Does it really matter how we treat babies?

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Does it really matter how we treat babies?

Postby TalkingPoint » Mon Jun 13, 2005 9:45 am

Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do YOU think?
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treat our babies fairly and evenly

Postby sandra » Mon Jun 13, 2005 2:47 pm

As far as I am concerned, babies and toddlers may not rememeber things vividly.But they do have the ability to sense things around them.They could tell the affection and caring. Any sweet whispers, gentle strokes and tiptoed movements.If they grew up in a loving family, they became secure and confident.These things will have vital impact on their furture life.

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Re: Does it really matter how we treat babies?

Postby MissLT » Thu Jun 16, 2005 3:04 am

It does matter how we treat babies and toddlers even though they don't remember anything because it shows how "human" we are. And I totally agree with Sandra :wink: .

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Postby MissLT » Thu Jun 16, 2005 3:07 am

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i agree with him too

Postby Yan999 » Fri Jun 17, 2005 8:47 am

now i have a baby, i think i should give my son all the love i have.

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Re: i agree with him too

Postby MissLT » Sat Jun 18, 2005 8:20 am

Yan999 wrote:now i have a baby, i think i should give my son all the love i have.

Good for you :wink: .

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Postby sandra » Sat Jun 18, 2005 8:21 am

I have no baby, so not an expert :lol: But I regard it as a common sense we should treat every human beings in this world with mercy.

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Postby MissLT » Sat Jun 18, 2005 8:30 am

sandra wrote:I have no baby, so not an expert :lol: But I regard it as a common sense we should treat every human beings in this world with mercy.

Me neither. But I did see my nephew coming out when his mom was giving birth to him. Then I did babysit him everyday for his first two years. Now I'm his favorite aunt :wink: . When he cries or is being stubborn, no one can tell him to stop except his parents or me. Thus, kids can't remember their first two years, but they can sense who loves them and who don't. If they feel neglected, they won't grow up with healthy emotions.
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Postby leen@rasel » Thu Jun 23, 2005 5:15 pm

well of course it matters because the babies behaviors will reflex our treatment wether it is good or bad and believe it or not babies save all the bad treatments that they received in the past in thier mind and then this will be reflexed in thier behaviors in the future and ithink that if we are not able to treat these small inocent todlers in a very compation way , if we didn't have the mercy to give them we will not be able to give them this mercy when they grow up therefore they will not give thier babies in the future this good treatment either

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Postby shokin » Thu Jun 23, 2005 5:42 pm

Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

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Postby MissLT » Fri Jun 24, 2005 12:39 am

shokin wrote:Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

:roll: Tell us your first two years of your childhood then.....

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Postby Shazzam » Fri Jun 24, 2005 8:58 am

My goodness what a terrible heading "Does it matter how we treat babies". I'm not going to take this the wrong way; but it would be easy to.

Even lions look after their young! Of course it matters. The first few years of a childs life creates trust. If you treat a child badly in the first few years of their life; they won't trust you. If you treat a child with love and kisses, cuddles etc, they will respond that way with you long after infancy. Trust me I know. I have seen both sides of the scale.

There are also studies that have proven that children that are read bed-time stories prior to school entry do better at reading and writing. There is something to be said about a young mind. They are sponges; absorbing everything around them and storing it away.

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Postby shokin » Sat Jun 25, 2005 6:09 am

LennyeTran wrote:
shokin wrote:Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

:roll: Tell us your first two years of your childhood then.....


I don-t remember.

Can you give us a demonstration that no human being can remember its 1-2 first years.

What is the goal of the question ? :mrgreen:

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Postby MissLT » Sat Jun 25, 2005 9:34 pm

shokin wrote:
LennyeTran wrote:
shokin wrote:Yes, every moment of our life can have an influence on our life.

Are you sure that none can remember hisher 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

:roll: Tell us your first two years of your childhood then.....


I don-t remember.
Can you give us a demonstration that no human being can remember its 1-2 first years.
What is the goal of the question ? :mrgreen:

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I dare to say 99% of the children do not remember their first two years of life. And if yes, we only remember the most significant ones; therefore, treating babies badly will create a bad memory for them. And also making them lose their trust to other human beings. On the other hand, the bottom line of this topic is not whether babies remember their memories of their first two years, it's about parents' responsibilities. Just think and assume for once, if you could not love your baby enough to treat him/her nicely, would you love him/her when your child grow up to understand your reactions towards him/her?

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Postby MissLT » Sat Jun 25, 2005 9:58 pm

http://www.talkingpage.org/artic012.html#MEM
According to this website, "Although memory improves throughout childhood, important developmental changes take place during the preschool years. Just as with perspective taking, a major advance in memory abilities seems to begin at about 4 or 5 years when children start to recall items of some complexity and when they begin to monitor and manipulate them own memories." This is for my assumption that majority of children do not remember their first two years.
On the other hand, there is a small minority of children do remember their first two years; however, only the the significant ones. My cousin is an example. She once said she still remembered the time when my aunt's daughter kicked her face. My aunt was so surprised because my cousin was only two at time, and she never talked about it until the day my cousin mentioned it. The story is about whe they were taking a shower together, and my cousin wanted to touch her stomach to see how the baby was doing inside. She got a kick in the face instead :lol: . She said she hated babies from that day on until the day my other cousin was born. She told us she loved babies again because the other cousin was so cute. This is all she could remember what happened when she was two.

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Postby shokin » Sat Jun 25, 2005 10:37 pm

Is it really a necessity to know our 1-2 first years ?

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Postby MissLT » Sat Jun 25, 2005 10:42 pm

shokin wrote:Is it really a necessity to know our 1-2 first years ?

Shokin

Is it a necessity to ask un-necessity questions?

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How should we treat babies?

Postby JeanneM » Sun Jun 26, 2005 12:29 am

Babies may not have memory of the first two years of their lives in the way that we usually define memory, but they develop emotions and attitudes that remain with them for the rest of their lives - a sense of love, safety, belonging, and worthiness, or they develop the opposite. Babies see themselves mirrored in the faces, voices, and body language of the people around them - main caregivers, in particular.

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Postby shokin » Sun Jun 26, 2005 1:21 am

And for our collectivity, for the nature ? and not for our personal comfort !

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Re: How should we treat babies?

Postby MissLT » Sun Jun 26, 2005 3:32 am

JeanneM wrote:Babies may not have memory of the first two years of their lives in the way that we usually define memory, but they develop emotions and attitudes that remain with them for the rest of their lives - a sense of love, safety, belonging, and worthiness, or they develop the opposite. Babies see themselves mirrored in the faces, voices, and body language of the people around them - main caregivers, in particular.

Exactly.

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Re: Does it really matter how we treat babies?

Postby Diamondlove » Sun Jun 26, 2005 12:22 pm

TP wrote:Considering that we can't remember anything from the first one or two years of our lives (at least), does it really matter how we treat babies and toddlers?

What do you think?

I think it is very importance for the way we treat babies and toddlers.
We think that we cannot remember anything from the first one or two years of our lievs because we try to remember or list all the events that happened when we were child. Actually, we still keep some feeling that can't explain clearly. I can see if the baby is treated with full of love everyday, when grownth up he will be a good people and must be a kindness.
Do you agree with me? :roll: :?:


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