف النّعم فلا تنفروا اقصاها بقلة الشّكر

Good Luck
Mohsen

[[amal]]

Hi Mohsen,

How are you?

Thanks for your post, it's really meaningful BUT you misunderstood! The book wasn't a forty rule about love, well, not that kind of love which you meant!
It is a forty rule to love god and become closer to him. Therefore I loved it!

The book is a quest infused with Sufi mysticism.. In the book there was a story which I loved the most, it was called " Sweet Blasphemy"

While "Mosa سيدنا" was crossing the mountain, he saw a shepherd who was praying so he felt happy and stopped to watch him from a far place. The shepherd's prayer was like: Oh my God lover I love you more than you know, I'll do anything for you , just tell me what you want, I would cook and clean for you... استغفر الله -and more other things which I prefer not to say-
When Mosa herd him he became angry and asked him loudly to stop praying and told him that isn't a prayer, it's blasphemy.

The shepherd felt ashamed and he apologized and Mosa taught him
how to pray. At night Mosa herd a voice, it was god's voice, blamed him about what he did with the shepherd because although he was praying in a wrong way but his heart was pure and had a good faith. God told him that it might his words sounds blasphemy for Mosa but it's a sweet blasphemy for him.

In the next day, Mosa looked for the shepherd after he understood his mistake, he found him praying in the way which he taught it to him but he was fumble without any passion. Mosa apologized from him and asked him to return to his old prayer since it was valuable for god but he refused and even he didn't ever pray in the way that Mosa taught him. However, he created a new way, a way which made him closer to god.

The moral of the story that we shouldn't judge the way in which people communicate with god. Each person will have his own way and prayers. God does not take us for our word, but look to the depths of our hearts, not rites or rituals are what make us believers, but the hearts if they were pure or not.

Sorry if it was a tall post but I loved to share it with you.
Thanks for reading.
Best wishes,

Amal

[behnam]

Hi friends,

How are you? I hope you are great, enjoying last weeks of the winter. This is to let you know I've missed you and writing here very much. I have got a lot of things to do these days; making myself ready for the classes as a teacher, completing the assignments, preparing slides for presentations that the professors ask for, studying many books and papers to deeply understand a subject, downloading and watching online courses related to the topics I am involved in, being on traveling on the weekends are just few to mention.

Luckily, my English is good enough to watch online video courses; which are extremely useful, and to refer to the references to study more and get the main ideas. Briefly speaking, I spend almost all my time on studying or doing something about my major. I really love it.

The professors and the people in Bonab are kind and friendly. I am really happy to be studying at Bonab university.

There are many interesting subjects and fantastic phenomena in Photonics. Photonic crystals, Metamaterials, Quantum Optics, Nanophysics, Plasmonic, ...! One thing that may make you amazed: Invisibility and cloaking are going to be real. Invisibility is not a dream or science fiction anymore! Metamaterials are going to revolutionize the world. Oh, something bad about it: the thieves will come to your home; wearing dresses made of Metamaterials, and will steal things but you won't be able to see them! Security and privacy are both threatened by Metamaterials. This is one of its drawbacks! Everything has got two sides; advantages and disadvantages! In other words, nothing can be absolutely useful.

All the best,
Behnam, 21 February, 2014

[Mohsen]

Hi Amal,

Thanks for sharing the story , The story of Moses and Shaban ( shepherded) is a famous story in Iran. It was composed in the form of poem by Iranian famous poet Maulana Jalaal ul Din
He wrote this beautiful poem in his famous book ,Masnavi

The story says that one day Musa passing through a way ,hearing a shepherd is saying, oh God if you were here I would comb your hair, take your nits out, bathe you, wash your dirty clothes, massage you, give you milk to drink etc. Upon hearing this Musa (as) reprimands this man and tells him that he has blasphemed as he is likening God to the creation and God is pure of all that he is ascribing to God, it is profane, sacrilegious, the shepherd becomes upset and runs into the dessert.
Musa is then reprimanded by God, God says to him, I have sent you to unite not to disunite, I have sent you into the world to bring people to me, to bridge people with me, but not to take my lovers away from me. And that's exactly what you have done. That man is one of the MOST intimate to me. what the shepherd was saying about me was acceptable as he was saying it out of love and sincerity, that is how he thinks of me. If you do not go and apologies to him, Go back! Apologize, I will no longer talk to you.
Musa (as) then searches for the shepherd and tells him that he was right and I was wrong, the shepherds blasphemy was belief and Musa (as) was mistaken all the way.
Amal these are the illusion of Sufism, they have lost the right track, the have isolated from the world ,while the Islam is a social religion and a person should active and follow what God messenger taught us.

All the best
Mohsen

[Mohsen]

Dear Behnam,

Thanks for your writing , I am happy to see that you are enjoying your life . You have engaged in many activities , and you haven't enough time to scratch your head ,let alone writing here , but you always are kind to your friend and write as much as you can, thanks.
I am not busy , but you know that new year is coming and many orders from house manager is on the way , This Friday I uninstalled the curtains ,washing them ,then I fixed them behind windows and doors, the plan for the next Friday is to remove dust from all over the house , oh my God , I feel the backache ,may God have mercy on me.
The story of invisibility is very exciting , If the thief wearing dresses made of Metamaterials, How he is invisible , Is it because of our eyes error ?

All the best,
Mohsen

[Mohsen]

Hallelujah

I make a dent by shovel and put slips geranium of in a row ,the vase of petunia ,pansy ,wallflower are putting on the stair case , Spring returns again, as it does every time, may God breathes a story into our frozen minds and the mental, emotional, or physical prison doors fly open, and we’re FREE!

[Mohsen]

Come, come whoever you are!
Wanderer, worshipper, lover of leaving.
It doesn't matter.
Ours is not a caravan
of despair.
Come,
come even if you have
broken your vows
a thousand times.
Come,
come yet again,
come!

[behnam]

Hi Mohsen and others,

How life is going? I hope all is going well with you. These days I am too busy to write. I am studying hard. Right now, I am here to download some books from the Internet. You may know that http://WWW.bookza.org and http://WWW.bookfi.org are two famous sites to download books. I often go there to download my favourite books.

For doing a PhD, that's essentially important to professionally use the English language. It really helps.

Dear Mohsen, thieves wear dresses made of metamaterials will be invisible. It is not because of optical illusion or something similar; it is the effect of metamaterials. An airplane made of metamaterials won't be visible in the sky! We will look at it, but we will see the things at the rear through it, as if it is totally transparent.

All the best,
Behnam, 10 March, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Have you ever thought about the variety of colours in nature? What is the physics behind it? Think about it, the answer isn't easy. Human just can detect a small region of electromagnetic waves by his eyes; the wavelengths between Ultraviolet and Red. How can we see? What makes colours?

What is light? Light is, maybe, one of the most fascinating and mysterious thing(what should I call it? Thing? Stuff? Subject?..) in the world. Actually, we don't see it, we detect it by detectors! Our eyes are sensitive detectors. They are sensitive to the optical spectrum of electromagnetic waves such as blue, green, yellow, red, etc. We don't see the colours. We detect them!

How do we detect electromagnetic waves? We detect the interactions of light with the matters! Yes, the interaction of light with atoms and molecules produce different colours? How do they interact with each other? This is a delicate challenging matter.

Male peacocks have beautiful feathers; right? What is the reason? Butterflies have beautiful wings, yes? What is the reason? Why don't you think, at least to satisfy your own curiosity? Aren't you curious about the physical phenomena around yourselves? Maybe no, because you may prefer money to knowledge! Yes, this is true for the majority of people in the world.

All the best,
Behnam, 11 March, 2014

[behnam]

Hi,

As you may know, 21st of March is the first day of our New Year. I would like to say 'Happy New Year' to all people who celebrate it as the beginning of the year, particularly, my Iranian friends. Needless to say that the first day of spring is celebrated in some countries such as Iran, Afghanistan, Kazakhstan, Uzbekistan, Azerbaijan, etc. These countries and some others(from India to Niel) were called Iran. Therefore the ancient Iran has been a large country. How was it governed? I don't know!

Oh, I am not going to give a lecture on the history of Iran. I don't bother! I just wanted to take this opportunity and say 'Happy New Year'! I hope 1393 will bring you more success, happiness and prosperity.

All the best,
Behnam, 19 March, 2014

[Mohsen]

I waiting for 3 days to find a good SMS for New year,finally receiving 30 SMS from friends ,I send my answer to all of them , In the parties people shared their SMS to each other , it is important for everybody to send his/her new year message ,but the best one , people are sinking in the world of poem ,and funny words which is written for new year occasion , For example, behave with others' pistachio the same as yours, laughing, some behavior for making laugh ,in the party I eat the pistachio and put the pistachio shell in my wife 's plate, makes her angry , laughing… also it is interesting that everybody wear new dress and clothes , my brother asked me what is your idea about my new suit .looked at it carefully ,thinking a second ,shaking my head I said , it seems to be second hand ,that made him angry ,laughing… speaking about people who are single and why they have not married and ,why people who have got married ,don't have child , that is usual between some ladies, nosy.. Some people are sensitive ,woe is to these people ,they become nervous.


Dear friends,

Wishing you all a happy, healthy prosperous New Year, I hope all of your dreams come true in 1393, This year brings us the blessing because it started with the name of Fatima (AS) the prophet Mohammad's daughter

All the best,
Mohsen

[behnam]

Hi Mohsen,

Happy New Year to you and to your family. How are you? I hope everything is fine.

Your post motivates me to write something about loneliness that is the main problem of human in 21st century. According to some experts, loneliness is threatening human's life in this century. Many things are involved in loneliness, but it is actually one of the bitter fruits of materialist philosophy.

As you have written, as I have noticed to repetitive messages on my mobile phone, these days people wait for a message to receive from someone, then to forward it to others! Not only don't they physically spend time with each other, but also they don't spend some time thinking about each other; at least by writing a message, creating a message by using their own words!

We go to visit friends or relatives. Well, everybody has had something to do before our visit. For example, the boy of the family, perhaps, had been playing computer game, the girl of the family, maybe, had been chatting etc. so they cannot stand us even for some minutes. They don't like our presence there, although they share some words with us to show that they are good hosts, their eyes yelling at us; "you are disturbing us and we don't like your presence. We wish you left here as soon as possible!"

Old members of the families don't know how to use modern devices such as advanced mobile phones and computers. Therefore, traditionally, they have to sit around for a while, but they have nothing to share with each other! Most of the time, they gossip about others or they complain about the gossips which they have been received from others, somehow relevant to the hosts! For example the woman of the family says, "You have said something about me to such-and such-person, that's not true. Your words have made me sad for some days!". At least, this woman is a frank person and opens her heart! The majority of people are two-faced! They don't reveal their true thoughts!

The men of the family share some words about the financial problems or politics; depends on the taste of families, and eat something to kill time!

These days, the situation is very much similar to the story of Sheikh Saadi in Golestan which is about putting a crow and a nightingale into a cage! Both were nagging each other! The crow keeps saying; "How unlucky I am. What a bad situation I am in! Nothing could be worse than this!" On the other hand, the nightingale is saying the similar words! They cannot tolerate each other!

I am not saying that some people are crows and some others are like nightingales. However, the situation that we are in is like the cage! We cannot tolerate each other!

Our words prove that we, as the creator of those words, had been thinking about you, the receiver, while we were writing them. However, people even don't spend some time on writing their own words as short messages to send to others.

All of us know these things in our lives. We are all familiar with these things, because we experience it, as guest or host, in different particular situations. What is the reason? What has happened?

Something strange has happened. New generations are different from old generations! To be different is normal. Nothing is wrong with that, but in what aspects they are different? How much gap, and in which aspect is acceptable? Humans are different from animals, but is it normal to have such a cultural and social evolution between two generations? To what extent the difference between two generations is normal or acceptable? Let me give you an example. Suppose you want to connect two different objects into each other by heating them(imagine metal-to-glass sealing which is widely used in lamps). They have different thermal expansion coefficients. To what extent this difference allows them to have constructive and compatible connection? If we want to connect two different objects, to seal between them by heating, the difference between their thermal expansion coefficients must be less than 10(order -6)1/c, otherwise the stresses and strains don't let them keep sealing!

The existence of gulf between two generations is OK, but the difference must be bridgeable, otherwise human beings cannot tolerate each other(=destructive connection)!

Satellite TVs which are responsible to destroy all traditional cultures and then to westernize all nations are one of the main reasons. The dominant materialist philosophy is another reason. This philosophy says; "Enjoy your life as much as possible. This life is given to you once, you haven't got another chance, so live as you wish!" =Individualistic!

I have to leave quickly. Thank you for reading. I don't have time to correct the mistakes. So sorry.

All the best,
Behnam, 25 March, 2014

[behnam]

Hi,

Happy 13 Bedar to all Iranian friends. Happy grass-tying day! Hahahaha..I hope all your dreams come true in 1393!

All the best,
Behnam, 2 April, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Although I am a physicist, I am familiar with the history of Islam, because I am a Muslim. I am also familiar with the Holy Koran. Thanks to God and His grace, I understand the majority of it. Today is death-day of Prophet Muhammad's(PBUH) only daughter; Fatima(PBUH) the great. According to the history, she has been prophet's only daughter. However, her death has been so tragic! Some questions in my mind are always bothering me: 1) Why didn't they respect the only daughter of Prophet? 2) why did she die so early; at a very young age? 3) Why did they kill Prophet's grandchild in Karbala? 4) Some people believe the majority of Arab people aren't respectful and grateful, I personally disagree, but they often give some examples of the dark points of Islam's history after the death of Prophet Muhammad.

Forget everything, just answer to this question: Why didn't (some Arabs) have respect for the only daughter of Prophet Muhammad while her mother Khadije(PBUH) spent all her life in the improvement of Islam, and her father Muhammad(PBUH) was the honour of Arab. As a matter of fact, Arab was(and is) nothing without Muhammad.

Some other questions:
1) Why did Saddam Hussein(May God do not forgive him) listen to the westerners and attack Iran and kill our people? We are still suffering from the negative impacts of that imposed war. We were both Muslim, weren't we?
2) Right know, some Arabs from other Arab countries are killing people in Syria and destroying cities! Why?
3) Saudi Arabia is a close friend of America and other Islam's enemies, why?
4) Why does Saudi Arabia support Islam's enemies?
5) Why Arabs aren't united?
6) Why the world of Arab is not developed?
7) Some Arabs betray their friends easily why?
.....

Generalizing isn't fair and I am not generalizing, but those questions are always in my mind, as some dark points in the history of Islam. Specially, it really makes me wonder they had no respect for Muhammad's family, whereas Muhammad was(is) the honour of humanity.

All the best,
Behnam, 3 April, 2014

[Mohsen]

Dear Behnam,

On occasion Fatima martyrdom (Prophet Muhammad's(PBUH) daughter), there is 10 days different ceremonies in my city , I took part in these mourning ceremonies at mornings and nights. There is a kind of meditation for me when listening to Dr. Mohammad Ali Ansari ,describing parts of Imam Ali's book ( Nahjol balaghe). So I didn't have time to check my emails and posts. Tonight I was very tire and stayed at home.

I read your posts about some Arab people ,there are many questions which needs to write a book to answer them.
Unfortunately today the world is in the hands of some people who have military force and money ,so they are able to show the facts upside down. I read what European parliament resolved against Iran while thousands of criminals caused by them, without any trial, wolves in sheep's clothing passed a resolution expressing grave concern over the human rights situation in Iran and the “continued, systemic violation of fundamental rights” in the country. What the Europeans take into consideration are based on their own policies and serve their own interests.

The European countries militaries who accompany USA military forces in Afghanistan help them to kill thousands of innocent Afghan people and looting this country , the mineral mines , uranium.

After 14 years of occupation by U.S.and European military forces, they help Afghanistan to grow opium poppies, cultivation amounted to 210,000 hectares, they also support smugglers and lead them to Iran borders to distribute opium between Iranian youths. The biggest smuggling group are working between Afghanistan and Iran borders by supporting these foreign military forces. This is one of thousands activities of Europe –american anti-Iran polices .

When some of these smuggling groups were arrested by Iranian soldiers and executed to death , it is obvious that European passes a resolution and say that they deeply concerned about the continued and repeated violations of human rights in the Islamic Republic of Iran . No surprising ,when they have lost their friends ( smugglers),they surely object, nothing else is expected from them. They have addicted to looting, their history proves it.
I don't know if they show any reaction when French military helped the rebels to kill 800000 people in Rwanda during 100 days and made a bloodbath in Rwanda.
Surly this parliament don't consider the people of Rwanda as human being ,so there is no right for them to live..
This is a long story, but their faked faces are being cleared for world

Good night
Mohsen

[Mohsen]

Hi evry body,
I hope you have smile on lip while enjoy spring and beautiful sceneries. I don't know why some governments don't want to have peace in the earth . they are not content with their rights and continue to their oppression while people like to have peace and good relation.

Many Americans love Iran , one of them was Arthur Pope ,he was an Iranologist who passed away many years ago in Esfahan. His mausoleum is in the bank of Zayandehroud river, his wife is also buried beside him. At least I pass beside his tomb two times in a week , because his tomb is in a park where many people go for morning running.
I don't want to judge about him ,but Iranian are very skeptical to westerners ,because during history many of historical objects were stolen from Iran ancients buildings and monuments and they are in European museums now. Each famous museum in Europe has a section for Iranian arts and culture ,display many ancient objects.

Another American professor Richard Nelson Frye has passed away one month ago at the age of 94. Famed as “dean of the world’s Iranologists” among scholars, Frye died in Boston on March 27, 2014 .
Frye founded Middle Eastern studies department at Harvard University. His works and researches on Persian culture and civilization have played significant role in expanding Persian studies across the world.
He has researched and taught the cultural history of Iran, Central Asia and the Near East for over six decades. He had great affection for Iran and the Iranian people and traveled to Iran several times.
He wrote more than 20 books and over 150 articles about the ancient Iranian culture.
Frye, in his will, had expressed his wish to be buried next to the Zayandehroud River in his beloved city, Esfahan. This request was approved by Iranian president Mahmoud Ahmadinejad in September 2007, but American government cruel policy against Iranian at present, effects on everything that we can't forbearance it and let Frye 'wish comes true.

Good Luck,
Mohsen

[behnam]

Dear friends,

I dreamt about Amal and Marina last night. I actually dreamed of being in Syria and at Amal's home. It was such a sweet dream. I was also a long dream. You don't believe if I say in the middle of the dream I got awake, but after sleeping, I continued dreaming the same scene! It was wonderful.

I could talk to Amal, directly, face-to-face. Her father came and saw us talking(we were talking formally)! Her father was an old man in my dream. First, her father got shocked, then I introduced myself; "I am Behnam....". Suddenly he said, "Oh yes, professor Behnam...". But, he put his finger on his lips and made a sound like 'Hiss'. Actually, I understood he was asking me to speak quietly.

There were many people at the home. After some seconds, Amal went to the lady part of the home. I was with her father. I asked him about Marina. In this part of dream, Marina was Amal's sister!!! Then he said, "A few seconds ago, two ladies went out. They got through us, didn't you notice?" I answered, "Yes, yes, ..". He continued, "They were Marina and her mother." Marina could not talk with me. I just saw her from distance, she was a little bit darker than her photo. She was keeping a baby in her arms too. Strangely, all people knew the story of me and Marina! However, I deduced that they wanted to keep it unknown, due to marriage and...

In front of Amal's house, there was a very large garden full of high trees. In my dream, half of the garden belonged to Russia and the other half belonged to Turkey! The Russia side of the garden was been bombarding by some people(not Syrian). We could see the bombs coming down to the Russia part, and we could hear bomb explosions. In this part of the dream, I was an officer(but people didn't know that), I knew that Russia would reply firmly and strongly to that sudden attack. Some people in the market were happy. They were saying, "This is the act of God...Enemies are fighting with each other.." I wanted Amal's dad to leave that part of the country to go to the north with his family. He was proud(in this scene) and said a very quiet 'OK'. In fact he agreed to leave, but I didn't see any action.

Amal's home was on the border between Turkey and Russia! Oh my God! What a terrible mistake in the dream! Syria and Russia haven't got common border!

Amazingly, in the market people could understand Turkish very well. I spoke to some of them in Azerbaijani and they replied me happily.

I was talking in English in the dream, but Amal's family could understand me. They were holding a party and men and women were separated. There were men part and women part. I just saw her family from distance. Nobody introduced them to me, but I deduced from some signs that such-and-such lady is Marina; such-and-such lady is Amal's mother and so on!

It was a very very very nice dream. It was so sweet that I talked about it with my close friends. It was amazing.

I hope they are all healthy. I've missed them very much.

All the best,
Behnam, 18 April, 2014

[[amal]]

Hi Behnam,

How are you? How is your life? I hope everything is going well with you..

Dear, you can't believe how much your dream made me happy, I read your post today immediately after I woke up, it was very nice to open my eyes and see such words and pure feelings. It isn't just a dream for me, it means a lot..
I know that I am in your thoughts always and be sure that the same is here too. I'd never forgot about you even for a second...

These days, I am verrry busy, therefore, I couldn't come to chat with you, please forgive me. As you know, I got engaged and tomorrow is my big engagement party, we will wear the rings in front of all my relatives and my fiance's relatives.. "I think this is what you saw in your dream!" I really really wish you could come and celebrate with me!

Emm,we had made a party earlier but it was very small and nobody knew about it.. But now I am a little bit worried about this one!

Emm, being Marina's sister even if it was just in your dreams, makes me proud. She is really a great lady and I hope we could hear sth from her soon!

Please dear, wish me luck and keep praying for me, I need your prayers!

Love you,
Amal

[behnam]

Hi Amal,

I warmly congratulate you for such an important event in your life. I wish you all the best in the world. I hope marriage will bring you the peace of mind that God has addressed in the Holy Koran(سورة الروم-آیه 22).

مبروک الف مبروک

I wish you everlasting happiness!
All the best,
Behnam, 20 April, 2014

[shahrubanu]

Hi Behnam and Amal

I really missed you terribly but I m very busy that s why I couldn t write here for a long time, but please hold this fact in your mind you are always in my heart and thought.
Amal dear friend I m really happy for you:) congratulations! wish me good luck too for marriage :)
I hope that you will be happy forever

[Mohsen]

Hi Amal,

I am very happy to know about your engagement
Congratulation, I wish you a long life and happiness ,God bless you both on your engagement.
All the best
mohsen

[shahrubanu]

behnam where are you? :(

[behnam]

Hi Shahrbanu,

How are you? I hope you are fine. I've missed you. I am here, but where are you?

You are neither here nor there! What has happened? I hope good things are surrounding you.

All the best,
Behnam, 28 April, 2014

[shahrubanu]

ı m fine :) why don t you speak with your sister then :(

[behnam]

Hi Shahrbanu,

In fact, you are absent not me. Therefore, I should ask where you are. Why don't you get online as you used to do? When I am at home(on Thursdays, Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays) I am online as before. However, when I am at university, I am too busy to even think of the Internet; let alone getting online.

That's a great honour for me to talk with you. However, you are absent these days. That's OK! I hope you are living happily; as you wish and deserve!

All the best,
Behnam, 1 May, 2014

[behnam]

Mother's Day is the perfect opportunity to express deepest sentiments of love and appreciation to all the moms in our lives who have made a difference. The best way to express gratitude to all moms around you is through respect and a bunch of flowers. I wish all the mothers a very

Happy Mother's Day!

All the best,
Behnam, 11 May, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

How are you? How things are going with you? I hope all is going well with you and you are enjoying every moment of your life.

As you may know, in some parts of the world the second Sunday of May is 'Mother's Day'! Today is 13th Ra-jab(in Lunar Calendar). It is Imam Ali's birthday. In Iran, this day is named 'Father's Day'! Oh my God! What a coincidence! Father's Day in Iran, Mother's Day in some countries!

As I mentioned above, in Iran, Imam Ali's birthday is named 'Father's Day' and 'Man's Day', Fatimah's birthday is named 'Mother's day' and 'Woman's Day'! We are proud of having such a meaningful, perfect and inspiring days in our calendar.

Happy 'Father's and Mother's Day' to all fathers and mothers in the world.

All the best,
Behnam, 13 May, 2014

[behnam]

Dear friends,

This is just to say 'Happy Eid-Ul-Mabas' to all Muslims.

Mohsen, Elham, Amal, Shahrbanu, Setayesh, Marina, Andrew, ...where are you? I HAVE MISSED YOU!

Next Tuesday, I'm taking and giving exam! In the morning, I am giving exam to students. In the afternoon, I am sitting for exam! What a day!

I wish you all the best in the world.


All the best,
Behnam, 27 May, 2014

[MrNice]

Hi, everyone.. I'm Steve from Korea. I'm new here and I'm glad to be part of this club..
let's have fun everyone^^

[behnam]

Hi MrNice,

Welcome to this silent garden, like what we see in winters; snow on the ground, no leaves on trees, and we hear crows crying instead of nightingale singing! A few years ago, this garden had no empty places for others; always packed with different people from different parts of the world. What has happened to this beautiful place? I don't know!

The shortage of water? Maybe! The oldness of trees? Maybe! The death of its owner? Maybe! Maybe, all of them together! What a sad story!

I really feel nostalgic about the past.

Welcome! Thank you for knocking the door of this old cottage, on the corner of this ruined garden, and making the old gardener happy. The old poor tired gardener, sickly lying on the wooden bed, reads love stories and has mixed feelings. Will the nightingales come to this garden again? Is there any hope for spring days; the garden full of beautiful flowers, bees are taking sweetness from them while making that high frequent famous noise; wizzzzzzz? I hope so!

All the best,
Behnam, 28 May, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

How are you? I hope all is going well with you.

Regardless of some nice phrases inside it, I found the message of this story interesting. I hope you like it.
**************************

On his first day in office, as President Abraham Lincoln entered to give his inaugural address, one man stood up. He was a rich aristocrat.

He said, "Mr. Lincoln, you should not forget that your father used to make shoes for my family."

And the whole Senate laughed; they thought they had made a fool of Lincoln. But certain people are made of a totally different mettle.

Lincoln looked at the man directly in the eye and said, "Sir, I know that my father used to make shoes for your family, and there will be many others here, because he made shoes the way nobody else can. He was a creator. His shoes were not just shoes; he poured his whole soul into them.

"I want to ask you, have you any complaint? Because I know how to make shoes myself. If you have any complaint I can make you another pair of shoes. But as far as I know, nobody has ever complained about my father's shoes. He was a genius, a great creator and I am proud of my father."

The whole Senate was struck dumb. They could not understand what kind of man Abraham Lincoln was. He was proud because his father did his job so well that not even a single complaint had ever been heard.


All the best,
Behnam, 28 May, 2014

[behnam]

The Stone on the Road

One day a farmer, walking down the street in a small town came across a large stone in the middle of his path. The farmer complained: "Who could be so careless as to leave such a big stone on the road? Why does someone not remove it?" He went away complaining.

The next day, the same thing happened with a milkman. He too went away grumbling but left the stone as it was.

Then one day, a student came across the stone. Worried that someone may fall over it and hurt himself, he decided to push it aside. He pushed long and hard all by himself and eventually managed to remove the stone from the path. He came back and noticed a piece of paper where the stone was kept.

He picked the paper and opened it. Inside was written, "You are the true wealth of this nation."

There are two kinds of people
Talkers and doers.
Talkers merely talk, while doers do.

The moral of this story is that if you don't want to get involved you have no right to criticize Become the change you wish to see in this world.

Service to society is the rent we pay for the space we occupy on this Earth!


All the best,
Behnam, 28 May, 2014

[behnam]

Hi,

Tomorrow, I have to sit for exam. The course is 'Nanophotonics'. I like it. I am ready for the exam.

My students must sit for their final exam too. The course is called 'Basic Physics 2'. It concerns Electricity and magnetism. The questions are ready!

I am about to leave Tehran.

Wish me good luck please!

All the best,
Behnam, 02 June, 2014

[behnam]

7 Things You Should Add to Your "Stop Doing List"

You probably make lists of things to do and follow them through. But what about the things you should stop doing? Successful people do not do the following things but chances are you still do. Make a decision to add these to your "stop doing list" these from today going forward:

1. Making Excuses. Successful people do not blame others or make excuses or complain about their bad luck. They take full responsibility for their lives. They know that success and failure lie in their hands. So stop being a victim, stop whining and stop making excuses.

2. Drifting. Winners have a plan. They have a direction and a purpose. They do not drift through life hoping for the best. They set goals and then set about achieving them. If you approach each day in a happy go lucky way then stop. Stop drifting and start planning. Develop a vision of a successful you. List what you have to do to get there. Plan your work then work your plan.

3. Sitting in Front of a Computer All Day (or worse still…a TV). Sure there are some important things you can do sitting at your screen but do not spend all day there. Get out and meet people, network, learn. Do things with the people you want to lead or help or do business with.

4. Putting Things Off. Procrastination is the enemy of success. Decide on your objective, list out the tasks you have to complete, prioritize them and then get on with the top ones. We all suffer the temptation to put off the jobs we fear or dislike. Bite the bullet. Eat the frog. Do the job.

5. Just the Easy Stuff. Which tasks do you spend most time on? The important, the urgent, the easy or the routine? If you spend most of your time on easy or less important tasks then stop. You should focus first on the most important jobs, the ones that will move you towards your strategic objective. You should delegate or ignore the low value activities.

6. Sitting in Ineffective Meetings. Do you waste time at work in low-value meetings? Most office workers do. Every meeting should have a clear purpose, an agenda and a skilled chairperson who keeps the meeting focused on delivering its objectives. Do not go to poor meetings just ask for a summary of agreed actions.

7. Limiting your Ambition. Successful people have enormous self-belief, drive and ambition. They hold themselves to high standards. Are you holding yourself back? Have you lost some of your self-belief and confidence? Start afresh. Set yourself ambitious goals. Remind yourself of your skills and achievements. Motivate yourself every day.

If you can eliminate the low value activities and the negative things you do then you will free yourself to succeed. Stop doing the things that you know are wasting your time and start building your success.

All the best,
Behnam, 4 June, 2014

[behnam]

6 Tips for Resolving Conflicts

Resolving conflicts whether in office, in friends community or at home is a challenge. The situation sometimes get worst when nobody shows the flexibility on his/her stance. The below tips might help when you have been assigned (Or you assign it to yourself) to resolve the conflict.

1-Be fair regardless of your relation with different parties. Sometimes your closed one can be wrong. Hence make up your mind to be transparent and fair throughout. Judge people fairly.

2-Empathetic Listening is very important. Listen to all parties carefully. Put yourself in their shoes to understand their stance.

3-Carefully analyze the statements from each party. List down the pros and cons of the stance from each party. Sometimes both parties are right and sometimes both are wrong. In your analysis you need to find the option which gives maximum benefit to everyone.

4-If the conflict is between two persons, consider a solution which neither party-A has proposed, neither B has Proposed but the third solution which suits both persons. Consider Win-Win scenario where everyone gains something at the cost of compromise.

5-If you want to give advice to a party (which you think is wrong), give it privately. Don't do counseling when both are present. This will offend one party and may strain the relations further. Remember not to criticise.

6-Sometimes youngsters are right and old ones are wrong. If the issue is not too serious, request youngsters to be flexible. It always pay off. Remember that we have learnt so much from our seniors (bosses, team leads, parents and other senior family members). So this is the time to pay back to make them feel proud about their teachings and to develop trust in relations.

Developing emotional intelligence is another approach to study people and understand them in depth. As per Wikipedia "Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups" Learn this technique to improve your mental powers. Google it.

[behnam]

Character Building Thoughts

1. How I look is not as important as how I act.
2. I treat others the way I want them to treat me.
3. I am a good sport; I follow the rules, take turns and play fair.
4. It is okay to laugh at funny things, but not to laugh at others.
5. I do not gossip; if I cannot say anything helpful, I do not say anything at all.
6. When I am sad, I help myself feel better by thinking of things that are good in my life.
7. In order to have friends, I must act in a kind way.
8. I believe that I am someone who can do important things.
9. What I say and how I say it tells others the kind of person I am.
10. I appreciate my family, my teachers, and my school.
11. I treat everyone with respect.
12. When I listen, I show others that I care about them.
13. I am being a good citizen when I volunteer to help others.
14. I think for myself and make smart choices that are good for me.
15. Each day offers a new start to do my best.
16. I try to understand what my friends are feeling.
17. Everyone makes mistakes, so instead of getting angry with myself, I try to do better.
18. I do not give up; I keep trying until I can do my work.
19. Sharing with others makes me feel good and makes them feel good too.
20. I work out my problems without hurting myself or others.
21. I am being polite when I wait for my turn and say please and thank you.
22. When I smile at people, they usually smile back.
23. I encourage my friends to do their best.
24. My values guide me to do what is right.
25. I am honest; I do not cheat or steal.
26. When I am angry, I use self-control and do not hurt others.
27. I am being creative when I draw, paint or write a poem or story.
28. I say, "No!" to things that could hurt my body like tobacco/cigarettes/alcohol.
29. When I do what I say I will do, I am being responsible.
30. I am grateful for what I have, so I share with others.
31. I try to learn something new each day.
32. When things do not go my way, I stop and think of what I can do to make them better.
33. I do not make fun of other children because I don't know what their life is like.
34. I feel successful when I do my best.
35. Everyone has good and bad feelings.
36. I take care of myself by eating healthy food, exercising and getting enough rest.
37. I am being punctual when I am on time and do not keep people waiting.
38. When I cooperate with others, I get more done.
39. I follow the rules and try to make my school a better place.
40. I like to get to know children who are different from me.
41. Since I tell the truth, my friends trust me.
42. I look for what is good in others and I say what I like about them.
43. I buy only what I need and I save my money.
44. When I use my time wisely, there is usually enough time to do what I want to do.
45. I think before I act; how I act affects how others treat me.
46. Using manners helps me keep my friends.
47. I have courage to stand up for children who are teased.
48. Before I do something, I ask myself, "Is it safe?"
49. I am me -- I do not try to be like someone else.
50. I care about living things on earth so I recycle and do not litter.
51. When I write down what I think and feel, I learn about myself.
52. I plan ahead and think about what I want to do when I grow up.

All the best,
Behnam, 13 June, 2014

[Mohsen]

Hi Behnam,

How are you my friend , hope you are fine and enjoy your life . How are the towins. In fact I was in travel for two weeks,also I feel so lazy these day,whenever I want to open the website or somthing to read ,I go to sleep right away. I don't know why maybe because I am extrimist in eating of seasonal furits. the melons in different shapes ,cheery and apricat. I think it makes a probelm in my body. it causes that the precent of urea exceed the normal ,so I go to sleep more than normal. I tried don't go to sleep to see the football much two nights ago , the Iran - Nigeria soccer, so I took the TV to the yard and sitting beside the gurden and put a baskect of furits in front of myself . I ate as much as I could to avoid sleeping , and finally I suceeded to watch the game completely.

I haven't any practise in English ,so I think it is difficult for me to write.

good bye
Mohsen

[behnam]

Hi Mohsen,

How are you? How is everything with you? I hope all is going well and you are enjoying every second of your life. My kids and wife are well. Thank you very much for your care.

Next week, on Wednesday, I have an important exam. Actually, it is important to pass the course successfully with full mark. I am the only student! Can you imagine a situation in which you are alone and you sit for an exam? It is really uninterested. You know why? Well, you cannot prove yourself. Nobody is there to be compared with. It is like a competition with no rival! The level of motivation is low!

Fruits aren't bad for our health, are they? However, manage what you eat.

I am not interested in football. I have no time for lying in front of TV!

All the best,
Behnam, 19 June, 2014

[Mohsen]

Hi Behnam,

I hope you get the best mark in your exam , you are seroius in reaching to your goal ,so you don't need anyone to compete beside you. also your are not a child or a school student ,you don't need to defeat others to prove yourself and to be praised.

I like football and other sports ,because I used to play them ,but now I try not to watch football ,because I think it wastes my time . It is like a person who addict to smok ,althought he knows it is harmful for his health ,but he is not able to avoid it.

have a good time
Mohsen

[behnam]

Hi again Mohsen,

Thank you very much for the early reply.

Motivation is essentially important when it comes to what human beings do! What does motivate us to act or react? I am not in the mood for philosophical discussion, but, it is necessary to be noticed that positive competition motivates us to do our best and to work hard. I cannot prove myself! Yes, that's true. The exam isn't interesting at all! Suppose, I got 15 out of 20! How could I prove my hard work? How could I say to the professor that the exam was unusual, hard, difficult, etc.? If there were someone else, comparison was possible. I am studying and working hard, even beyond what the professor has taught. I am ready for exam, and I will make the professor amazed. However, the positive effects of having a rival cannot be denied.

About football, enjoy it. If something helps you relax; and it isn't against rules of course, do it! I used to watch football, but at that time, players were fair and worth supporting. These days, there is no point in supporting some silly men with strange styles of hair and a lot of tattoos...! So disgusting!

Things have changed! Football is good for rich countries(with rich people). It should be mentioned that there are many rich countries in the world, but a few of them have rich people. Football is not good for a country with a wide gulf between the rich and the poor!

All the best,
Behnam, 19 June, 2014

[behnam]

Mohsen, we are talking about football. It is convenient to say some nice things related to football!

A husband wrote to his wife: The FIFA World Cup is close by. Let me give you a few rules that will preserve your beauty.

1. The remote control belongs to me for the whole month.

2. Tell all your friends not to give birth or wed or die or whatever during the World Cup because we won't go.

3. No talking during the game, wait for half-time or end of the game.

4. Repeats & highlights are as good as the main match, so I am going to watch them too.

5. We can watch STAR PLUS provided actors and actresses are wearing soccer jerseys and they are in Brazil.

6. You don't just pass in front of the TV if am watching soccer, you better crawl on the floor.

7. Make sure you don't ask silly questions such as; is this Chelsea versus England?

8. No funny faces to my friends when they come for soccer.

9. There shall be no comments about Cristiano Ronaldo's looks. Professionalism shall remain an absolute part of the WC.

10. If you miss the line up please don't ask, 'Who's that guy?'

11. Ronaldo the Brazilian and Ronaldo the Portuguese are not related, India and Pakistan did not qualify, so please no stupid questions.

Thank you
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All the best,
Behnam, 19 June, 2014

[setayesh]

Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

How are you all? I hope all is well with you

I've just written a long text here but I forgot to save it.what happened ??? I lost the whole text before submitting it!

I'll rewrite it another time again


happy being here again.
Seti

[behnam]

10 Things that You Can Control in Your Life

We humans spend much of our time trying to control every aspect of our lives.
Unfortunately, too often we try and control things that are simply beyond our control.
The list of what we can control is quite short, but once you know these 10 things you will be able to take control of your own life.

1. What you do: Your actions are yours alone.
You choose to make them or not make them and you are responsible for the effects of those actions.

2. What you say: Likewise, the words you speak (or write) are also consciously chosen. Like actions, they have an impact on your life and the lives of those you contact.

3. What you think: Yes, there are some subconscious thoughts that you can't control. But the things that you really think about, your beliefs, your ideals, etc. are concepts you have chosen to accept and believe in.

4. Your work: Many people like to overlook this one, it being much easier to say, "Oh, I'm! trapped in my job because I don't have a degree, experience, etc." That's simple a way of denying one's responsibility in having chosen the job in the first place. It's your job and you chose it. If you stay (or go), that's a choice as well.

5. The people you associate with: There's a famous T-shirt that states: "It's hard to soar like an eagle when you're surrounded by turkeys."
Colloquial is very often correct! Your friends can either lift you up or bring you down. You make the decision which type of friends you wish to have.

6. Your basic physical health: Much about our health is a factor of genetics, environment, and exposure. Much more of our health is simply a matter of the decisions we make about our health, such as: diet, exercise, drugs, sleep, routine physicals, check-ups, etc.

7. The environment you live in: Your house, the condition of your home, the town you live in, the amenities available to you are all things you can control, although some to a lesser degree (i.e., you decide to tolerate them or move someplace else).

8. Your fiscal situation: Having or not having enough money is a factor of what you make versus what you spend.

9. Your time: You choose how to "spend" your time and how much of your time to give to various activities. You'll never get more time than the 24 hours your given each day.

10. Your legacy: All your actions, words, and knowledge that you share while you are living become the gift that you leave when you are gone.

All the best,
Behnam, 21 June, 2014

[Mohsen]

Hi Behnam,

How was your exam , I hope you were satisfied with the result .Yes , I agree with you ,motivation is important , it causes that we keep moving ahead .many things can motivate a person , competition , money ,love ,sex, position ,power, inferiority complex .

About football players who use strange style of hair and lot of tattoos what is the motivation. What is the motivation behind the women who use make up and tattoos and show their bodies by wearing of tight dress in the street?

a person who is not beautiful try to use special hear style , I saw a black color football player (negro) who made his hear like a rooster crest in yellow color, and a woman who used as much as make up to look more beautiful, they try to repair their face by these tools

Some people like to be famous , so use special tattoos on skin, there are some crazy people who love ugly things, when a foolish person in another side of the world do something ,it become an style or model or fashion ,so stupid people follow it

Dear Behnam lunacy is ruining the humanity. It is models , wars which are spread in the world ,some seditious activities which spread by some companies like BBC. I was watching BBC today, BBC tries to cheat people by telling fake news about some terrorists in Iraq by calling them Ahle Sunnat . sometime show the fashion design which mostly are made by Jewish designer.

Don’t worry there are many wise people who never be captured by these cultural attack ,although the foolish are most on the screens.

bye
mohsen

[behnam]

Hi Mohsen,

Thank you very much for your post. There are some nice points; motivating actually, in your post. God willing and wife allowing(Hehehehe...), about those points and the exam, I will post a post today!

All the best,
Behnam, 26 June, 2014

[behnam]

Hi Friends,

How are you? I hope you are fine. I love the following article. Aside from the inclusion of some useful phrases such as "Social crises, familial crises, lack of trust, loss of respect, ..." the text is handy itself! I hope you'll like it!

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7 Tips for Peace of Mind

When you were child you had a pure mind; the mind which was free from worries and anxieties. As the time passed, you were influenced by several social, personal, familial and official crises such as financial complications, broken relationship, lack of trust, joblessness, failure in business, loss of respect and so on. When the mind is stressful, the associated germs of negativity, jealousy and pessimism add fuel to fire and hence your pure mind becomes impure.

These impurities if taken out can bring back the mental purity hence real spirit of joy of childhood can be attained up to an adequate level. Off course you cannot fix all of your problem at once but you can train your mind to develop the skills which can help either bypass or overcome the depressed and tragic situations so as to give you a big time relaxation while you focus on the solution to your problems. Below are some techniques which can be used to combat the peace stealing triggers:

Mind your own business. Yes, please mind your own business. When you start being concerned about things which are not related to you, you lose your grip on your thought process which often results in negativity disturbing the mental peace. Basically, your mind starts wandering here and there. As you know that a non-focused mind is evil's workshop hence the germs of negativity and jealousy gain more strength. So next time an unnecessary thought comes to your mind, think whether this is really something you should be worrying for? If not, shun it right away and focus on something positive, practical and fruitful.

Surround yourself in positive people. Ignore negative comments and stay away from negative souls. When someone is negative, he spreads negativity and you get affected. Permanently staying with such people will have long term impact on your character so think about your company.

Don't think about others too much. Remember the great quote: small minds discuss people; Average minds discuss events; Higher minds discuss ideas and Great minds act in silence. Don't allow your brain to compare yourself to others as this is an insult to yourself. Don't be Jealous; it's a heart killing disease, get rid of it as soon as possible. When you are jealous you focus on finding faults in others even if they don't have. This poisons your soul and steals the mental peace.

You can't keep everyone happy. Don't be over sensitive. Be natural and genuine in what you do. Be positive, constructive and ethical in your deeds and then don't really care too much about others. Be aware, don't apply this formula to too closed relations. Develop trust to establish powerful relationships.

Control your mood swings as it is an indication of unstable personality. Do it by not being over sensitive to others. Stop being reactive and implosive. Stay calm.

Ignore your thoughts about being unlucky. Bad luck happens to everyone. It's not your fault at all. Time whether good or bad, passes quickly. Develop the power of not looking back into your past. Believe in the power of Now. Believe in your skills. Work hard and have faith in God; you will get what you have been entitled for. Be patient and see what God has planned for you. Patience and consistency in your deeds is the key to success.

Simplicity in your character and living style can overcome the stress and improve your happiness index. Don't be socially sensitive and start following every single trend your social circle is following.

With these recommendations, I believe you can bring major changes in your life style hence attain back your mental peace.

All the best,
Behnam, 26 June, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

How are you? I hope you are fine.

As I'd promised, now I write something about the exam. The subject was 'Quantum Optics' which is one of the two mains subjects in studying Photonics. As you may know, I had to go to Tabriz University to sit for the exam, the great professor was at Tabriz University on Wednesday!

Tabriz is a really beautiful city; beautiful buildings, trees, shopping centers, etc. The weather was nice and the sky was blue. There were no clouds in the sky. The first thing you may notice when putting your feet out of the Railway Station is the colour contrast between the trees in Tehran and Tabriz. There is a big difference between the green we use to describe the colour of trees in Tehran and what it is like in Tabriz! I don't know how to put it; all I am saying is that in Tabriz, the trees were greener and brighter.

Anyway, at 10 o'clock, I was at the professor's office! After greeting, he gave me the questions and some papers. He had to attend at a meeting, so had to leave the office. When he was leaving look what I said: "Dear professor, since I've studied this subject very well, I hope to get the complete mark(20 out of 20)! In order not to be faced with accusation of cheating(using books, and similar things, since the exam was closed-book) please take my briefcase with yourself, or put it somewhere out of the reach of my hand!" The professor got shucked and said, "Come on Mr... I do trust you!"

I insisted on it and he finally took my briefcase and put it on his desk(I had another desk to sit back and to answer the questions).

Fortunately, after the professor leave, some students and another professor came to his office and waited for him! Therefore, I wasn't alone at the office. Although I was the only student-busy with questions-at the office, there were some other people at the office too!

On the question paper, there were 4 questions. Two questions were related to the discussed matters at the classroom, but two of them seemed new to me. I solved one of the new questions(Question 2). It took me about one hour to solve it. I drove the equation which was asked. It was a very nice question. I wrote 4 sheets as the answer of question 2! At 12 o'clock, the professor came to the office and said; "Mr... what's up?" I replied, "I've answered to the question 2, now I am doing question 1. By the way, thank you for making such a comprehensive question."

He surprisingly asked; 'have you solved it?" I answered; "Yes, I have." Then I gave him the sheets and he looked at them. He said; 'It seems you have studied well."

At 14:30 he came to the office and asked,; "Mr...what's up?" I answered; "I have completed two questions. I am about to finish question 3 too." He kindly said; "That's enough! You have studied very well. You don't need to answer to the question 4! Complete question 3, and let's go!". After 5 minutes, I finished question 3 and gave him the sheets. I wrote 14 sheets for answering to 3 questions!

Question 4 was easy. It was related to the discussed matters in the class.

At 15 o'clock, I was in a traditional restaurant eating broth. I love broth very much. Tabriz is famous for its broth by the way. Then I bought some souvenirs and left Tabriz-my motherland- at 19 o'clock!

By the grace of God, the exam was great. I did it very well.

All the best,
Behnam, 27 June, 2014

[behnam]

Hi Mohsen,

According to the history of Islam, Mula Ali used to talk to water wells! I am not comparable with Ali-nobody is comparable with him because in his book(Nahjolbalaghe) he has shown that he had been different from ordinary people. However, I may understand why Ali has done it. I may understand what had made him talk to the wells.

I believe the history is repetitive. The same human beings with the same desires, needs, senses, emotions, etc. were living on the Earth thousands years ago. The great change in science and technology isn't deniable, and I am not denying it. However, the technology may change the kinds of foods or the method of cooking them. It can create new recipes, but hunger or thirst is the same among human beings. Therefore, by studying the past we can understand the present and predict the future! I guess this is why people often say 'History is a big teacher!'

I don't mean to criticize people, the society and the culture. I don't mean to judge. However, I've got some unanswered questions. I am at my forties. After forty years, I still don't know the answer of some questions. In this post, I am going to mention to one of the unanswered questions in my mind.

There are thousands TV and radio stations in the world. For example, BBC(British Broadcasting Corporation) has been broadcasting programs in different languages for many years. Consider the importance of money in the materialist philosophy as a principle, the question is this: How is the BBC supported financially and why? This question can be asked in many ways. For example, how do they give salaries to some people to create some programs for Persian? What' are the benefits of it?

We don't need to be as wise as Einstein to understand the purposes of BBC and other similar stations such as VOA etc. Everybody may know the answer. However, my question turns to be this: Despite the fact that everybody may know the purposes of those stations, why do people put satellite dishes(big ears actually) on the roofs to listen to them? This is magical and mysterious!

Oh, I don't want to dig it more. I don't want to criticize people and my society. I don't want to judge, but I can safely and surely say 'the majority of people are like sheep. They are like the pieces of chess. Those stations play with them!' What is the percentage of 'sheep like people'? More than 99 percent of people in my opinion! It is amazing by the way, the percentage of the Baa Baa ees(sheep) is going up as the time passes!

Mohsen, it is the era of talking to well. If someone doesn't talk to well, s/he falls into 'sheep like people's group'! Is that clear? I hope so!

Those women and men with those tattoos, make-ups, ... are in the first layer of 'sheep like' people. Those are like solders in the chess board. They are played sooner than other pieces. My question can be asked in a different way too: Who is the main king in the chess board? This is one of the unanswered questions in my mind!!!

All the best,
Behnam, 27 June, 2014

[behnam]

Dear friends, some clarification and correction is needed. Women and men with those tattoos, make-up, hair styles,... are in the first layer of 'sheep like people' group. Those are like soldiers in the world's chess board. They are played(moved by chess players) earlier than other pieces. My question can be asked in a different way too: Who is the main king in the chess board and who are the main chess players in the world? This is one of the biggest secrets and an unanswered question in my mind!!!

Finally, we should ask ourselves about our roles in the world's chess board! What is my role? Am I a player? If not, which piece of chess am I? It should be kept in mind that people fall into three categories in the materialist philosophy; the players, the pieces, and neutrals. Obviously, the vast majority of people are chess pieces; mainly soldiers! That's very difficult to belong to the neutral group! Someone must be very wise to fit into this group. In conclusion, the distribution of people is something like this: More than 99 percent of people are soldiers. Some of them are other pieces. A few of them are players(the number of players is less than the number of fingers in one person's hands), and a few of them are neutral.

Let's see what the greatest and wisest man in the history of Islam has said about this topic:
قال(ع):كُن فِی الفِتْنَةِ كَابْنِ اللَّبُونِ لا ظَهْرٌ فَیُرْكَبَ،وَلا ضَرْعٌ فَیُحْلَبَ
Ali said: During civil disturbance be like an adolescent camel who has neither a back strong enough for riding nor udders for milking!

Wonderful! Great! Brilliant! Full of wisdom! At that era, chess playing wasn't common in the Arab peninsular, but people could easily see different kinds of camels and their usages. Some camels were used for riding, some for milking, some others for loading, etc. An adolescent is almost useless! It is free, grazing freely in the hope that to grow up and to fall into one of the categories!

In this analogy, adolescent camels are neutral people; chess pieces are adult camels which are used either for riding or milking! The players are those few riders(owners)!

Hey, know yourself and find your role!

All the best,
Behnam, 27 June, 2014

[behnam]

To the Love!

Let's stop sounding and speaking like philosophers for a while and talk in a different language!

My Love:

Wherever I go I see your eyes,
Your face, as a piece of mirror, is always in front of me,
Your sweet smell turns in my memories, turning like clouds in the sky,
To be with you is my great wish forever,
I need you hey fresh air,
Your breath creates life with mine,
Wherever I go I see your eyes,
I die without you!

You are the sadness of my love, you are sweet,
You are glorious, you are like a religion!,
Your root goes to the soul of genuineness,
You are the respect of a traditional old art!

Invite me! Invite me to the feast of your words,
Invite me to the feast of your honest salutation,
I am addicted to the feast of your eyes,
Invite me to the feast of your generous sight,
Invite me! Invite me to the city of your eyes,
Make me the guest of stars!

Invite me to the brightness,
Make my heart get released from the sorrow of pains,
Wherever I go I see your eyes,
Your face, as a piece of mirror, is always in front of me,
Your sweet smell turns in my memories, turning like clouds in the sky,
To be with you is my great wish forever,
I need you hey fresh air,
Your breath creates life with mine,
Wherever I go I see your eyes,
I die without you!

YOU INVITE ME TO THE CITY OF YOUR STARS!
YOU MAKE ME THE GUEST OF STARS!
YOU INVITE ME TO THE BRIGHTNESS!
YOU INVITE ME TO THE FEAST OF YOUR KIND WORDS!
YOU INVITE ME TO THE FEAST OF YOUR HONEST SALUTATION!
YOU INVITE ME TO THE FEAST OF YOUR GENEROUS SIGHT!
YOU MAKE ME GET RELEASED FROM THE GRIEF OF PAINS!

Lucky is someone who has got a goddess in the world,
By her existence, he spends moments and life,
You, the goddess of happiness, be always with me,
By you, the light of brightness will glitter in my dark night!


All the best,
Behnam, 27 June, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Happy Ramadan to you!

Although the daytime is long in the North Hemisphere and fasting is quite difficult, we Muslims have to fast in Ramadan. May God support us and give us sufficient strength to be able to fast in this holy month. Fasting is difficult in summers, sure, but 'no pain no gain'! If it was easy, everyone could fast. Therefore, ranking was impossible. When ranking is impossible offering rewards seems pointless.

When you are praying PLEASE remember me! PLEASE! PLEASE! PLEASE!

HAPPY RAMADAN!

All the best,
Behnam, 28 June, 2014

[Mohsen]

Hi Behnam,

It is 5.30 PM,I have no energy to write, the page in front of me is blur. Today I was in the streets in the hot weather (+ 40 °C) and now I must wait for 3 hours to drink a drop of water. Just know I want to read 20 pages of Quran ( Joz-e 3) . I like reading Quran very much, because the words in Quran came down from the almighty God through his prophet Mohammad (PBUH), So when we recite Quran ,we say some words that came out from Mohammad' mouth, this is one reason to enjoy reading Quran , another reason is that by reading Quran we forget the materialistic world and go to the heavenly world, so we get a feeling of peace in our heart. The words are miracles ,if we repeatedly read Quran ,we inter a new world .
Of course there are some terms for people , before putting the seeds in the land ,the land should prepared well. The belief to God and resurrection day,try to avoiding sins and try to be virtue and do piety … these are the terms which complete a person to enjoy reading Quran.

Happy Ramadan to you,

It is said that "The Books of Ibrahim (as) were revealed on the first night of the month of Ramadan; the Torah was revealed on the sixth of the month of Ramadan; the Gospel (Injil) was revealed on the thirteenth of the month of Ramadan; the Psalms (Zabur) were revealed on the eighteenth of the month of Ramadan, and the Holy Qur'an was revealed on the twenty-fourth of the month of Ramadan."
Have a blessing Ramadan
Mohsen

[behnam]

Hi Mohsen,

Today the weather was cool in Tehran. We didn't turn the air-conditioner on today! Last night, it rained in Tehran. That's why the weather was nice. I am writing these things in the evening. That's why I use the simple past to describe the weather in Tehran. More than 9o percent of the day has gone!

When you are breaking your fast and reciting the holy Qur'an, please remember the people who love Ramadan and fasting but they cannot!

Thank you very much for the nice points about Ramadan Karim.

All the best,
Behnam, 4 July, 2014

[behnam]

Dear friends,

How are you? I hope all is going well with you. In this part of the world, the weather is boiling. The temperature changes between +40 and +27 degree on days and at nights respectively.

Yesterday I had a chance to chat with two old friends. I really enjoyed it. We formed friendships with each other in 2009 when were writing in 'Let's learn together' on http://WWW.English-at-home.com. We have successfully maintained our friendships for a long-time. I hope our friendships will last so long; everlasting actually. The chat brought back some happy memories of our golden days. We also remembered some old friends; Elham, Setayesh, Marina the great, Mohsen, Andrew, Veronica, Adelaida, Amal, etc.

As you may know, in the previous thread, from 2007 to 2011, we wrote more than 5000 pages. Elham; one of the gold members of the thread, did a great job and gathered all pages in four files. I have those files on my computer. I read my friends' first posts and felt nostalgic about the past! Good old days!

Where is Marina the great? This is a big question in my mind. How could she manage to forget 'Let's learn together' and the friends? Frankly speaking, how could she manage to forget me? She cannot forget me at all, because I have planted a strong tree of kindness in her heart. The tree will never get dried! However, does she come to this place anymore? I google her name at least once a week, I am always trying my best to find a sign from her. Does she do the same? But, this thread can be easily found! Therefore, she is luckier than me.

Ramadan associates her name with some unforgettable sweet memories! A human being cannot forget these memories; let alone Marina the great who was an angel! I wish her all the best in the world. I hope she is happily and healthily living under the sky! Oh, you don't know how I feel when I just imagine her living under the same sky I am doing, and seeing the same sun! Laughing&crying, about to let out my soul from my body!

Many things happened to Behnam but you didn't came back! Behnam let doctors cut his chest to have a bypass operation on his heart, you didn't ask for his welfare! How cruel you are! That's OK, but don't forget the last compromise and promise; to meet each other in Heaven!
ان شاء الله

I said I am loyal,
I am like Mount Everest,
You were going but,
I was stopping you,
I couldn't take your name out from my heart.


You went, but your photo is remained in my bed,
Your name is remained in my notebook,
The day you come back ohhhhh myyyy dearrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr,
On the corner of the cage, you will see only some feathers of me!

روزی که برگردی ای نازنین من
کنج قفس بی تو مشتی پرم مانده

All the best,
Behnam, 12 July, 2014

P.S. I had a chance to chat with Elham and Setayesh yesterday. I'd like to take this opportunity to express my thanks to them. Dear Elham and Setayesh, thank you!

[behnam]

Hi friends,

I am going to give you some expressions which are about Exam&Mark! Then, I will write some sentences with blanks. You have to use the phrases to complete the sentences. Notice, each phrase is used once!

revise for an exam - sit an exam - mark an exam - pass/fall an exam - scrape though an exam - make a mess of an exam - pass an exam with flying colours - a really stiff/hard exam -How did you do in your exam? - get a mark - lose marks - give a mark - deduct marks - your final mark - full marks - a good mark -a low mark - the top mark

Complete the sentences with the correct form of the above expressions:

1) I spent the whole weekend ..... for my final exams. I didn't go out once.
2) Do we have to ......an exam at the end of the course?
3) She's exceptionally bright and she ..... all her exams easily.
4) I almost failed the exam. I just managed to ..... through with 51%.
5) I don't know what grade I got because the teacher hasn't ..... our exam yet.
6) How did you ..... ? Badly. I failed three of them.
7) I ..... I mucked the whole thing up.
8) He ...... I think he got nearly 100%.
9) It was ...... I don't think many of us will pass.
10) I'm hoping to ..... a good mark in the exam tomorrow.
11) Please remember that marks will be ..... for bad spelling.
12) The teacher ..... the highest mark to Elham.
13) Setayesh would've got 100%, but she ..... four marks for poor hand writing.
14) He did no revision for the maths exam., but he still got a ..... mark.
15) Nobody got ..... marks in the spelling test, but I got nearly all the answers right.
16) Marina the great scored the ..... mark in the English test. She's always first in the class.
17) Project work accounts for 50% of your ..... mark for this course.
18) If you get ..... mark in the test, you'll have to take the test again.

Please fill the blanks and write your answers. This is good practice to learn collocations. I will write the complete sentences tomorrow. Good luck with practicing!

All the best,
Behnam, 13 July, 2014

[setayesh]

*******ANSWERS******ANSWERS*******ANSWERS********


1) I spent the whole weekend revising for my final exams. I didn't go out once.
2) Do we have to sit an exam at the end of the course?
3) She's exceptionally bright and she passed all her exams easily.
4) I almost failed the exam. I just managed to scrape through with 51%.
5) I don't know what grade I got because the teacher hasn't marked our exam yet.
6) How did you do in your exam? Badly. I failed three of them.
7) I made a mess of my exam I mucked the whole thing up.
8) He passed the exam with flying colours I think he got nearly 100%.
9) It was a really stiff/hard exam I don't think many of us will pass.
10) I'm hoping to get a good mark in the exam tomorrow.
11) Please remember that marks will be deducted for bad spelling.
12) The teacher gave the highest mark to Elham.
13) She would've got 100%, but she lost four marks for poor hand writing.
14) He did no revision for the maths exam, but he still got a good mark.
15) Nobody got full marks in the spelling test, but I got nearly all the answers right.
16) Marina scored the top mark in the English test. She's always first in the class.
17) Project work accounts for 50% of your final mark for this course.
18) If you get a low mark in the test, you'll have to take the test again.

********GOODBYE******GOODBYE******GOODBYE*******

[Veronicaho]

Hallo, hallo, halloooo!!

Here I am ... again as always ... busy and late. But you are all of you in my heart and I will never forget you! <3 <3 <3
We have got summer here and the temperature is between 22 - 28 and I enjoy it a lot and feel much healthier. Last year has been a very heavy year for me but I see the light in front of me now. The reason for my heavy year has been because Hanna has been stalked by her old boyfriend and he has
stalked and harassed Hanna a lot and it went so long that we were forced to report him to the police. After that we have been to trial twice. He has been convicted. Now it's just one more trial and I really hope it will be in a soon future so we can go forward again. But no one can understand this situation, how it has affected Hanna in her daily life. And I have got feelings that I never thought I had. Now I understand that parents can do anything when someone harms themes children. In the same time I have finish my master degrees in leadership and development in social and he alt care.

As always I work a lot but now I have just 3 nights in front of me, then I will have holiday for 4 weeks!!! Then I will sleep in the morning, do nothing ... just relax at our summer house, eat delicious food and drink some glas of wine ;)

I hope All of you will have a nice summer and maybe write some letter to me here ;)
BEHNAM!!!! When should we talk over Skype???

Many hugs from your old finish friend Veronica

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[behnam]

Hi Setayesh,

Many thanks for the correct answers. Well done!

All the best,
Behnam, 14 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi Veronica,

Thank you very much for visiting this thread. Sad to hear that Hanna has had some problems with his previous boyfriend. Actually, I knew, since you had told me while chatting on Skype. I hope it will be finished soon.

Congratulations on receiving your MS degree. It is a great success.

Seems the Sun does not distribute its lights fairly, because we have got a lot of sunlight here in Tehran that the temperature is +28 centigrade at nights and +40 centigrade on days. I wish I had something; like a very large reflector, to reflect some of the light to your country. Oh, how do you think about a research project on managing the Sun's light? Suppose you hold a coin in front of your eye. It will block your eye and then will narrow your field of view. We can block the Sun's light partially. The Earth does it when eclipsing!

Please keep the contact with us. I hope to here more about you.

All the best,
Behnam, 14 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Consider these expressions:

make friends - become friends - remain friends - meet a friend - visit a friend - bring a friend - approve of your friends - depends on your friends - fall out with your friends - lose touch with your friends - your best friend - a close friend - a mutual friend - an old friend - a friend of from work - just good friends - your circle of friends - family and friends - a friend of a friend

Complete the sentences with the correct form of the above phrases:

1) I'm ..... a friend on mine for dinner at the Homa Hottel later today.
2) I've ..... most of my school friends.
3) She says that she and Mehrdad aren't going out. They're ......
4) Setayesh is a very sociable person. She has .....
5) In spite of the bitter argument they had, they ..... the best of friends.
6) Her parents' don't ..... her friends! They say they're a bad influence.
7) Arash was my ..... at school. We did everything together.
8) I met Ali through .....
9) Kambiz and I ..... at university.
10) In times of crisis you know you can .... your best friends.
11) Ahmad and I are ..... friends. We lived next door to each other as kids.
12) Roya managed to recover with the help of .....
13) I'm afraid Amal isn't here tonight. She is ..... friends.
14) Behnam knows a lot of people, but only one or two that he'd call ..... friends.
15) They used to be good friends, but they've ..... recently-over money!
16) Can I ..... to the party?
17) On a Saturday I usually play football with some .....
18) She is the kind of person who doesn't find it easy to .....
19) My wife and I were introduced to each other by a .....

I will write the correct answers(in case nobody does it) tomorrow!

All the best,
Behnam, 14 July, 2014

[behnam]

Dear friends,

Thank you for reading. Here are the answers. I hope you've practiced well and this helps you improve your English.

1) I'm meeting a friend of mine for dinner at the Homa Hottel later today.
2) I've lost touch with most of my school friends.
3) She says that she and Mehrdad aren't going out. They're just good friends.
4) Setayesh is a very sociable person. She has a wide circle of friends.
5) In spite of the bitter argument they had, they remain the best of friends.
6) Her parents' don't approve of her friends! They say they're a bad influence.
7) Arash was my best at school. We did everything together.
8) I met Ali through a friend of a friend.
9) Kambiz and I became friends at university.
10) In times of crisis you know you can depend on your best friends.
11) Ahmad and I are old friends. We lived next door to each other as kids.
12) Roya managed to recover with the help of her family and friends.
13) I'm afraid Amal isn't here tonight. She is visiting friends.
14) Behnam knows a lot of people, but only one or two that he'd call close friends.
15) They used to be good friends, but they've fallen out recently-over money!
16) Can I bring to the party?
17) On a Saturday I usually play football with some friends from work.
18) She is the kind of person who doesn't find it easy to make friends.
19) My wife and I were introduced to each other by a mutual friend.

I hope this helps!

All the best,
behnam, 15 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

How many people view this thread at every 24 hours? Statistics show this thread is viewed 1000 times at every 24 hours! This is a great success for us, isn't it? How can we increase the number of viewers? We should motivate people to view the thread regularly, and recommend it to others. How can we motivate people? I think my new strategy; filling the blanks, which helps the English learners improve their language skills can be motivating. I hope so!

Until now, this thread has been viewed more than 290000 times. This is a big success in my opinion!

Thank you for viewing this thread.

All the best,
Behnam, 16 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Here are some expressions about 'love':

need love - fall in love - feel love - declare your love - your love grows - send your love - a love affair - a love child - a love song - your love life - love letters - madly in love - love at first sight - no love lost between them - true love - a mother's love - undying love - unrequited love - a love-hate relationship - a great love of things - head over heals in love


Now, complete the sentences with the correct form of the above expressions:

1) Behnam and Marina the great were obviously .....!
2) He ..... in love with one of his students, and we were married within a month.
3) He's having a love ..... at work, I hope his wife finds out and leaves him.
4) ..... is when you love someone, but they do not return your love.
5) He married her to please his parents. I don't think he ..... any love for her.
6) Wonderful Tonight is a classic love ..... written by Eric Clapton.
7) I came across some old love ..... at the back of a drawer in my bedroom.
8) My father had a great ..... music.
9) At the wedding ceremony the bride and groom ..... their love for each other.
10) The love ..... of the young prince is never out of the papers!
11) They can't take their eyes off each other. They're .....
12) Nothing can be stronger than a ..... for her child.
13) On their wedding day they pledged ..... for each other.
14) Uncle Ali ..... his love and hopes you'll feel better soon.
15) We all know that young children ..... lots of love and affection.
16) There's ..... them. They can't stand each other.
17) A ..... is when feelings frequently change from love to hate.
18) When I saw her across the room, it was .....
19) It's no secret that e fathered a ..... with a young actress some years ago.
20) We're still very much in love. In fact, our love has ..... stronger over the years.
21) Love is strange, and ..... is strange but true.


I will post the answers tomorrow(In case nobody answers)!

Good luck with practicing.

All the best,
Behnam, 16 July, 2014

[behnam]

1) Behnam and Marina the great were obviously head over heels in love!
2) He fell in love with one of his students, and we were married within a month.
3) He's having a love affair at work, I hope his wife finds out and leaves him.
4) 'Unrequited love' is when you love someone, but they do not return your love.
5) He married her to please his parents. I don't think he feels any love for her.
6) Wonderful Tonight is a classic love song written by Eric Clapton.
7) I came across some old love letters at the back of a drawer in my bedroom.
8) My father had a great love of music.
9) At the wedding ceremony the bride and groom declared their love for each other.
10) The love life of the young prince is never out of the papers!
11) They can't take their eyes off each other. They're madly in love.
12) Nothing can be stronger than a mother's love for her child.
13) On their wedding day they pledged undying love for each other.
14) Uncle Ali sends his love and hopes you'll feel better soon.
15) We all know that young children need lots of love and affection.
16) There's no love lost between them. They can't stand each other.
17) A 'love-hate friendship' is when feelings frequently change from love to hate.
18) When I saw her across the room, it was love at first sight.
19) It's no secret that he fathered a love child with a young actress some years ago.
20) We're still very much in love. In fact, our love has grown stronger over the years.
21) Love is strange, and true love is strange but true.

Thank you for practicing. Next practice will be about respect. It will come tomorrow!

All the best,
Behnam, 17 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Consider these expressions:

with all due respect - show respect - gain respect - have respect - lose respect - treat with respect - the greatest respect - grudging respect - a healthy respect - a mutual respect - lack of respect - a lot of respect - a mark of respect - out of respect

Now complete the sentences with the correct form of the above expressions

1) As a manager he's a disaster because he doesn't ..... of his staff. If the company wants to success, they will need to replace him.
2) It's important that new teachers gain the respect of their students. The job becomes impossible if you ..... of the class.
3) The driver shouldn't have shouted at the old lady in that way. Everyone has a right to be .....
4) I think young people today need to ..... to the older generation. Offering your seat on a bus to an old person is just one example.
5) The prime Minister ..... of many leaders all around the world for his attempts to prevent war between A and B!
6) The new player is not liked, but he's very talented and so he's won ..... of the team.
7) A successful marriage is based not only on love but also on ..... for each other.
8) Although I don't agree with his theories, I have ..... for his ideas.
9) Don't worry, I know what my opponent is I have ..... for his abilities.
10) No alcohol was served at the dinner, ..... for Muslim customs.
11) A minute's silence was observed as a .... for the victims of the disaster.
12) Many of these young men are out of control. They show a complete ..... for authority.
13) I've got ..... for my gran. She lost her husband when she was young and still managed to give her family a decent upbringing.
14) Sir, ....., I think that you are wrong.

Many useful and nice sentences are used in this post. I hope you'll enjoy reading them and seeing the beautiful structures we use in everyday life.

Good luck with practicing.

All the best,
Behnam, 18 July, 2014

[behnam]

علی ای همای رحمت تو چه آیتی خدا را / که به ماسوا فکندی همه سایه هما را

دل اگر خداشناسی همه در رخ علی بین / به علی شناختم من به خدا قسم خدا را

به خدا که در دو عالم اثر از فنا نماند / چو علی گرفته باشد سر چشمه بقا را

مگر ای سحاب رحمت تو بباری ارنه دوزخ / به شرار قهر سوزد همه جان ماسوا را

برو ای گدای مسکین در خانه علی زن / که نگین پادشاهی دهد از کرم گدا را

به جز از علی که گوید به پسر که قاتل من / چو اسیر تست اکنون به اسیر کن مدارا

به جز از علی که آرد پسری ابوالعجائب / که علم کند به عالم شهدای کربلا را

چو به دوست عهد بندد ز میان پاکبازان / چو علی که میتواند که بسر برد وفا را

نه خدا توانمش خواند نه بشر توانمش گفت / متحیرم چه نامم شه ملک لافتی را

بدو چشم خون فشانم هله ای نسیم رحمت / که ز کوی او غباری به من آر توتیا را

به امید آن که شاید برسد به خاک پایت / چه پیامها سپردم همه سوز دل صبا را

چو تویی قضای گردان به دعای مستمندان / که ز جان ما بگردان ره آفت قضا را

چه زنم چونای هردم ز نوای شوق او دم / که لسان غیب خوشتر بنوازد این نوا را

«همه شب در این امیدم که نسیم صبحگاهی / به پیام آشنائی بنوازد آشنا را»

ز نوای مرغ یا حق بشنو که در دل شب / غم دل به دوست گفتن چه خوش است شهریارا

[Elham]

Hi dear Behnam,
Today I'm going to complete the sentences. I hope I'll choose the right expressions!

1) As a manager he's a disaster because he doesn't gain respect of his staff. If the company wants to success, they will need to replace him.

2) It's important that new teachers gain the respect of their students. The job becomes impossible if you lose respect of the class.

3) The driver shouldn't have shouted at the old lady in that way. Everyone has a right to betreated with respect

4) I think young people today need toshow respect to the older generation. Offering your seat on a bus to an old person is just one example.

5) The prime Minister have respect of many leaders all around the world for his attempts to prevent war between A and B!

6) The new player is not liked, but he's very talented and so he's won grudging respect of the team.

7) A successful marriage is based not only on love but also on a mutual respect for each other.

8) Although I don't agree with his theories, I have a lot of respect for his ideas.

9) Don't worry, I know what my opponent is I havea healthy respect for his abilities.

10) No alcohol was served at the dinner,showing respect for Muslim customs.

11) A minute's silence was observed asa mark of respect for the victims of the disaster.

12) Many of these young men are out of control. They show a complete lack of respect for authority.

13) I've got the greatest respectfor my gran. She lost her husband when she was young and still managed to give her family a decent upbringing.

14) Sir,with all due respect, I think that you are wrong.

[behnam]

Look who is here! I don't believe my eyes! Welcome dear Elham! Long time no see. I'd missed you, your posts and the colour of your font! You made me happy. Thank you very much indeed.

Thank you once again for answering to the questions. That is very kind of you. Your answers are correct.

1) have the respect of
2) lose the respect of
3) to be treated with respect
4) to show more respect to
5) has gained the respect of
6) the grudging respect of
7) on a mutual respect for each other
8) have the greatest respect for
9) have a healthy respect for
10) out of respect for
11) as a mark of respect
12) a complete lack of respect
13) a lot of respect for
14) with all due respect

I just wrote the answers with some extra words to make it easy for friends to use.

Thank you Elham for your attention and care to your own thread.

All the best,
Behnam, 20 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Consider these expressions:

to show your feelings - to suppress your feelings - to control your feelings - to hide your feelings - to hurt your feelings - a bad feeling - a sinking feeling - true feelings - mixed feelings - the feeling is mutual - a feeling of apprehension - a feeling of dissatisfaction - a feeling of loneliness - a feeling of guilt - a feeling of we-being - express your feelings - put your feelings into words

Now complete the sentences with the correct form of above expressions.

1) I'm sorry if I upset you. I didn't really mean .....
2) She's not afraid .....
3) You can't ..... from me. I've known you far too long.
4) It's unhealthy ...... So don't be afraid to cry!
5) Young children find it difficult ...... This is something they learn to do later in life.
6) It was better to lie rather than let everybody know my ......
7) His parents had .....about all the changes
8) I had that ..... in the pit of my stomach. I knew that something terrible had happened.
9) Her careless remarks have caused a lot of ..... in the community.
10) Behnam loves his friends, and ...... They miss each other.
11) Parents can experience deep ..... if their children fail in life.
12) People who do Yoga benefit from increased ......
13) I remember the horrible ...... as I waited for my examination results.
14) There is a strong ..... with the way the manager is running the factory.
15) When my parents left me at boarding school for the first time, I remember being overwhelmed by a deep ......
16) At times, I have difficulty .....
17) She's a woman of few words. She ..... [through her paintings.


As you can see, the sentences are rich in terms of grammar, structure and collocation. I hope you enjoy reading them. Good luck with practicing.

All the best,
Behnam, 21 July, 2014

[Elham]

1) I'm sorry if I upset you. I didn't really mean to hurt your feelings

2) She's not afraidof expressing her feelings.

3) You can't hide your feelings from me. I've known you far too long.

4) It's unhealthy to suppress your feelings So don't be afraid to cry!

5) Young children find it difficult to control their feelings This is something they learn to do later in life.

6) It was better to lie rather than let everybody know my true feelings

7) His parents had mixed feelingsabout all the changes

8) I had that sinking feelingin the pit of my stomach. I knew that something terrible had happened.

9) Her careless remarks have caused a lot of bad feelings in the community.

10) Behnam loves his friends, and the feeling is mutual. They miss each other.

11) Parents can experience deep feeling of guilt if their children fail in life.

12) People who do Yoga benefit from increased feeling of well-being

13) I remember the horrible feeling of apprehension as I waited for my examination results.

14) There is a strong feeling of dissatisfactionwith the way the manager is running the factory.

15) When my parents left me at boarding school for the first time, I remember being overwhelmed by a deep feeling of loneliness.

16) At times, I have difficulty putting my feelings into words.

17) She's a woman of few words. She shows her feelings through her paintings.

[behnam]

Hi Elham,

Many thanks for completing the sentences. Your answers are correct.

All the best,
Behnam, 22 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Consider these collocations:

your mood changes - in one of her moods - depends on your mood - affect your mood - lighten/lift your mood - in a bad mood - in a good mood - in confident mood - a defiant mood - a festive mood - a lazy mood - creates a good mood - a mood of optimism - get into the holiday mood - the mood of the crowd - the mood of the occasion - reflects the mood of the time - be in no mood for something/to do something - be/feel in the mood for something - put someone in an excellent mood

Now complete the sentences with the correct form of the above expressions:

1) Why has her ........ so dramatically? What it something I said or did?
2) A phone call from a friend did nothing to ........ I still left down.
3) I really do believe that a full moon can ........ your mood.
4) I've no favourite type of music. What I listen to .........
5) The players are ........ and expect to win today's game quite easily.
6) Why are you in such a ........? You've been rude to people all day!
7) The workers are ........, and are refusing to accept the new pay deal.
8) I don't feel lie doing anything today. I'm in a bit of a .........
9) At Christmas everybody was in ........, buying presents and cards.
10) Her dad is usually very grumpy, but this morning he woke up in ........!
11) Nelson Mandela's election as president created ........ in South Africa.
12) The film accurately .........
13) ......... turned nasty and people started throwing stones at the police.
14) There was ........ after the team's tenth defeat in a row.
15) I wouldn't try to discuss the matter with him just now. He's ........ talking.
16) I'm ........ playing tennis. Let's go to the club.
17) The good weather ........ for breakfast.
18) Don't talk to her. She's .........
19) Remember, good news .........
20) It usually takes me a couple of days to .........

Good luck with practicing.

All the best,
Behnam, 22 July, 2014

[Elham]

Hi dear Behnam,

I tried to complete the sentences. hope they are right.

1) Why has her mood changed so dramatically? What it something I said or did?

2) A phone call from a friend did nothing to lighten my mood. I still left down.

3) I really do believe that a full moon can affect your mood.

4) I've no favourite type of music. What I listen to depends on my mood.

5) The players are inconflict mood and expect to win today's game quite easily.

6) Why are you in such a bad mood? You've been rude to people all day!

7) The workers arein a defiant mood, and are refusing to accept the new pay deal.

8) I don't feel lie doing anything today. I'm in a bit of a lazy mood.

9) At Christmas everybody was in a festive mood , buying presents and cards.

10) Her dad is usually very grumpy, but this morning he woke up inin a good mood!

11) Nelson Mandela's election as president created a mood of optimism in South Africa.

12) The film accurately reflects the mood of the time
13)The mood of the crowd turned nasty and people started throwing stones at the police.

14) There was 14) a mood of despair after the team's tenth defeat in a row.

15) I wouldn't try to discuss the matter with him just now. He'sin no mood for talking.

16) I'min the mood for playing tennis. Let's go to the club.

17) The good weather put us in excellent mood for breakfast.

18) Don't talk to her. She'sin one of her moods.

19) Remember, good news create a good mood

20) It usually takes me a couple of days to get into the holiday mood.

Eli

[behnam]

Hi Elham,

Many thanks for completing the sentences. Your answers are correct. I hope our friends will enjoy those useful sentences.

All the best,
Behnam, 23 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Consider the following collocations:

bring happiness - to take great pleasure in doing something - physical pleasure - find happiness - with you happiness - a guarantee of future happiness - to have the pleasure of doing something - the key to true happiness - the pursuit of happiness - be a pleasure - give pleasure - get pleasure - read for pleasure - enjoying the pleasures - true happiness - combine business with pleasure - endless pleasure - great pleasure - few pleasures - simple pleasure - an unexpected pleasure

Now complete the sentences with the correct form of the above expressions:

1) After two failed marriages, he seems to have ........ with his third wife.
2) I'd like to take this opportunity to ........ for the future.
3) people think that money ........ happiness. That's why they buy lottery tickets.
4) I've spent my life trying to find ........ and peace of mind.
5) Basic human rights are the right to life, liberty, and .........
6) I think living together before you get married is no .........
7) Lots of people ........ from painting in water colours.
8) Few things in this world ........ than a long hot bath.
9) The trip to Tabriz will enable me to .........
10) It certainly ........ to hear from you after all these years.
11) I don't get to ........ anymore.
12) After the operation she was able to enjoy ........ like walking again.
13) I can't give up smoking-it's one of the ........ I have left in life.
14) Well, fancy meeting you here! This is........!
15) Children find ........ in playing with simple things like water.
16) His music has given ........ to many people over the years.
17) I shall ........ telling everyone the truth.
18) May I ........ seeing you again?
19) Slowly but surely, we can help them reach out and start ........ of playing with a friend.
20) This will help us not to confuse ........ with ........ or the spiritual reality of joy.

I wish you lasting happiness and real pleasure. Good luck with practicing.

All the best,
Behnam, 23 July, 2014

[behnam]

Key words for fluency


Fluency is the ability to speak naturally, listen efficiently, read quickly, and write well. What does this mean?

1) Speaking naturally means NOT making everything up one word at time, but speaking in whole expressions at normal speed.

2) Listening efficiently means understanding people at the speed at which they speak. This means that when you hear the first word of an expression or the first few words of a sentence, you know how it is going to end.

3) Reading quickly means that your eye is ahead of your brain! You are able to predict what author has written.

4) Good writing is writing which expresses exactly what you want to say in natural ways which the reader will immediately understand.

All those skills depend on having a large store of words and expressions which you don't need to think about or construct every time you use English. The more collocations you know, the less you need to think! And the more fluent your English becomes.

All the best,
Behnam, 23 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,


1) After two failed marriages, he seems to have found happiness with his third wife.
2) I'd like to take this opportunity to wish you happiness for the future.
3) people think that money brings happiness . That's why they buy lottery tickets.
4) I've spent my life trying to find the key to true happiness and peace of mind.
5) Basic human rights are the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.
6) I think living together before you get married is no a guarantee of future happiness.
7) Lots of people get great pleasure from painting in water colours.
8) Few things in this world give me more happiness than a long hot bath.
9) The trip to Tabriz will enable me to mix/combine business with pleasure.
10) It certainly is a real pleasure to hear from you after all these years.
11) I don't get to read for pleasure anymore.
12) After the operation she was able to enjoy simple pleasures like walking again.
13) I can't give up smoking-it's one of the few pleasures I have left in life.
14) Well, fancy meeting you here! This is an unexpected pleasure!
15) Children find endless pleasure in playing with simple things like water.
16) His music has given great pleasure to many people over the years.
17) I shall take great pleasure in telling everyone the truth.
18) May I have the pleasure of seeing you again?
19) Slowly but surely, we can help them reach out and start enjoying the pleasures of playing with a friend.
20) This will help us not to confuse physical pleasure with true happiness or the spiritual reality of joy.

I wish you lasting happiness and real pleasure. Thank you for reading.

All the best,
Behnam, 25 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Consider these collocations:

arouse anger - to express your anger - control your anger - feel anger towards someone - your anger subsides - a moment of anger - an outburst of anger - a surge of anger - shake your fist in anger - raise your voice in anger - stamp your feet in anger - your eyes blaze with anger - take your anger - show your anger - direct your anger - to express their anger

Now complete the sentences with the correct form of the above expressions:

1) Drivers are blocking the motorway to .......... over high fuel costs.
2) The player couldn't .......... and shouted at the referee.
3) The destruction of the mosque .......... throughout the Muslim world.
4) I still .........., who left home when I was 3.
5)I'm sorry for what I said last night. It was said in a ...........
6) I felt a sudden .......... welling up inside me. I had to fight to control it.
7) Her comments provoked an uncharacteristic .......... from the minister.
8) The cyclist shouted at the driver and ...........
9) From behind the door I could hear ...........
10) He looked straight at me and his dark ...........
11) When my son doesn't get his way, he ...........
12) Psychologists say that it is better .......... rather than let it fester inside you.
13) Don't .......... out on me, I had nothing to do with it!
14) Let us make sure that we do not .......... on to people who are only trying to help us.
15) I felt guilty that I .......... and frustration.

Thank you for following the thread and posts. Good luck with practicing.

All the best,
Behnam, 25 July, 2014

[setayesh]

Hi friends,

I'm putting the answers based on my knowledge, I'm not sure about some of them but I hope they will be correct. I would be very happy if you kindly correct any mistakes that I've made.


1) Drivers are blocking the motorway to show their anger over high fuel costs.
2) The player couldn't control his anger and shouted at the referee.
3) The destruction of the mosque aroused anger throughout the Muslim world.
4) I still feel anger towards, who left home when I was 3.
5)I'm sorry for what I said last night. It was said in a surge of anger.
6) I felt a sudden moment of anger welling up inside me. I had to fight to control it.
7) Her comments provoked an uncharacteristic an outburst of anger from the minister.
8) The cyclist shouted at the driver and shook his fist in anger.
9) From behind the door I could hear your anger subsides .
10) He looked straight at me and his dark eyes blazed with anger.
11) When my son doesn't get his way, he stamps his feet in anger.
12) Psychologists say that it is better to express your anger rather than let it fester inside you.
13) Don't take your anger out on me, I had nothing to do with it!
14) Let us make sure that we do not direct our anger on to people who are only trying to help us.
15) I felt guilty that I raised my voice in anger and frustration.


All the best
Seti

PS. I'm not sure about number14

[[amal]]

آن را به من می دهد لذت بزرگ را به شما و خانواده سنگ پر برکت عید فطر را تبریک می گویم. به ما و خدا شما خوب، یمن و برکت

[behnam]

Hi Seti,

Thank you very much for completing the sentences. Your answers are correct, but I've got some other suggestions, since some answers are replaceable. For example, 'to show your anger' can be replaced by 'to express your anger' in many cases. However, 'to express something' means to tell or show what you are feeling or thinking by using words, looks, or actions, whereas 'to show something' means to let someone see something. There are slightly different.

In order to practise(actually, when I am writing a sentence, I am practising English skills.) using those collocations, I am rewriting the sentences.

1) Drivers are blocking the motorway to express their anger over high fuel costs.
2) The player couldn't control his anger and shouted at the referee.
3) The destruction of the mosque has aroused throughout the Muslim world.
4) I still feel a lot of anger towards my father, who left home when I was 3.
5) I'm sorry for what I said last night. It was said in a moment of anger.
6) I felt a sudden surge of anger welling up inside me. I had to fight to control it.
7) Her comments provoked an uncharacteristic outburst of anger from the minister.
8) The cyclist shouted at the driver and shook his fist in anger.
9) From behind the door I could hear voices raised in anger.
10) He looked straight at me and his dark eyes blazed with anger.
11) When my son doesn't get his way, he stamps his feet in anger.
12) Psychologists say that it is better to express your anger rather than let it fester inside you.
13) Don't take your anger out on me, I had nothing to do with it!
14) Let us make sure that we do not direct our anger and frustration on to people who are only trying to help us
15) I felt guilty that I had shown my anger and frustration.

Thank you for reading.

All the best,
Behnam, 27 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi Amal,

You made me say WOW! Thank you very much for posting something after ages. I'd missed you and your posts. It is very kind of you to write something in Farsi. Thank you very much indeed. By the way, I'd like to take this opportunity and say a warm 'Happy Eid ul-Fitr' to you and to your family.

اتهنئه بعید الفطر! أتمنّی لک و لاهلک أیّام عید سعیدهً! أتمنّی لک حظاً سعیداً، وقتاً طیباً و نجاحً کبیراً

Happy Eid ul-Fitr to all Muslims!

All the best,
Behnam, 27 July, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

Consider these collocations:


cause/give worry - discuss your worries - forget your worries - add to your worries - a nagging worry - the main worry - unnecessary worry - a constant worry - sick with worry - a constant source of worry - the least of my worries - my only worry - have no worries - financial worries - got enough to worry about - what worries me is .../the (only) thing that worries me is ... - to express your worry

Now complete the sentences with the correct form of the above expressions:

1) They may become more able .......... and anger in positive, rather than maladaptive, ways.
2) Don't tell Mum about this - she's ...........
3) I’d love to be able to lie back and just .......... for a little while.
4) His father’s strange behavior is .......... him considering worry.
5) It’s important that children can .......... with their parents.
6) There will always be .......... at the back of my mind that if I’d acted sooner, the problem would not have arisen.
7) I’ve got money problems, but when I lost my job, it only ...........
8) Why didn’t you ring and say you’d be late? You’ve caused us a lot of ...........
9) My .......... is that in his present state of mind, he’ll do something stupid.
10) I think it was the .......... of the business that drove him to resign.
11) Where on earth have you been? We’ve been ...........
12) Money is ........... I worry about my credit card all the time.
13) .......... is that I won’t find a job when I get there.
14) What they think of me is ........... I have got more important things to worry about.
15) We .......... his ability to do the course. It’s his poor attendance that’s a problem.
16) My .......... have cost me many sleepless nights.
17) .......... the food. I don't want to get food poisoning.


Thank you for following the thread and posts. Good luck with practicing.

All the best,
Behnam, 27 July, 2014

[Mohsen]

Hey Drunks, know the value of the last cup

Cupbearer close the tavern tonight

Tell the guests that the feast reaches the end

Drank or not drank you have to leave this house

Happy Aid-al Fitr to all of you