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[[amal]]

Hi Behnam,

How are you? How is your life? I hope everything is going well with you..

Dear, you can't believe how much your dream made me happy, I read your post today immediately after I woke up, it was very nice to open my eyes and see such words and pure feelings. It isn't just a dream for me, it means a lot..
I know that I am in your thoughts always and be sure that the same is here too. I'd never forgot about you even for a second...

These days, I am verrry busy, therefore, I couldn't come to chat with you, please forgive me. As you know, I got engaged and tomorrow is my big engagement party, we will wear the rings in front of all my relatives and my fiance's relatives.. "I think this is what you saw in your dream!" I really really wish you could come and celebrate with me!

Emm,we had made a party earlier but it was very small and nobody knew about it.. But now I am a little bit worried about this one!

Emm, being Marina's sister even if it was just in your dreams, makes me proud. She is really a great lady and I hope we could hear sth from her soon!

Please dear, wish me luck and keep praying for me, I need your prayers!

Love you,
Amal

[behnam]

Hi Amal,

I warmly congratulate you for such an important event in your life. I wish you all the best in the world. I hope marriage will bring you the peace of mind that God has addressed in the Holy Koran(سورة الروم-آیه 22).

مبروک الف مبروک

I wish you everlasting happiness!
All the best,
Behnam, 20 April, 2014

[shahrubanu]

Hi Behnam and Amal

I really missed you terribly but I m very busy that s why I couldn t write here for a long time, but please hold this fact in your mind you are always in my heart and thought.
Amal dear friend I m really happy for you:) congratulations! wish me good luck too for marriage :)
I hope that you will be happy forever

[Mohsen]

Hi Amal,

I am very happy to know about your engagement
Congratulation, I wish you a long life and happiness ,God bless you both on your engagement.
All the best
mohsen

[shahrubanu]

behnam where are you? :(

[behnam]

Hi Shahrbanu,

How are you? I hope you are fine. I've missed you. I am here, but where are you?

You are neither here nor there! What has happened? I hope good things are surrounding you.

All the best,
Behnam, 28 April, 2014

[shahrubanu]

ı m fine :) why don t you speak with your sister then :(

[behnam]

Hi Shahrbanu,

In fact, you are absent not me. Therefore, I should ask where you are. Why don't you get online as you used to do? When I am at home(on Thursdays, Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays) I am online as before. However, when I am at university, I am too busy to even think of the Internet; let alone getting online.

That's a great honour for me to talk with you. However, you are absent these days. That's OK! I hope you are living happily; as you wish and deserve!

All the best,
Behnam, 1 May, 2014

[behnam]

Mother's Day is the perfect opportunity to express deepest sentiments of love and appreciation to all the moms in our lives who have made a difference. The best way to express gratitude to all moms around you is through respect and a bunch of flowers. I wish all the mothers a very

Happy Mother's Day!

All the best,
Behnam, 11 May, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

How are you? How things are going with you? I hope all is going well with you and you are enjoying every moment of your life.

As you may know, in some parts of the world the second Sunday of May is 'Mother's Day'! Today is 13th Ra-jab(in Lunar Calendar). It is Imam Ali's birthday. In Iran, this day is named 'Father's Day'! Oh my God! What a coincidence! Father's Day in Iran, Mother's Day in some countries!

As I mentioned above, in Iran, Imam Ali's birthday is named 'Father's Day' and 'Man's Day', Fatimah's birthday is named 'Mother's day' and 'Woman's Day'! We are proud of having such a meaningful, perfect and inspiring days in our calendar.

Happy 'Father's and Mother's Day' to all fathers and mothers in the world.

All the best,
Behnam, 13 May, 2014

[behnam]

Dear friends,

This is just to say 'Happy Eid-Ul-Mabas' to all Muslims.

Mohsen, Elham, Amal, Shahrbanu, Setayesh, Marina, Andrew, ...where are you? I HAVE MISSED YOU!

Next Tuesday, I'm taking and giving exam! In the morning, I am giving exam to students. In the afternoon, I am sitting for exam! What a day!

I wish you all the best in the world.


All the best,
Behnam, 27 May, 2014

[MrNice]

Hi, everyone.. I'm Steve from Korea. I'm new here and I'm glad to be part of this club..
let's have fun everyone^^

[behnam]

Hi MrNice,

Welcome to this silent garden, like what we see in winters; snow on the ground, no leaves on trees, and we hear crows crying instead of nightingale singing! A few years ago, this garden had no empty places for others; always packed with different people from different parts of the world. What has happened to this beautiful place? I don't know!

The shortage of water? Maybe! The oldness of trees? Maybe! The death of its owner? Maybe! Maybe, all of them together! What a sad story!

I really feel nostalgic about the past.

Welcome! Thank you for knocking the door of this old cottage, on the corner of this ruined garden, and making the old gardener happy. The old poor tired gardener, sickly lying on the wooden bed, reads love stories and has mixed feelings. Will the nightingales come to this garden again? Is there any hope for spring days; the garden full of beautiful flowers, bees are taking sweetness from them while making that high frequent famous noise; wizzzzzzz? I hope so!

All the best,
Behnam, 28 May, 2014

[behnam]

Hi friends,

How are you? I hope all is going well with you.

Regardless of some nice phrases inside it, I found the message of this story interesting. I hope you like it.
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On his first day in office, as President Abraham Lincoln entered to give his inaugural address, one man stood up. He was a rich aristocrat.

He said, "Mr. Lincoln, you should not forget that your father used to make shoes for my family."

And the whole Senate laughed; they thought they had made a fool of Lincoln. But certain people are made of a totally different mettle.

Lincoln looked at the man directly in the eye and said, "Sir, I know that my father used to make shoes for your family, and there will be many others here, because he made shoes the way nobody else can. He was a creator. His shoes were not just shoes; he poured his whole soul into them.

"I want to ask you, have you any complaint? Because I know how to make shoes myself. If you have any complaint I can make you another pair of shoes. But as far as I know, nobody has ever complained about my father's shoes. He was a genius, a great creator and I am proud of my father."

The whole Senate was struck dumb. They could not understand what kind of man Abraham Lincoln was. He was proud because his father did his job so well that not even a single complaint had ever been heard.


All the best,
Behnam, 28 May, 2014

[behnam]

The Stone on the Road

One day a farmer, walking down the street in a small town came across a large stone in the middle of his path. The farmer complained: "Who could be so careless as to leave such a big stone on the road? Why does someone not remove it?" He went away complaining.

The next day, the same thing happened with a milkman. He too went away grumbling but left the stone as it was.

Then one day, a student came across the stone. Worried that someone may fall over it and hurt himself, he decided to push it aside. He pushed long and hard all by himself and eventually managed to remove the stone from the path. He came back and noticed a piece of paper where the stone was kept.

He picked the paper and opened it. Inside was written, "You are the true wealth of this nation."

There are two kinds of people
Talkers and doers.
Talkers merely talk, while doers do.

The moral of this story is that if you don't want to get involved you have no right to criticize Become the change you wish to see in this world.

Service to society is the rent we pay for the space we occupy on this Earth!


All the best,
Behnam, 28 May, 2014

[behnam]

Hi,

Tomorrow, I have to sit for exam. The course is 'Nanophotonics'. I like it. I am ready for the exam.

My students must sit for their final exam too. The course is called 'Basic Physics 2'. It concerns Electricity and magnetism. The questions are ready!

I am about to leave Tehran.

Wish me good luck please!

All the best,
Behnam, 02 June, 2014

[behnam]

7 Things You Should Add to Your "Stop Doing List"

You probably make lists of things to do and follow them through. But what about the things you should stop doing? Successful people do not do the following things but chances are you still do. Make a decision to add these to your "stop doing list" these from today going forward:

1. Making Excuses. Successful people do not blame others or make excuses or complain about their bad luck. They take full responsibility for their lives. They know that success and failure lie in their hands. So stop being a victim, stop whining and stop making excuses.

2. Drifting. Winners have a plan. They have a direction and a purpose. They do not drift through life hoping for the best. They set goals and then set about achieving them. If you approach each day in a happy go lucky way then stop. Stop drifting and start planning. Develop a vision of a successful you. List what you have to do to get there. Plan your work then work your plan.

3. Sitting in Front of a Computer All Day (or worse still…a TV). Sure there are some important things you can do sitting at your screen but do not spend all day there. Get out and meet people, network, learn. Do things with the people you want to lead or help or do business with.

4. Putting Things Off. Procrastination is the enemy of success. Decide on your objective, list out the tasks you have to complete, prioritize them and then get on with the top ones. We all suffer the temptation to put off the jobs we fear or dislike. Bite the bullet. Eat the frog. Do the job.

5. Just the Easy Stuff. Which tasks do you spend most time on? The important, the urgent, the easy or the routine? If you spend most of your time on easy or less important tasks then stop. You should focus first on the most important jobs, the ones that will move you towards your strategic objective. You should delegate or ignore the low value activities.

6. Sitting in Ineffective Meetings. Do you waste time at work in low-value meetings? Most office workers do. Every meeting should have a clear purpose, an agenda and a skilled chairperson who keeps the meeting focused on delivering its objectives. Do not go to poor meetings just ask for a summary of agreed actions.

7. Limiting your Ambition. Successful people have enormous self-belief, drive and ambition. They hold themselves to high standards. Are you holding yourself back? Have you lost some of your self-belief and confidence? Start afresh. Set yourself ambitious goals. Remind yourself of your skills and achievements. Motivate yourself every day.

If you can eliminate the low value activities and the negative things you do then you will free yourself to succeed. Stop doing the things that you know are wasting your time and start building your success.

All the best,
Behnam, 4 June, 2014

[behnam]

6 Tips for Resolving Conflicts

Resolving conflicts whether in office, in friends community or at home is a challenge. The situation sometimes get worst when nobody shows the flexibility on his/her stance. The below tips might help when you have been assigned (Or you assign it to yourself) to resolve the conflict.

1-Be fair regardless of your relation with different parties. Sometimes your closed one can be wrong. Hence make up your mind to be transparent and fair throughout. Judge people fairly.

2-Empathetic Listening is very important. Listen to all parties carefully. Put yourself in their shoes to understand their stance.

3-Carefully analyze the statements from each party. List down the pros and cons of the stance from each party. Sometimes both parties are right and sometimes both are wrong. In your analysis you need to find the option which gives maximum benefit to everyone.

4-If the conflict is between two persons, consider a solution which neither party-A has proposed, neither B has Proposed but the third solution which suits both persons. Consider Win-Win scenario where everyone gains something at the cost of compromise.

5-If you want to give advice to a party (which you think is wrong), give it privately. Don't do counseling when both are present. This will offend one party and may strain the relations further. Remember not to criticise.

6-Sometimes youngsters are right and old ones are wrong. If the issue is not too serious, request youngsters to be flexible. It always pay off. Remember that we have learnt so much from our seniors (bosses, team leads, parents and other senior family members). So this is the time to pay back to make them feel proud about their teachings and to develop trust in relations.

Developing emotional intelligence is another approach to study people and understand them in depth. As per Wikipedia "Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to identify, assess, and control the emotions of oneself, of others, and of groups" Learn this technique to improve your mental powers. Google it.

[behnam]

Character Building Thoughts

1. How I look is not as important as how I act.
2. I treat others the way I want them to treat me.
3. I am a good sport; I follow the rules, take turns and play fair.
4. It is okay to laugh at funny things, but not to laugh at others.
5. I do not gossip; if I cannot say anything helpful, I do not say anything at all.
6. When I am sad, I help myself feel better by thinking of things that are good in my life.
7. In order to have friends, I must act in a kind way.
8. I believe that I am someone who can do important things.
9. What I say and how I say it tells others the kind of person I am.
10. I appreciate my family, my teachers, and my school.
11. I treat everyone with respect.
12. When I listen, I show others that I care about them.
13. I am being a good citizen when I volunteer to help others.
14. I think for myself and make smart choices that are good for me.
15. Each day offers a new start to do my best.
16. I try to understand what my friends are feeling.
17. Everyone makes mistakes, so instead of getting angry with myself, I try to do better.
18. I do not give up; I keep trying until I can do my work.
19. Sharing with others makes me feel good and makes them feel good too.
20. I work out my problems without hurting myself or others.
21. I am being polite when I wait for my turn and say please and thank you.
22. When I smile at people, they usually smile back.
23. I encourage my friends to do their best.
24. My values guide me to do what is right.
25. I am honest; I do not cheat or steal.
26. When I am angry, I use self-control and do not hurt others.
27. I am being creative when I draw, paint or write a poem or story.
28. I say, "No!" to things that could hurt my body like tobacco/cigarettes/alcohol.
29. When I do what I say I will do, I am being responsible.
30. I am grateful for what I have, so I share with others.
31. I try to learn something new each day.
32. When things do not go my way, I stop and think of what I can do to make them better.
33. I do not make fun of other children because I don't know what their life is like.
34. I feel successful when I do my best.
35. Everyone has good and bad feelings.
36. I take care of myself by eating healthy food, exercising and getting enough rest.
37. I am being punctual when I am on time and do not keep people waiting.
38. When I cooperate with others, I get more done.
39. I follow the rules and try to make my school a better place.
40. I like to get to know children who are different from me.
41. Since I tell the truth, my friends trust me.
42. I look for what is good in others and I say what I like about them.
43. I buy only what I need and I save my money.
44. When I use my time wisely, there is usually enough time to do what I want to do.
45. I think before I act; how I act affects how others treat me.
46. Using manners helps me keep my friends.
47. I have courage to stand up for children who are teased.
48. Before I do something, I ask myself, "Is it safe?"
49. I am me -- I do not try to be like someone else.
50. I care about living things on earth so I recycle and do not litter.
51. When I write down what I think and feel, I learn about myself.
52. I plan ahead and think about what I want to do when I grow up.

All the best,
Behnam, 13 June, 2014

[Mohsen]

Hi Behnam,

How are you my friend , hope you are fine and enjoy your life . How are the towins. In fact I was in travel for two weeks,also I feel so lazy these day,whenever I want to open the website or somthing to read ,I go to sleep right away. I don't know why maybe because I am extrimist in eating of seasonal furits. the melons in different shapes ,cheery and apricat. I think it makes a probelm in my body. it causes that the precent of urea exceed the normal ,so I go to sleep more than normal. I tried don't go to sleep to see the football much two nights ago , the Iran - Nigeria soccer, so I took the TV to the yard and sitting beside the gurden and put a baskect of furits in front of myself . I ate as much as I could to avoid sleeping , and finally I suceeded to watch the game completely.

I haven't any practise in English ,so I think it is difficult for me to write.

good bye
Mohsen

[behnam]

Hi Mohsen,

How are you? How is everything with you? I hope all is going well and you are enjoying every second of your life. My kids and wife are well. Thank you very much for your care.

Next week, on Wednesday, I have an important exam. Actually, it is important to pass the course successfully with full mark. I am the only student! Can you imagine a situation in which you are alone and you sit for an exam? It is really uninterested. You know why? Well, you cannot prove yourself. Nobody is there to be compared with. It is like a competition with no rival! The level of motivation is low!

Fruits aren't bad for our health, are they? However, manage what you eat.

I am not interested in football. I have no time for lying in front of TV!

All the best,
Behnam, 19 June, 2014